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Moving out during a divorce

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December 29, 2019
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My friend who has been divorce raped by a similar woman to mine and has strongly urged me to move out immediately. Either pay 3-5k in rent or pay 10-15k in lawyer fees. Lawyer said not to move out as STBX loses incentive to finalize the divorce.

What are the pros and cons for moving out that I am not seeing?

Pros - Mitigate divorce rape - Freedom to be a peacock and fly

Cons - Low on cash. Need to take loan out against 401k if lawyer agrees with the strategy and can convince hers - Not a great usage of marital funds which aren't great as is. 20K in 401k and 40-60 in home equity. No debt but nothing in savings - STBX could drag things out while fucking another man in my bed in a house that I am paying for - New man to replace the selfish dad who abandoned his family - Lose little influence I have left over the kids - Courts might see it as me being a piece of shit if custody were to become an issue


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Title Moving out during a divorce
Author Daddy_ThunderCock
Upvotes 12
Comments 55
Date 29 December 2019 09:45 PM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/303500
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/ehc1t1/moving_out_during_a_divorce/
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[–]creating_my_life31 points32 points  (6 children) | Copy

Lawyer said

do what lawyer says. that's why you hired a lawyer.

[–]EasyDaysHardNights5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I have read it many times. I wish there was a guide for when you file first and chose to leave verses the woman leaving first. My situation is a little different than the typical MRP divorce story it seems.

Who on here filed first?

[–]RedPillGlasses8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I moved out with kids after she started alcoholic hitting and bitting them. Filed first. Good times.

She’s been in the house for 2 years and hasn’t made a single payment. Not that she could, because she’s 100% on disability after 95% killing herself drinking two gallons a week of vodka (uses a walker to get around at 47 years old.)

I’m $80k upside down in the house because of fees and missed payments, and will declare bankruptcy after tax return this year.

So yeah, stay in the house while you file, because she can fuck you a lot harder than you can fuck her.

TLDR = My vetting at 23 yo sucked ass, and now my credit is shit.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

This has been my default thinking. Lawyers aren't 100% correct and I wanted the opinions of internet faggots.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red18 points19 points  (11 children) | Copy

Only a fucking idiot moves out of the martial home first.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

And this advice stands regardless of state right?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It is my advice.

[–]wkndatbernardus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes

[–]venicerocco-1 points0 points  (7 children) | Copy

Why is this?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy

Fuck off MRP News Years resolution faggot.

[–]venicerocco-4 points-3 points  (5 children) | Copy

I’m sorry, what?

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Was he not clear?

[–]venicerocco-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha. I have no idea what that meat head was banging on about 🤦🏻‍♂️

[–]JoeBuckYourslf1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Excuse him.. I think he’s on “the steroids” if you know what I mean.

God MRP is full of assholes. I’m going back to r/deadbedrooms

[–]aita289913 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy

In my state, you moving out is abandoning the kids. I made her move out and she had to fight uphill the entire way. I got to be super dad, and she was the loser who ran off with her boyfriend and left her kids behind.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Your wife must have been FUCKED. Women don't usually lose the kids.

How did you get her to move out?

[–]aita289912 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

I actually followed athol’s chapter on cheating. Went to a bunch of lawyers and gave her the ultimatum and threatened to tell everyone and post the evidence along with getting the boyfriend fired.

Then she moved in with him after only knowing him 11 days. Questionable stuff happened when I let the kids visit her and pretty much my two teenagers said they don’t wanna be around her and the boyfriend. Youngest pretty much who the questionable stuff happened to and showed how bad a mother she had been. I had documented her agreeing she could come over anytime to visit the kids. Numerous times she was hours late due to being lazy etc. It all piled up.

Best part is she makes more than me due to me supporting her through school. Has degrees that I didn’t have time to get while supporting her and the family. She has to pay me some alimony also while I’m in school as part of our agreement.

[–]RedPillGlasses5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

A happy ending. Well played.

[–]JoeBuckYourslf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Atta boy

[–]TaipanshimshonRed Beret7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Its your marital home and the home your kids are used to.

Stay put. Listen to the lawyer you chose.

If you're the one that leaves you're the one that will be expected to still pay for the home and your own apartment.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Correct sir. I plan to stay unless my lawyer says something else.

[–]wkndatbernardus4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

No way I would move out if there are kids in the mix and you care about being granted at least 50/50. Only move once the judge signs off on the custody arrangement.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid advice. Thanks

[–]arm_candy2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

For a situation with a sane wife, the “stay put” advice is probably good. From what you’ve been saying, though, your wife is proper crazy and doing shit like photographing your gun to send to the cops. If this is really true, you’re probably setting yourself up for legal issues by staying in the house. So it’s a trade off between “abandonment” and keeping your ass out of cuffs.

Of course, you’re also a complete drama queen and idiot, what with fucking your crazy wife against your lawyer’s explicit guidance shortly after the whole gun episode. So I don’t know how much of the craziness is entirely manufactured in your head.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I will keep the recording going but plan to stay put. If shit goes south I am getting some cash and a bug out bag I will leave in my suv.

If I start feeling my emotions becoming volitile I can leave for the night if need be. None of this shit is made up, I wish it were.

