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| 95 | I think he's more attracted to 2d girls and naked twitter models than meHe sounds like he has some legitimate addiction issues. You're too young to commit to this problem. You should be having the best sex of your life in a committed relationship, at 21. Find a man with a healthy view of sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 02:25 AM |
| 3 | Is my life over? 26, about to turn 27 and husband wants to leave meExactly. You'll be thirty in three years either way, OP. Do what you can before then. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 12:17 AM |
| 8 | I’ve lost everything.I'm just picturing someone munching on chips, asking this of an inconsolable woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 03:26 PM |
| 3 | Biting your tongue/STFU during QuarantineI think knowing each other's cues is really important, along with not sending mixed messages. My husband, for instance, knows that if I say "leave me alone," I mean leave me alone. I can't STFU if he badgers me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/20 05:36 PM |
| 4 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownI wish I could. He's like the least sentimental person I've ever met. I basically married Ron Swanson. If I recreated a special dinner or something, there's no way he'd even realize it and his appreciation would even be limited to "Hmm... that's nice." A day randomly mauling each other would probably be appreciated, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownWell, he's still working every day, which is part of why I've done all of these special things I'd normally do for a special at-home anniversary. He has to actually go out and exist in this crazy world, while I sometimes do my job at home and read and watch Netflix. I've sort of used up all the treats and short of being an ungrateful jerk for the next month, I'm not sure how to create something special. Lingerie may be just the right idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownI'm thinking maybe a staycation day like that might be good. All of my days are staycations lately, but he's still business as usual, so he probably would appreciate this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 08:16 PM |
| 4 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownYou know, the anniversary of our first date is in June, so perhaps that would be a better time to celebrate. We do have an acre of land and a pretty large house, so maybe a chill night on the patio by a fire would be best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownHaha. Very true. For better or for worse... | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 06:40 PM |
| 5 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownLol, he's had both in the last week, but noted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 06:39 PM |
| 3 | Hypergamy ruined my relationship with the man who should be my husband. Can I fix this?Looking through my past comments, I can't find it. I know it was deleted. I can tell you that the words " The relationship was beautiful and he was absolutely perfect. Saying that he treated me like gold would be an understatement" feel like a direct quote. OP's account is a year old, though, so it may just be coincidence. As Tea says, it's a common story. This one just seems very similar, as another commenter stated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 01:43 PM |
| 6 | Hypergamy ruined my relationship with the man who should be my husband. Can I fix this?You can look through my history and tell me if I've ever cried fake, but I'm doubtful that this is real, because it reads so close to one posted about a month ago that everyone was able to prove was a guy from TRP. Maybe it's coincidence, but some of the phrasing is shockingly similar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 03:09 AM |
| 10 | What value does your man bring to your life?He can be much more accepting and forgiving of my struggles than I am. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/20 03:56 PM |
| 48 | What value does your man bring to your life?He takes me exactly as I am. He's never embarrassed or annoyed by my dorkiness or awkwardness. He can handle how high strung I can be and accepts my highs and lows during this stressful time, without making me feel bad about them. We are extraordinarily different people, but he just accepts it. He's a natural leader and I never feel like I have to do everything. It's so nice to know that he'll do his share without a fight. The bills will get paid and the lawn will get mowed and the kitchen will … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/20 03:15 PM |
| 12 | Remember to put in the effort for the man who matters most in your life!I actually asked my husband once, if he was disappointed that I take off my cute dresses when I get home. He's a very practical guy, has never enjoyed truly high-maintenance women, and told me quite clearly that he thought it would be stupid for me to sit around in dresses and flats at home. If I can make it through this pandemic well-groomed, without gaining weight, I'm happy and so is he. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/20 03:16 PM |
| 61 | Remember to put in the effort for the man who matters most in your life!I've been home for three weeks now and I haven't worn one of my cute work dresses or a full face of makeup even once. My husband doesn't expect me to, either, because we're in a freaking pandemic. I shave my legs, keep myself well-groomed, and put on concealer when I have to be on a web-cam for work. Otherwise, I'm in athletic shorts and tank tops every day. My husband cares a lot more about me being pleasant to be around during these stressful times, than he does what I'm wearing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/20 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Any movie suggestions with good female role models?Jo ultimately concedes that her writings are trash and marries the professor to run his boys' home and have his babies. There are plenty of articles out there on how Jo isn't feminist at all, how nothing about that story is feminist, and feminists are stupid for thinking otherwise. Regardless, there are four other feminine role models in that story. Amy's story arch is particularly moving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/20 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Being a reliable first mate and taking care of the home routineI tried not to be accusatory. It definitely came off as an uneven split. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 11:33 PM |
| 25 | Being a reliable first mate and taking care of the home routineMy husband usually does the cooking and dishes, while I do the cleaning and laundry. Since I'm working from home right now, I do what I can to make his life easier, since he's essential and his work is business as usual. If that means I take out the trash, do the dishes, and plan dinner, that's okay. I'd be pretty frustrated to come home from a stressful day during a pandemic only to have my hushand complain that he didn't have clean clothes, when he had all day to start a load. That washing mac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 04:42 PM |
| 14 | How do I know if we’re ready to get engaged?I think it is a way to solidify the level of commitment we have for each other. You talk about engagement like it's a stage of the relationship, when it's really for making arrangements. If you're not ready to actually get married, then you should probably hold off on engagement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 02:21 PM |
| 2 | Any movie suggestions with good female role models?Misery has a good female role model? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/20 01:23 AM |
| 11 | Any movie suggestions with good female role models?Steel Magnolias Mona Lisa Smile Yours Mine & Ours The Help Hidden Figures Wonder Woman Something to Talk About The Blindside Practical Magic The Women (original black and white) Little Women Terminator Alien Scream My Big Fat Greek Wedding The Mummy Pleasantville Aquaman Honorable Mention: Scarlett O'Hara in Gone with the Wind for what not to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/20 10:47 PM |
| 37 | I got engaged!I think a lot of women only realize the impact of this sub, when they're in happy relationships. Congratulations! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/20 04:42 AM |
| 5 | Hobbies make you sexyI feel like "sexy" is an overused term. For some, it means literal sex appeal and others would say it's synonymous with attraction. I'm not sure how OP means it, but the former literally makes no sense to me, so I'm choosing to assume the latter. I do think we get awfully judgey here about hobbies, in general. I suggested someone take their mind off something with a YA novel series once and had an immediate response from a literature snob about how YA novels have no value. This librarian wholehe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 09:12 PM |
| 5 | Hobbies make you sexyWho cares how respectable it is, if it's done in moderation? It's a hobby. Everyone wastes time in different ways and if it's not the only thing you do, the activity itself doesn't matter, whether it's a video game or a light novel or anime. I'd sure rather spend time with someone who admits to a weakness for k-dramas than someone who pretends their every spare minute is spent volunteering or reading classic literature. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 06:15 PM |
| 9 | Hobbies make you sexyno real hobbies or personality outside of television and online social media Those are the people she called dull, repetitive, and boring. You're talking this oddly personally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 02:50 PM |
| 5 | Hobbies make you sexyWhy not? How often do I have to do something for it to be a hobby? You seem to have really strict views of hobbies. Hobbies are just personal interests that you engage in sometimes. There aren't rules for hobbies. I read and crochet and paint and write. I don't do any of those daily or even weekly. They're still hobbies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 02:47 PM |
| 8 | Hobbies make you sexyMy job kind of requires hobbies. I'm a teen librarian and I'm literally trying to teach myself to contact juggle, do balloon animals, and follow a painting tutorial in isolation. It's awesome to get paid to learn random skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 01:57 PM |
| 23 | Hobbies make you sexyI'm not sure how anyone is taking offense to this. I think isolation is making everyone way too sensitive. Perhaps they need a hobby. It's healthy to have your own interests. You shouldn't be lost when your husband goes on a business trip or hunting or wants to do something without you. These interests can be literally anything, from watching nostalgic childhood TV shows to yoga to video games and sci fi novels. I know of too many relationships where one person just expects the other to entertai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 01:12 PM |
| 3 | Why I submit to my husband like it's 1959You're right. Revolutionary. You totally changed my view. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/03/20 12:13 AM |
| 16 | I’m “playing wife” to someone I’m not (but would like to be) married to. What should I do?> I can’t leave without going into debt. If I absolutely must leave then I can, but it would not be financially wise to do so at this time. I’m 25 and will be done with school a year from now. This is exactly why I personally caution against moving in before you have a ring. More often than not, someone finds themselves trapped if things go south and they'll stay for what is literally the absolute worst reason. > “I know. I’m not going to screw you over or waste your time. If I decide can’t marr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/20 03:54 PM |
| 9 | Dating during Covid timesI think if you want to date right now, you're going to have to change some of your rules. If you're not okay being alone at his for now, though, you could definitely have a picnic in an open park or go hiking, allowing you the chance to get to know each other. Then you could eventually move it to someone's apartment, perhaps a little earlier than you'd typically desire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/20 07:39 PM |
| 3 | How are you keeping yourself occupied during quarantine?I just thought to myself "Oooh, I could learn to make a souffle!" Then I Googled it and thought "Woah... walk before you run." | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/20 04:32 AM |
| 4 | How are you keeping yourself occupied during quarantine?I just gave blood two days ago and the virus is just catching here, so I'm glad I did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/20 12:28 AM |
| 3 | How are you keeping yourself occupied during quarantine?My state has three large library systems and I work for the largest. One just closed and we now have a confirmed case in my county, so I'd imagine mine is next. I bought a yoga mat and blocks, checked out a bunch of yoga DVD's and went to Hobby Lobby to buy some blank canvases and paint last weekend, so I can do some free painting tutorials online. I've also been working on crocheting an afghan for some time, so that might finally get finished. Fortunately, I own a 2,300 square foot house on an … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?Any intelligent successful man will require a prenup. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?> Any woman who doesn't marry for money is an idiot. > I will admit a lot of women do not PRIORITIZE it, but it is a factor when she evaluates a man. The phrase "marry for money" literally means to prioritize it. Earning potential obviously matters, which is why I specifically mentioned work ethic, but you're demanding high earnings above all else. This is clearly the most important thing to you, from what you've said in your post and comments, and that's an awful primary motivator to be with so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?If it were easy all women would do it. Nope. Some value work ethic, kindness, generosity, faith, family values, common interests. Most women don't marry for money, not because they can't, but because they're above such parasitic behavior. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?Businessmen respect other businessmen. "Gold digger" ≠ "Businessman" | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 06:07 PM |
| 8 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?Most wealthy men will see right through this goal and won't want a woman who's after their money. I'd recommend you find some other motivators to marry. Plenty of wealthy people lose everything. Look at the stock market now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 04:30 PM |
| 7 | What do you respect the most about your man?His work ethic. I have a very customer service/research oriented job. It's hard work sometimes, but it's rarely physical. He works in manual labor all day, only now beginning to earn decent wages and respect after leaving oil for me and he never complains about the work itself. He'll visit his parents and help them transplant trees and tear out their septic system all weekend without a negative comment. He built a set of shelves for me over the summer, going all the way around the bedroom and he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/20 04:47 PM |
| 1 | What are some methods to creating an intoxicating first impression?I agree. It think this advice is strangely specific and most women using it would come off as pretentious and/or trying too hard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/20 12:19 AM |
| 5 | What are some methods to creating an intoxicating first impression?Ask questions, especially if you're a nervous talker! Showing genuine interest in him is one of the easiest ways to be truly appealing and it's super useful, because you should be vetting from that first date. It ultimately gives him the chance to be a part of the conversation and creates a natural flow. Dress nicely in a way that's natural to you. Don't wear your first pantsuit or an itchy Easter dress that makes you self-conscious. If you're a sundress gal, go for it. If you're more of a tailo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 11:37 PM |
| 8 | "Is he proposing soon?" and other questions that I wish I could quit asking myselfI'm not sure what you're looking for here, but you seem to be on the right path, trying to come to terms with the possibility that you may never be married if you stay with him. I respect that you seem to accept that you can't change him, but I'd recommend you lean a little more toward the idea that you guys will never marry, rather than fantasizing about him proposing. Can you live with that? Would you be comfortable with a compromise, where he calls you his wife and has a party and buys a ring… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 01:18 AM |
| 4 | When men pull awayOh, I agree that this guy isn't really one to chase, but I'm also concerned that OP might write off future men, because they have hobbies and lives beyond constantly texting her. High value men just have more going on in their lives, at this stage of the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 05:44 PM |
| 9 | When men pull awayBut what texts did he ignore? Women are notorious for saying "Don't just say hey" and then just saying hey. This just seems like a massive overreaction from the entire peanut gallery about not being contacted in three days, without more information. I've had friends who will literally text a guy their entire internal monologue all day long and you know what? If those guys stick around, they don't commit, because the women come off as clingy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 03:34 PM |
| 13 | When men pull awayThree days? I feel like this is an overreaction. My husband and I would go two or three days on the regular without contact, in the early stages. Based on your description, I don't think this guy is worth trying to make it work, but I think you might consider lowering your expectations for how much contact you should have in the early stages. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 05:44 AM |
| 40 | How to I (25f) end the relationship with someone(35m) unstable?I'm only here to say that you didn't "leave behind your youth." You're still young enough to find someone mentally healthy, with low baggage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 08:21 PM |
| 43 | Feel guilty about my pastI enjoy this space, but I really wish everyone would stop putting so much emphasis on sexual history. Is it a factor in a healthy relationship? Sometimes, yes. Always? No. You shouldn't go into this marriage feeling as though you betrayed your husband before you even knew him. Even if that aligns with personal beliefs, you can't change it. He's been with other women and says he's fine with your past now (which is great, because that means he's not a massive hypocrite), so take him at his word. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 01:31 PM |
