Remember this ….

MiloGoesToPorridge · 2025-12-29T09:03:06+00:00

Great way of looking at it.

I liken it to this:- you've managed to get yourself out of quicksand you've been trapped in for an hour. You're now clutched to the side hyperventilating from your ordeal.

You then catch your breath, get your bearings and plow on through the medieval forest that my mind's eye imagines, thinking 'I can now brag about freeing myself from quicksand'.

Or something.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2025-12-29T01:34:27+00:00

Reframing is a great tool and your mindset is in your control. Well done OP.

icemantatt2o · 2025-12-28T22:37:07+00:00

Im really glad I found this sub. Even though we are all internet strangers, but there is alot of good advice being tossed around.

This traumatic experience is fucking devastating and the most difficult time in our lives. We all are going through some shit. But we are here for each other.

Im on day five that my wife dropped the bomb on me. Have eaten very little. So far in the past 5 days I have only eaten 2 granola bars and one bite of a sandwich. Dropped 8 pounds. I know that i need to eat so i can keep a clear head.

I know deep down life will get better. Just cant see it yet. Hopefully with getting advice and reading about other situations. I know that I am not alone. That right there is helping tremendously. Much more than anyone realizes. So thank you all.

Healthy-Signature287 · 2025-12-28T22:08:35+00:00

Thanks for posting this, I am grieving a 12 year marriage ending and I genuinely can't envision a future in which I am happy but I hope that will come at one point.

Fawn001 · 2025-12-28T21:34:08+00:00

Its the death of the nuclear family and tough as many people are raised that this is the best way to live, myself included. But you can reframe it into something positive, foresure. For me, it is a blessing and a curse, but as time goes on (and i put in the work), it feels like a blessing.

Fuzzy-Delivery799 · 2025-12-28T20:40:17+00:00

Much needed. Thank you

Ok_Builder_3285 · 2025-12-28T19:49:24+00:00

This is true for some people, but it's also false hope for a lot. Everything just keeps getting worse. Divorce is a death sentence.

nomohydro · 2025-12-28T17:22:26+00:00

Thanks for this positivity, needed that! I just got divorced 11 days ago so mighty fresh.

If failure is the better teacher than success, well then professor I learned I will NEVER get married again. People have said, never say never - nope, it's never. I'm never going through this sh.tshow again. I'll date and whatnot eventually but if she insists on marriage like my ex did, I'm going to nope right out.

Slowloris81 · 2025-12-28T15:49:43+00:00

Very true. It gave me the daunting but exciting opportunity to rebuild my life, filling it with positive people and experiences and cutting out toxic ones.

It took time and effort but my life is so much richer now.

vwaldoguy · 2025-12-28T15:49:00+00:00

Divorce was a blessing in disguise for me.

Title	Remember this ….
Author	Corpus1965
Upvotes	53
Comments	26
Date	December 28, 2025 3:44 PM UTC (6 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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