[–]arm_candy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Are you documenting all the crazy shit she's doing to the kids? You said she recorded a video telling them you didn't love them anymore or something like that, right? She gave away the dog. You should be documenting all this shit in as much detail as possible because it's your ammunition to get more time with your kids. She's actively using them to hurt you and is pretty blatant about it.

[–]AdorableHyena2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

No kids and a different legal system, but looking back, moving out as soon as possible was a great choice I made and worth every penny of all the extra thousands of euros it costed. It helped me to quit speaking about "my bed" and "my house" quite soon after. Even though I still paid for it, a couple of months down the road I couldn't care less who fucked who in that dirty shithole where I once lived. I was doing me somewhere else and that was fucking awesome.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Having kids changes it a little bit.

How long was it until you finalized and became free from the anchor?

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your buddy has seen 1 divorce. Your lawyer has seen hundreds. Do what the lawyer says. (Faggot.)

[–]JameisBong1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's your house she can GTFO. Play nice but be firm on what you want. Offensively draw up a plan and try to end this thing in a few weeks. Don't be bitter when negotiating, she probably has this planned out better than you do. The goal is to get her out of your life and for you to move on with yours, don't let your feelings cloud your judgement.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Good luck with that first sentence in a real life divorce proceeding.

[–]JameisBong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yea he has kids so it's different. But I've seen a divorce drag out for 3 years,the wife lost the house.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My young peacock, stay with the strategy you and your lawyer came up with.

People fuck things up because they reinvent the battle plan mid battle. They move goal posts and make decisions on the fly. Improvising is something totally different, changing the mission is going to cost you.

Right now you are having an emotional reaction to the stress and moving out is seen as an escape.

Batton down the hatches and ride it out according to the plan.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Paging Redsfp

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I am pretty sure his opinion is to stay put, but I could be wrong.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The attorney is looking out for your interests

Be strong. Stick to the fucking game plan laid out by the professional

And, be fucking discrete and selective with your plates Not some thot wanting to dig under your STBX’s skin

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with you 100%. I went to the gym and my head is clear now. I need to stick to the game plan. Moving out would be a weak strategy. You don't need frame if you aren't near somone. This is the best way to get the most resistance and hard sparring.

If I can get through this I will be bulletproof. If I can't, I stand to lose quite a bit.

[–]FlyingSexistPig0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do not move out.

[–]Rifleshoot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not a lawyer, but I have heard that moving out does disadvantage you in the divorce proceedings by granting your soon to be ex the presumption of owning the family home. So if you do move out, a judge could see that as proof that you are capable of providing a home for both yourself and her and simply giving the house to her. Just hearsay on my end, but it’s generally considered a bad decision to move out before the divorce.

[–]dll1420 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't move out of your marital home. Also do this (I can tell you from experience...).... find the top 5 or 6 lawyers that you DON'T want to go up against in your local area, then go do a paid consultation with each one. This conflicts them all out and your wife can't use them. It will cost you a couple thousand in total, but WELL worth it. Trick is, don't let your emotions rule you. This is a game of stamina and attrition.

What else are you doing as control damage? Believe me, I can help. My divorce 5 years ago cost me a shit ton, but could have be way worse.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Are you one of those guys whose wife says she doesn’t want to be married to him so you do everything you can to convince her to stay? Pathetic.

You have a divorce attorney for divorce. I sure hope your attorney isn’t helping you do stupid things s so you can stay married.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret[M] 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

I think we've had enough of this train wreck and waste of everyone's time both here and at MRP. Goodbye, brother. Best of luck on your journey.

[–]RedPillGlasses1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

OP posts rational question, with lists of pros and cons

OP responds appropriately to feedback

Brand new mod bans OP

Conclusion - Brand new mod is a faggot

[–]ImNotSlash2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

OP's been a train wreck forever demonstrating no desire to put in the effort. He's the guy others look to and think, "I thought I had it bad, but this mother fucker..."

I'd rather watch the drama shit my wife watches.

[–]RedPillGlasses-2 points-1 points  (5 children) | Copy

I’ve been following him for years. There’s WAY worse motherfuckers that post on here.

He can also physically kick the shit out of 99% of the male species, is fucking three different women and makes good income.

But yeah, that’s the fail.

[–]ImNotSlash3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

That you think any of this means a damn thing says more about you.

[–]ImNotSlash2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

How the fuck you been following him for years if he's only been here 10 months?

[–]ArborioRice2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe worse guys here, sure, yet half the shit he says is contradictory, he has no self control, and refuses to take any advice. Do you seriously believe the shit he writes is actually real for a rational human being?

At least you think he's as awesome as he thinks he is; the rest of us wrote him off as loony tunes, a troll, or both.

[–]red-iron-man2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The Wednesday Retard was that guy nobody took seriously because he was full of shit. 99% of what he said to other people you knew darn well he didn't practice it himself. He was impulsive and reactionary. One day he'd write a post about how his wife would never fuck chad at a concert because he's the man. The next moment he's blowing up his marriage over god knows what. If he was this sporlactic on MRP and everyone could see it, imagine what his wife saw.

Wednesday Retard if you're reading this please fix things within yourself first. The problem isn't your wife.

[–]ImNotSlash1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He'll have his own show on TLC soon. That ain't a compliment.



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