| 4 | Degree or not degreeI'm a librarian with a bachelor's in education and I actually support your mother's recommendation not to major in education, not for the money, but the stress. Many teachers leave the field after just a few years, but if you still want to teach, you can easily get alternatively certified with a more general (and therefore more valuable) degree. All that being said, I had to have an MLIS to be a librarian and I'm fortunate enough to have an extremely stable job, in an extremely stable system, in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/20 04:43 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend left me :(OP, this is ludicrous. He sabotaged his own interview and while you could have been a little more sensitive, all of these assumptions that it was the last straw are just that, assumptions... likely from people who don't remember your last post about how he'd never said he loves you. This is not the kind of thing that ends relationships. If my husband and I ended things over one of us saying the wrong thing, we wouldn't have made it through the first date... or dinner last night. You're human... … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/20 04:46 PM |
| 35 | Boyfriend left me :(I'm absolutely certain that I have said and done worse in my marriage. It doesn't sound like this, or even his work troubles, is the reason he broke up with you. I'm glad you're working on yourself and taking time. You'll find someone who feels for you, what you do for them. You'll do so sooner and with less heartache if you just let this one go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 08:21 PM |
| 147 | Boyfriend left me :(OP, I'm pretty horrified by the number of people trying to make you feel better by misrepresenting what happened here and claiming he just needs to focus on his career right now. That's not what happened, according to your post. He told you, verbatim, that he doesn't love you. Don't wait around for that to change. Don't chase a man who has literally told you he doesn't love you. It sounds like you're a catch and you did everything right, but the feelings aren't there. That's okay and neither of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 07:06 PM |
| 29 | Found another woman's panties in my bf's cupboard, am I just being insecure?It sounds like they're both too immature for a relationship... and also like he might have some teeth stored somewhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 03:54 AM |
| 29 | Utilising RPW theory when you don't naturally fit?The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now. If you want to change, change. You don't have to do it all at once. Just start by throwing out any stained or ripped clothes and gradually work your way up to buying more stylish things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 07:50 PM |
| 6 | Seeking help for a sensitive problem between my fiancé and II feel like a religious counselor would make the most headway, if he's especially traditional, without just telling her to leave. He definitely needs to reassess his priorities and expectations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 03:33 AM |
| 21 | Seeking help for a sensitive problem between my fiancé and IPremarital counseling is always a good idea. This is a huge disconnect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 12:59 AM |
| 57 | Seeking help for a sensitive problem between my fiancé and I"Wife" is not synonymous with sex slave. This is a deeply disturbing red flag, demanding such frequent sex as payment for housework. You should see a counselor who will respect your conservative worldview, but also tell him this is awful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 12:51 AM |
| 38 | Am I wrong for having dreams for my daughter's future?I told her she'll change her mind when she grows up. This is an incredibly condescending statement and that's going to offend anyone, especially a teenager. Let her have whatever dreams she wants to have, whether it's to travel the world with a backpack on her shoulders or be a high-powered career woman. She's 13 and regardless, it's extremely unlikely that what she wants now will come to fruition. Unlikely doesn't mean impossible, though. If you're right and your daughter comes around to wantin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/20 06:48 PM |
| 4 | Accepting my partner's weakness?I wouldn't suggest you just bail, without explanation, but I think it's reasonable to bring up your concerns. It does seem like a pretty low threshold. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/20 04:08 AM |
| 10 | Accepting my partner's weakness?I think you're right to be concerned about these occurrences, if you want your husband to be the leader of your household and you don't want to be soothing his ruffled feathers all of the time, mostly because the things you've mentioned are really minor. If he can't handle an argument with a peer, how will he handle the bigger things that are tough on both of you? How will he handle a major financial setback? A miscarriage? Your dad dying? Different relationships thrive under different dynamics.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/20 03:52 AM |
| 1 | The wife and a question of my participationYou're also supposed to be an active participant on TRP and have something relevant to add to the conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 04:15 AM |
| 2 | The wife and a question of my participationYes. Being banned on multiple accounts counts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 03:35 AM |
| 2 | The wife and a question of my participationPlus rant about being banned multiple times | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 02:41 AM |
| 21 | Uncomfortable situationParticularly when it's so blatant. It's strange that neither of them spoke up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 01:44 AM |
| 11 | The wife and a question of my participationI don't actually even see a question here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 01:43 AM |
| 61 | BF Going out with female best friend on valentines dayBased on your last post, he is absolutely her orbiter. I think it's fair for you to move on to someone who prioritizes his relationship with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/20 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend doesn't tell me how he feelsIf you're in your late twenties and have been dating 7 months, I think the "what are we and where is this going" conversation is fair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/20 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend doesn't tell me how he feelsI'm referencing him, not you. Adults generally know how they feel at this point. I get that people are advising you that actions speak louder than words. That was true for my husband, as well. I still got the words, though they weren't necessarily eloquently given. If it's been 7 months, you shouldn't be this unsure, not at your age. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/20 01:01 PM |
| 5 | How do I find out and accommodate his love language?Oh, love languages. I simultaneously appreciate and loathe the concept. On the one hand, it's wonderful to consider how your partner receives and shows affection. On the other, humans are far more complex than five love languages. For example, my husband shows affection almost equally through touch and acts of service. The former is also how he best receives affection, which is likely why my language evolved to include touch, as well. Before him, I didn't like to be touched... still don't really… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 09:59 PM |
| 17 | Boyfriend doesn't tell me how he feelsSeven months in your late twenties shouldn't mirror a relationship from a teen show. Find someone who knows what he wants and counts you on that list. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 07:12 PM |
| 5 | When you first meet up with a guy as a blind date or online match, what do you do to greet?Yeah, maybe I'm weird about touch, but I never hugged. They're still in stranger territory at that first meeting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 04:38 PM |
| 6 | How soon do you think is too soon to spend the night in a new relationship?Define LDR. Two hours isn't that far and your link specifically describes a very different situation than OP's. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/20 03:21 AM |
| 33 | How soon do you think is too soon to spend the night in a new relationship?My husband and I were about an hour apart when we met on a dating app. He was more than willing to travel to see me in the city, but it became easier to have sleepovers, which we did after about eight to ten weeks of dating. It was so much nicer to have those few extra hours and the closeness of sharing a bed, as opposed to driving home late at night. We were officially exclusive and we didn't have sex for another six months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 11:14 PM |
| 6 | Seeking Advice from RPW about tact with women.My question is how do I even tell her this kind of stuff without come off as a shallow and petty? You don't. Does the issue lay with me? Should I be the one to adjust what I find attractive here and just suck it up for the time being? The issue is totally with you, but that's okay! Go find someone who fits these preferences, because just as you don't want to pretend forever, neither will she. I've had like three manicures in my life. My husband and I both think they're frivolous and wasteful. Ot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with those who don’t understandIt could also be jealousy that you're young and have the option to live your life in a different way than she lived hers, therefore potentially accomplishing things she wishes she'd accomplished. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/20 12:17 AM |
| 1 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI'm actually not criticizing you for feeling hurt. I am pretty horrified by the people telling you this relationship is over. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 08:25 PM |
| 2 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI mean I'm on your side. It's a strange defensiveness. I'm not one of the numerous commenters telling OP to run. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 02:40 PM |
| 2 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtThat is a question no one here is asking, likely because OP is already upset, but is he smarter? If so, why is it wrong for him to think so... even if she disagrees? I admit I'm just as defensive if my intelligence and I agree with everything you've said, but I am shocked by some of the initial responses to this story that villainize a guy for a difference of opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 02:01 PM |
| 3 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI can only go from the details you shared, but ending an otherwise excellent relationship over this one issue seems absolutely ludicrous to me. I cant believe comments on this sub are actually telling you to run over this one argument. I wish you luck in understanding each other better and finding a way to resolve this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 06:11 AM |
| 2 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtOnly you know the tone and sentiment you got from his comment and the later discussions, but it does sound like you're being oversensitive to a (rude) question he was asked. If they'd asked who was stronger or better at beer pong, I doubt you would have cared about the answer or expected him to change it based on your feelings. You also mention that he pokes fun at smaller things and I think it's fair to set boundaries. There is nothing wrong with admitting that this is an insecurity you have an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 06:00 AM |
| 5 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtYou should tell him you don't appreciate his comments on these weaknesses. Compare your lack of commentary on his reading skills. If he's saying little things that are building up to big hurts, you need to speak up for yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:47 AM |
| 8 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI love this comment. The idea that he's not allowed to value his STEM-related intelligence more, when that's where his passion lies, is just ridiculous. I bet there are a big list of qualities that you are unequal in. Wow. My husband is a physically harder worker, more athletic, better at all things outdoorsy, better with money, but just the suggestion that he might be smarter than me really would hurt. I wonder why that is... possibly an extension of some feminist concept of ultimate equality? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:44 AM |
| 12 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtHis comment was an answer to a direct question. Honestly, at least one of the jerks in this situation is the friend who asked it in the first place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:34 AM |
| 3 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtThis honestly sounds exactly like an argument my husband and I would have had, while dating. It's fair to feel hurt and if you speak to him about it again, I think it's reasonable to tell him that you guys can agree to disagree about the value of different kinds of intelligence, but in front of others, it can come off like a personal insult. My husband would never laugh at me today for struggling with math, but he stumbled a little before he realized that my intelligence isn't an area where he c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:15 AM |
| 0 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtWe both excel where the other does not, and bring our different strengths to the relationship, building each other up. I am a good writer and trained in research and critical thinking, he is good at math and design. He is not a good writer or reader, and I have never excelled at math. I am the person that our friends go-to for emotional advice/ support, he is the one they go to when they need a good time. I really saw us as two opposite but equal dynamic forces. It's clear that these things are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:01 AM |
| 2 | Dreams and goals you have outside the relationshipIf you're part of a large system, they'll likely have downloadable books, audiobooks, and magazines. I'm a librarian and we even get the newest movies and TV shows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Dreams and goals you have outside the relationshipI recommend downloading audiobooks from the library. I've gotten so much more reading done since I started listening to my books. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/20 10:54 PM |
| 10 | Lonely | New momMy library does baby story time. I promise you, those women come for their own socialization more than their infants'. | /r/RedPillWives | 05/02/20 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Question on your namingYou're missing the sidebar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/20 12:19 AM |
| 5 | The Ultimate Strategy for RPWThe natural (biological) mark of a great catch is the hymen. I strongly disagree. What, exactly, signifies to a man falling in love that there's a hymen present? Using the word biological doesn't make your argument scientific. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/20 08:22 AM |
| 12 | The Ultimate Strategy for RPWProtect your hymen at all cost, with exception of your life of course; but don't be afraid to bluff that you're willing to sacrifice your life rather than letting a man penetrate you without marriage. Most men will retreat if you bluff well. I hope you're a troll, because this is terrible advice... for life and for avoiding rape. This is why we get 22-year-olds here who think they're worthless for losing their virginity to their boyfriend of three years. We literally have to console these women … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/20 04:37 AM |
| 59 | Am unable to satisfy my husband - looking for tips from women in similar situationsLiterally anyone can get a job in a year and a half. Anyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/20 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Help. I hate cleaningI really liked her take on this as well, about not having to always feel good, but doing stuff that will make you and your family feel good later. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/01/20 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Help. I hate cleaningI suggest a chore chart for yourself, especially with the chaos of an infant. Map out what you'll do on different days and do them all at once while listening to upbeat music, and audiobook (free from your library, likely) or a great podcast. Ideally, you won't be dedicating more than an hour or two a day to these tasks. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/01/20 04:22 PM |
| 20 | When Is the Best Time to Tell Him?Online dating is a great way to share goals like this upfront, if done properly. Ideally, you shouldn't share a list of "don't wants," but stating "I work full time in an admin position and enjoy the environment, but would eventually love to care for a family full time." That doesn't sound lazy or money-grubbing, nor does it sound desperate, but it clearly states OP's goals. I had a similar must on my profile. "I have a great job in a pretty volatile field, so I plan to stay in the metro area," … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 04:20 PM |
| 4 | When Is the Best Time to Tell Him?This is a pretty good tactic with everything. On our second date, my husband and I talked about our timelines for a relationship, in regards to what our friends were doing. It was totally organic and hypothetical and it was very clear that we weren't talking about each other, but I always knew from the beginning that a five year dating period wasn't his goal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 04:15 PM |
| 8 | When Is the Best Time to Tell Him?Don't mislead. If they ask directly, share your plans for the meantime "I'd be happy to just work as an admin assistant. I've never been interested in being a career woman." Then, when you're a little more serious, you can share the SAHM goal and it won't be out of the blue. Are you religious? Religious circles are likeliest to turn out men who are excited by the idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 04:12 PM |
| 6 | Conditions for young marriages?Well, for me, I needed someone who had a career underway. I was done with school, a master's degree, and felt that that part of my life was behind me. If he wanted a degree, he needed to have it already. He also had to know what he wanted. Wavering about where he wanted to live or if he wanted kids or to travel the world or become a sportscaster was unacceptable. I knew what I wanted and needed to know we were on the same page. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 05:10 AM |
| 17 | Conditions for young marriages?A good time to get engaged is when you're ready to get married. It sounds like you have some really long term plans that are going to take you in different directions. If you're set on them, it really might be too soon to discuss marriage. As for marital age, I think your twenties are a great time to marry, but there's a lot of living between 20 and 29. It doesn't hurt to aim for the center. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 04:26 AM |
