Moving out during a divorce

creating_my_life · 2019-12-29T22:12:54+00:00

Lawyer said

do what lawyer says. that's why you hired a lawyer.

red-sfpplus · 2019-12-29T22:49:26+00:00

Only a fucking idiot moves out of the martial home first.

aita2899 · 2019-12-29T22:32:52+00:00

In my state, you moving out is abandoning the kids. I made her move out and she had to fight uphill the entire way. I got to be super dad, and she was the loser who ran off with her boyfriend and left her kids behind.

Taipanshimshon · 2019-12-29T22:33:57+00:00

Its your marital home and the home your kids are used to.

Stay put. Listen to the lawyer you chose.

If you're the one that leaves you're the one that will be expected to still pay for the home and your own apartment.

wkndatbernardus · 2019-12-29T23:16:57+00:00

No way I would move out if there are kids in the mix and you care about being granted at least 50/50. Only move once the judge signs off on the custody arrangement.

arm_candy · 2019-12-29T23:42:52+00:00

For a situation with a sane wife, the “stay put” advice is probably good. From what you’ve been saying, though, your wife is proper crazy and doing shit like photographing your gun to send to the cops. If this is really true, you’re probably setting yourself up for legal issues by staying in the house. So it’s a trade off between “abandonment” and keeping your ass out of cuffs.

Of course, you’re also a complete drama queen and idiot, what with fucking your crazy wife against your lawyer’s explicit guidance shortly after the whole gun episode. So I don’t know how much of the craziness is entirely manufactured in your head.

AdorableHyena · 2019-12-29T21:55:05+00:00

No kids and a different legal system, but looking back, moving out as soon as possible was a great choice I made and worth every penny of all the extra thousands of euros it costed. It helped me to quit speaking about "my bed" and "my house" quite soon after. Even though I still paid for it, a couple of months down the road I couldn't care less who fucked who in that dirty shithole where I once lived. I was doing me somewhere else and that was fucking awesome.

SorcererKing · 2019-12-30T03:18:57+00:00

Your buddy has seen 1 divorce. Your lawyer has seen hundreds. Do what the lawyer says. (Faggot.)

JameisBong · 2019-12-29T21:56:36+00:00

It's your house she can GTFO. Play nice but be firm on what you want. Offensively draw up a plan and try to end this thing in a few weeks. Don't be bitter when negotiating, she probably has this planned out better than you do. The goal is to get her out of your life and for you to move on with yours, don't let your feelings cloud your judgement.

The_Litz · 2019-12-30T04:36:33+00:00

My young peacock, stay with the strategy you and your lawyer came up with.

People fuck things up because they reinvent the battle plan mid battle. They move goal posts and make decisions on the fly. Improvising is something totally different, changing the mission is going to cost you.

Right now you are having an emotional reaction to the stress and moving out is seen as an escape.

Batton down the hatches and ride it out according to the plan.

WolfofAllStreetz · 2019-12-29T22:05:03+00:00

Paging Redsfp

screechhater · 2019-12-29T23:27:49+00:00

The attorney is looking out for your interests

Be strong. Stick to the fucking game plan laid out by the professional

And, be fucking discrete and selective with your plates Not some thot wanting to dig under your STBX’s skin

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-12-30T02:57:04+00:00

Do not move out.

Rifleshoot · 2019-12-30T19:54:52+00:00

Not a lawyer, but I have heard that moving out does disadvantage you in the divorce proceedings by granting your soon to be ex the presumption of owning the family home. So if you do move out, a judge could see that as proof that you are capable of providing a home for both yourself and her and simply giving the house to her. Just hearsay on my end, but it’s generally considered a bad decision to move out before the divorce.

[deleted] · 2019-12-31T00:55:16+00:00

Don't move out of your marital home. Also do this (I can tell you from experience...).... find the top 5 or 6 lawyers that you DON'T want to go up against in your local area, then go do a paid consultation with each one. This conflicts them all out and your wife can't use them. It will cost you a couple thousand in total, but WELL worth it. Trick is, don't let your emotions rule you. This is a game of stamina and attrition.

What else are you doing as control damage? Believe me, I can help. My divorce 5 years ago cost me a shit ton, but could have be way worse.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2020-01-05T00:09:53+00:00

Are you one of those guys whose wife says she doesn’t want to be married to him so you do everything you can to convince her to stay? Pathetic.

You have a divorce attorney for divorce. I sure hope your attorney isn’t helping you do stupid things s so you can stay married.

HornsOfApathy · 2019-12-30T03:16:30+00:00

I think we've had enough of this train wreck and waste of everyone's time both here and at MRP. Goodbye, brother. Best of luck on your journey.

Title	Moving out during a divorce
Author	Daddy_ThunderCock
Upvotes	12
Comments	55
Date	December 29, 2019 9:45 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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