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[–]newjerseykita 74 points75 points76 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The end of the game, is also the start of a new one. Enjoy your life now that you've found yourself.
[–]Loafception 17 points18 points19 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Congrats man! If you don't mind sharing, what is the "base" you developed for dating girls? As a guy fresh out of a relationship about to get back out there, I'm just looking for a few pointers before I start going after anyone.
[–]suteneko 16 points17 points18 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're 19. Your life is just getting started!
You are very fortunate to have figured some of this stuff out at your age.
Congratulations. Keep going. Bring the same intensity to everything you do.
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[–]AssFeastingChap 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And I'm fucking happy that it took me 3 months to estabilish this relationship, because during that night I felt that it wasn't only about sex that we had, but also about this small things that OP said, her hand on my back/in my hair, smiling and so on.
Good for you man. But I want to add that I enjoyed those things too with the two girls I slept with, and I banged them on the first date. For some reason I had this idea that sex wouldn't include affection unless the two were in love. You should try it (getting sex asap) next time, you might like it.
[–]googamanga 10 points11 points12 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Im 28 just getting ok with this inner game thing. I love it when they are all over me and tell me something along the lines of "wow you are a real man", "you have very masculine personality", "Who are you?!". Sex is just a symptom of living life like it was meant to be lived. Its good to be a man.
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[–]Throwawaters3 points 11 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I highly recommend "the Tao of Badass" and the youtube channel "Project Attraction". In my opinion, this ebook and channel both have very realistic ways to view dating and lifestyle, focusing on making you and your partner(s) happy and healthy instead of just getting in somebody's pants.
[–]DecimoX 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Could you explain a bit how the ebook helped you? Do we have to buy it or is it free? I don't think I have the money to buy stuff that just might or might not work. Did it take you time to get the hang of what you read? Also, I see that the first result after googling the name of the book was it's website. Did you visit that too? And last, do those YouTube videos titled "Tao of badass - blablabla" help?
[–]TRP_FuckFeminists -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Does it come in actual book form? I can't read ebooks.
[–]ithearrow 7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good job, it dosen't stop here. There are many challenges that still await you in the future. Keep it up, don't let your emotions cloud reality. Continue to be the person you are with this women. Never stop improving. :)
[–]Ermgotthis 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great boy, great... Stay firm on your positions, stay an independent man, accept what she offers you, and offer her what you WANT to give her.
You'll do great, see you on /r/relationships ;)
[–]jacks_not_surprised 32 points33 points34 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not just because I got a girl, but because both she and I know that I'm capable of doing it again.
Phew...such a relief you don't have oneitis for this girl!
It seems like you're living the life man! Well fucking done! I'm proud of you! :) :D
[–]SamGill5 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
i wanted to first say, "dayum i'm envious" before realising i shoudl be like: "dayum i'm happy for OP".
[–]Fredouken 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I got 10 years on you, and I'm JUST figuring this stuff out. Way to go, man!
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
hold on. your 9 years old?
[–]letsgofightdragons 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Other direction
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
gotcha :)
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow, that's the dream line of every man.
[–]superols 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is beautiful, congrats bro
[–]MADBARZ 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn dude! This is an FRx10! Nice work and glad you're becoming happier with yourself! I'm on the same path and getting better every day!
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
i like this post dude, its more about making yourself awesome which is why its a lot better than the outer game stuff, everything is a lot simpler. im gonna take your advice and try some of your tips :P cheers dude
[–]Throwawaters5 points 11 years ago [recovered] (8 children) | Copy Link
You just gotta find out how you want to live and start the ball rolling asap. Before you know it you'll think back and say "Holy shit".
I don't get why people always say "Don't worry, NOBODY knows what he's doing." because I know exactly what I want and how I want to live my life and am actively working towards it. It's both wrong and right at the same time. Go with the flow but make sure you got a map of the river bro.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
cheers dude. i dont really know what i want from life ultimately but i know the shit i enjoy so im just gonna focus on that till the other stuff comes :)
[–]Throwawaters1 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
i know the shit i enjoy so im just gonna focus on that
See, your snowball is rolling and the momentum is probably already making sure stuff will get better and better each day.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yep :) cheers dude good luck with your own stuff hope everything plays out for you
[–]Throwawaters2 points 11 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
European average people struggling to "make ends meet".
