I (30F) have been with my boyfriend (33M) for about 3.5 years. We keep running into a crossroads with our sex life. He’s so convinced that because I don’t get super wet when I give him BJ or any foreplay where I’m giving and not receiving… that I don’t find him attractive. I DO find him attractive. I express that in different ways outside of sex each day. I also have increased expressing my appreciation and love for him to make him feel good. I’ve been thinking we have a good fairly healthy sex life.. have sex on average once a day sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. I recently up’d my BJ game by finding tips online to giving him a better one. We do use other methods like lube to keep things wet. Prior to me he was in a 6-7 year committed relationship where they got married. From what I heard and what I’ve seen around toys he has… they were in a pretty good sexual relationship. Sometimes I feel like I’m very vanilla to him and I’ve stepped a lot of out of my comfort zone to open up sexually. I’m at a loss of what to do bc I try so hard but don’t feel like I can change my body. And he gets frustrated bc I go online or look up a book about what to do instead of listening to my body and “not doing things I don’t want to do”. I want sex and I want it badly but idk why at all there’s such a disconnect. He also gets really frustrated if I’m on top, slip out of him, and don’t put it back in myself. I have many female friends who has been sexually so open in how they express themselves and I always thought it was a bit much but those women are in committed marriage relationships and I’m stuck. He recently called our sex fairly mediocre while I’m in the high life excited that I’ve improved on these aspects just to be wrong. Any advice? Can anyone help?