What did you actually learn from being here?

champagneNight · 2025-05-19T19:30:42+00:00

Don’t go out to talk with women. Go out and talk with everyone. Know how to start and carry a conversation with anyone, and you can do it with a hot woman also.
Be curious. If a woman (or man) is into something you know nothing about, ask follow up questions to learn more.
Be fucking interesting yourself. Read a non fiction book sometimes. Travel some so you have stories. Goto a goddamn art gallery. If all you have is anime and video games your pool of women who share that is gonna be small.
Go lift fucking weights.
You’re gonna get rejected, but you need to be asking women out in real life. Fuck apps. If they tell you no, don’t be a dick and don’t get down. Be gracious and tell them you hope they have a good night because you do.
Don’t walk up and tell a girl she’s beautiful. It’s unimaginative and they get it a ton. Your opener must be environmentally appropriate; if you like her outfit, be prepared to tell her what she is doing right.
Get some fucking style. Whatever it is doesn’t matter as long as you own it.
You can ask girls out at the gym or work or whatever if you aren’t a fucking weirdo about it. I met my ex wife and current wife at work. I asked out eight women at my last job and had relationships / something ships with three of them. Any of them would take my call or have a beer with me if I saw them out tomorrow. I am not a good looking man in particular, but I didn’t act like an idiot when I got shot down and have enough style to be interesting.

aeturnus95 · 2025-05-19T17:05:14+00:00

The biggest lesson I have learned? That there are many kinds of seducers. I notice people here having various personalities, temperaments and styles I never thought of. Each offering their own unique touch to approaching a scenario. It’s pretty cool. And helps me to become more multifaceted in this art.

squidguy_mc · 2025-05-19T17:58:51+00:00

no i have learnt nothing on this sub lmao

half of the posts are ai-generated advertisements for dating coaches who want to sell a course and the other posts almost always teach things that are super on-the-surface level and basically just common sense. Maybe 1% of posts actually have value.

saryiahan · 2025-05-19T19:04:40+00:00

That most guys are absolutely clueless when it comes to woman and ask so surprised when all you have to do is say hello to get a woman to talk to you. They treat them as some sort of weird unicorn when they are just humans

jackthehat6 · 2025-05-19T18:32:31+00:00

there simply is very very little to learn ASSUMING you are a somewhat normal person. That's what I realised a long time ago. I mean, even the stuff in all of the PUA books is mostly just base level social skills that everyone already knows, BUT they've given a fancy names and overcomplicated it all on purpose

What people want, and have always wanted, is lines and tips and techniques too essentially force attraction in a girl, but it's simply not possible. There has never been a PUA who blew my mind, and there never will! It's a numbers game for all of them

The best you can do is be good at telling whos interested, and then flirting with them girls.

There's no magic out there. The very best PUA's in the world would get almost identical results to lots of us guys in here if we looked identical and were in the same location etc etc

Lonerism863211 · 2025-05-20T10:54:17+00:00

HOW you say things is more important than WHAT you say

HeavenPiercingMan · 2025-05-19T17:17:02+00:00

Get therapy.
Do not listen to PUA gurus.
Do not listen to blackpillers.
Do not listen to coping blackpill PUA posers.
Nothing is true, everything is permitted.

I'm happy now.

SadKnight123 · 2025-05-19T18:20:10+00:00

Not much, there are better places and you'll never truly learn anything without actually putting into practice through trial and error, while implementing some times here and there.

But the reads here are good tho for you to get new perspectives and sanitize your mind away from the normies/redpillers view of things from time to time.

Complete_Wave_9315 · 2025-05-19T18:46:55+00:00

I’ve just learned how very little advice is given for women here lmao. And, before anyone jumps on me with the classical “well women have dating easier!” I would agree…usually…however, it’s HOW TO GET THERE/THE SIGNS of male interest that is hardly talked about 😆 Otherwise. The sub is fine imo

No_Relief7644 · 2025-05-19T22:15:57+00:00

Learned that commiting to one woman is the best path. There's very little relationship advice here just how to get laid.

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2025-05-20T15:32:56+00:00

Read up on the game/dating since about early 2000s. Started going out/practicing since 2011 or so.

The change in the air that hit and left me going like 0 for 20 wasnt just a me thing but ABSOLUTELY something in the air has changed since around that time.

Having other more experienced/weathered guys here comment theyve felt that switch in the air too was a bit comforting to know i wasnt the only one trying to figure an enigma the likes of which theyve never seen before and have yet to configure any type of solution exactly.

Ryan_the_Scion · 2025-05-21T10:43:06+00:00

Want to ask for her number? The best timing is right after you've made her laugh and feel good.

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-05-23T13:07:08+00:00

I have a learnt a lot of guys have negative thoughts running in their heads and create amazing narratives so they can avoid taking action.

Title	What did you actually learn from being here?
Author	tlcbest3
Upvotes	94
Comments	32
Date	May 19, 2025 4:56 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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