I see our family as very rich, but I'm not talking about the money here. I'm talking about the opportunities I get and about the freedom I have. Granted, I've got it easy. But most people coming to seddit are in similar situations. My parents pay for my school, shelter (I live at home but am moving out within the next year and a half), clothes and food (only if I eat home). I pay for my hobbies and parties with money I earn by working on weekends.
We got a nice house, small garden and 2 cheap cars. My parents go out of the country about twice a year on a holiday, mostly to neighbouring countries, always by car. I pay for my own holidays. I've never been outside of europe and I don't get free stuff from my parents aside from clothes, but that's only if my shoes fall apart or there's big holes in my pants. I buy my shoes for about 20 euros and tshirts between 5-10 euros. We cook our own food and never go to restaurants. I get 50 euros a month pocket money. Sometimes I can't get a haircut because we need the money for food, but I'm not complaining.
Just so you know I've SEEN and EXPERIENCED poverty, thirst and hunger in a less developed place in Europe for a week during a very low budget high risk travel I did. I'm not saying I know what those people are going through exactly, but I'm not oblivious to the fact that I'm very privileged.
We're not a rich family, but I know I'm living a rich and secure life.
[–]Throwawaters2 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
We also save up money by drinking water from the tap unless there's company, turning off the lights if you're not in that room, wearing an extra sweater instead of turning up the heat but those are just basic practises imo. Just to clarify that no, we don't swim in the money.
I've also got relatives helping to pay my college money which is "only" 1000 dollars a year (if I'm not mistaken it is WAY more in America) because on our own we wouldn't be able to.
[–]the_bronze_wolf 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nice! Props to you dude!
[–]trydoingitbackwards 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Good job man, keep it up and you will find yourself a lifetime of happiness.
[–]alwayzhongry 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
enjoy breh!
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Very inspirational post and congratulations to the OP but it also does not provide any information. Can you elaborate more on the way that you believe you have changed this past year, what is your personal way of seducing and how did you manage to fix your single life?
Cheers!
[–]Throwawaters4 points 11 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I posted a large edit, check it out!
what is your personal way of seducing?
I'm honest, and I don't talk much when getting physical. I love smalltalk and learning about the other person, not just telling them about my life. I don't bring up what I do in my spare time, unless asked. Your friends will talk about you with other people and when asked I'm just talking about my busy life as if it's the most usual thing in the world. I've got like 5 or 6 hobbies I'm working on now and most people I know only know about 3 or 4 of them. Eventually when it comes to light that you do even MORE cool stuff on day to day basis, they lose their shit and think "This guy is impossible.". I'm talking about having clear taste in music, making music, having clear taste in art, making art, having clear taste in rugby teams but also playing in one of those yourself. Do what you follow and follow a lot. You'll be slightly mysterious because you know you've got something up your sleeve that'll blow them away. Due to the slow progress you make you can learn A LOT at the same time, I'm young so I've got plenty of spare time to do these things though.
Eye contact is my way of seducing, and not giving the girl what she wants whenever she wants it. I'm no fan of public display of affection, so if I find myself alone with a girl that likes me and that I like, I just go in for the kiss. This creates a hidden relationship and makes it very exciting for the both of you not to get caught, even though you're doing nothing wrong at all. Play with her emotions positively, make positive drama. Dare to be emotional and unlock your potentials. Take the leap.
Thank you very much for the time spending to answer my questions and to edit your original post!
[–]Red_white_socks1 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
How do you play with emotions positively and how do you create positive drama?
[–]jojolebo 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
To be honest, I do all of the inner game stuff you posted here and the only things that I've gotten from them is higher confidence and self-esteem. I think that what It really comes down to is pushing out of your comfort zone, getting rid of your self-doubts, fears, learning how to accept rejection etc.. through life experiences
[–]braintrejo 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've been working on this kind of lifestyle for 2 years now since recovering from my depression. Going to the gym helps a LOT. I gained 10kg in muscles and I'm eating more healthy. My scores for exams have raised a lot and passed them all. I'm more independent (living in a student room). The only thing that is left is having sex with pretty ladies or having sex at all (I'm a 22 year old virgin). I've done some approaches but they all had boyfriends. Approaching a girl is still something I can't get used to.
(I still like video games and porn a lot tho)
[–]FlashAttack 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Where is the part in the TOB about how to treat other men?
