What improved your first dates the most?

cesarja · 2024-11-04T00:47:20+00:00

Slowing down and trying to really be interested in getting to know a person rather than getting to the sex/trying to impress her

Worried-One2399 · 2024-11-04T01:29:04+00:00

Live for the moment, no expectations, no regrets, no worries… no problems… woman ARE very intellectually competent and if they sense ur on the date for alternative reasons. They’ll pick up on it, so best thing u can do is pay attention to her. Listen to her, and make her feel special.

She should be your #1 focus. This isn’t about playing games with her either. This is legitimate dating advice my guy. You will get yourself MUCH further than if ur ‘nervous’ on ur phone etc etc… look her in the eyes when she’s talking 2 u…

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2024-11-04T01:36:06+00:00

Phone call to vibecheck/verify before hand.

Sweet jesus yall understimate the power of a phone call.

Dates feel weird as shit to me without em now.

It also makes the first "date" more like a second date.

Next Level: Being able to modulate your own voice well acoustically over the phone has a LOT of benefits.

jxxyyreddit · 2024-11-04T01:59:54+00:00

Night dates vs Day Dates.

Better to spend your $$ on night dates and Day dates are for cheap coffee dates with people you're not 100% in on but willing to atleast get a vibe to see if its worth setting up a night date.

Sydnel · 2024-11-04T03:39:45+00:00

Being genuine and not playing/acting, also not really giving a fuck about outcome

midguet12 · 2024-11-04T06:49:42+00:00

Not being afraid of physical contact

Ok_Tune_5442 · 2024-11-04T02:42:44+00:00

Echoing what others have said. Regardless of the mood/intentions between you two, you gotta actually want to get to know her and let her talk. Women can have sex with anyone they choose, so it helps if they see you as a good listener and someone who is not just using them to get off.

Eating her pussy until completion also doesn’t hurt for getting texts back the next day.

R4bbl3r · 2024-11-04T03:06:56+00:00

Kino. I have always been good at getting the girls to communicate, but I kept getting the feedback that there just wasn't enough spark. I would hug at the end of a date and if they lingered I would try for a kiss. That was all the touch I gave. Once I became comfortable with casual touch that's when a 2 hour date would turn into a day and a half date. I have never heard anything about a lacking spark and have never had less than 2 dates with a girl. Kino has changed my dating dramatically.

Prize_Relief_7687 · 2024-11-04T05:31:08+00:00

I realized the best dates happen when both people are just enjoying the moment instead of aiming for perfection

Kindly-Draw2901 · 2024-11-04T17:28:14+00:00

Letting the girl do 80% of the talking.

Kingo206 · 2024-11-04T09:31:16+00:00

Kino kino kino!

SuperPoop · 2024-11-04T13:35:17+00:00

knowing that if I'm truly trying to find a partner, I don't need to supplicate or pretend. She's gotta like me for me.

If I'm just looking to get laid, don't be a douchebag and have fun with it.

MrTerno · 2024-11-04T04:23:18+00:00

Honestly, having a goal in mind before going to the date like I want kiss this girl or I want her to come to my place after the date, and then being congruent with that set goal. No more coffee dates instead my dates now are at bar close to my place. Simple but effective

DntCareVtrn · 2024-11-04T05:54:36+00:00

Taking the time to think about why I am going on the date, and what I hope to get out of it

Seductive_allure3000 · 2024-11-04T13:26:10+00:00

Showing genuine interest

Radicalmattitude1 · 2024-11-04T21:46:35+00:00

Having a plan for where you’ll go and what you’ll do. Telling her where and when to show up. Pretty much being the leader.

Also making the first date super low key and not having any expectations - drinks, coffee, walks, checking out a farmers market etc. are way better than dinner or some other elaborate plan. Make the stakes super low.

Title	What improved your first dates the most?
Author	coolios899
Upvotes	106
Comments	42
Date	November 4, 2024 12:39 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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