Just a few days ago, I came across a post on a subreddit about a male victim whose privates were chopped off for refusing to marry his ex-girlfriend after dating her for eight years. The comments were highly misandristic, supporting her actions as justified punishment. They also highlighted that some individuals perceive romantic relationships not as mutual partnerships, but rather as shallow, transactional arrangements.

I've shared some comments below...

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Unfortunately, this was the sanest comment there!

And I noticed the following double standards here...

  1. Women often advocate for sexual liberation, emphasizing their autonomy and rejecting traditional, regressive standards of purity. However, when a breakup occurs, particularly if it is initiated by the man against his female partner's wishes, they revert to these traditional standards, claiming their purity was abused and seeking punishment for the men according to those same regressive norms. They suddenly switch up and act as if only men enjoy sex, and that women are merely passive participants, participating in it only because their partner requested it.
  2. Society often labels men as emotionally weak and unintelligent if they struggle to move on from a breakup initiated by the woman. Any carnal activities during the relationship are assumed to be consensual, and any future plans, such as marriage, are expected to be dissolved. If the man seeks revenge, claiming he felt sexually and mentally exploited, society shames him, stating that he consented to the acts and should move on. Basically it's entirely his fault for being in that relationship.
    • Conversely, if a man initiates a breakup, it's normal for some people to assume that he 'tricked' the woman into engaging in carnal activities with the promise of future marriage. The woman is allowed to have a breakdown, and the blame falls on the man. Any harm she inflicts on her ex-partner is partially justified. Additionally, she is permitted to revoke her consent based on the outcome; if she breaks up or cheats, it is considered consensual, but if the man breaks up or cheats, she has the option to revoke her consent, and falsely claim r*pe! Essentially, they can manipulate the definition of heinous acts such as r*pe to align with their desire for revenge, and expect society to treat them as victims of that crime.
  3. Continuing on the topic of society assuming that a man 'tricked' a woman into a relationship, I've observed that men who are average to below average in appearance tend to be doubted more than their handsome counterparts. However, this standard does not seem to apply to women. Women, regardless of their looks—whether beautiful, average, or below average—are generally free from such societal doubts.

In conclusion, I'm confused as to why society permits women to hold traditional, and even regressive, expectations towards men. Such a mentality often results in the weaponization and misuse of laws designed to protect women, such as r*pe laws, for the purpose of revenge.