how to game shy/introverted girls?

daliyahofficial · 2018-12-25T09:18:56+00:00

Every girl has certain “buttons” you can push to get every emotion you like. What the buttons are depends on the personality type of the girl.

There are different types of shy girls. Here are the one’s I can think of: 1. Girl’s who have some sort of depression or anxiety which makes them hold back from talking to guys. In order to get them to open up and start talking, I suggest you be careful with teasing them initially. Talk more about easier non-controversial topics. The purpose of this, is to get them comfortable enough that you’re not judging then. Once you sense that things are going okay (not necessarily great), you want to dive into deeper topics. I usually try to be open about something in my life I’m insecure about that might affect me mentally (for example causes anxiety or depression). For example, I’d open up about how school is stressing me out and I’m not sure what exactly the future has in store for me. The framing of your story is important. The goal is to get them to understand that you’re a person who has experienced some form of depression and understands that it’s not necessarily abnormal. Once they feel that they can open up with you as well, you’re pretty much set. Some other tips... be careful with compliments (I’ve met girls who feel uncomfortable receiving compliments because it doesn’t feel right since they’re very insecure about their appearance). I’d say be light with compliments, smaller things work best. Like “your smile is honestly so cute” or “I love the color of your nails”.... I feel like this is harder to explain over text here but I hope that made sense...

I primarily have experience with these types of girls, if you guys want me to describe other types of girls comment below. Hope this helps you!

TibetanWisdom · 2018-12-25T01:58:48+00:00

sometimes they arent really shy, they just arent all that into you and are not putting in much effort to impress you so they come off as quiet and distant.

Other times, she really is shy and it may take some time for her to warm up to you.

In the end, remember to game as many woman as possible, and not to get stuck on one or two like you are now

lacinyc · 2018-12-25T08:26:49+00:00

From my experience shy girls who are interested are usually still easy to pick up. Always obvious when someone is being receptive to you - they don’t need to shout it from the rooftops.

BonvivantNamedDom · 2018-12-25T15:31:12+00:00

You know that game is about selection? Girls notice when you just would jump on any girl that offers herself. Thats needy. Even when everything else is perfect, they notice that.

So what if you work on yourself instead and try to date only girls you find interesting, and put aside shy women who barely do anything with their lifes?

That males you sexier for interesting ones.

DAOcomment2 · 2018-12-25T10:45:45+00:00

Girls are telling you're a random person. They're not comfortable with you. Maybe they're not attracted in some cases. Shy/introverts will want to see you when all those pieces are in place--attracted, comfortable, you're a memorable person not an unknown quantity. Do you see how this could just be a holistic reflection on multiple aspects of your game? At the very least, sounds like you need to spend more time building connection and interest. Ideally you should be reading signs of interest before closing for a number or date, rather than using the number/date close to find out if she's interested. So try slowing down and building connection and interest longer, in more locations, and get more soft signs of interest and investment before closing on anything.

Funkimonkey · 2018-12-25T08:12:34+00:00

Something is way off in your game if they are calling you some random guy. Just be less forward and focus on their interests (like books, movies, art). Scale back the sexual stuff until you’re on a date or alone with them.

420toker · 2018-12-25T14:42:12+00:00

I think when it comes to shy girls you definitely need to make sure to not come on too strong.

ghostiewm · 2018-12-25T14:42:30+00:00

Introverts in general, choose you. They seek depth of character and personality. The seek complexity. Some of them learn to be social, but most of the time they won't waste time on banter and aimless conversation. Disclaimer: All people are unique though, so this is more of a guide than a recipe.

Shy people on the other hand are generally folks with some kind of social anxiety trait. Some are actually extroverted, but slow to warm up, some are just generally lacking experience in social situations.

At the worst it could be folks with low self-esteem, or personality disorder, who have issues trusting strangers in general.

On gaming shy folks, same like gaming anyone really. All you have to do is get over the anxiety hump. But if you end up with the personality disorder type, then life can get interesting.

DaygameCoach · 2018-12-25T15:17:49+00:00

This doesn't mean they are shy. Work on your game, and make actual connections with women and your responses will improve.

bones_and_love · 2018-12-25T16:58:46+00:00

Shy means not very social, and the best way to pull someone out of something is to offer an alternative. Try talking small talk about yourself or the surroundings and not them, since their shyness implies they aren't trying to talk about themselves at that moment. After a little bit, they'll either follow suit and talk about themselves the same way, or they aren't interested in being social still, meaning that's just the way it is. Not a big problem, a person who wants a little quiet time, so let them have it.

People saying talk about their interests are doing one of two things: they're either saying talk about them as much as you know (their appearance) or they're saying the vacuous truth to talk about something that will engage them. Well, the first suggestion makes no sense, because that's not what they're into doing at that moment or else they wouldn't be shy. The second is an answer to the question which is abstract and no answer at all. "Do what works". Instead, they should say what works... like talking about yourself a small bit to see if you can get their social engine roaring.

SlowCivicSi · 2018-12-25T17:20:25+00:00

Emo girls are the move

by-accident-bot · 2018-12-25T17:50:56+00:00

I end up attracting girls like this on accident. Just go up to them and be oprn. That'll make them feel more comfortable in their own skin and theyll appreciate you for that. However there are cases of course where people just dont want to talk and if they give you that vibr you should respect it for sure

SpecialistCandy · 2018-12-25T08:26:57+00:00

Honestly, shy girls are not worth the effort. Do you think once you’re in they are going to turn into wild pornstars all of a sudden? No, there are usually layers upon layers of repressed issues with shy girls. Move on.

bacon59 · 2018-12-25T11:06:42+00:00

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alphafili · 2018-12-25T07:58:22+00:00

I feel ya bro, i wanna game the fuck out these shy bitches. I'm learning to open up closed off women, and if she ain't into me, then I move the fuck on easily. No Hard Feelings.

Title	how to game shy/introverted girls?
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