Finally grew a pair - Date night

Rasalom72 · 2016-01-28T14:46:02+00:00

You already did the dread. But more importantly, you showed her that shitty behavior will not earn her your time, and that you have better things to do with it.

Let the hamster do the work, and stay busy. She will call, or not. It's up to her to make it up to you. She will be the one validating herself to you. What is she going to do that will make you spend your very valuable time with her?

CopperFox3c · 2016-01-28T16:40:31+00:00

Most women aren't worth your time. Maybe this one is, maybe she isn't, but her bullshit behavior you describe OP is definitely not cool.

As a man, the most valuable thing you have to give is your time and attention. You gave it to her. She treated it like it was worthless.

So what do you do now? Radio Silence. And don't even feel bad about it.

opening_eyes · 2016-01-28T15:39:41+00:00

Nice. She will accuse you of being angry. You are not. You simply have better things to do with your time.

RedAsBlood · 2016-01-28T19:47:58+00:00

If shes flaking on weekend plans and totally ignores you on a "date night", I'd say this LTR is toast.

If you really want to continue this LTR you need to lay down some serious dread.

Personally, I don't see the point. She does not respect you. What you should do (at this point) is line up some back up girls an get an exit plan ready.

The whole benefit to a man being in an LTR is regular access to intimacy / sex with a woman. If shes not living up to her end of the bargain and is treating you poorly, whats the point?

wallst07 · 2016-01-28T14:54:44+00:00

I think the important part is that you made it (hopefully) clear that you will not tolerate that behavior. She needs to know why you left so she can correct it. This should be a soft next. You won't feel bad because you have abundance, right?

idgaf- · 2016-01-28T15:39:15+00:00

Bravo.

Just wondering what the next steps should be.

Move on and do you, man. You don't need her dragging you down in your life.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2016-01-29T00:33:11+00:00

There you go man. You did it right.

Now KEEP doing it right. There will be a temptation to call or text her and explain yourself. DON'T FUCKING EXPLAIN YOURSELF. You already told her what she needs to know. She can apologize for being bitchy or she can move on to some other sucker who's gonna let her act any damn way she wants.

So here's what's gonna happen. You're gonna be free from her bitchy behavior, or... you're gonna be free from her bitchy behavior.

Either way, you keep your dignity.

pbgswd · 2016-01-28T21:27:27+00:00

my hero. Well done. Now go back to the gym and keep it up. Dont waste your phone minutes calling her. Just get on with it.

MrFuckupKing · 2016-01-28T22:45:57+00:00

It takes a confident man to have enough self respect for himself that he can acknowledge when he is not wanted or liked so chooses to leave.

At first a man may think he is leaving with his tail between his legs but where the self respect comes in is having higher standards for yourself.

Why associate with people who do not enjoy your company or like you. Find those people that do.

By moving out into the world and meeting people who complement you instead of trying to be what they want, you are now moving from beggar to buyer.

If you do not sense in a relationship that people genuinely enjoy and like you than leave the relationship. This is an aspect of practicing self respect because you are respecting your time which your life is made up of.

You have raised your standards by the expectations you have placed on yourself by the value you place on your life (time)

This is one of the paths to confidence and self respect.

Never compromise and accept relationships that died while pretending to be alive.

Nice guys lack self respect because they do not see their value as the life they possess. They are passive out of the ignorance of the value and promise their life holds.

They have been devalued so do not know how to value themselves and give away their life to cheaply.

They waste this life by what they accept (tolerate)

muddynips · 2016-01-29T00:26:49+00:00

That's an awesome step man, congratulations. First time is the hardest, it only gets easier.

burzuei · 2016-01-28T18:43:18+00:00

Ok, I just made another account to post this, and I know this advice will not be praised by everyone, but.

If you're starting to discover TRP and transitioning into being alpha, then, just out of pure curiousity, check if 'machiavellan ways' are your thing.

I for one, know 100%, that I enjoy manipulating other people. If you'll decide to drop your LTR, which means you'll probably lose contact with her, then, once again: just for fun, try some tricks on her before you'll walk away.

TRP + machiavellan tricks are very powerful thing, when it comes to manipulating women. And it's really not that hard (to some extent of course) as it seems like. Two years ago, when I discovered TRP, I was shocked that this shit actually works on women. Now, in almost any situation when I want to get something/need to negotiate I prefer talking to hamsters.

Maybe you'll also enjoy acting that way - in that case I've saved you some time (if you'll actually try it of course).

throw_em_all · 2016-01-28T22:01:12+00:00

Time to pull their old and loved "I think we should take a break", but more like "I'm taking a break", ghost the fuck out and live your life.

Good job, now it's time to experience the bachelor life again, this time with the right mindset.

Title	Finally grew a pair - Date night
Author	ExMachina12
Upvotes	50
Comments	40
Date	January 28, 2016 2:03 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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