Eight Signs She Is In Love

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Doomsday_ · 2014-03-31T15:25:04+00:00

Signs that she is into you:

-Replies to texts and phone calls promptly

-Rearranges her schedule/cancels other plans in order to be with you

Basically, a woman who is genuinely into you will act in the chasing and supplicating manner that you should avoid. They will do the opposite of male game. CH has a good post about this:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/03/04/love-when-women-turn-into-beta-males/

love2fap · 2014-03-31T07:43:44+00:00

I agree with these signs. I have seen all of them. But, never go full retard/oneitis. Maintain frame. A woman's love is never the same as our love. The minute you lose frame, get emotional, come to her with 'your problems' it will be seen as weakness. Her love is conditional.

Hyooge · 2014-03-31T14:10:39+00:00

Basically if a girl is clingy and does whatever you say she likes you a lot.

If you're unsure of whether a girl likes you (always assume she does otherwise self-doubt can build up) just ask her to do something relatively minor for you. She WILL do it if she likes, respects and looks up to you.

[deleted] · 2014-03-31T11:27:54+00:00

So my ex didn't love me.

I knew it but it still hurts to really, really understand it's the truth. Thanks.

in my experience, points from 2 to 6 are true.

also, sidebar yeah.

rebuildingMyself · 2014-03-31T10:03:54+00:00

She voluntary wants to give you BJ, when she is horny. If a female is attracted and infatuated with you, then BJ is sexually satisfying for her. If it is not, she is not attracted and infatuated with you.

If it were two years ago I wouldn't have believed this but speaking from own experience, girls who are into you love it. They generally seem to love it way more to pleasure you than when you try to pleasure them.

FWB who I know wants more didn't want sex (tried to finger her, she was not in the mood). So she gave me a blowjob. I held her head and fucked her mouth until I came. She could barely breathe. Felt a little bad for her. I thought she must have felt used or degraded. Nope. She took my hand down her pants. I looked at her in surprise. She said "Just do it. This turned me on".

Could tell lots of these stories. Girls just love it when you are fully into it and an unstoppable animal.

DaedalusFinch · 2014-03-31T07:52:36+00:00

Thank you for some solid advice. I think a lot of advice here is aimed toward one possible lifestyle compatible with redpill philosophy. I find a lot of older guys give solid relationship advice so thanks again.

mabden · 2014-03-31T15:14:57+00:00

Here are the signs:

She wants to do things for you and becomes happy when she satisfies you (by coooking, cleaning, spending money, sex, assisting your studies/work/business etc.)

A good indicator and definitely a way to increase her "investment" in you.

Small changes, and small negative or critical comments from you makes her very anxious about the state of the relationship, and doubting and self-blaming.

Not sure how I feel about this and not sure it will increase attraction over the long haul.

Overly concerned with everything you say, and also what you write in text messages etc.

Maybe just insecurity.

Constantly asking for validation: "Do you love me ? / Love me as much as I love you ? Do I look good ? Does my ass/tits/stomach/legs/hair/eyes/lips look good ? etc" and she needs in general reassurance regularly that you like her.

View this as an indication of insecurity and neediness and not necessarily Love. She could be in love with you and display confidence as well.

You guys are in a relationship, and she comes to you with her most important life decisions and she is calmed down by your answers and solutions, and FOLLOWS them.

Very good indicator of Attraction, Respect, and Love.

She voluntary wants to give you BJ, when she is horny. If a female is attracted and infatuated with you, then BJ is sexually satisfying for her. If it is not, she is not attracted and infatuated with you.

100% agree.

Ignores your negative sides, and easily forgives you for rather serious offenses.

This is true during the early phases of a relationship indicating high interest level and a willingness to give you a pass on bad behavior. However, if your bad behavior continues, then she is less likey to tolerate it and loss attraction.

Adopts your view of the world, opinions and habits.

Although this may be an indicator of love, I would prefer a chick with her own thoughts and not afraid to voice them.

Xein · 2014-03-31T14:34:43+00:00

This may seem obvious, but the amount of time she wants to spend talking to you/hanging out with you. A woman in love will always want to stay on the phone longer or stay at your place longer. 95% of the time you will have to end the conversation or ask them to leave. If she isn't like this then she is already thinking about doing other things or talking to other people when she is with you.

