My wife and I have been on the rocks lately. We've been married 15 years and honestly I feel like we've both fallen out of love with each other. I've had a gut feeling that some form of cheating is taking place for about a year, and today I found her messages to a half a dozen men online, mostly in their mid 20s calling her their step mom, and exchanging romantic affections for one another.

I'm relieved that I now 'know know' but I'm scared shitless of what she's going to do. I have 4 kids in the home and make a decent salary but I know men get completely fucked over by the system.

I also have video footage of her going bat shit crazy, physically attacking me and threatening to kill me in my sleep from a few months ago. She has some mental illness stemming from childhood abuse, but I'm not sure how much is real and how much is her setting the stage to do something nuts. It's called DID, or split personality, which has only manifested in the last couple years.

I've stuck it out this long mostly for my kids, despite her coldness and mistreatment, but the emotional affairs are the line she knew not to cross but did it anyway.

The current advice I'm getting from someone I know who has gone through this, is to cut her off, kick her out, and file for an order of protection in order for the court to see me favorably.

Looking for more advice before I make any decisions. Thanks fellas