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Is this counting as STFU?

kendallb183 · 2020-10-11T09:51:17+00:00

If your wife asks why you did something, and you respond... because I wanted to... is that STFU? If she keeps asking well why or how come... and you respond I...

kendallb183

October 11, 2020

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Title	Is this counting as STFU?
Author	kendallb183
Upvotes	0
Comments	41
Date	October 11, 2020 9:51 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/j92py2/is_this_counting_as_stfu/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askMRP/is-this-counting-as-stfu.319074 https://theredarchive.com/post/319074

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So more if the story. I went to the neighbors house which is my cousin. I said I was gonna drink till about 11 there then head back up to the house. At 11 I wanted to keep having fun but also keep my word so I brought everyone over to the fireplace on my porch. We all sat together and kept talking. My wife came out and said isn't it time for bed and I said nah I wana keep hanging out. I said she could join if she wanted but I'm not going in. She came out an hour later and asked to talk to me inside and proceeded to yell at me and tell me she's changed rooms ill be sleeping alone. I said ok, thats fine. I went back outside. After another hour she came back and she had switched back to our bedroom but said infront of everyone that its late and she wants me to come to bed and she was bitchy about it. I said ill come to bed when im ready, just go to sleep. Later that day she said she wants couples counseling or divorce. I told her im not doing couples counseling because it would be someone just trying to tell us how to talk to each other and we could figure that out on our own. I also said if she wants a divorce she can have one, and gave her my wedding ring. She cried and apologized and said she took it back and we just went about our day. Until my cousin came over for football game and she was like yall need to go home you stayed here all night and now we need some time alone. I said no I wanna watch the game with them. She took the controller and went in the bedroom with it and locked the door. I unlocked the door, told her im gonna be watching the game she can join if she wants and she freaks out and tells me to go the fuck away.. so I say ok no prob, then go into gathering living room and watch the game, afterward I crashed and slept.

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I’m in no way a seasoned vet, but here are my quick thoughts.

You are absolutely in her frame. If you have to say that you aren’t in her frame, you are. So many of the things you do are literally framed around her. e.g. “...not react to her so she can't see her emotional rants effect me”
This sounds like you’ve dug yourself into a big hole. This behavior from her didn’t just start. This shit has clearly been going on a long time. There’s not going to be a quick fix.
Why are you not distancing yourself from her if she’s behaving like this? Why are you having your cousins over for the game instead of getting out of the house? You think you’re standing up to her. What I see is that you’re willfully putting yourself into a position to get into another argument.
We’re you seriously up drinking with your cousins until noon the next day and then invited them over for more drinks? She probably didn’t want to have alone time with you. She just wanted your guests to fuck off.
I have serious doubts that you are in any way owning your shit based on the fact that you’re spending 75% of your waking hours drinking with friends.
You sound like a teenager complaining about his bitch mom. “I did what I want and didn’t care what she said.” Your behavior looks childish. Handing your ring back is a pissy move. When women do that shit, guys here call them children.
You still haven’t actually posted stats that I’ve seen. Height, weight, lifts. What have you read? Where is your OYS? It doesn’t look like you’re doing any of the work.

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