| 4 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeMy bachelor's is in education and I work as a teen librarian. I feel like I make a much bigger difference in my current job than I would teaching. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 10:50 AM |
| 6 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeI actually do have that magical, fulfilling career, where I feel like I make a huge difference in the world and I love what I do... but I'm not the norm and it took a master's degree and five years of working two jobs to get it. My husband uses his bachelor's degree to work for the city and doesn't hate it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 04:19 AM |
| 5 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeI really hate the push for the College Path or a Career. Most people just work jobs and are lucky to do so with people they enjoy. There can only be so many firemen and doctors. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 03:38 AM |
| 21 | What are the qualities of a high value man vs a low value man?I needed a man who worked hard and was ambitious, because those aren't one in the same. He needed to be generally cheerful and even-tempered, have no addictions, have healthy relationships with friends and family. I wanted someone who was Christian (any denomination) and was comfortable with and open to my Catholicism. He had to want a family and be on a similar timeline to mine. He needed to respect my career and be open to learning what librarians actually do (spoiler alert: it's not read all … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 02:00 AM |
| 6 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeI mean, it's not like we live in a world of only nurses or housewives. There are many other choices. I, personally, wouldn't be happy staying home at all, especially before children, so I can't tell you good reasons, though I'm sure plenty of women here can. I can only tell you "this is hard" is a bad one. I also know that hairdressing is notoriously catty. Lots of drama. You could always just work in an admin position or major in HR or business. You don't have to have a career if the real goal … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 01:09 AM |
| 7 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeConsider a less demanding career path. You don't seem invested and it's only going to get harder... a lot harder. While the motivations you outline here for wanting to be a housewife are terrible, if it's something you do end up doing, you could save yourself some work and debt, while you date with purpose. College isn't a must. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Living RP even as a trans women changed my life 200% for the betterI'm not faking it and I like classic gender roles and representations. If you ever read YA, you should check out Birthday, by Meredith Russo, a trans woman. It tells the story of a trans teen in Tennessee (yikes), but has a nice, romantic ending. Your comment about overcompensating by being deliberately masculine reminded me of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 03:01 AM |
| 1 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyIf you pair with an app and have a pretty predictable cycle, I guess I feel like the strips are more beneficial, but that's a pretty specific circumstance. I, for example, vary by one or two days from what my app says, so I can start testing a few days before and I get a really accurate result. If someone has an irregular cycle, though, I can see why temperature and discharge analysis would be more effective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 02:46 AM |
| 7 | Living RP even as a trans women changed my life 200% for the betterI'm not surprised that someone transitioning to female has more success if they lean in to classic female roles. I don't claim to understand the feeling behind being trans, but it doesn't seem like you'd satisfy the urge by being anything but feminine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 12:12 AM |
| 7 | [Advice] How to talk to an "alpha" guy and look cool while doing it.Just don't get too comfortable. "One of the boys" is not where you want to be, while looking for love." | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 11:16 PM |
| 3 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyGenuinely asking, but what advantage would this give over ovulation strips? I asked my gynecologist and my primary care physician if there was any reason to track my temperature or other bodily signs if I was using strips and they both said no. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 08:23 PM |
| 2 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyTrue, but I found I had a tendency to take pregnancy tests if they were available and it always made it harder to find out I wasn't pregnant, because I would get my hopes up. I'm sure it depends on the person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 07:26 PM |
| 25 | [Advice] How to talk to an "alpha" guy and look cool while doing it.Do you work in customer service? Doing so gives you experience working with people of all kinds, from homeless women to hot, successful men. Just getting out there and practicing talking to people can really help with this. As for dates with high value men, again practice makes perfect. Go on dates. Get used to talking to men. When a good one comes along, you'll feel a lot more comfortable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 04:53 PM |
| 6 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyMy doctor prescribed this great gummy prenatal that's free under my health plan. I get to start the day with candy! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 04:28 PM |
| 20 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyWell, congratulations. I'll give a couple of tips that I've learned in the last few months, as my husband and I have been trying. Don't buy pregnancy tests, unless you need them. You'll end up taking them for pretty much no reason and getting your hopes up. Wait until your missed period and then go get a pregnancy test. The $1 ones work just as well as the pricey ones. Do buy ovulation strips. Just knowing that you're ovulating can really ease your mind, since that's one of the main reasons wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Are ultimatums RPW friendly?I think too many women are afraid to speak up about their expectations in a relationship, for fear of scaring off a new guy. That's exactly the time to scare him off, though, if you're not on the same page. Date three is the perfect time to mention that you want marriage and family, so that if he doesn't or can't even discuss it, you can find someone who's ready for the same things, instead of living together for two years only to find out that he doesn't really believe in marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 02:47 PM |
| 27 | Are ultimatums RPW friendly?Set your standards early and stick to them and you won't find yourself in need of an ultimatum. If someone doesn't fit your needs, you walk, ultimatum free, because you can't change people. You can only change what you accept from them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 04:44 AM |
| 5 | Newbie -disagreeing and alcoholIf your boyfriend wants to move in before marriage, how do you state that you don’t want to until marriage without undermining his idea of doing it before marriage? Disagreeing isn't undermining. "I don't want to move in with anyone before marriage, because of x, y, and z" is a perfectly acceptable response. Perhaps you can compromise with engagement and a set date. As for the drinking, it doesn't seem like you live together, so I think it would be acceptable to remove yourself from the situatio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:29 PM |
| 2 | I want a re-doMy husband and I even struggled with that at 29 and 32. It took some real effort for him, especially, to adjust to having another person to consider. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:22 PM |
| 2 | I want a re-doThere are obviously exceptions to every rule. I'd just suggest you vet well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:19 PM |
| 6 | I want a re-doFor the most part, if someone wants to settle down, they've done so by 40, if they're a desirable match. If they haven't, there's probably something wrong. I'm not sure any dedication to career would have made up for that, when I was dating. Keep in mind, it can be regional. I'm in the South. Everyone marries at 22. In a large city, a never married 40-year-old probably isn't the same red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:03 PM |
| 10 | Newbie -disagreeing and alcoholYou need to be agreeable on a day-to-day basis. If he asks what you want for dinner and you say you don't care and he chooses Mexican, you don't get to say "anything but that." If he asks you to bring him a soda on your way from the kitchen, grab one. I think this really applies to both people in a relationship: start fewer arguments. That doesn't mean the advice transcends to major life decisions, like moving in together or buying a house or how many kids you want to have... You're allowed to h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:01 PM |
| 7 | Call off or talk it out?Thank you! I have never understood why people recycle old relationships, especially beyond high school. If it doesn't work in the honeymoon phase, it sure isn't going to work for the long haul. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 04:57 PM |
| 31 | Call off or talk it out?Ha. He wants to get laid, on a regular basis, and sees you as the most obvious outlet. Hard next. Find a guy who wants you for what you want, a relationship. You're 21. You don't have to settle for a castoff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 04:34 PM |
| 17 | Is there something or some things you know now you really wish you knew when you were younger?Get better friends. I work with teenagers and it's so funny how we tell them that "you are the company you keep" all the time, but act like we're above it as adults. I spent so much of my twenties with catty, vengeful women, who used to pressure me to be promiscuous. They would insist that men didn't care that they were single moms, never realizing that there's a difference between a man who will take you to bed and a man who will take you home to mom. I never gave in to those terrible bits of a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 03:17 PM |
| 2 | I want a re-doAs much as I love Marry Him, I feel like OP should go in cautiously on that one, as it's really directed towards twenty-somethings from the regretful 40-something. It might be too depressing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 03:04 PM |
| 2 | What are some physical hygiene tips/Ways you like to care for your physical hygiene?Their initial appointment will usually include a skin cancer screening and they'll look over your body for spots or moles that look suspicious. I'd just write down any questions you have, such as recommended moisturizer and such. My dermatologist actually told me not to use a retinol cream yet, because I didn't need it, so the answers will all be unique to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 03:01 PM |
| 20 | This 1955 ‘Good House Wife’s Guide’ Explains How Wives Should Treat Their HusbandsMy husband works 7-4 and I work 8-5. Because he has time to decompress and play a video game, when he gets home, he often makes dinner while I decompress or workout for a bit. If he's working in the yard, I'll take over dinner. If one of us is off during the week, it's sort of an unspoken agreement that we'll clean and figure out dinner. Freshening up isn't an issue for me, because I dress up for work. I'll usually change into a t-shirt and short athletic shorts when I get home. After dinner, we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:12 AM |
| 1 | How to prevent burnout?I agree and it's always good to be in the best place possible when a baby comes, i.e. a job you don't hate that isn't forever away. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 09:32 PM |
| 3 | How to prevent burnout?I know that stress impacts fertility, but I also think some of these comments are coming off as a little insensitive. You had a miscarriage and it could have been from any number of factors. Yes, you should manage your stress, but please do not feel like your lack of meditation caused your miscarriage. I don't think anyone means to say this, but I'm not even the person targeted and that's what I'm getting, so I thought I'd offer some encouragement. Miscarriage is extremely common. You are not al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 08:08 PM |
| 2 | How to prevent burnout?I hate to drive and I don't even live in a big city or an especially congested area. There's something about being at the mercy of other people's driving abilities that really gets to me. I also hate wasting time and when I've had a long commute (50 minutes), I could never get over how much time I was losing. I can't imagine doing that with children, either. If OP finds a job closer to home, it might even be something that could work well with a family, if she needs/wants to work after children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 07:59 PM |
| 41 | How to prevent burnout?I always say the secret to a happy life is a short commute. My husband and I both work 10 minutes from home. We get to come home for lunch and eat together. If you hate your job anyway, I think it might benefit you to get one closer to home. Even if you feel the same way about it, the short commute will lessen your stress. In the meantime, try to enjoy the commute as much as you can. Your library likely has downloadable audiobooks or you could get a paid music service. As for dinner, I applaud t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 04:01 PM |
| 11 | Anyone else feel this guilt?I admire people who wait until marriage, but I also understand why others consider it impractical. If he's not a virgin, do you feel less toward him for it? Do you feel cheated? I would hope not. You missed a lot of firsts with him. I assume he wasn't your first kiss or the first guy you got drunk with or the first guy to meet your family. That's okay. People are whole people when they commit, pasts and all. As for the question of whether anyone else feels this guilt, I sometimes feel regret for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 01:13 AM |
| 3 | I want my man to be more independentDo you want to be married to someone who won't clean his house? You're just getting a taste of what a forever relationship looks like at this point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 04:41 AM |
| 4 | Getting ahead at workTry askamanager.com. She really offers some practical advice to be polite, but firm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 02:18 AM |
| 12 | How did you become a red pill woman and what values are you looking for?I was divorced and 100 pounds overweight at 23. I stumbled on The Red Pill and read it out of morbid curiosity for a couple of years, enjoying some of the truths, but mostly repelled by the hostility. Then I found RPW and realized that, although a post occassionally turns me off, I love the traditionalism and the focus on self-improvement. I wanted to find a better man the second time around, so early on in all of this, I lost the weight and learned to wear eyeliner from YouTube and started wear… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 02:13 AM |
| 3 | What are some Christian/feminine lifestyle Youtubers you like to watch for inspiration?It's been mentioned before, but I'm enjoying Mrs. Midwest. I'd love similar recommendations, especially of some older women, like in their thirties. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 02:08 AM |
| 5 | I want my man to be more independentIt's not an issue of disrespecting the relationship. They say it, because you shouldn't act like a spouse until the other person has given the commitment of making you their spouse. There are girlfriend duties and there are wife duties. Cleaning up after him and accepting that this is just how he is, is something a wife does. A girlfriend vets for a man who acts like an adult to avoid that situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 02:02 AM |
| 19 | I want my man to be more independentYou're not his wife... but also wives don't do this to this degree. Moms do... enabling ones | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 04:19 PM |
| 1 | I’m stuck in a situationYou're essentially a sex toy for him. Cut contact and work on gaining some self-respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 02:19 PM |
| 13 | Fast dating/courtship?I know people who got engaged within a few months, married a few months later and it all worked out. They're also very religious and were virgins on their wedding nights. I wouldn't suggest you make any lifelong commitment before the newness wears off the relationship, which is usually around four months. Then I'd suggest you give it another couple of months to have that first fight or embarrassing moment or what have you. So, you're asking for an answer on the shortest healthy courtship, before… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchYou are being reasonable. He's addicted to his screens and the entertainment and validation they offer. He's not trying to be hurtful, true, but he's also not listening or trying to resolve what you're telling him is a major problem. If he had any other compulsion and refused to work on it, it wouldn't be okay either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 11:56 PM |
| 7 | Redpill and marriage??I do not see this in my day to day life, either. My husbands friends are all really happy to be married. So are my four brothers and even my dad dotes on my step-momma like crazy. I don't really work with men, but the married ones are really happy to be married and the single ones want to be married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 09:55 PM |
| 6 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchPart of me wonders if this is how it is to be the wife of someone who’s smart, successful, popular and if I should just accept it. I’m confused about what to feel. It's not. My husband is all of those things and yes, he likes his phone, but he also takes it seriously when I ask him to put it away. He can read the news at lunch and he can listen to podcasts while he works in the yard and he can play video games while I read, etc. If he's spending time with me, he puts it away. You're making a lot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchSure, but that requires him admitting this is a problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 09:45 PM |
| 5 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchIf you get to the breaking point of ignoring him again, the next time he misses you and gets sad, take the chance to discuss this. He refuses to discuss what is a major problem. He is not the victim and you have a right to demand a resolution or compromise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 09:45 PM |
| 6 | Redpill and marriage??The key is to be very clear about that being your goal. If a man can't talk about the hypothetical of marriage to someone one day, it's reasonable to assume you're either on different timelines or want different things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:53 PM |
| 6 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchShe says he still does this on dates and vacations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:52 PM |
