Walked around for 3 hours, no approaches.

Pale_Wrangler_2162 · 2024-11-19T03:20:21+00:00

Just the fact that you are going out and trying to approach is actually good. Just focus on doing one anxiety inducing thing each day. And more than anything don’t try to rush, take your time and stay consistent

OaklandRaider1983 · 2024-11-19T03:15:44+00:00

Try going to a dance club and asking someone to dance. That could make things easier for you. Especially if you're a little buzzed.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2024-11-19T03:35:18+00:00

I think you're overthinking this

Just comment about the situation place or something happening and then introduce yourself. This way the interaction feels organic and natural. Never comment about her looks or what she's wearing. It's irrelevant and they've heard it a million times.

After you've introduced make some small talk for a couple minutes and if it's day game ask for her number. Say something like "Well you seem pretty cool/chill can I grab your number real quick?" and when you do get it be sure to text her back that night to make plans to meetup for a drink or dinner.

For night game after you've introduced make some small talk and then transition to flirting. Remember when you're flirting be sure to make good eye contact but don't stare, and be sure get closer to her. Be sure to tease her a bit say things like "Really?" "No way!" "Come on." And when the time is right (you'll know) go for the kiss. And then go for the pull. Ina soft sensual voice ask "What are you doing after this." And if she says "nothing" say something like "I'd love to show you my house/room/apartment."

Chiiiicckkeeennn · 2024-11-19T03:33:26+00:00

It’s all in your head

Glacier_Sama · 2024-11-19T06:30:31+00:00

The approach is the hardest part. Sounds like you have the confidence to do that. Stop letting girls go and start making conversation. Then move on to flirting.

When I was young I decided that every conversation I had with a woman would be zero percent platonic and all flirtation vibes. It could be a cashier or an old lady, a coworker or a waitress. Any woman 18 or older, I'm putting on the charm.

I only escalate with the hot ones.

South-Ad-9635 · 2024-11-19T13:38:56+00:00

Good job on putting yourself out there!

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-11-19T03:34:57+00:00

Good job for actually doing it!

If I could give you a small suggestion, try to make a theme on your opener. Us guys usually do it better if there’s a challenge instead of treating it as a chore.

Here are some simple examples (for day game):

“Knock knock”

Instead of saying I like your outfits or asking for directions, just say “knock knock” to her. If she doesn’t reply or give the wrong answer, just skip her or say “too late… you’re too slow!” and smile at her.

But when she answers “who’s there?” you can compliment her “damn you’re smart, you’re the first person who answers it correctly,” then introduce your name since she asks “who’s there?” She will be flattered because guys don’t usually compliment girls on their intellect. (To make it spicy, sometimes she will ask how many people have you asked for “knock knock”, you could playfully say “just you” even tho earlier you said “you’re the first person…” — basic push and pull).

“I can guess your name correctly”

Tell her you can guess her name if she gives you 3 chances. Girls love this one. Of course you can just randomly pick any popular girl’s names. If you don’t get it right after 3 times, ask her what’s the correct answer. Then offer your hand and introduce yourself.

If you wanna extend the talk, you can always say things like “your name is Ashley? You don’t look like an Ashley.” She will ask what “An Ashley” looks like, you can just tease her by saying “All Ashleys I know are smoking hot” she will make an angry face knowing that you’ve implied that she’s not hot. Of course you can diffuse it by saying you were just messing with her.

Small_Cap_Finder · 2024-11-19T04:22:38+00:00

Met an ex girlfriend by pretending to read at Starbucks. She pulled a chair and asked what I'm reading.

lemonyprepper · 2024-11-19T05:30:05+00:00

Ah I remember those days. You’ll find your way

Joy_Boy_12 · 2024-11-19T06:15:43+00:00

You're the man. You inspired me

Charge36 · 2024-11-19T07:44:25+00:00

Personally I think malls are terrible places to approach women. I'm not sure why they get recommended here so much.

