Which is better: direct or non direct?

Matter_Still · 2026-07-12T12:26:49+00:00

It has to be said again…and again…and again: there is no one-size fits all. Not only must an approach be tailored to the particular woman, but there are constraints of time, situation, context, and place.

You might have an hour on the beach to approach someone, 30 minutes in an airport lounge, and ten minutes on a bus.

And that’s only one variable in the equation.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2026-07-12T10:01:38+00:00

In my experience indirect usually always works best.

The interaction feels more organic and natural and you two have something to continue talking about after you two have introduced eachother.

jackthehat6 · 2026-07-12T10:04:10+00:00

The difference between the two is negligible. Over a large sample size, you will get more or less identical results with either. That's probably why half the coaches promote indirect, and the other half say direct is the only way to go

In reality, just with anything in game, everything (within reason) will work when you approach a girl who is attracted to you, and everything will fail to work when you open a girl in person, who would never swipe right on you if it was tinder

norwegiandoggo · 2026-07-12T11:59:36+00:00

Indirect / non-direct is better when

you have the time
you have low trust (total stranger situation)
you don't spot signs of interest before approaching
you want to improve your skill of seducing someone
you want to maximize your result-per-approach (quality over quantity)

Direct is better when:

you're short on time
you could not come up with an indirect opener
you want to practice getting to a close / being more intentional
it's higher trust (your good reputation precedes you or it's a safer environment)
she has given clear signs of interest
you don't care if it leads to rejection often. You're here to shoot your shot (quantity over quality)

MO_drps_knwldg · 2026-07-12T12:17:14+00:00

Your energy, self confidence, social ease is what matters most.

Lacunaethra · 2026-07-12T10:04:54+00:00

Depends on the situation.

Be aware of your surroundings, how your target behaves, how the social rules in this area are and many more... and adapt your approach accordingly.

In general, I'd say a good indirect opener followed with flirting is rarely wrong. Work might be a strong exception.

laptopglass · 2026-07-12T18:57:40+00:00

Take this with a grain of salt because I'm not very experienced and have poor conversation skills at the moment

I think indirect works better but you can only really do it when the opportunity presents itself really. Someone on here told me that if you're opening someone on the street, it needs to be direct, because it's very obvious what you're doing and will seem unnatural if you try coming up with some BS.

I think that's right. The only numbers I've gotten have been from indirect, but they were all situations where there was a very easy conversation starter. You can probably do this at the gym or bar. I don't see how you can do it on the street or at the beach.

Artistic-Simple-9062 · 2026-07-13T03:12:54+00:00

Indirect wins- it allows you to open way more and enjoy the process of being a normal person who can raise attraction whenever he wants. If you go direct you reveal all your cards at once - even if you make her smile the mystery is now gone and you have to keep working harder if she isn’t ready to sleep with you yet; you become a dancing monkey faster and she becomes uncomfortable too - hence in both scenarios learning to be comfortable is key then raise the attraction

confused_8357 · 2026-07-26T15:05:31+00:00

Direct when you are indifferent to social judgement so beach , streets , open public spaces

Indirect when u are gonna meet the people again and nehative judgement to social reputation can lead to you getting cornered or heavily judged so work, gym even local bars

Key-Proud · 2026-07-12T12:58:05+00:00

In my experience indirect works best because the best approach is when you dont even notice the girl is a 9 or 10. - you put her on a pedestal... just calling her a 9,10, beautiful and/or your crush already puts your self beneath them and her above you. - TRUE indirect opens treats them as equals how you would behave around other guys and girls you are not attracted to. - that treating her as eqauls and not putting her on a pedestal is what attracts her to you and sets the difference between other dudes, who puts her on a pedestal, who interacts with her at a daily bases since she was 12 years old. - the hotter she is the more of these guys she interacts with who puts her on a pedestal. - guys who put girls on a pedestal generates awkward moments ... repelling her to me and magnifying her attraction to me who treats her as equals. It also magnifyies her attraction to toxic guys who knocks her off the pedestal.

If you get this behavior on point ... girls (and guys) direct or indirectly approaches you. - the funny part when a girl approaches me ... she is dragging along a guy with her who has a crush on her (who has been trying to game her for months) ... lol ... wishing and hoping I save her from him.

Seduction ...

Less_Spirit_3891 · 2026-07-12T09:55:57+00:00

Title	Which is better: direct or non direct?
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Date	July 12, 2026 9:51 AM UTC (3 weeks ago)
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