Who else has worked long and hard for something thinking it would increase their chances at getting girls only to have fallen short?

Ok-Orange7146 · 2025-10-15T01:52:04+00:00

The only thing that will increase your chances of getting girls is purely just your self confidence. At the end of the day if you have no good career, no flashy car, no flashy clothes, no flashy body etc do you still love yourself enough to believe you are the shit to walk up to a girl you want, talk to her and ask her out/hook up?

All that other shit can't hide a weak frame of someone who doesn't love and believe in themselves.

becomesharp · 2025-10-15T02:33:18+00:00

In high school I thought women liked athletes so i joined the wrestling team and worked my ass off to make the varsity team. Didn't change anything.

After high school I joined the Marines, and while that wasnt my main reason for joining, I thought that being a Marine would at least change things. Didn't change anything.

After the Marines I got a 6 figure job in software engineering because "everyone knows women like guys with money." Didn't change anything.

Then I found game and thats when things finally changed. It's the only thing that ever worked.

CallRepresentative25 · 2025-10-15T03:01:54+00:00

My entire late teen - early adult - adult life ive spent working on myself in absolutely every regard. Maxed myself and skills out in countless ways. Assumed once i've done all this work that women would be lining up to date me and its simply not the case. Maxing out almost every regard in your life and every goal you basically almost ever set infront of you feels great but it really stings when the only thing lagging behind is women. Oh well really proud of myself for all i've accomplished.

Fidel__CashFl0w · 2025-10-15T01:48:29+00:00

We need more context tbh If you focus on one thing to get more girls yeah it isn’t going to go so great, if you’re main focus is doing things to get more girls then it isn’t going to go so great that's

Teripendiicecreamyum · 2025-10-15T03:08:53+00:00

I have the looks and physique to attract women, but spent my 20s in isolation working night shift.

Left with no social skills and became quiet. Women lose interest in me after finding that I don't have crazy energy as they expect in a man.

Like, I need therapy to become a normal person again. I literally only find few people interesting day to day to interact with. Few of them guys, I know at the gym are below average in looks/physique but super social/charismatic. These guys have slept with alot of women from the gym. Grass is greener on the other side.

I tried and forced myself to be social, but it felt hectic after a month faking to be social

Independent_Ad8822 · 2025-10-15T03:16:35+00:00

This will resonate really well with what you are saying. I got a job. Moved out into my own house. I lived in that house for a year and got no women. I was 21 living on my own and having my own house didn’t impress women one bit. For financial reasons moved back into my parents house. While living at my parents I started getting attention from women like crazy. Materialistic things aren’t what impress women. What you present to women on that first impression is what matters. (And to be clear yes I legitimately lived in a house by myself for a year and had sex with zero women lol)

creamyturtle · 2025-10-15T01:13:28+00:00

like what? an education, career, or muscles all fall into that category and will help you get girls

No-Dot-7661 · 2025-10-15T03:31:19+00:00

I have a condo in one of the richest neighborhoods in my city. I thought it would help but women don't really care.

Every woman who I ever pulled in my life is because she was attracted to my looks.

ThroatFinal5732 · 2025-10-15T03:49:45+00:00

I did, for years. Experimented with several styles and pick up menthors and nothing seemed to work.

But later, eventually I became quite decent at getting reciprocated.

And now, I’ve finally found a girlfriend.

Don’t give up mate. What have you done? Maybe I can assist a little with advice.

habbo311 · 2025-10-15T03:56:33+00:00

I was huge from many years in the gym and ripped, 7 percent bodyfat in college. It made absolutely zero difference. In fact I think it somehow made girls even less friendly, maybe intimidating?

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-10-15T04:41:02+00:00

I guess adding muscle. But it never really had noticeable dating effects after I was maybe like 21. I mainly do it now for routine and to stay in shape for volleyball and rock climbing.

Canton_independence · 2025-10-15T02:05:38+00:00

You thought the gap is only 10, you +10 to yourself and then realized the gap is actually 100😭.

Even the guys who is +30 compared you are still struggling.

Confidence only matters if you are already at +90.

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Title	Who else has worked long and hard for something thinking it would increase their chances at getting girls only to have fallen short?
Author	AscensionInProcess
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Date	October 15, 2025 12:59 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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