Tip: turn your notifications OFF

rynatte · 2020-04-16T08:49:12+00:00

It's a simple spell,but quite unbreakable.

reginalnz · 2020-04-16T09:14:27+00:00

I agree. Although instead of turning off things I just kill the task itself on my phone. Only when I'm ready do I reopen the app.

Prickly_Hugs_4_you · 2020-04-16T09:43:15+00:00

What if it’s a girl you’re already in a relationship with? Mine doesn’t check her phone much throughout the day (no data plan, somewhat of a Luddite) So she’ll see my message when she opens the app when she’s at home, but it’s really not a priority for her. When she messages me, I’m aware of it immediately. I might wait a minute or two, max 10 but I reply pretty consistently. She knows I’m always on my phone anyway. I feel pretty needy.

We do call nightly and recently she asked me to be more affectionate when we say goodnight. Okay cool, I can do that. But I’d like her to more affectionate by text. I feel stupid asking for that though.

So I set the chimes off. I’ll reply when I decide to check. This a good idea?

jhogstrom · 2020-04-16T09:29:31+00:00

isnt the real problem here that you are iching to respond as fast as possible and then it makes you self aware and insicure? trying to not act needy is being needy. the same as trying to act alpha is beta behaviour.

figure out why the time of response bother you at all and fix that instead.

iamian_ii · 2020-04-16T09:19:59+00:00

I've had mine off for 3 weeks now, never felt so liberated and in control of my social-app life

2020-04-16T15:20:24+00:00

proceeds to open the app every 15 minutes

ChelseaDagger14 · 2020-04-16T10:46:29+00:00

People are on their phones all the time, it’s 2020. Sometimes people are too busy to answer their phone.

Pretty problematic to turn off notifications if someone needs to contact you, too

MrMemper · 2020-04-16T15:22:05+00:00

This is dumb.

First off you don’t need to turn off the notifications you just change your reaction. Just like any other habit. It’s your own Pavlov experiment.

Second, simply turning off notifications won’t get rid of your neediness. This obviously requires deep work. Not flipping a switch on your phone settings. Band-aid approach.

Third, I talk to multiple women at a time per week. Many are progressive. While of course many are dead ends. If I turn off notifications how exactly will I know they’ve replied to my message? This would greatly hamper my ability to progress the chat to them eventually facetime masturbating for me.

xoVictoriaLopez · 2020-04-16T10:06:43+00:00

Strongly agreed. I started twerking the DND feature back on iPhone 7. Welcome to "The Cool Club", kiddo.

xoxo,

V.Lo

datboi3637 · 2020-04-16T10:35:43+00:00

Or turn notifications off for everything that isn't work related or family

SaberliciousXD · 2020-04-16T11:19:39+00:00

Just reply when you feel like it, trying to not reply just to seem non-needy is performance which in fact, is needy behavior. Turning off notification is a good short-term fix, but if you want genuine non-neediness, work on yourself. When you work on yourself you'll have higher priorities other than her.

letsgetrandy · 2020-04-16T11:36:00+00:00

A slight nuance to this that I have found works well for me is that on iOS, you can just remove the audio portion of the alerts. You can get still have the lock-screen display show up, but your phone won't make a noise, so you're only seeing the push notification when you actually look for it.

An added benefit to this is that it also prevents another thing that can hurt game: the noisy phone when you're on a date! I can't tell you how many times I've been out to meet someone and having a decent time on a first date, but my phone is constantly making noises, and then women shit test you saying "whoever that is really wants to get ahold of you!" With alerts on silent, you don't make your date think you've got some other girl at home.

2020-04-16T12:29:38+00:00

and also dont tell people youre doing it

unknown_poo · 2020-04-16T13:19:02+00:00

My phone has never been on anything except silent. I only check it when I feel like, and often it's when I feel like checking it that I get a message. The freedom from not having your thought processes disrupted, and then conditioned by disruption and interruption, is one of the most important things to having and maintaining mental well being.

Darkmega4 · 2020-04-16T14:33:21+00:00

I do this. It helps massively. Because out of sight out of mind. If you are pining for a girl it helps to just mute her notifications.

