My friend who has been divorce raped by a similar woman to mine and has strongly urged me to move out immediately. Either pay 3-5k in rent or pay 10-15k in lawyer fees. Lawyer said not to move out as STBX loses incentive to finalize the divorce.
What are the pros and cons for moving out that I am not seeing?
Pros - Mitigate divorce rape - Freedom to be a peacock and fly
Cons - Low on cash. Need to take loan out against 401k if lawyer agrees with the strategy and can convince hers - Not a great usage of marital funds which aren't great as is. 20K in 401k and 40-60 in home equity. No debt but nothing in savings - STBX could drag things out while fucking another man in my bed in a house that I am paying for - New man to replace the selfish dad who abandoned his family - Lose little influence I have left over the kids - Courts might see it as me being a piece of shit if custody were to become an issue