| 41 | Redpill and marriage??RPW women aren't looking for RP men. They want a better balance of beta and alpha traits. These two are just not the natural match they seem like they should be. My husband was all about marriage and he thinks very negatively of the entire RP ideology. He's extremely alpha, but he's also very gentle and caring toward me (RP calls these beta traits). He considers family to be the cornerstone of society. He appreciates the financial benefits of a dual income, having a partner to come home to, some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:44 PM |
| 19 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchIf he's happy having you take care of him, but isn't returning the favor, I don't think it would be unreasonable to stop. I'm not suggesting you don't do your share, but your kisses and smiles and backrubs and bringing him treats... just stop doing these things. If he won't give any extra and isn't interested in discussing it, you shouldn't be expected to go the extra mile either. When he's ready to talk about why, perhaps he'll initiate the conversation and you can have a more effective dialogu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:41 PM |
| 2 | RP-SexThank you. That is how I read that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 01:44 AM |
| 3 | RP-SexIt is very different if one just tries to listen or give useful advice instead of criticizing or trying to convince them about the female perspective. That's not what I did. Honestly, I think the problem with new readers reading the TRP posts is that they're not getting the perspective of most men, nor are they getting the perspective of the men they want to date... and that's what they think they're getting. If you're familiar with the RPW sidebar and ideology, yes, it can be interesting and he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 01:18 AM |
| 6 | Should I tell him that I love him?No. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?I was both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 11:28 PM |
| 9 | Sharing recipes that were a hit!I think it's less about how the recipes taste than it is ideas in general. I can only eat zoodles so many times before I am zoodled out... and I love zoodles! I do appreciate the book recommendation, though, and I'll check that one out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 08:41 PM |
| 22 | Sharing recipes that were a hit!One of my biggest challenge is finding tasty low cal recipes. I can make anything good with three cups of cheese, but I'm constantly on the lookout for the healthy stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Is It Okay To Go Back To Someone You Rejected?You're welcome. The good news is, it doesn't sound like this is a lesson that caused you to truly miss out on someone compatible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 08:00 PM |
| 1 | How to stop this cycleI think you should work on your social issues first and I recommend doing so by finding a safe space with free teen activities, like a church or library. I'm a teen librarian and my programs are a bully-free zone, where we play games and do art projects and STEM activities. A ton if my teens met through my programs and are really great friends now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 07:59 PM |
| 10 | Is It Okay To Go Back To Someone You Rejected?I don't understand why you think it's these two guys or nobody. The guy you're dating sounds like a bad match, but so does the other guy. You nexted him for a reason and I think the reasons are fair. He's 21 and doesn't know what he wants to do with his life, but you want to marry and be a SAHM. Yes, it's a bit shallow to let the neurosurgeon go to your head, but you're 18! You're still learning and that's okay. This was a learning experience. Find a third guy who is actually compatible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 05:14 PM |
| 2 | NFP impact on sex life?Well the latter was my point, that there are plenty of things all faiths claim but most individuals don't follow. I don't know why this one is always the hangup. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 05:05 AM |
| 2 | NFP impact on sex life?I'm not offended. It just baffles me how people get so caught up on this one requirement of the Catholic faith, when there are so many other mandates from Christianity in general, and other faiths, that the followers just can't bring themselves to abide by... but it's this one rule that so often comes up, particularly lately on this sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Boy/Self Improvement Advice for College StudentYou can still have your fairytale romance if you meet online. It's just about arranging the first meetup. My husband and I met after a few days of talking and I'll tell you, the "How we met" story doesn't come up near as often as we imagine it will. You can also just tell an abbreviated version of the truth. "I was reading at Starbuck's, when he introduced himself. I struggled with flirting, as well. I still don't really know how to do it or recognize it. My husband was once shocked to hear me t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 03:44 PM |
| 10 | NFP impact on sex life?I know this sounds incredibly insensitive Then you probably shouldn't have said it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 01:51 PM |
| 3 | NFP impact on sex life?Plenty of faiths require things their followers aren't strong enough to give. Most deminimations demand a 10% tithe and I know more people who follow NFP than I do who donate 10% of their earnings to the church. OP, I agree that this is too personal for us to judge, but you could add ovulation strips into the mix, as another predictor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 01:13 PM |
| 8 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?Okay, I'll reword: "who finds your innocence attractive." If you're naive and innocent, finding someone who considers it a perk is a natural choice, far better than losing that innocence. Literally any asset can be exploited by bad people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 02:56 AM |
| 5 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?I was once on the fence about going over to a man's house to watch a TV show we both liked after the first date. Then I remembered he said he didn't own a TV. I don't feel like he was really planning to watch Arrow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 01:54 AM |
| 24 | What are some physical hygiene tips/Ways you like to care for your physical hygiene?I wash my hair every day and my dermatologist says that's best, that there's no reason to skip days. The last dermatologist I saw said the same thing. They both recommended CeraVe facial moisturizer and I can honestly say that the $10 bottle I've had for over a year is just as good as the $70 three-month supply of Drunk Elephant. I use the cleanser, as well. So I guess my advice is to see a dermatologist and see what they recommend. Some things really very by skin type and ethnicity. Edit to add… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 9 | Boy/Self Improvement Advice for College StudentI'm a big proponent of making the most of the college dating scene while you can, because that's one of the last times organic dating is easily accessible. That being said, in the next couple of years, online dating will be the next obvious move, so there's no shame in taking it now. When you date online, you can very clearly state what you want and vet similarly. You might even be able to find a guy on campus, with the added bonus of both of you knowing you're pursuing something romantic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 11:32 PM |
| 1 | RP-SexYou're right. There's no value in debating this, especially when numerous posters have explained reasons to avoid the men's sub. Have a great day. OP, the RPW sidebar will serve you well, as will lurking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 10:03 PM |
| 12 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?I was pretty inexperienced when I met my husband... and it was a big part of what attracted him. I remember being absolutely panicked about our first time together and wondering what I was supposed to do with my arms. I wouldn't worry about the naivete. There's nothing to be gained from promiscuity. Just make sure you're being safe, by not meeting men in private places or going to his with the expectation that you're really going to watch Netflix and chill (totally thought that's all that meant … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 06:44 PM |
| 9 | RP-SexNo. It's not. It's frequent advice for a reason. Those men are looking for completely different things than the women here and many of them are still in the anger phase and lashing out. If women even comment in those spaces, they're met with hostility, because the space is not for them. It's not intended for rational discussion between the sexes. The same is not true for men who have valuable things to add here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 06:37 PM |
| 5 | What to do about a hostile non-RPW friend?Fair enough and at this point, we'd be derailing the discussion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 05:04 PM |
| 7 | What to do about a hostile non-RPW friend?That seems contrary to your post history, but I still that it's fair to say the vast majority of women here wouldn't want to be single at 40. Maybe "everyone" was too absolute. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 04:28 PM |
| 11 | What to do about a hostile non-RPW friend?Not everyone would be as upset as you clearly would be at being 40 and/or single. Literally everyone in this sub would, since it's about finding a happy relationship while you're at your best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 03:03 PM |
| 2 | What to do about a hostile non-RPW friend?It's also workplace bullying, in a much more literal sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 03:00 PM |
| 20 | RP-SexDon't read the male subreddit. They acknowledge the same truths and have completely different goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/20 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Women of RPW - how would you propose introducing this sub to a girlfriend/relationship partner?I first read and heard both terms from Ian Ironwood's blog, which is a pretty scary place to start. I don't think I'd claim either phrase for myself and that's probably partly why. I took me a long time to realize that I kept coming back because of the truth I saw under the crazy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/20 03:00 AM |
| 7 | Women of RPW - how would you propose introducing this sub to a girlfriend/relationship partner?I feel like both of those phrases would lead a woman to really unattractive parts of the internet. "Hmm... I guess I'll Google 'redpill.' | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/20 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Instead of flowers my captain regularly surprises me with stuff like this. This is the result of being feminine towards him so he can be the man I need. He sent this text while at training this past week! Married life is great!My husband never buys me flowers... because I think they're wasteful and stupid. They cost a fortune and they die. I'd much prefer candy surprises and that's what he does. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/01/20 04:18 PM |
| 13 | Why I submit to my husband like it's 1959Letting your partner be the leader is going to occasionally require submitting. There will be times when you cannot come to an agreement and if you're truly letting them lead, then they get the final say. For example, you want the car that's $25,000. He says you can't go over $20,000. You discuss it and share your views over the course of a week and he still says $25,000 is too much. If you're truly letting him lead, you'll find a cheaper car. A friend of mine actually had this problem, but in r… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/01/20 04:16 PM |
| 12 | How often do you think about how your physical appearance helped you?Every woman gets frustrated that she's not the physical ideal. I wish I were more slender, my shoulders weren't so broad, my feet weren't so big. I think your insecurities are natural and that yes, it may be a turn off to some men, because it is a little different of an issue, but you're not in a totally unique situation of feeling like no one wants your ducks. You just have to keep advertising them. Everyone hates dating. We all just want to find someone and your situation is the same in that a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 05:11 PM |
| 8 | How can I help my friends find the red pill?It's actually not told from a woman with a traditional background at all. The title is scandalous and I wish she'd called it something else, but it's basically told from the perspective of the 90s career woman who was failed by the Sex and the City culture that said she could have it all. She talks about the men she turned down in her late twenties, the time when it would have been best for her (in her city and situation) to settle down and all of the ridiculous reasons she had. One was a really… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 05:07 PM |
| 75 | How often do you think about how your physical appearance helped you?People who tell you appearance doesn't matter are lying to you. My husband is 5'8" and I'm 5'5". His first girlfriend was 6'1", though, so there are men confident enough to date a woman six inches taller. In your place, I'd suggest a support group for your specific disorder to gain confidence and maybe even meet someone. It might only have an online presence, but I'm sure it exists. I'd also say that this is one of the rare cases where it's fair to refuse men under 6 feet tall, but you'd have to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 04:52 PM |
| 7 | How can I help my friends find the red pill?Lead by example and let them take their cues from you, if they're truly interested in how you do it. That's really all you're able to do for them. I have a lot of feminist, leftist friends and I'd never tell them about RPW. They'll automatically relate it to TRP and it will be a nightmare for you, socially. If they want to change, they'll have to find their own path. You might try recommending some of the more innocuous book titles, like Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 04:47 PM |
| 5 | Does anyone know if sexting counts as being "slutty" or promiscuous, and if a potential partner would mind the "N-count" on that while you are single, if you never actually hooked up with anyone for real?You asked and everyone is telling you it's a bad idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 03:16 PM |
| 8 | Does anyone know if sexting counts as being "slutty" or promiscuous, and if a potential partner would mind the "N-count" on that while you are single, if you never actually hooked up with anyone for real?I mean, it's still not the best idea and most men probably would care that someone had your nudes, regardless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 03:34 AM |
| 7 | Does anyone know if sexting counts as being "slutty" or promiscuous, and if a potential partner would mind the "N-count" on that while you are single, if you never actually hooked up with anyone for real?I think that's a terrible idea, regardless of the circumstances. Even with the most trustworthy recipients, clouds get hacked. Photos get out and you can't get them back. I know some women on here share them with their husbands, but if my face were visible, my husband would be upset that those photos exist somewhere on the internet, now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 01:51 AM |
| 6 | Does anyone know if sexting counts as being "slutty" or promiscuous, and if a potential partner would mind the "N-count" on that while you are single, if you never actually hooked up with anyone for real?I don't know that my husband ever asked about this, not that I had anything to share. I don't feel like most men would ask/care, unless you're sending nudes. Sexting is kind of... nothing. Like it's just make-believe, if it's someone you don't even know. Maybe that's why I never did it? I'd rather read a romance novel. That's better written. If you know this person, though, you're courting trouble. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 6 | What are your best tips for overcoming feelings of jealousy/envy towards other women?That's why I said it was an oversimplification. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/20 11:39 PM |
| 93 | What are your best tips for overcoming feelings of jealousy/envy towards other women?Lose the social media. I always tell people the reason I don't have a social media presence is that Instagram is where young people go to compete and Facebook is where old people go to fight. That's obviously an oversimplification, but if envy is a problem, I'm betting it will help to stop looking in other people's windows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/20 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Realizing how truly annoying I amI disagree. His method more often breaks dishes and doesn't get them as clean and overfills the sink, to the point that we have to place dishes next to it, until the current load finishes. My question is "Will saying something change anything?" No. He'll either load the dishes his way or I'll load the dishes. Even if his method is stupid (your word, not mine), I'd prefer a broken plate to always having to do it myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/20 07:06 PM |
| 28 | Should I tell my boyfriend how I feel?I cannot imagine he'll care and he might actually reassure you, but virginity is not the be-all and end-all as it's often portrayed here. You're an adult woman with a, pretty limited, adult past. It's fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/20 04:54 PM |
| 7 | I'm confusedJust because a man will sleep with you, doesn't mean he'll introduce you to his friends. He's got a girlfriend he intends to keep. Your best case scenario is being his dirty secret and feeling disgusting for it. Cut ties. Completely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/20 07:56 PM |
| 1 | I’ll never be as special to my husband as I didn’t lose my virginity to him. It’s just the way things go.No. You said all of that. She didn't. She hasn't even joined the discussion after her vague post. Commenters literally cannot tell if she's sharing a theory or a relationship problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Opportunity to out vindictive co worker. Is it my place to deliver karma? HELP!If you feel this strongly, I think you should find a new job. This woman really does sound terrible, but your methods of working with her sound complicated, at best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 06:11 AM |
| 16 | "You always treat me like a man, and I love it." + VulnerabilityI read this sub for years before I met my husband, never commenting, only reading. At first, I judged a fair amount... but I still paid attention. I still raise a brow at a post every now and then, but I also still pay attention. I have enough contemporary relationship advice in my life. It's great to have a traditional perspective, too. I absolutely see the good it does in my marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 02:54 AM |
