what draws the line between funny guy and an entertainer

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-07-12T08:06:43+00:00

Funny guy builds comfort and connection (see my post on comfort). Entertainer only builds attraction by being "fun"

MrDownhillRacer · 2025-07-12T04:18:15+00:00

Idk. People talk as though "being funny" is some silver bullet to being attractive as a guy, but there have been plenty of times where I'm spitting out zingers and making women genuinely laugh and think I'm a riot, but it's done nothing to make them more into me. And then maybe some hot, cool, serious guy takes them home.

Gilbert Gottfried also said that being a comedian never got him laid.

I think it's like, you can be as clever as you want, but it's not a replacement for all the other things a guy needs to be attractive. What if a guy is legitimately funny, but you can tell that he desperately needs to be funny in order to get validation? What if another guy seems not to care whether he gets validation or attention or not, but instead of being a laugh riot, he only tells one or two kinda funny jokes? Which one will most women be more into between those two?

It's like, the funny insecure guy will do better than the non-funny or boring insecure guy, but he probably won't do better than the non-funny chill guy. The funny chill guy would do even better. The funny, chill, and handsome guy is OP and tbh he's too powerful for us to just let him walk around unchecked.

jonniewalker · 2025-07-12T05:26:22+00:00

Honestly, just going for it is a big one. The real difference comes in the years of polishing the act(s). Most of the good ones today were just normal funny guys that probably sucked for awhile, but stayed with it.

But another one that struck me with some of the big guys - Stage Presence. It's almost like an x-factor kind of thing. Dont know how to describe it, but you know it when you see it. It gets taken for granted, because it's just what you see all the time, but when a 'normal' person takes the stage it's like they are just less magnetic. And it does not necessarily have anything to do with size or animation. Some people just have it.

RubenAndJavi · 2025-07-12T11:39:49+00:00

The funny guy is having fun himself and has no hidden agenda. The entertainer is performing to get something from others.

glintingUZI · 2025-07-12T13:42:03+00:00

People always say i talk funny , conpliment me and wants to hangout with me.Ive had people day, " the only reason i hangout without you is because youre veey funny,those are very unintentional. But when im trying to impress someone and try memorize a joke it never works and they be blinking at me, but others can do it 🥲. That's when I realized i shouldn't try to be funny/entertainer , it comes naturally with the way I speak .

whatsitworth101 · 2025-07-12T17:09:35+00:00

I mean if you’re being funny to a girl you are entertaining her so nothing

Abyssviscous · 2025-07-13T08:25:28+00:00

I am an artist (guitar, piano, composition, tinwistle 🤣, painting, illustration) and that doesn't stop me from constantly making people laugh

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-07-14T00:09:59+00:00

its calibration, you never want to do too many entertaining things, it should be just tools of the repertoire, in fact you should only do like 1 funny entertaining stuff per set LOL, this is all in the books, go read the damn books people! get off reddit stop cherry picking stuff and asking generic questions!

hunterpua · 2025-07-12T16:48:17+00:00

If you're doing everything and she just sits there are says yes or no.

Even if you aren't being particularly funny, just cracking a few jokes here and there but you're also trying to show off other cool things about yourself the entire time without giving any thought to what's even cool about her you're already being too much of an entertainer.

Its like the guy who sends a detailed message on a dating app, gets a one word reply and then sends another detailed message because he thinks the first one just wasn't engaging enough to make her wanna talk more.

You'd get a lot farther by saying something like, "You seem like trouble, I'm not sure we would get along" to put her on the backfoot more and make her prove herself.

And you can even crack jokes that are playfully at her expense.

Like one time when a girl realised something so obvious to everyone else in the group I said, "And the caveman discovered fire..."

And even if it was a knock on her, she was laughing uncontrollably.

But that also makes her feel the need to prove herself.

And don't waste it by continuing to entertain her. If she's laughing hard and playfully pushing and slapping you, you've already maxed out the benefit of being entertaining.

Instead, sit back and challenge her.

Ask her to tell you something funny.

Ask her for something interesting about her.

Ask her if she had [X amount of money]/[X ability]/was [X] for a day, what would she do?

And now you're the one that's chilling and in a position to approve of her or not.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-07-12T04:13:44+00:00

Humour as part of a conversation and humour as a performance.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-07-12T10:28:59+00:00

not enough data points to reply.

Title	what draws the line between funny guy and an entertainer
Author	Opposite0_0Banana
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Date	July 12, 2025 4:07 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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