I've noticed that for some women what they find attractive depends on what she is and how she sees herself. Are you like this in any way?

If she's obese, she doesn't want a man who's too thin because she doesn't want to feel big near him. She might even want a strong overweight guy instead of a low body fat muscular guy.

If she's tall, she wants a man who's even taller to make her feel small.

When she's 19yo she finds 19yo guys attractive, when she's 25yo she thinks 19yo guys look like babies.

Alternatively, some unattractive young women find older men more attractive because those older men treat them better than men their age. He values her youth, unlike men her age.

If she's from a certain ethnicity, she will say she won't date guys from her ethnicity because they might look like siblings.

If her work puts her in a dominant position, she wants an even more dominant man so she can be submissive.

(Of course these don't apply to all women or even the majority of them)

Men on the other hand seem to have pretty stable preferences, no matter what he is and at what stage of life he's at. A 45yo man might not waste time chasing 20yo girls, but he still finds them hot.