| 48 | Realizing how truly annoying I amIt really is just about choosing your battles. My husband sucks at loading the dishwasher. He really is awful at it. He overfills it and doesn't start it, because he wants to play Tetris and somehow get more dishes in there, so they pile up in the sink, in the meantime. ... but the dishes are his thing and I almost never have to do them, because they do get done. So I keep my mouth shut and enjoy clean dishes, done by my husband, instead of ones done by me, on my terms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Opportunity to out vindictive co worker. Is it my place to deliver karma? HELP!Your original post isn't displaying properly for me to cite what I was referencing. If she's doing something the company considers theft, I don't see why you shouldn't anonymously report it, especially if it's a regular thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 12:28 AM |
| 9 | I’ll never be as special to my husband as I didn’t lose my virginity to him. It’s just the way things go.How? It's 18 words long. If she meant something else, she probably should've written more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 05:27 PM |
| 5 | Scared to have kids?I'm a librarian. Every Summer Reading, I'm convinced I don't want children. It's actually okay if you decide you don't want kids. They're not for everyone. If you're still convinced you want your own, though, you might limit your exposure. Literally most of the children's librarians I know, don't want kids anymore. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/01/20 05:22 PM |
| 11 | I’ll never be as special to my husband as I didn’t lose my virginity to him. It’s just the way things go.... because your value as a person isn't concentrated in your hymen. People live lives before they find each other and contrary to the occasional post we see here, virginity is not even an asset to all men, let alone a requirement. It was awkward enough for my husband and myself, when I'd only kissed one other man before him. It was physically uncomfortable and it took me literal years to lose the self-consciousness that came with my lack of sexual experience. People bring a range of assets to a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 05:17 PM |
| 6 | Opportunity to out vindictive co worker. Is it my place to deliver karma? HELP!You're making a lot of excuses for things that are 100% theft. Regardless of any of your personal issues, I consider it an obligation to report someone who steals from your company, if we're talking switching prices and changing tickets (versus office supplies or sweet and low), regardless of who it is or your relationship. That is unquestionably theft and your motive shouldn't be getting back at someone, but doing right by your employer. It sounds like you work with a bunch of thieves and many … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 02:21 PM |
| 6 | Is it always a bad idea to date a colleague?Is it always a bad idea? No. If you work in entirely different departments/offices, report to different people, rarely see each other at work, and the social environment is adult enough that no one cares, then you're probably okay. For example, a lot of teachers date and marry within their school system, but outside their building. Is it a bad idea in your situation? Absolutely and you've already listed every reason why. I'd suggest you wait until your circumstances change and you either don't w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/20 10:55 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?This morning, I woke up to my husband telling me that he'd realized on his way out to work, that I'd left my fog lights on, and my battery was dead. Without waking me up, he jumped my car for me and only woke me to tell me my keys were in the ignition, so the battery could charge. When I got to work, I locked myself out of the very small library I open on Fridays, requiring me to call my manager at another location to rescue me, since I was the only one on site. Then I smashed my hand in the doo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/20 03:48 PM |
| 2 | Serial Dating Until ProposalI usually couldn't talk to more than one man at a time. I couldn't keep the details straight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/20 01:27 AM |
| 8 | Am I being too much?From what you're saying, here, you really haven't been together long enough for this kind of dependency, especially if he's "joking" about being annoyed with you. If you really like this guy, you need to lay off. Develop some hobbies outside of him and spend time on those. Work on building friendships, perhaps by joining some clubs at school. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 01:41 PM |
| 8 | Serial Dating Until ProposalMy husband was my 21st first date. I counted. He was only my second kiss, though. Serial introductions worked very well for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 01:05 PM |
| 4 | How to get rid of this underlying feeling?You have two separate issues, the porn addiction and the feeling that there's something better out there. A lot of people are addicted to porn today and many of them are beginning to see the harm. It sounds like you guys came to the decision to stop viewing porn together, so your only choice is to trust him. Some married couples have open tech agreements or even use accountability software, like Covenant Eyes, but that seems intense for a dating relationship. If there are no signs he's viewing p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 01:01 PM |
| 13 | Serial Dating Until ProposalI'm reading Dracula right now and just finished Little Women. That's how the women in those stories married, but I've yet to hear of anything similar in this century. If you're not a part of some religious sect, I don't think this is a realistic plan. No one wants to marry anyone who hasn't even committed to exclusivity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 03:51 AM |
| 29 | Truly moving onMy husband is such a natural alpha, that he has no desire to search the Internet for tips on how to be alpha... and thinks that labeling beta traits as beta is stupid. Look for that. Real men can be both strong and tender. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 10:55 PM |
| 1 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"Another commenter mentioned a similar concern and we actually discussed a bit about how hard it can be to differentiate between giving someone a chance and fighting a lack of attraction. I do think, in your example, you mostly mentioned red flags, like cheating. But, for the context of my post, settling only meant being realistic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 09:42 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"You'd probably enjoy the book, then. It's basically that joke fleshed out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 08:39 PM |
| 1 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"I think neutral is the best place to be, when dating online. High expectations will never be met and low ones will bring them down in your eyes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 08:27 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"If you haven't read the book mentioned, then you really don't understand what's meant by "good enough." It's a scandalous title, but that's really not what she's suggesting. I took a lot of heat for this suggestion, when I first brought it here, because of the title, but as more and more read it, I see it recommended more and more often. I would not, personally, advise someone to settle for "good enough," but I would suggest they consider the actual intersection in the venn diagram of "men who w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 08:26 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"Lol, this is literally the opening to Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 08:22 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"The first time I saw my husband, I thought he kind of just looked like a guy I'd see on the street, neither good nor bad. He was the height he claimed and he had really pretty blue eyes. His teeth were straight, which surprised me, because he didn't have an open-mouthed smile in his photos. I felt like there was the potential for attraction, as with any average looking man. I now find him very attractive. I think it's too much to ask for stop-in-your-tracks attraction from the start, if you're l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 05:51 PM |
| 6 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"Dating when you're enthusiastic and have the momentum can be great, but once you start dreading the date, it's definitely time to rest and enjoy the single life. This guy actually claimed to be Catholic, so I was totally blindsided. My husband isn't even Catholic, but he goes to Mass with me every Sunday and is completely respectful. I have a ton of atheist friends who have never been that ugly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 04:02 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"Ah. I misunderstood. Yeah, it's tough to balance giving a guy a chance and spending time with someone when there's no future. I dated a couple of guys who were really nice, but I just wasn't into them. I think it was hardest to move on from those, because I felt like I was being too picky, rather than the times when he was a jerk or there was some fundamental disconnect. I remember being on a third date, walking to the car, thinking "Please don't kiss me, please don't kiss me, please don't kiss … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 04:00 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"I wasn't suggesting anyone settle, but it is important to have realistic expectations. That's really more what that book is discussing. My husband is an amazing guy and I don't feel like I settled at all, but if I'd kept turning up my nose at guys in ball caps, because they're obviously losing their hair, I'd have never met him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 03:31 PM |
| 8 | College boys are the worst. Is a man a bit older a better fit for me? Do I have decent SMV?Dating older, relationship-minded men sounds like the best idea for you, if you're ready for commitment. Most 22-year-old men, especially on the coast, aren't thinking about marriage and family. At 21, I'd caution dating older than 30, though. That's a pretty big gap. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 01:29 PM |
| 4 | College boys are the worst. Is a man a bit older a better fit for me? Do I have decent SMV?I've gotten downvoted any time I've said this about age gaps, but I agree its easiest to relate to someone in the same stage of life, who grew up watching the same shows and playing with the same toys. My husband is only three years older than me, but his parents are two years shy of the Silent Generation and his sister and cousins are all Gen X. He relates a lot more to Gen X and it's sometimes surprising how different our experiences were, growing up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 01:27 PM |
| 8 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"My birthday and the new year were the worst. I once went on three dates in one week and called my grandma crying because I was going to die alone, after some guy had yelled at me over The Walking Dead. It was only exhausting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 01:16 PM |
| 13 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"I have! I totally agree that this is a problem and the reason people think the options are endless. OKCupid was the worst, with all of their questions. I'm glad I ignored my husband, because I'd have passed on anyone who didn't like cats. I didn't have a cat. Now I do and we both like him. Waaaaay too much information to choose from and also in another way with the invasive sexual questions. I am definitely a maximizer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 01:10 PM |
| 3 | A guy I was seeing didn’t bother to tell me he had a gf until I askedIt sounds like you'll do fine. Brush this off as a learning experience. You wouldn't want to be the cheated on girlfriend in that relationship, anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 07:32 PM |
| 17 | How to vet for sexual compatibility?If you're not a virgin, there's no need to wait for engagement or marriage. It's just advised that you wait for commitment, which logically shouldn't be more than a few months. If you're dating someone you find physically attractive, the kissing and hands stuff is good, and he's in decent health, there's a reasonable chance it will all be fine. If not, and you have sex after a few months and it's not working out, it's only been a few months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 06:42 PM |
| 4 | A guy I was seeing didn’t bother to tell me he had a gf until I askedI completely disagree that women shouldn't make more than men. I make about 50% more than my husband, because he left oil for me. I simply respect him enough that it's not an issue. I wouldn't close the door toward men in other specialities, but definitely take advantage of being in a Male-dominated field. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 06:32 PM |
| 4 | Please help me with my doubtsYou'll meet all kinds of men everywhere. Don't limit yourself, based on other people's worst case scenarios. Dating apps are ubiquitous. Just meet men in public places, once you feel safe doing so, and vet well. If anything, online dating allows you the freedom to ask some pretty invasive questions before you even meet (religion, politics, marriage goals). | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 02:28 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with my boyfriend's promiscuous past?I honestly think you're being pretty unfair, especially since you're not a virgin yourself. People are whole humans, with pasts and all, but you've known this about your boyfriend for two years. If this was an issue, the time to address it was two years ago. How would you feel if he suddenly felt uncomfortable with the fact that he wasn't your first? My husband doesn't really know how many women he's been with, just that he hadn't hooked up with anyone for about two years before me, because he w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 02:25 PM |
| 9 | A guy I was seeing didn’t bother to tell me he had a gf until I askedIt's not your fault he's a jerk, but it does sound like you were giving him the boyfriend role, before commitment (sex and deep emotional discussions). Block this guy and save boyfriend privileges for boyfriends. As for your fields, I'm betting there are a lot more men in your field and they're likely to be more ambitious and make more money. Look there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 01:41 PM |
| 13 | Please help me with my doubtsI find arranged marriages fascinating. As long as you retain veto rights, I see no reason not to meet these men. You can definitely meet men at church! You could also try volunteering to meet service minded men. I'm pretty religious myself and met my husband on a dating app, so that's not out of the realm of possibility, either. You just have to be very clear about your principles. There are no minor red flags. "He seems nice, but he drinks a lot." That's just a red flag. If you're hitting next … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 01:37 PM |
| 17 | Pull backYou should probably also focus on vetting. It sounds like you're still dating guys who aren't interested in commitment. Even in the modern dating world, a guy who considers you relationship material and wants that relationship, will make it known. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 01:07 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend wanted to break up and I’m feeling bitter.At 21, you have time to see how this pans out, but it's okay if it just doesn't... because he changes his mind or you're tired of trying to prove yourself. He's young and it's possible for you to just not be the right person for him, but there still not be some core problem with you. Sometimes people are just incompatible and personalities change so much in your early twenties. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 11:49 PM |
| 5 | My husband works 7 days per week by choice and I feel lonely in our marriageWell, you're 24. You have time to buy the house and allow him to find a better work life balance, before having babies. It sounds like he's hearing you and you just need to be patient, for both of your sakes. Imagine how much financial freedom you'll have if you don't have a mortgage. All good things take time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?Google it. There are many articles about how badly off women are after divorce. Here's the first result: https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/04/the-divorce- gap/480333/ Most of the results discuss financial issues, not even mentioning the tougher dating market. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 09:28 PM |
| 16 | My husband works 7 days per week by choice and I feel lonely in our marriageDoes he have a timeline? How long does he plan to keep this up? When are you planning to to buy a house? When are you going to have children? For what it's worth, I think you should take him up on his offer of taking Fridays off. That is compromise and it's a step in the right direction. Your pain and loneliness are very real, but this is a much better problem to have than the opposite. He's literally doing all of this for your family and future, so it makes sense that you turning down Fridays s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 09:16 PM |
| 10 | Femininity shouldn’t mean materialisticI think this topic is really subjective. While I might scoff at designer brand clothing, purchasing mine from Kohl's and Target and Ross, I do have new, very nice furniture, for my 2,300 square foot house on over an acre of land. My husband and I almost never eat out or go on expensive outings, one of my few luxuries is midrange makeup, and we only have one very low car payment, but I have a $2500 laptop and he has a new deep freeze in the garage. What might seem like luxury to you is just someo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?I deleted it because I don't feel like arguing with you, when this sub's entire goal is to help women find marriage-minded men, who do exist, whether your buds agree or not. My evidence, not anecdotal, is the fact that people still get married and the ones who do are actually staying together. https://time.com/5405757/millennials-us-divorce-rate-decline/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 04:50 AM |
| 307 | My boyfriend (24m) says some concerning things and It’s hurting me (19f)This is a fundamental difference in values. Move on. Six months is nothing. Don't waste six years on someone who is likely cheating on you, based on what you say here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 04:46 AM |
