What not to talk about on a first date

bandoftheredhand17 · 2015-04-03T21:55:55+00:00

Don't bring up any ex's. Don't bring up politics or religion. Don't bring up what level your character is in Skyrim.

spencermain · 2015-04-04T00:56:08+00:00

It's not about the content that you are talking about. It's the way you are talking about it. Feel free to discuss any topic that comes up in casual conversation be it religion, economics, politics etc. Being negative, saying how much you hate Obama for example, is not an attractive personality trait and is not the way you want to present yourself to a person you're meeting for the first time.

Most importantly, be yourself. Goodluck!

greenflame239 · 2015-04-03T22:05:23+00:00

how about adding "what to talk about on a first date

Diece · 2015-04-04T02:52:48+00:00

You can talk about ANYTHING you want as long as it promotes emotional response aka feelings. Here's an example

"I just got my new car today, it's really fast and it's a rare model."

This is an example of a poor sentence when talking to a girl, it doesn't have any emotion tied to it. You listed mostly facts, this is how you would talk to a guy.

This new car I got, when I drive around in it, it reminds me of when I was younger and my dad would take me for drive in his corvette, the wind in my hair, the feeling of freedom and slight rebellion when you are pushing the speed limit and it was quality time with my dad. It's intoxicating.

This sentence evokes a lot more feeling, a girl can relate to things she did with her dad, the intoxicating feeling of being free and a bit of a rebel and her first car.

There's another thing you want to use, gossip and drama. Girls fucking love it.

Let's say you are telling a girl how you were late for work today,

"Today the traffic was bad and I was late for work. My boss was unhappy."

Once again, a factual sentence that won't evoke any emotion.

"Today I was late for work, I wasn't really late but my boss made a huge deal out of five minutes and started to blow up when I arrived, he was really angry and I ignored it which made it worse. At the end of the day he kept giving me a cold stare."

That's a hell of a lot more dramatic and as a result more interesting to a girl.

Remember though, conversation topics like these will build comfort but are not going to result in sex if this is ALL you talk about. Comfort is extremely important when it comes to women but it's only a step towards sex and not the entire stairway.

Jmpaul · 2015-04-03T22:21:53+00:00

anal

windowtothesoul · 2015-04-03T22:06:03+00:00

It was taught to me as don't talk about RAPE. Religion, Abortion, Politics, Economics. I still think these are good general guidelines.

I've never had a first date utterly fail because of a topic, but I did have a relationship fail due to such. I was out of college, she was still in school (going to be a sophomore.. I know), dating long-distance for 2 months, and had only been together 4 months. We we're texting and I thought we were both in a playful mood that night so I decided to ask for nudes. She lightly declines but I pushed it to see why. Pushed too far, she gets pissed, shit goes down... moral of the story is I never got the nudes.

Nosferatu21 · 2015-04-04T02:14:34+00:00

Religion Abortion Politics Economics

and well ya know rape too.

DaygameCoach · 2015-04-03T22:58:28+00:00

You should probably avoid posting this question because you don't need to know all 1 million things you can do or say wrong. All it does is fill your head with negativity and potentially mess you up. Most of it wouldn't apply to you anyway (some things you know not to do)--and you can always find new things to do wrong even with a list. :)

Try focusing on positivity and things you can do correctly.

SheepKing · 2015-04-04T01:17:02+00:00

Anything that is entertaining. Have fun

Ho_Kogan · 2015-04-04T04:54:16+00:00

Politics, racist bullshit, drama, prolonged gossip (celebrities is fine), sad things, things that made her mad, and don't try fixing her problems.

ScaredOfAPotato · 2015-04-04T11:24:17+00:00

Just read the situation to know what is and isn't appropriate. I've had conversations about ex's, politics, religion, whatever on successful first dates. It's not what you say, it's whether it's appropriate or awkward, or whether disrupts the flow of the date.

So much of this sub seems to be 'how do I speak/act like a normal human being?' - Do precisely that. Play it by ear, don't be a dick and have a good time. That's it.

sausagefingerscunt · 2015-04-04T12:54:04+00:00

I always try to avoid rape jokes. I don't always succeed.

Title	What not to talk about on a first date
Author	Skip_Azzi
Upvotes	21
Comments	26
Date	April 3, 2015 9:22 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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