Good job getting out there doing night game

Dandys3107 · 2024-11-19T11:44:45+00:00

Remember that you should also embrace being naturally anxious from time to time. Sometimes you may subconsciously read the room that circumstances are poor, girl's body language is off, your game plan is not gonna work. Instead of finding excuses there or talking yourself down, encourage yourself for next, better opportunities.

epimpstyle · 2024-11-19T11:52:35+00:00

This opener is used to "warm up", it is hard to create a conversation because you will either get a "thanks" or no answer, maybe not even a smile. An enthusiastic opener, needs enthusiastic continuation otherwise there is no congruence, if you don't keep the same high enthusiasm when you talk to the girl she will think that there is something wrong with her and what is the easiest thing for her to do? She will leave!
Using a drink to fight anxiety is not good. I don't think you like it when a guy starts talking to you and smells of alcohol, girls don't like it either. Besides, alcohol only makes you think slower, it doesn't help you.
The wing must keep you in a talkative mode and help you with the openers. Actually you must help each other. In the beginning, it is not a good idea to go in the opposite direction and try to approach, this is equivalent to not having a wing.
"Asked a girl if she thought I should roll my sleeves up or leave it down" This opinion opener is for bar/club/events, but only if you use this sentence with a routine otherwise it looks weird. Here is a guy explaining how to use an opinion opener with a routine - VIDEO.

berzerker5000 · 2024-11-19T13:38:46+00:00

Good that you are trying to desensitize yourself to the anxiety. Try to ramp up the risk taking and be more specific on what you say. The like your outfit is too generic and you need to throw in some tease. If they have ripped jeans, ask them “hey I like your jeans are you a ripped jeans model?” If they have a tiny purse. Say hey I like your purse are you a tiny purse model? If they have a giant water bottle, say wow stop pretending you got water in there I know it’s a margarita.” Get them to laugh and respond, to generate material you can use to start a convo. “Oh no it’s water but I wish it was a margarita I love those.” You: “me too especially with tacos.” “Oh it’s not that tiny” you: well you are really cute wearing it. I left my tiny purse at home.” She laughs again. Let’s say she is wearing a trucker hat. “Hey you look like you drive an 18 wheeler with that trucker hat.” Her: har har, no but I bet I could. You: “Your prolly just like the feel of that engine vibration.” She blushes and give you an OMG while pretending not to like it. See how that works. Making them laugh is everything, it releases serotonin and they associate you with feeling good. You get into some rapport and then you can ask them out on an instadate.

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-11-19T17:19:32+00:00

The key is consistency and to keep going. Everything you’re doing sounds good.

Just remember to stretch yourself. There should be things you hesitate to do. Push yourself to take those small risks.

Job_looker18 · 2024-11-19T19:22:50+00:00

Some may not agree but when I was in your shoes I decided to punish myself for every cute girl I didn’t atleast say one word to. I would give my friend 5 dollars each time. This forced me to do it or I would go broke in no time 🤣🤣

Lenovo_Driver · 2024-11-21T05:03:49+00:00

Geez..

This just seems like such a waste of time. Why not just go out and focus specifically on places where people go to socialize rather than strangers on the street? I don’t really understand how getting blown off by strangers helps you in anyway. Those interactions have little to do with you or your methods and entirely on circumstances you don’t know or can’t control.

You can’t really learn from this because the outcomes of these interactions have little to do with the things you can control.

Put yourself in actual social settings not just aimlessly walking around mumbling I like your dress to women. m

Naive-Log-2447 · 2025-05-08T04:32:00+00:00

I've done this. I can't seem to be able to say words. Does anyone have any advice?

bannedcanceled · 2024-11-19T04:25:03+00:00

Bro. Get a job or a hobby

Zenkir32 · 2024-11-19T03:30:11+00:00

I went to a club for the first time visiting Tokyo and ended up dancing with 3 girls at the same time after a few drinks. I've done very very few cold approaches but I enjoy to dance.

Title	Walked around for 3 hours, no approaches.
Author	PsychologicalDig5677
Upvotes	86
Comments	42
Date	November 19, 2024 3:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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