| 13 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?You don't want to get married to someone who doesn't want to marry you. This seems like a fundamental difference in values. There are plenty of men who value marriage. Find one while you're young enough to find a good one with low baggage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 01:41 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?A Google search will clarify the legal benefits of marriage, but here are a few: Marriage often enables men and women to claim a larger tax deduction and file jointly. It allows a person to claim their spouse's social security and IRA benefits upon death, make decisions regarding the health of their loved ones when they're not able, inherit property, receive health insurance, and can help in paternity disputes (if the relationship ends and he claims the child isn't his). Furthermore, the reason … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Book recommendationsI actually only read it, because I thought it must be horrible, when I found it while making a New Year's Resolution display. I get that she was trying to catch people's eye with that verbage, but "settling" is hardly what she's discussing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 12:33 AM |
| 38 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?You cannot change his mind. He most likely won't marry you and if he did, he'd resent you for it. There is a lot of risk, particularly for women, to buying a home and having children without marriage. If you're going to continue this relationship, you need to come to terms with the fact that you will never be married, instead of planning on changing his mind, while you waste your years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 10:31 PM |
| 16 | Book recommendationsI came here to recommend this! I actually took a lot of heat when I initially brought this one here, because of the title, but I don't think I'd have met my husband if I hadn't read it. Heaven forbid 27-year-old Kara date a red-headed man under 5'10". You know what? I'm a librarian and can tell you that dating guides age fast and we pull them, once they see less demand. This one is 10 years old now and there's always a wait list. I think more and more women are nearing 30 and wondering why they'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how to get over an ex - The best revenge is massive success - Frank SinatraMaybe we made the news again. I was a lot hotter at 25 than at 19, too. I remember telling a friend I'd rather be alone than "settle." He told me I'd better mean it, because I might actually be alone if I didn't get over myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how to get over an ex - The best revenge is massive success - Frank SinatraWhat comment are you even reading? I said nothing about settling. I'm actually married to a high value man and just said women won't always be able to "level up," as they get older. That concept is literally one of the basics of this sub. As for your expectations, best of luck. They're unrelated to my comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how to get over an ex - The best revenge is massive success - Frank SinatraAgreed. Entirely different goals, acknowledging the same truth, means entirely different methods. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on how to get over an ex - The best revenge is massive success - Frank Sinatra"Leveling up" isn't always an option, especially as women get older and accumulate more baggage. This is particularly true if your idea of doing so is centered around finding a higher value man. The best revenge is truly moving on and not caring how he feels about it. Live your life to the best of your ability. Men aren't trophies to be flaunted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 06:00 PM |
| 2 | 33 year old former feminist. Am I screwed?My library had it for checkout and download. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 02:59 AM |
| 2 | What to do with a diminishing friendship with a non-RPW?Nearly all of my coworkers are very liberal, with entirely different core values... and that's okay. It sounds like you and your coworker have an unhealthy level of competition from both sides, which you admit. Maybe it's best to let the friendship cool a bit, but from a professional stance, it is always best to keep the peace with coworkers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 02:23 AM |
| 2 | Do you always agree with your boyfriend’s/husband’s politics?Sure, if we can do it civilly. I just don't feel the need to continue once the civility wears off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/20 05:54 PM |
| 18 | 33 year old former feminist. Am I screwed?I love this book and actually first brought it to this sub, so I'm thrilled to see others recommend it, but if you're going to read it, be prepared for some hard truths. I typically recommend it to twenty-somethings, because it can feel a bit defeatist to read it in your 30s. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/20 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Do you always agree with your boyfriend’s/husband’s politics?My husband and I also love a good debate, because while the fundamentals are the same, we have a few topics where we just don't align. On rare occasion, he'll get incredibly patronizing and I just end the discussion, because we've left "friendly debate" territory. He doesn't do it as much as he did when we first got married. OP, you don't have to STFU about your opinions. Just make sure your most important values are similar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/20 01:35 PM |
| 6 | I feel like I'm holding my boyfriend back in lifeI was trying to clarify that I'm not judging your age difference, so much as his age, when he's complaining about not accomplishing more. I'm 32 and I have a master's degree, a full time job that I find deeply fulfilling, a wonderful husband, great friends, and I own my own home. This guy has 16 years on me and should have more to show for it. Find a local man your parents would like and have an actual relationship with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/20 07:42 PM |
| 33 | I feel like I'm holding my boyfriend back in lifeYou're 20. He's had 30 years to do these things. You're not the problem. What would I do? I'd find someone with more ambition, who didn't imply his failings were the fault of a 20-year-old. If you want to date older men, and have considered all the issues, date ones who've accomplished more. That's literally the entire appeal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/20 02:34 PM |
| 1 | How are you preparing for the new year?I'll have to bookmark that one. I just finished Little Women in time to average 1 book per week for the year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/20 04:09 AM |
| 6 | Catholic Birth Control and anxieties over sexThanks for the factual comments. If Catholicism isn't for some, that's fine, but the blatant misinformation (to say nothing of the hostility) is really frustrating to read, as a practicing Catholic. Obviously OP's husband is only interested in the official stance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 05:13 PM |
| 6 | Catholic Birth Control and anxieties over sexIts not debatable in the Catholic faith. If he can't do the other stuff for religious reasons, he can't do this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 05:07 PM |
| 7 | Being a stay at home wifeI know so many home school moms who do this on a low income, but they feel it. Their kids wear cheap clothes, often second-hand, they do the local online charter school so they can get funding for sports, there aren't a lot of treats for anyone, and they live in pretty small houses. It's doable, but you're going to make sacrifices. Personally, I love my job and I make a difference doing it, so my husband and I are compromising with Catholic school and working local, low stress jobs, because we w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 05:02 PM |
| 10 | Tired of dating : rantMy height requirement was 5'10", average for American men, so it seemed reasonable, even though I'm 5'5". My hairline requirement was "mostly full head of hair," because I was dating men in their late 20s/early 30s. I didn't know until I read this book that 2/3 of men will experience major hair loss by age 35. I wasn't interested in redheads or beards, either. My husband is 5'7.5" and what hair he does have is mostly his red beard. He has a traditionally female name. He's genuinely very handsome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 04:50 PM |
| 5 | Tired of dating : rantI don't think it needs a concrete timeline or a title. Just enjoy being by yourself for a few months and see how you feel. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 03:46 AM |
| 48 | Tired of dating : rantThere are a lot of book recommendations here, but my favorite is Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. It really puts into perspective how many guys you aren't giving a chance for stupid reasons, like being a lame dresser or only being two inches taller than you. I read it six months before I met my husband and I actually thought my dealbreakers were pretty reasonable, at the time. Dating sucks, regardless of your method. Deleting your apps just minimizes your chances. It sounds … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 06:04 PM |
| 11 | How are you preparing for the new year?My husband and I are leaving for his parents' today and won't be back until Tuesday, so I've cleaned out the fridge, cleaned the entire house, done all the laundry, and made sure we have something nice to eat when we return, with little effort (Sam's Club pizza). My big personal resolution is to read more classics and YA novels (teen librarian), so I'm making reading lists as I finish up my last two books of 2019, which will average me at 1 book per week. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 01:31 PM |
| 8 | Your favorite appsAnylist is my new favorite. We log in on each of our phones with our joint email, that we use for bills. If I add cottage cheese to the grocery list, it updates in real time on his end. It's super handy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 01:27 PM |
| 11 | Catholic Birth Control and anxieties over sexNFP is often used like this, by non-religious people. OP, as a Catholic, I'm pretty sure that ovulation strips would be acceptable. You can get a huge box on Amazon for $20 and you could easily add that extra protection to your charting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 01:25 PM |
| 1 | My Boyfriend Got a DUIgently run for the hills Skip for the hills. If my husband developed an addiction, I'd stand by him, because he's my husband. I wouldn't have actively committed to someone with an obvious addiction, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/19 03:58 AM |
| 3 | Did I screw up with my gift to his mom?I really liked the update: "I was right and you were wrong. Everyone loves me." I'm still not sure this is an actual post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/19 05:23 PM |
| 7 | 2020 Goal SettingI love New Year's resolutions! I want to be healthier, which means exercising more, drinking less, eating better, and being more deliberate with my time. This past year, my goal was to finish the books I start. I'm only two away from averaging one book per week this year. Mission accomplished! They weren't good books, but they were books. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/19 04:50 AM |
| 3 | 2020 Goal SettingGetting rid of all social networking is one of the best things I've ever done for myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/19 04:49 AM |
| 16 | How do I suppress my desire for wanting to have children?Concentrate on enjoying where you are right now. One day, you'll have children screaming because you gave them the wrong cup and you'll wish you were single. Take the time to enjoy the here and now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/19 05:05 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, how did Christmas go?Not all of the memories can be perfect. Holidays can be tough. Keep trying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/19 04:37 AM |
| 4 | Guy's View On SAH WivesOpinions aside, the problem with posts like this, is that they're far too singular to OP's taste to actually be useful. The mods regularly delete these kinds of posts, for that very reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/19 08:17 PM |
| 5 | Guy's View On SAH WivesI'd rather work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/19 08:12 PM |
| 3 | What's your easy, go-to dinner?One or two pulses in a miniature food processor and it's good to go. I guess "finely chopped" is more accurate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 03:35 PM |
| 1 | What are you ladies doing for Christmas/the holidays? What are some activities you enjoy doing to prepare? What are your Christmas holiday traditions?Bonnie, from Vampire Diaries gets a magic Advent calendar that brings her love | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 03:34 PM |
| 2 | What are you ladies doing for Christmas/the holidays? What are some activities you enjoy doing to prepare? What are your Christmas holiday traditions?I watched Christmas Calendar three times. I love that movie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 04:04 AM |
| 8 | What's your easy, go-to dinner?I am so much lazier than all of these commenters. I get a bag of microwavable rice, shred some broccoli, cube some ham, and cover it all in jarred cheese sauce. It's a delicious end to a crappy/crazy busy day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?Bumble requires women send the first message, because women are so slammed by messages on other apps and men often feel like they don't even see their messages. It seems well received, from what I've heard. Literally every app requires photos. Tinder just requires nothing else and that's the number one benefit of online dating, knowing the facts about a person before wasting each other's time. To my knowledge, Bumble is the only one that doesn't allow men to initiate. There are many others to ch… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/19 06:13 AM |
| 1 | RPW Dating TipsThank you. The book is less inflammatory than it sounds, but I did meet my husband six months after i read it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 07:38 PM |
| 10 | How to be a good wife when your mother was a bad example?My grandmother was just telling me how proud she is that I keep my house so clean, when I grew up with a mother who literally never cleaned. My mother was overweight and frumpy and put more energy into being my friend that being a mom or wife. A framework for what not to do can be just as helpful for one on what to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 07:37 PM |
| 18 | RPW Dating TipsWell, I'd suggest you ignore the coming comments against online dating. Many of us met our husbands online and anyone who has dated recently knows it's ubiquitous at this point, if you're out of college. That being said, if you are in school, don't pass up the many chances you have to meet like minded men your age organically. You'll never have them again. As for profiles, I think the best advice is to keep it brief and positive. Keep in mind that your profile is one of many and no one wants to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 06:33 PM |
| 13 | I'm currently the opposite of a Red Pill Woman but I'm very interested in knowing more.Do you not feel disrespected? Why does modern feminism not appeal to you? Don't you want to protect yourself and your family too, and have a say in your life/relationship? I think you'll find that few of us actually call ourselves "Red Pill Women." I know I don't. The ideas presented here are part of a toolkit and I take what works for me and leave some of it on the table. There are occasionally posts that rub me the wrong way. Do I ever feel disrespected? Not any more than most married women I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?I definitely agree. The goal is to go on a lot of dates to increase your chances of finding someone and apps are a great way to do that, but you have to develop reasonable expectations and in some cases, a thick skin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?Anything that requires you fill out more than a short bio is naturally going to give more insight into what someone wants. After following this sub for so long, I've come to the conclusion that the popularity of apps is regional. In some places, hinge is great. In others, Bumble is the way to go. I think the problem with Tinder is that it emphasizes appearance more than information. There are people who want to hook up on all of them, but they tend to provide more information indicating that, su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 12:50 PM |
| 4 | What do you get for someone who doesn’t want anything?I make these every year and have since 2010. They really are amazing, especially in a time when no one prints off photos. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?I wasn't bashing Tinder or online dating. I met my husband on an online dating app and frequently champion it as a modern option. I was simply saying that if she's having poor luck with that app to attempt another, instead of giving up entirely. There actually are much better apps for serious dating, because they better highlight the factors you've listed, like education and jobs, as opposed to focusing solely on photos and a short bio. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 04:05 PM |
| 7 | What do you get for someone who doesn’t want anything?I'm a librarian. I hate when people buy me books. I can get them for free from work. The gift to give the person who wants for nothing is something consumable. If he has a favorite liquor or candy, get him that. If he has a favorite restaurant, get him a gift card or make reservations. If he has a favorite band or sports team, buy him tickets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 12:54 PM |
| 9 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?It's strange that Tinder seems to the be the first step for so many, when it's a notorious hookup app. I'd suggest you give another app a try, one with more focus on actually dating. Beyond that, try meetup.com to meet people in your area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 12:48 PM |
| 13 | Tis the Season!Christmas is my favorite time of year. My husband has been so sweet to watch one Christmas movie or episode literally every single day all month. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/19 05:40 PM |
| 5 | Worrying that it’s too late?Well, I think you might need to start with accepting his flaws, which include a low sex drive. You can't change him and if that's a dealbreaker, that's not completely unreasonable of you. If not, you definitely need to work on accepting that he just isn't as interested in sex and deal with your insecurities independently. If he's "hmmm"ing in response to your vows to improve, stop telling him that and start showing him. If it is too late, it's worth considering that 27 is not too old to start ov… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/19 09:03 PM |
