Which PUA style did you adopt?

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-06-06T02:15:36+00:00

Style is very important. I think this is what PUA coaches fail to explain.

U can’t just copy coach style u need to find your own. Which fits your personality.

The best word which describes my own style I think is “childish”.

It’s kinda direct, but not as direct as some PUA who do direct game.

Because it’s very not serious. I find it hard to seduce someone who thinks too high of herself, example rich hot women. They find me unsophisticated.

At the same time I can’t seduce someone who thinks too low of themselves for example “chav” type of women. They find me not masculine enough.

The best success I have with smart/intelligent older women who understands dark humour.

My kino is logical, but smart. For example, some guys like smooth transitions when doing kino. Like putting hand on the waist while walking through doors.

I personally give logical reason to touch her. It can be me showing arm wrestling skills or teaching her to dance. Etc.

I call it “childish” because,

The whole seduction is about being silly, playful and most important sneaky.

And it does work. But as I mentioned not on all women.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-06-06T02:52:56+00:00

None. The PUA "gurus" were mostly just nerds who found a niche as internet marketers and/or writers. Then they rehashed the same material in the form of exponentially more expensive IRL "boot camps." Much of the old PUA scene was fairly cult-ish with guys who dressed alike, spoke in the same coded language and even copy/pasted each other's dating profiles.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-06-06T08:32:02+00:00

What pickup really just is, is finding your authenticity. "Getting the women" is just the "training ground" in your way to find who you are and how you want express yourself. You will niche down into your own style just naturally, just pick a teacher who resonates with your personality and it's likely that your style will mostly match. See my post on "how to learn pickup."

FromGymToBoudoir · 2025-06-06T01:50:53+00:00

I wouldn’t call the guys I follow PUA’s but I’ve been adopting a few of their styles.

Coach Kyle. Guy has it down to a science. 34-year old dude that looks likes he’s in his twenties. Has tons of videos.
J-Lifestyle ( more of a YouTuber but he pulls college bitches left and right).
SouthPaw Huncho. Fitness coach. Was a bouncer and preaches more of Body Game. Knows how club chicks are and how to get them. Explains how being extremely fit can yield the best results, along with attitude changes here and there.

Edit:

My main goal? Get to the Marlon, Chiab Selmoune/Saafir, Okan Serbes level.

The type of easy level seduction? Chicks just beg these dudes. But it takes ultimate body game and facial aesthetics to pull off.

DreamShort3109 · 2025-06-06T02:19:49+00:00

The I’ve-Accepted-The-Fact-That-Women-Hate-Me-And-I’m-Going-To-Try-To-Live-A-Happy-Single-Life-Even-Though-I-Have-Crippling-Loneliness style. I’m still getting use to it.

basafo · 2025-06-06T08:41:52+00:00

PUA styles are out of date and give a needy image of yourself. You are trying too much. There is nothing as "alpha" as being honest until you find compatibility, and accept rejection politely until then. Rejection is your friend until you find the compatibility.

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-06-06T09:43:37+00:00

I initially started out with Mystery Method, when I was too self concious to even approach. That helped quite a lot. No I did not try and do the whole method consciously. I just worked on approaching, then once my approach anxiety was at manageable levels, I added another step. Waited till I did it automatically, then the next step and so on,

Although this did help.... initially. I was also doing a lot of inner game stuff, focussing on congruency, (beliefs, thoughts and actions all aligning) amongst other things. This combination of Mystery Method and inner game, actually caused internal conflicts, Mystery Method says "you must build attraction", well I was having issues when women approached me as I didn't believe I was attractive as I had not "built it" (its more complicated than that, but that is it in a nutshell). So I went back to inner game stuff, did some Hypnotica "Ultimate Inner Game" and rewrote some beliefs.

At this point I was able to throw off the training wheels from Mystery Method and go a lot more natural.

The only thing is, if I hadn't worked with Mystery Method, I would never of reached the skills I had. I was initially just going into interview mode and waiting for the woman to make the moves. Working through Mystery Method, forcing myself to kino until it felt natural, getting a woman to qualify herself, etc. None of this was natural to me before Mystery Method. However, I will emphasis again, I was not trying to do the whole thing consciously. It was "here is tonight's mission", me and my 2 wingmen at the time, would have a few beers and rehearse this stuff. It was actually quite a laugh. Especially roleplaying super harsh rejections. Then when we went out, we would just be doing whatever we rehearsed automatically and naturally. Apart from the guy who really was stuck in his head and analysing, that was painful to watch.

So yeah, I sort of went through an evolution.

Yes before all this, I still had relationships, but it was a lot of work, doing lots and lots of swiping, sending messages, getting lucky due to alcholic confidence. Also, dating apps stopped being effective once I left the Army (no I am not putting military photos up when I have left the army), I was no longer getting messaged with women taking the lead because they wanted squaddie cock in them.

The Military was actually quite a crutch that I did not realise I was relying on until I left the Military. Hence I turned to the False Gods of Pick Up.

These days, when I am single, I generally just implement little things and just see what happens when I use them in interactions, just out of morbid curiosity really. But its only little things at a time and if they seem effective (as in make interactions easier) I will practice them until they become a natural part of me (mirroring, pacing and leading, etc).

As I went down the Hypnotica path for inner game, I still listen to the hypnosis tracks I purchased every now and again. Especially if my inner beliefs start to dip. I also do "Unstoppable Confidence" every now and then to build up my inner game a bit.

Other things from being involved in this community when it was at its peak (before everything went Black Pill doomer) was I started exercising regularly, its now part of me, not something I have to consciously force. Im not ripped or jacked, but I am not a fat fuck either. Also I spent a lot of time looking into clothing and wearing clothes that fit properly (ie getting shirts tailored, not having colours that clash and so on), looking back I really did used to dress like my mum clothed me or something.

All in all, seduction aside. I am no longer the guy who stands there awkwardly unsure of what to say. Fuck it, if I wanna say something I will. Also when I left the Army and took my first couple of civvi jobs, my general feedback was I was too quiet. Now I am at the point where my Team Leader describes me as a gobby twat. And I no longer need to rely on alchohol and getting drunk when I go out. So all in all, I am happy with the route I tool, where I am today is better than where I was before I started this.

Content-Region8821 · 2025-06-06T10:21:53+00:00

Being myself 💀

burncushlikewood · 2025-06-06T02:57:53+00:00

Personally I'm a big fan of vin DiCarlo and natural game, it teaches you to get girls by being yourself, no gimmicks, no manipulation, just a genuine approach, don't force anything, sprinkle in a little mystery method and you have a very effective way of meeting women

PeterLamb87 · 2025-06-06T06:41:17+00:00

I think you are on the right path, thought I dont think you need much theory (most is recycled from OG PUAS anyway).

I tried mystery method and fell flat on my face. I dont think adopting the style of a PUA helps anyone trying to get women, its a money making scheme for gurus with big claims, nothing more; put them on the same level as the sales courses from people like Dan Lok. (Contrary to seduction, sales has actual professional courses and books though).

The good thing is that even hack gurus can offer nuggets of wisdom here and there. For example, the mistery method offers what I consider a decent structure on how to seduce a woman from approach to relationship; other concepts like negs and peacocking are useful too when you learn to adapt them to yourself.

FlowSurferFromMars · 2025-06-09T09:22:39+00:00

A mix of indirect and direct I guess.

Title	Which PUA style did you adopt?
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Date	June 6, 2025 1:32 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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