Update - Progress - Slowly progressing

RedCML · 2015-04-28T09:18:07+00:00

Wow. I'm stunned by this and the other posts. You are completely out of control. You are beyond anger and well into rage.

Your problem is you, not your wife.

Take a break from engaging her (for her own sake, she can't change the past), maybe for a couple of weeks. Focus on your life, your interests, your friends. Don't talk about her, try not to think about her.

FrozenSoil · 2015-04-28T11:41:51+00:00

Dude, bro, dude...quit talking to her about it. You are not going to change the past. Living as though your actions now will change anything will be nothing but an anchor to your success.

You want your wife to lose weight? Then take over making the meals, or buying the food. You start exercising together. You lead by example, not by talking.

You have to remember this simple fact. Red Pill philosophy has NOTHING to do with changing your wife directly, YOU change and she will follow. RP is self improvement, not wife improvement. That is a positive side effect.

rediscover03 · 2015-04-28T11:12:26+00:00

Dude. Read archwinger's post from a few days ago on TRP. Need to get shit off your chest? Do it here. Find a buddy you trust. Not to your woman. You don't understand her and how she'll perceive you when you "open up" like this. Where is the strong, in control, dominant alpha male behavior?

TheGreasyPole · 2015-04-28T14:30:00+00:00

Oh Dude.

You fucked up. What part of "Keep the lid on" and "This too will pass" did you not get.

You're digging a hole dude. Stop digging.

Otherwise you're going to wake up one day and realise you don't want to dig no more.... but be sitting at the bottom of a 100 foot hole with no way to climb out again.

Seriously. The problem is in your head. Nowhere else. You need to change YOUR HEAD. Not anyone elses.

How is telling your wife all sorts of shit going to help you CHANGE YOUR HEAD ?

You came to RP in order to get a grip on your life. Well, you're here now.

GET A GRIP

We can't do it for you.

jcrpta · 2015-04-28T20:33:07+00:00

Dear God, man, if that's what you think redpill philosophy is about, you've been reading it backwards!

Right, if you actually want to be married at all - to this woman or another - you're going to do a couple of things:

You're going to apologise to your wife. You've unloaded a lot of shit onto her that was totally inappropriate. That's your fault, not hers.
That little voice that's telling you to act like you are? Ignore it. It's speaking bollocks.
Spend 6-12 months doing the following:
- Keeping the peace with your wife.
- Reading everything in the sidebar. No exceptions.
- Lift. If you can't afford a gym membership, buy yourself a set of weights. It's stress relieving and gives you something else to focus on.
- Work on your personality. The whole point of RP is you become a better man so as to help you snare better women, and personality is a huge part of that. The way you come across in your posts suggests that you want a woman in the top 5% - maybe even the top 1% - but you insist on being a man in the bottom 5%. How exactly do you expect this to work?

Your wife can't help who she is, and it's unreasonable of you to give her such hassle over it.

alpha_n3rd · 2015-04-28T14:06:30+00:00

OMG SOMEBODY SAT IN MY BENZ AND DROVE IT OUT OF THE FACTORY AND ONTO THE TRUCK AND THEN OFF THE TRUCK AND ONTO THE DEALER LOT! TAKE IT BACK I WANT A DIFFERENT ONE!

Next time to that thing where you pick it up in Germany.

theultmatecad · 2015-04-28T14:41:10+00:00

Cringeworthy display of a little boy puking to his mommy---

Seriously man... you were told to quietly lift and lurk and things would get better as YOU changed for the better. None of this shit has anything to DO with your wife.

the below statements of yours make you the biggest pussy in pussyville. You CAN change from here but its gonna be really hard

"We have chatted before but I needed to open up and express"

"I get the 1st mate to understand how I feel and Whats eating me inside. Fuck trying to keep things under the lid I need to get this shit of my chest "

"has helped me get the shit of my chest and tell her everything that I wanted to......"

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-04-28T16:48:45+00:00

Perhaps your purpose in writing this post is merely to serve as a warning to others of what not to do.

You haven't absorbed any RP teachings, you're just angry in an unclear, unfocused way. It's okay, in that we all go through this phase at some point. But don't spew your emotional diarrhea all over the place while you figure it all out.

As far as your woman is concerned, say absolutely nothing.
"What's bothering you honey?"
----'nothing' She texts you?
----ignore.
She confronts you?
----'I don't want to talk about it'

When you do have your shit together, then, and only then, can you tell her what you need her to do. It's not a discussion. This isn't an emotional exchange between equals.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-04-28T17:01:19+00:00

I don't think there is anything wrong with you telling the wife what you require to stay in the relationship going forward.

However, you are not doing that. You are bringing up the past. STOP IT! I am pretty sure God Almighty cannot even change the past and I know you can't. Start focusing on the future and what you CAN change.

kurwazinho · 2015-04-28T11:20:14+00:00

About your wife's weight : If you're serious about it, you need to lead by example. Your wife has NO IDEA how to get into shape and lose weight, so be the captain and educate yourself about female weight loss. If you leave it up to her she will do it wrong or won't do it at all and use it as an excuse to feel victimized and sulk. This is a shit that YOU need to own. Make decisions about her diet, and encourage proper exercise; doing it with her will help, if you can fit jogging into your own fitness routine for example.

How healthy and in shape are you at the moment?

Have you improved your body since your first post 2 weeks ago?

ShangoThor · 2015-04-28T15:43:48+00:00

Dude, I don't know what to tell you. I really hope you feel better now.

Title	Update - Progress - Slowly progressing
Author	ZeeyardSA
Upvotes	1
Comments	20
Date	April 28, 2015 8:18 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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