[deleted] · 2014-03-31T17:24:58+00:00

A lot of this just describes codependency. I agree with one and six. Is immature "love" just codependent attachment?

Khazrihl · 2014-03-31T19:14:44+00:00

Based on a lot of these comments I think that people are misunderstanding the message.

kick6 · 2014-03-31T15:13:23+00:00

I think it's best to seperate love and infatuation. You've comingled them here.

yaxwax · 2014-03-31T13:41:31+00:00

You see, I as a man, see my job as both--her Beta Buck that she uses to fulfill her biological need and the Alpha Love; that she provides for my biological need to protect her and her offspring by letting me help her, even if she doesn't need my help, so in protection, I'm Alpha and she's Beta, making me the one ultimately who has to make sure the Household is Functional, but in the area of reproduction and child-rearing, she's the Alpha and I'm the Beta. That way, neither member of the pair has absolute power and there's a division of labor, which allows mutual compacts and covenants to develop which enhance life and love and all that jazz.

Now is this the only system that works? No! But it's the one the Creator God has given us to align with they instincts that were (and are) given to us to align our life with our goals.

Of course, I've taken all the pills, so I don't expect partisans to agree with me. (Had to know what they do before I decide which to use, after all.) Just sharing my thoughts on the matter. Thanks for reading.

Edit: "Now go help yourself."

UnimpressedAsshole · 2014-03-31T16:16:19+00:00

She adopts your view of the world?

Fuck man, she's not a member in your cult.

iapetusomicron · 2014-03-31T13:24:17+00:00

My partner hits 6, maybe 7 of these 8. I'm not so sure I see it as a good thing though.

FortunateBum · 2014-03-31T21:38:11+00:00

The only one I'm familiar with is treat you like absolute shit and make sure your life is miserable.

Kmorrt · 2014-03-31T16:19:54+00:00

do you have anymore of these but for those who are single? :P

dray121212 · 2014-03-31T18:50:42+00:00

8 is huge!

I'd say #1 and/or #6 + #8 are the most important and the rest sort of follow.

She must respect you. You must have dominance over her 1)physically 2)emotionally 3)intellectually

scallopkid · 2014-03-31T20:26:53+00:00

1 is very good, 5 and 6 are pretty good too. The rest are just signs she's super insecure. ~~My boyfriend would be so annoyed with me if I started asking him dumb questions like in 4.~~(just ignore me)

Edit: they are good signs she likes you though. Insecurity can be equated with caring what you think of her. I'm not sure if I would call it love though as that generally implies enough trust to be less insecure. But number one is a great sign and requires no insecurity.

[deleted] · 2014-04-01T05:23:57+00:00

One of the better RP theory posts that's not only real world applicable but testable too. A lot of RP students are former blue pill betas and lists of behaviors like this can remind us why we do this. Also blue pill friends of yours can be asked this stuff...to show them that "no dude..she is not really opposed to blow jobs...just opposed to them with you"

Saltiestofpeanuts · 2014-04-01T12:21:28+00:00

Adopts your view of the world, opinions and habits.

This sounds extremely boring to me if it were to happen.

bleh321 · 2014-04-02T03:51:12+00:00

Ultimately, a woman may become infatuated to borderline obsessive with you if you display both beta/alpha attributes.

What I mean by this? Simply put, if you have the money/status/looks/attitude... expect crazy infatuated women!

Msdup · 2014-03-31T14:56:11+00:00

Woman here agree with all but 8, does she adopt your habits views etc because she's in love or is she attracted to someone with similar views in the first place? So 8 happens but its more like one of the reasons she is in love than a sign of it. Maybe

DjBottleservice · 2014-03-31T16:16:31+00:00

I think I just went full retard

MachiavellianRed · 2014-03-31T12:09:31+00:00

Woman here.

Small changes, and small negative or critical comments from you makes her very anxious about the state of the relationship, and doubting and self-blaming.