| 6 | My (26F) boyfriend (32M) has performance issuesIf you're here, expressing your disappointment and frustration, then yes, I think naive might be the correct term. This is not something that gets better over time, without action, especially if it's "always" been this way. Consider the problem as it is and decide if it's something you can live with forever, because it might not resolve itself... and definitely won't if he's unresponsive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/19 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Purse dog husbandsAgreed. My husband goes shopping with me if it's for something that effects him and he'll want an opinion on, like Christmas presents for our families or groceries for us to eat, because he's a grownup and those things don't automatically fall to me, when we both work 40 hours a week. Yeah, I buy my bras and dresses alone, but him being a part of our family makes him a partner, not an accessory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 10:11 PM |
| 16 | How to have a healthy marriage, when partner grew up parents in a toxic marriage?I second this. My parents were awful to each other. My mother got fat and dressed like an 8-year-old to fit in better with her children. She was socially awkward and annoying. She'd fly into fits of rage. I know never to do those things now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 03:03 PM |
| 3 | Top tips and adviceI work in a very liberal field and hearing all the stories of my coworkers and friends blue pill husband makes me so grateful for my guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 03:00 PM |
| 15 | Top tips and adviceMy husband and I see the most success with splitting duties, instead of taking turns. There's no debate over who gets to do the laundry this week, because the laundry is my thing. There's no debate over the dishes, because they're his thing. This cuts way down on arguments. We have joint accounts, but I was paying the bills for the first couple of years. I worked at a computer and it just made sense, because I had the time to schedule everything. After a while, though I got so tired of my husban… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 07:09 PM |
| 12 | Is this all in my [21F] head or something else [22M]?He has told you, in numerous ways, that you are not long term for him. Don't waste your time chasing him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 05:01 PM |
| 18 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?He puts his shoes right by the door instead of the shoe bin I think he does this to make a point a male lives here. I have a mat for shoes just inside the door. He puts his boots next to it. It's like the memes of dogs lying next to the new memory foam bed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 10:45 PM |
| 18 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?That surprised me too! I'm neat and he's clean. I make it look clean, by picking up clutter and organizing and he makes it actually clean, by wiping things down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 08:58 PM |
| 7 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?He works for the city, as a supervisor in manual labor. He's lost his ring before, even though I'd been asking him to wear the rubber one, and luckily found it. He's pretty good about sticking to the rubber one now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 08:56 PM |
| 37 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?I'm a lucky gal. He's my favorite. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 04:50 PM |
| 114 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?How much of a natural leader/alpha he is... sometimes too much. He doesn't mean to be so pushy, but we've both admitted that if I were any more submissive, he'd steamroll me. I'm actually really happy with this "flaw", considering the opposite is a very beta man who needs to be lead. I don't usually have to ask my husband to do his share and rarely feel like I'm nagging, because he's so assertive and accountable. The depth of his faith. When we met, he never really went to church, as he felt the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 04:25 PM |
| 3 | How can I stop getting so excited each time I meet a guy I likeYA is young adult. They can just be really enjoyable and addictive escapism. It was just an example of a distracting hobby to be obsessed with. In response to wanting to be with someone, I'd suggest dating more actively. Keep putting yourself out there and talking to new men. Meet quickly and talk to one or two at a time, so as not to get too invested, until you're sure it's going somewhere. Remember, there's not necessarily anything wrong with you if someone isn't interested. You're just not th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 04:07 AM |
| 10 | How can I stop getting so excited each time I meet a guy I likeI wasn't suggesting she read to "gain" anything, rather to take her mind off these men. I'm a librarian and plenty of adults read YA novels for fun. There are a ton of really engaging series with multiple volumes and they're usually written at the same reading level as adult novels. The reason more people don't read for fun is usually because they feel like they have to read something "heavier." I don't know why that's any more ridiculous than watching Supernatural, a CW fantasy series directed … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 04:02 AM |
| 5 | How can I stop getting so excited each time I meet a guy I likeFind new obsessions! Read a YA novel series or take up writing or crochet. Binge watch Supernatural. There are like 15 seasons! Now's the time to enjoy those things on your own terms, anyway. It would also probably help to get off social media, if part of the reason you want to be attached is because of all those wedding photos you've been saying. Deleting my social media makes the top five lists of healthiest things I've ever done for myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 03:39 AM |
| 3 | It is proven -logically- that feminism collapses into meaninglessness/absurdity/nonsense -like all viewsI just can't claim a label that can't be consistently defined. Feminism is the equality of men and women in society, the right to make choices for my own life? Yes. Feminism is misandry and the claim that I chose a caregiving field because I was brainwashed by the patriarchy? Nope. Until there's a consensus, I choose no label. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 02:41 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on this subreddit?One post actually referred to married women as "cumbucket slaves." I'm all for women doing their own thing, but that's disgusting and offensive. I can't imagine making that kind of comment about such a huge segment of the female population and still daring to claim you empower women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on this subreddit?I actually don't use this username for anything but RPW for this reason. A few years ago, a woman reported she'd bought a wedding dress on Reddit, only to have the seller refuse to complete the sale after seeing her presence on RP subs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on this subreddit?There will always be a dissenting view, and in this case subreddit. This is just the latest one. They won't die alone, though. Nursing homes are full of other single women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 08:56 PM |
| 3 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?My husband does have a bachelor's degree and while it's helping him in his current line of work, he only has it because his parents have that 80s/90s mindset that college is the only path to success. He loves to be outdoors and fix things, though, so technical school really would have served him better. I had to have a master's to be a librarian and it was worth it, because I love my job, have a family friendly schedule and make really good money. That's not the only way, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 07:18 PM |
| 6 | Outfit ideas , anxiety.I love A-line dresses with leggings this time of year. Librarians sort of embrace the nerdy, so mine have dachshunds in Santa hats on them, but solid colors work, as well. Pair with stylish boots and you're comfortable, warm, and cute. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 07:01 PM |
| 10 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?I think it's worth considering individual circumstances and personality traits. A man with a technical degree can be intellectually curious and funny and just like working with his hands. He's also likely to make really good money and have a lot of stability in his career. I would have considered a man like that, regardless of my master's degree. Making sweeping "no, never" statements should really be reserved for the big things, like whether or not they want children or their religion or worldv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 12:50 PM |
| 18 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?At 24, I said no redheads under 6' tall. A full head of hair was required and men with beards need not apply. My 5'7.5" husband looks great with his red beard and checks all of the way more important boxes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 12:04 AM |
| 14 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?That was a statement of general knowledge, not to be directed at you, OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 11:59 PM |
| 90 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?Your time and resources on the dating market are finite. Get over your insistence that he must be over 6' tall, when you're 5'5". Go out with the guy with the receding hairline or no master's degree or the facial hair you don't love, because you're dating actual humans, not cardboard cutouts. You will run out of desirable options if you don't give real people a chance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 10:55 PM |
| 5 | Do you agree with the red pill sentiment that most if not all women will generally cheat given the opportunity? Is that your experience?When we watched The Matrix, I (ironically) was yelling "BLUE PILL" the whole time. Why would I trade the good I know for the potential devil I don't? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 05:32 PM |
| 5 | Do you agree with the red pill sentiment that most if not all women will generally cheat given the opportunity? Is that your experience?I always joke with my husband that I'll never cheat, because I hear it means I have to touch another man. Ew. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 12:59 PM |
| 8 | Why have a hairstyle your husband hates?If I did something I wasn't aware he wouldn't like, but he didn't, he'd be honest about it, but not unkind. The above was for doing something spiteful. He's also been pretty vocal about what he does and doesn't like, so that's unlikely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 07:52 PM |
| 27 | Why have a hairstyle your husband hates?No joke, if I got a hairstyle I knew my husband would hate, and he knew that, he'd be an unapologetic asshole about it, until I changed it. There would be no walking on eggshells, trying to convince me he liked it. I'd ask how I looked and he'd say "Great, except for your hair." Without a doubt, that is how that would go down and I think that's a reasonable response to spiteful behavior. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 06:58 PM |
| 5 | What are your best solutions to late replies?This relationship isn't really RPW, as a casual long distance thing, so I'm not sure RPW principles apply here. If it bothers you, stop telling him it's okay and continue the conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 03:46 PM |
| 1 | How do you keep a positive mindset when thinking of the future of a relationship?I met my husband at 27. I'm really glad that I enjoyed those years to myself. When I get frustrated with living with a gross boy or never getting pineapple pizza, I have those memories... the good and the bad, to set me straight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 01:31 PM |
| 29 | Book Recommendations?My favorite recommendation will always be Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. It's great for single women in their twenties, written by a forty-something who wished she'd known these things at 27. It's less about settling and more about being realistic about your options, while you're young enough to benefit from it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 06:45 PM |
| 28 | I hate this regret so muchAt 27, I'd only been with one person, in literally every sense. It was kind of awkward, when my husband and I started getting physical. I think you're seeing virgin status through rose colored glasses. Regardless, two isn't that high of a number, nor is three, counting the new boyfriend. As long as you didn't rack up double digits, I really think you're overemphasizing this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 04:47 PM |
| 7 | My boyfriend(22) wants to move home and in an apartment with me(20)This is a terrible idea. I'm not a huge fan of cohabitation for many reasons, but in this case, it seems doubly bad, because neither of you is in a stable enough position to be on a lease together and the relationship itself isn't even stable. Journalism? What is he going to do with that? Get a master's degree? Because I'm a librarian and every one of my librarian coworkers went to grad school after getting a degree like that (art history, feminism, journalism). It's fine that you're still figur… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 02:16 PM |
| 4 | How do you keep yourself looking presentable?Get an easy hairstyle. Mine is long, my natural shade of brunette, and I have Zooey Deschanel bangs, which I learned to cut from YouTube. I do have really easy hair, but on my worst day, all I have to do is straighten and spray the bangs and I'm fine. Since it's long, it can also go in messy bun or a sporty ponytail, like my husband likes. Not having too much of a mom cut can make a big difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 04:46 AM |
| 15 | Securing a relationshipAll relationships do not start out as sexual ones. The ones that do, likely won't last. The best way to weed out men who only want sex, is to insist on getting to know each other without sex on the table. Don't put yourself in situations where it's possible. Go to street festivals or to see movies or a nice brewery tour. The time limit varies, as to how long to withhold and is naturally impacted by your sexual experience, but if you don't offer it and it's all he wants, he'll walk and your numbe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/19 01:48 PM |
| 27 | How do you keep a positive mindset when thinking of the future of a relationship?I would suggest thinking about your single days as limited, because they likely are, whether things work out with this guy or not. You'll eventually be married and have to wait to watch TV shows with him or order the pizza you both like and compromise on the Christmas decorations. Then, one day, you'll have kids screaming in your ear and tearing up your house. This time of life is valuable, too. Enjoy it. Learn a hobby from YouTube. Binge watch a show no man would ever enjoy. Buy something frivo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/19 04:43 AM |
| 6 | I feel like I don't have enough time.I think I had worse luck on paid apps. You could never tell who had also paid and could actually read and respond to your messages and it was all the same people on the free apps. I do think OP could be choosier with the apps, themselves, though and do a little reseach into what the hookup apps are in her area and avoid those. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 05:46 PM |
| 4 | I feel like I don't have enough time.You said you kept talking to this guy, because he was attractive, which hints that you might be emphasizing the wrong things. Dating apps are just a vehicle to meet people and considering literally everyone is on them now, it's ridiculous to blame them for the fact that you're not meeting quality men. It doesn't sound like you're dating in your league, which based on what you've said is understandable, because you're not really at a point in life to find a quality guy. So change that. Get a job.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 05:05 PM |
| 12 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?Natural dread is very different than deliberately implementing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 08:27 PM |
| 3 | How do you know when "boys" become "Men"?I'd give the obligatory "lol" and such, but I didn't display a lot of interest. We only went on a couple of dates, before I decided he wasn't for me, so it didn't go on long, but the clinginess was off putting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 08:26 PM |
| 12 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?Dread is an RP term, referencing the feeling you have when you realize your partner has other options. For example, you're at a wedding and a bridesmaid is visibly eyeing your boyfriend. The difference is whether or not your boyfriend is encouraging it and sometimes posters on TRP really stress deliberately causing this feeling, often by just openly flirting with other girls, so you'll be at your best to keep his attention. Regardless of gender, that's pretty crappy in a committed relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 07:20 PM |
| 2 | How do you know when "boys" become "Men"?I dated an air traffic controller once. He worked an hour and then would be off for an hour, so he'd literally text me every other hour. It drove me crazy. Dude. I have a life! When I met my husband, we'd text casually between dates, because he was in oil and on a week and off a week. We might talk on the phone once or twice, as we got serious. Early on, though, we'd go days without texting each other and it was great. We'd have so much more to talk about when we did talk. You're still early to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 06:37 PM |
| 38 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?Personally, my problem with dating or marrying an RP man lies not only in his possible resentment toward women, but the common approach of manipulation. RPW is about self-improvement. We focus on bettering ourselves, to better our relationships. What I've seen on RP posts, even Married RP, might focus on self-betterment, but it's usually in a "she can get on board or jump ship" type of way, because things have just gotten that bad. Often, it delves into manipulation tactics, like really obvious … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 04:31 PM |
| 4 | Can a RPW be single forever?I honestly recommend the book Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. I read it about six months before I met my husband, because of the provocative title, assuming it would be ridiculous. She actually had some great points, though, about reconciling the fair requirements with the unfair ones. My measure, personally, was will this matter when the baby has a fever at 2 am? His desire for family and sense of responsibility? Absolutely. His height? Absolutely not. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/19 04:19 AM |
| 29 | Can a RPW be single forever?I once told a friend that I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than be with the wrong person again. He told me, quite honestly, "That's fine, as long as you mean it, because you might end up alone." What he meant was that my standards were high and if I wasn't willing to compromise on some of the less meaningful requirements (height, hairline, career), I might not find anyone. He was right. My must-haves were unreasonable at the time and when I reconsidered them, I realized there were a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/19 08:03 AM |
