To redditor orangesandbears about your chat question: "Do you think men have to always be the providers in a relationship"

sexualfoodpantry · 2020-08-11T03:28:22+00:00

What does it matter to him? Just look for a woman who is ok with going dutch every step of the way, dude! They exist.

But no, those guys prefer to hang around here and do what they think is GODS WORK by "trying to change your mind".

You could never, ever change a man's mind about anything, but they always seem to think they can do the same to you. Because there is zero respect for your opinion.

They like to call this "having a discussion", but it all goes back to zero respect for you as a person because you are a woman.

plummyjellyfish · 2020-08-11T02:44:49+00:00

Being a woman is more expensive than being a man. And, women are the ones who are taking all the risks when dating. They have an increased chance of catching STDs, will bear the brunt of consequences of an unwanted pregnancy, not to mention that women always have to fear male violence. Just by showing up to a date, a woman has made a huge investment. So a HVM needs to put something on the table in acknowledgement of that. Paying for dates is a pretty good indication that a man understands what his woman is worth.

A man who won't do that is a man who wants to drain a woman's essence without giving her anything in return. No HVW would put up with such an arrangement.

VulcanSpaceSquirrel · 2020-08-11T11:51:58+00:00

Nope! If a man doesn’t want to provide for me then I will simply find a man who will 😘

I make good money. More than my current interest. He knows this. He still pays for all our dates. Once I tried buying him a single coffee for 3$ and he refused, then finally snuck dollars into my bag and only told me as he was leaving for his car so I couldn’t give them back 😭 😂

He provides so much more than money. It’s about the attitude

naturopathicfantasti · 2020-08-11T02:52:03+00:00

I’m so tired of hearing how these poor men are trying to avoid getting used for free food. Who the fuck puts themselves in that kind of situation for a meal? That can’t possibly happen often enough for men to have this blanket agreement of no real first dates.

I think they mean “I kept buying women food and they didn’t fuck me after that one single time meeting them! They used me!!! Never again!”

NihilisticBuddhism · 2020-08-11T12:38:00+00:00

The only time it would be acceptable to answer no is if the world wasn’t patriarchal-misogynistic and women were the higher earners

Charming_Mix7930 · 2020-08-11T21:01:03+00:00

I refuse to have a "provider" because I can't trust anylonger they won't believe they have the right to use my body as they please just for giving me a glass of water. Also economic violence is no joke.

Title	To redditor orangesandbears about your chat question: "Do you think men have to always be the providers in a relationship"
Author	SayNad
Upvotes	110
Comments	31
Date	August 11, 2020 1:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/i7inep/to_redditor_orangesandbears_about_your_chat/
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