Only an insecure woman would jump right into doubt and self blaming. We can hear critical comments and change our ways without being weak and insecure. Like, "you're right hon I can and will do better in the future". Without all the drama of self doubt.

Overly concerned with everything you say, and also what you write in text messages etc.

Why should she be? Hopefully you've given here enough reasons to trust you at your word and she does not need to dissect or obsess over what you say. Why couldn't you say what you mean, mean what you say, and she just as clearly gets it? Why would you want the hysterics of her being 'overly concerned'?

Constantly asking for validation: "Do you love me ? / Love me as much as I love you ? Do I look good ? Does my ass/tits/stomach/legs/hair/eyes/lips look good ? etc" and she needs in general reassurance regularly that you like her.

Ack, do you really want someone that insecure?!? Yes, we need and like to be reminded of your love for us (just as men need reminders from women regularly too) but if she has to ask a lot either you're not giving her clear positive signs or she's insecure. Hopefully any woman you choose would have high self esteem, trust your love, and need only occasional reminders of it. Again, why would you want drama of such a needy person? Does it feed your ego to have her begging for your attention?

Ignores your negative sides, and easily forgives you for rather serious offenses.

Oh please! Everyone has negative sides and if we ignored them we'd never grow or improve as people. And any offense that was serious should be worked on and eventually forgiven. But only after marked improvement. If you want to date a doormat then this does not apply. If you want to date a woman who respects you, and who you respect, she'll call you on your BS.

Most of this advice seems like it was written for boys who want to date girls, as opposed to men who want to date women.

magical_artist · 2014-04-01T09:04:36+00:00

Yes, and yes...

Shit. My woman only shows one of those signs 100%.

...FUCK

BluepillProfessor · 2014-04-02T01:30:54+00:00

This is a great thread that has got me thinking.

Here is my own list of signs when a woman is in love:

First and foremost a woman in love wants to PLEASE her man. This may be manifested in the following ways:

Sex on demand. There is no reason to deny your beloved his pleasure even if it is inconvenient unless you are really not in love and are simply trading your body for validation, resources or whatever. Headache? Tired? Bitch, please... Your head hurts to bad and you are to tired to lay down on your back in bed for 5 minutes? Really?
Blowjobs to completion and spontaneously. Taste terrible? What is a little bad taste compared to the pleasure I can give my beloved?
Anal. A little bit of discomfort? She will want to take it like a woman if she loves you.
Doing little things to help her man. Making the bed, stacking his notebooks and putting them away. Observing her man has dry lips and getting him a glass of water. Little things. Small things. Tiny things, really but they make all the difference.

Second, a woman who loves her man will RESPECT him and take comfort in his presence manifested in the following ways:

She will be sweet and submissive, especially in the presence of her love. All women can be disagreeable but a woman in love will almost always be agreeable and sweet and warm when her man is around.
She will defend him aggressively if he is maligned when he is not around.
A woman in love will take her emotional cue from her love. If he is upset she will not be beaming and happy. If he is happy she will almost always be happy.
The smallest criticism from her love will ruin her entire day. She will be especially sensitive to displeasing a man she respects and loves.
A woman in love will definitely shit test, and can do so often. However she will not push it. A woman in love will accept her lovers words, ideas, and statements. Her instinct is to agree with her lover
A woman in love will want his cum inside her body. If your GF or Wife jumps up after sex to clean herself out she is subconsciously (or consciously) trying to expel the awful Beta sperm that this substandard male put inside her. A woman in love will love the feeling of Alpha sperm dripping out of her holes.

Finally, the easiest way to tell if a woman is in love is by looking in her eyes. A woman in love will meet her man's eyes demurely with a hint of simmering and even playfulness and joy. The look, once you see it once, is really obvious. Several studies show the best indicator of pending divorce is to simply let the couple sit quietly for a couple of minutes looking deeply into the others eyes. If the couple become uncomfortable or are unable to hold a loving, warm gaze then divorce is much more likely. If they are, then the marriage counselor has only a little work to do.

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rokr1292 · 2014-03-31T08:56:12+00:00

Had that and I let it go....

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Title	Eight Signs She Is In Love
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Date	March 31, 2014 6:51 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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8 is huge!