2020-04-16T20:02:05+00:00

Oh god, that's really GREAT advice, not just for seduction, but for life style in general! Thanks bro, that's gold

tresslessone · 2020-04-17T13:52:50+00:00

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alexg1700 · 2020-04-16T14:03:34+00:00

lol i disagree with this post

Darksideofthemoon5 · 2020-04-16T10:00:43+00:00

Agree

brightsider123 · 2020-04-16T10:35:36+00:00

I agree with to a larger extent. Personally, I mute my whatsapp or any messaging app notifications and this made my life a lot of easier. It helped me get rid of my neediness and addiction to my phone. I reply only when I open the app. Do this for all the social media apps like fb, instagram etc. This not only helps you become less anxious/needy, it also increases your productivity.

Allcapino · 2020-04-16T11:49:41+00:00

I only use my smart phone for music, texting (for important stuff) and calling, if someone needs me then call me not text me! Also reddint when I'm on a toilet.

imtheoneimmortal · 2020-04-16T12:06:46+00:00

I mute everything except work and my 2 friends That’s not for girls but for distraction

Suntzie · 2020-04-16T12:31:20+00:00

Honestly this is just good life advice, also let’s you get some peace and quiet at night

notorioustph · 2020-04-16T13:37:17+00:00

Needed this right now

livforever7 · 2020-04-16T13:41:28+00:00

This is a great tip! I turned my notifications off after realizing that they brought me more anxiety and made me feel like I had to respond once I received one. Now I find myself way more relaxed and checking/responding when I WANT to not just because my phone is telling me too.

hedonihil · 2020-04-16T14:52:01+00:00

yes, good advice. thank u

2020-04-16T15:14:52+00:00

Thanks plenty for this.

Taradal · 2020-04-16T15:24:09+00:00

My phone doesn't even have a led for notifications. And since I always turn off sound and vibration I can tell you ts really nice. You just need to get over your mother who is still getting angry after more than 10 years notifications off :D

RikuXander · 2020-04-16T15:24:59+00:00

I look at the notifications and decide if I need to respond right then.

2020-04-16T15:38:23+00:00

I think it makes more sense to use the app limits on your iOS screen time feature if you have. Cleaner approach that isn’t maximalist and helps in other non-seductive ways.

freethebeesknees · 2020-04-16T16:13:15+00:00

Can we just apply this rule to most of society? Like does your phone need to play a full Nickelback song Everytime you get a text? Just put it on vibrate.

Fitfitfit899 · 2020-04-16T17:03:48+00:00

Yup, notifications of means getting life back!

capo_deicapi · 2020-04-16T18:19:22+00:00

Idg this idea of don’t respond too quick cause you look needy. Who tf cares. If she’s into you it won’t matter how quick you respond if she’s not it also won’t matter how quick you respond. I respond as soon as I see a message bc my phone is usually on my person. Be yourself. If she thinks your “needy” she wasn’t the one for you anyway chief sucks to hear but it’s the truth.

drunkrohan · 2020-04-16T18:38:55+00:00

If you actually have something to do, you might not have to do tricks to show it..

ankit_roonie111 · 2020-04-16T19:03:52+00:00

Did that a month ago with WhatsApp and I somehow fell like I have more control over myself than I used to before. The freedom that comes with it is priceless.

TheFourthHorsman · 2020-04-16T20:03:25+00:00

I see the point you're trying to make, but there's an easier solution. Yes, if you don't respond right away it'll make you seem less available, which is more good than bad. But turning off all your notifications would lead to most likely missing communications from people you're not trying to fuck. Like your friends and family.

And easier solution imo would be to respond in kind to her. If she's texting every couple minutes with long messages, you probably have free reign to respond as frequently and as much as you want, because she's invested. If she's only texting every couple days, a few words at a time, she's probably not that interested, so texting her more than that would come across as clingy.

That, to me, is much easier and less drastic that turning off your whole phone.

TishthaDish · 2020-04-16T21:47:41+00:00

I enjoy texting. I also have family members who like to keep in touch with me since I travel for work. I would do this short term for just a couple of hours or so.

anon1880 · 2020-05-06T00:37:16+00:00

Best Tip I have read this year

janaheyiloveyou · 2020-04-16T22:16:32+00:00

I do this.. I just mute the chicks I'm talking to... Do you have any other helpful advice like this?

Title	Tip: turn your notifications OFF
Author	tresslessone
Upvotes	770
Comments	85
Date	April 16, 2020 8:18 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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