This is a SUPER common mistake I see so many people make. They ask how they can "keep the conversation going?" when chatting with someone they like.

Behind this question there's a fundamental misunderstanding about what the purpose of communication is.

Communication evolved as a tool to achieve specific goals. People exchange information for a reason. Each piece of information serves a specific purpose.

The goal with communication is not to communicate. When people ask "how do I keep the conversation going?" they want to communicate to communicate. They see communication as the ultimate goal. It isn't!!!

This often leads to them sending pointless messages like "hi", "wanna chat?", or "I like what you did or said in your post, so thought I would reach out to talk to you."

When they receive no response, or the conversation dries out quickly, these people are confused.

But come on people!! It's not clear what the heck you want and you're not communicating anything of value. You just made the other person waste their time with pointless messages about nothing.

Use communication to accomplish something. Whether it's a date, screening them to see if they're a good fit, finding out if they're single or something else. But show your reason for communicating! Don't just send messages because you think you should be sending messages.