This is great to hear. A lot of the guys in this community are into this just for the sex, but i'm glad that you found out the real way to enjoy a woman, not just her body, but her feminine energy and her companionship as well.
=-)
[–]smashbro1 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
tbh, i was waiting for the part, where you say "if you want to know my secret, BUY MY EBOOK NOW", but i was wrong. this was actually different advice (apart from that, i wish you the best of things to continue in your life, since you sound sincere and not presumptious), but personally, i struggle with one thing you probably need to be born with: how do you casually talk to people? or hold smalltalk? all i can do is remain silent all the time, i just dont know what to talk about, neither with men nor with women (especially)... i suppose you didnt have to fix that
[–]Throwawaters1 points 11 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
I used to be very shy and quiet, but got a wake up call by signing up for week-long camps, sort of organised vacations where you just HAD to interact. The organisers forced me to yell my own name as loud as I could while the whole group was looking because I never talked. I noticed I wasn't used to yelling AT ALL. I used to be really quiet but something big changed that day. Just go out there, to the point of no return where you MUST be social in order to "survive". Trust me, you WILL adapt. Get a steady base of friends first if you're having trouble with conversations. How old are you by the way?
[–]smashbro1 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
i am 22, had situations where i was forced to interact, it almost always turned out awkward or resulted in silence. its not just about shyness, rather about emptyness. i do have a somewhat decent base of friends at uni and i manage to be a good part of conversations in groups, but only if others throw in stuff that i can pick up on. from my experience, i almost never managed to talk casual on my own (i know i said "almost", the problem here is predominance of negative experiences)
[–]invinciblesummmer 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That is really awesome! I kinda of have the same problem as smashbro here, what kind of camp did you go on? I'm really interested!!
[–]themanbat 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Congrats man. Enjoy, and always remember. If this one goes tits up, you can always get another just like her.
[+]KennyFuckingPowers -15 points-14 points-13 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This subreddit is hilarious. You sound like a motivational speaker at a conference for some pyramid scheme, but the product you're pushing is yourself - don't get me wrong, that's the idea. But when you guys circlejerk about it like you just discovered the secret of the universe. "This girl is crazy about me AND ONLY ME... fall asleep holding someone you're in love with" Lol, if the girls you're "gaming" found your account and saw the weak ass shit you say... lol. Congratulations on getting laid bro. You're the man now dog!!!
[–]Throwawaters6 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Congratulations on getting laid bro.
You're missing the point, bro. :)
[–]Veraplay 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
His name says it all lol I'm not surprised he feels that way.
[–]CHNchilla 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I think people are overreacting a bit too. The kid is only 19-- I felt the same way at the age. You make mistakes as you get older, whether it's you missing your goals or ruining relationships. Real inner game is being able to bounce back-- not gloating that you have everything figured out before you can even legally drink
[–]qwertthrowaway-5 points 11 years ago* [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
Are you sure you didn't want to post in /r/TheRedPill? :D Looks like a post straight from there.
[–]Throwawaters2 points 11 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Sorry but from the things I've read there, I'm not that much of a fan.
In my opinion in this subreddit people blame others too much for their own shortcomings, both men and women are blamed for things that the individual who's pointing with his finger should be able to fix on his own.
I haven't been there that much but the overall mood seems so angry and constipated, and I live and let live. I want to improve myself, not start a witch hunt.
Of course I may be focusing on some posts too much, but I feel that it's even more blind people leading the blind than it is here on seddit already. (No offence, but everyone is praising me for this post, while I don't know shit about life, I just know I'm happy and sharing WHY)
Most of their top posts are just newspaper headlines to shock people and raise awareness. If you run into problems like this on a day to day basis, you're free to act on it, share your experiences and so forth. But personally, I haven't had any bad things happen that would fit on TRP.
The overall feel I get from that place is that it's filled with people who were victims of manipulation at one point and now want the roles switched and manipulate people of their own... That's not a solution to me.
Note that I'm not a frequent visitor and am just giving my opinion as an outsider so it could be that I got a wrong impression.
[–]qwertthrowaway -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah you did a little bit. It's mainly about self-improvement and getting to the exact mindset and inner game you are having.
All the complaining and "awareness raising newspaper headlines" are all the new guys trying to get it. For "veterans" like you they're mostly noise.
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