| 10 | TL;DR online dating feedback neededI don't understand what you're asking, here. I met my husband online. Many of us did. It's officially the most popular way people meet. You still don't seem to be asking an actual question. Between these two guys, I'd drop both. They sound unstable. As far as representation goes, take it offline as soon as you feel safe and you have less to worry about, in regards to accuracy. I'm a Catholic librarian, so my husband assumed I'd be quiet, liberal, and have a really reserved sense of humor. None o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 08:16 PM |
| 6 | Do men prefer the '' Cool Girl"My favorite color is pink glitter. I love The Sims and romance novels and I'm terrible at sports. I'm a librarian who wears A-line dresses and flats daily. I'm as basic as they come and my husband loves me, because he knows it's genuine. I don't think you have to be the "cool" girl. You just have to be a real girl. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 08:09 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend moved 700 miles away, what would you do?You're 19 and spouses don't only meet in college. In fact, online dating is now the number one way people meet. You're going to be fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/19 10:58 PM |
| 3 | Slut shaming v slut advocating - Camille PagliaI was watching Riverdale (I'm a teen librarian and admittedly have a soft spot for teen shows) and the heartthrob asks if he can kiss a girl. Have you ever been asked to be kissed?!? It's the most awkward thing ever. I'm more inclined to feel obligated by the asking than the going for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/19 01:05 AM |
| 7 | What shall we do with the drunken captain?Ugh. Abusers who act abused are totally a thing. I once found my ex's dating profile. "I'm still recovering from a divorce that left me homeless, jobless, and penniless." Excusing the fact that it had been three years, how, exactly, does a divorce leave you jobless? The divorce was a direct result of his refusal to work, as were the homelessness and poverty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 05:15 PM |
| 8 | Slut shaming v slut advocating - Camille PagliaTeaching bad people not to be bad isn't a new concept. Bad people will always exist. There will always be people who take advantage and want to hurt you. You are responsible for you and your own safety. For me, that means I can wear my cute dresses and flats in my job as a suburban/rural librarian, without much concern. For my coworkers in the city, however, they might get more unfavorable comments. It depends on your threshold and your situation, but our refusal to teach girls how to judge thos… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 05:11 PM |
| 8 | Thoughtful but slightly expensive first gift for my (24m) boyfriend (27m)Buy the $80 gift. You're overthinking this. He's clearly invested and he'll appreciate the thought. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/19 06:35 PM |
| 25 | How to approach the topic of wanting to start a family soon?You say "my man." Should a marriage talk come first? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/19 05:17 PM |
| 9 | Is being a mother one of the most gratifying things for a woman?I agree. I think we can be oversensitive about questions that are more often than not, just attempts to show interest in our lives. When I was single, my aunts always asked if I was dating anyone, and I never understood why this was such a rude question. Now that I'm married, they ask when I'm having babies. They're just making conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 07:51 PM |
| 14 | Is being a mother one of the most gratifying things for a woman?Some people become parents for the wrong reasons. They want little social media props and push them past each stage to one they deem more interesting, then when the kids get to that stage, their parents are over it, because they've already posted that story. They're bored and impatient for the kids to leave before their 13th birthdays. My brother told me last Christmas that he's ready for the kids ro be grown. They're 5 and 9. Being a parent isn't about you, it's about your family and the misera… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 04:01 PM |
| 35 | [ADVICE] My(28F) friend(29F) is extremely negativeRemember when you were a teenager and adults told you that you are the company you keep? This never stops being true. You can't fix your friend, but you can reasonably consider whether or not this friendship is a good idea for your well-being. When I had loud, obnoxious party girls as friends, I was gossipy and bitchy and obnoxious too. This will start to impact your personality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/19 07:59 PM |
| 6 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subThere's a reason it's called a "dating strategy." The goal is dates, not healthy marriages, and those are going to fizzle a lot faster than they think. These woman are going to empowered in a one-bedroom apartment, with a Netflix subscription, when they're 40. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 11:57 PM |
| 8 | What to do when guy is bringing up marriage/kids early on in dating/relationship?? I feel confused.I have told myself it is not to open a conversation on marriage because guys just don't do that. Three months is a good time to start discussing these things, especially for a man with 11 years on you. Stop deflecting and have the conversations, so you can figure out how compatible you are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?Oh, I actually totally agree. I feel like it's probably less about her work and more about the reasons behind it and their implications for their lives together... but all of that can be worded as a reason it is relevant that OP can or can't work full time, especially if he's concerned with finanices. I just think it's misleading that we always default to claim that men just don't care about employment/educational background when most men have some requirement for both. In OP's case, not being a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 01:41 AM |
| 4 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?OP says her boyfriend seems discontent with her work schedule, not her physical attraction. OP, as the first commenter stated, you might be projecting. He may really not care, but it's worth considering that many men do care about employment/educational background, for a variety of reasons. If this is, indeed, the case for your guy, maybe there are other ways you can make up for it... but maybe you also need to consider how this will impact your relationship long term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 01:23 AM |
| 3 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?I understand capitalization. Physical attraction isn't the only kind of attraction, though, and OP clearly wasn't referencing it. Of course a man doesn't get hard hearing about a woman's occupation. The clerk behind the counter at the gas station can be a physical 10, however, and still be a whopping no to a high value man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 11:59 PM |
| 9 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?Guys turned off by a woman with low ambition/earning potential/passion for her work/societal status is a much higher number. I didn't go into detail as to why they care, but plenty do for reasons completely unrelated to wanting to date a powerful woman. To claim the overwhelming majority don't care at all is just incredibly misleading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 11:27 PM |
| 6 | How to survive the pulling away phaseThere's a ton of advice on this sub about increasing your value, so I won't reinvent the wheel, but in regards to improving your expectations, I'd suggest you read Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. Provocative title, really practical advice about what's actually out there and what you risk passing it up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 10:01 PM |
| 5 | Common ground with in-lawsI'm a suburban librarian. I hate the city almost as much as I hate camping. My in-laws are rural cattle ranchers and we have almost nothing in common. It was tough at first, but as time has gone by, I've realized that we don't have to have anything in common to be a functional family. We just have to be pleasant to each other. My MIL has some really dated views of gender roles and doesn't understand why my husband does any housework, even though we both work full time. I let my husband fight tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 09:26 PM |
| 34 | How to survive the pulling away phaseI've been reading your comments and it honestly reads like you might be dating out of your league. If these guys are all amazing, high value men, then they may only be looking for sex and pulling away when they realize that's not in the cards... which is okay, because you don't want to be that girl for them anyway! I'd suggest you be realistic with yourself about what you bring to the table and what you can expect. If you can't secure commitment, it's likely because he isn't interested in commit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 09:18 PM |
| 18 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?Some do. Some don't. It sounds like your boyfriend is part of the former and that's worth considering, if it's not something you can change long term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 05:10 PM |
| 7 | How did you cope with being oblivious when the signs were all theAre you asking for his opinion here? I know we always talk about bringing him the problem, but if you're doing that for things you don't actually want his advice on, it defeats the purpose. I'd suggest, in the future, being a bit choosier about when you ask for his opinion, and being ready and willing to do as he suggests. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Having a hard time dealing with the red pill (male)This going to get deleted. You're going through your anger phase. It's normal. It's not for here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 01:36 AM |
| 4 | How do you ladies feel about the female dating strategy sub?It's actually pretty amusing to read their dating strategies. "Don't approach. Just stare at him, imagining him making the first move." I want to watch this with popcorn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 02:24 PM |
| 11 | TRP Men after break-up go back to spinning plates, what should I, as a woman, do?Nun mode just means you're not having relationships or sex and are working on yourself. It shouldn't be hard to start | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 12:26 PM |
| 9 | How do you ladies feel about the female dating strategy sub?The RPW truths we always talk about really negate a female version of TRP, simply because women lose SMV as they get older, as opposed to men, who gain it. Those women can talk all they want about female empowerment, but dating sucks. It's just a means to an end and, for women, the best ending is a strong marriage, which becomes more unlikely as time passes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 12:24 PM |
| 4 | What are some homemaking skills one can start cultivating while still sharing apartment with someone else?There are hobbies and such that you could cultivate that won't get in her way, such as crochet or knitting (super cheap and there are tons of YouTube videos) or perhaps even gardening. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Why am I so obsessed with people’s replies?I met my husband on a dating app, as well and I agree. For many people's circumstances, online dating can be a great option, but refusing to message first and trying to text for too long are the most common mistakes I see. It's no wonder if a woman struggles to meet someone in either case. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 11:58 AM |
| 2 | Why am I so obsessed with people’s replies?All great advice. Plenty of women here have met their spouses online, OP, but there's definitely a right and a wrong way to go about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 02:45 AM |
| 5 | Why would you ladies even want to cater to a modern man?What an odd picture... My husband actually does drive a farm truck and I've watched him castrate baby bulls (spoiler alert: don't look in the bucket!), but there are all kinds of men out there and all kinds of family models. If this isn't your toolbox, I hope you find one that works for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 02:42 AM |
| 7 | Why am I so obsessed with people’s replies?Message more people. You're not going to be everyone's type and it's okay if they realize that early. It'll just save you both time, so send several messages and take it offline as soon as you feel safe doing so. Online dating is an introduction. It isn't for forming relationships. Do that in person. As for not becoming obsessive, find another obsession. Crochet or start a blog or a new book series. Have your own passions. They'll make you a more interesting date, at the very least. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/19 11:51 PM |
| 1 | How to overcome fear of increasing NCOUNTYou can, but you're at a much greater risk of him viewing it as a fling, instead of something that could be serious. Overall, it's really up to you how you use the tools in the RPW toolbox. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/19 03:38 PM |
| 6 | He wants an equal relationship with a working wife, I want to be a doting wife/SAHM: are we doomed?If you do decide to venture out again, this needs to be initial vetting. Make it clear from the beginning that you'd like to stay home when you have a family, so you're not in the same position in six months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 12:31 PM |
| 2 | LTR decided that he wants a break (maybe break-up) - what to do?It's different ways of manipulating the same facts to fulfill different goals, i.e. sleeping with as many women as possible vs. marrying a high value man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 03:14 AM |
| 10 | Anyone know where to find “How to Help Your Husband Get Ahead” by Dorothy Carnegie?Source: librarian Most libraries offer an inter library loan service, where they'll borrow books on your behalf, from other library systems or universities. This is going to be your best bet, if you don't want to shell out the funds. It might take a couple of weeks, but if you have a halfway decent library near you, you should be able to get it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 12:57 AM |
| 14 | LTR decided that he wants a break (maybe break-up) - what to do?There's a reason we don't really advise dating men who read TRP. They might acknowledge the same truths, but they have very different goals. If you want a lasting relationship, seek a good man with both alpha and beta traits. As for this guy, he's told you he doesn't want to be with you. Accept it at face value and vet better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/19 08:10 PM |
| 23 | Advice about sex in my marriage> He can’t see why I would be frustrated by that and he said I have too many expectations and I should take what I can get. He gets frustrated because I don’t tell him what I want sexually - but seriously this is it. Having sex more than twice a month with an enthusiastic partner... he seems to think I have too high expectations and should just be content with the sex we do have. It's strange to me that this exact same story with a gender swap is met with derisive comments about Star Fish Sex, b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Would it be hypocritical want to be with a virgin, not being a virgin myself?I know I have talked to men who “prefer women with experience” but I think I just have a fear of having a high “body count” or becoming promiscuous. Most men, who aren't extremely religious, don't actually want to date virgins. Being a virgin is a little daunting, as it comes with the implication that you're expecting marriage, not just commitment. There's also an eventual question of sexual desire and interest. My husband, a religious man, has openly admitted that, while he appreciated my n-cou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 08:24 PM |
| 11 | How to overcome fear of increasing NCOUNT> alphas don’t really wait for sex This isn't true. Sure, they're not going to wait until engagement, especially when you're not a virgin, but it's not unreasonable to expect an alpha guy, especially one with just the right balance of beta traits, to wait until you've established a relationship. You're 27. Six is not that bad. This sub can provide a great toolbox, but that's all it is. Don't over read and panic. > I was thinking that now that I already had 6 partners in the past I don’t have muc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 08:00 PM |
| 4 | Would it be hypocritical want to be with a virgin, not being a virgin myself?> I feel hypocritical though because I didn’t save myself. I'd say that's an accurate description, honestly. Unless you're dating in very religious circles, I don't think you'll find a virgin, but I guess it depends on age. You also have to consider that anyone who values their own virginity will value yours... which you no longer claim. I'd suggest you look for someone like yourself, with a low number and who takes sex seriously. That's totally doable. As you get older, sexual inexperience is n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 07:30 PM |
| 8 | What di you do if you need a RPW reminder?Marry a man who will call you on your shit, so bad habits can't become ingrained. Seriously, I know waaaaay too many doormats, my brother being one of them, and I always find myself thinking "If I did that, that would be one helluva fight." | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 12:35 PM |
| 15 | About to leave my husband for the new manHe's not destroying your life. You are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 08:57 PM |
| 31 | ConendrumThis sub loves to mention the risk of problems for a woman conceiving past 35, but no one ever mentions the increase in autism when a man is older. You should research this and be aware of all the possibilities. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 04:50 PM |
| 13 | About to leave my husband for the new manHe can literally hire out everything you've mentioned. Good luck hiring someone for the role of husband, when all this falls through and you're 10 years older than the last time you were single. Your husband, of course, will just be 10 years more successful and wiser. He'll be quite the catch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 03:19 PM |
| 10 | I'm recently single and feeling overwhelmedYou're not only allowed some recovery time after a relationship, you need it. Women who have to be in a relationship all the time usually end up vetting poorly and find themselves in less than desirable relationships and situations. Follow your instinct on this one. If a man you might like to date shows interest, simply tell him you like him as well, but you're not ready to date yet. If he presses, he's probably not a great prospect anyway. As for the men who annoy you, you owe them nothing but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 10:18 AM |
| 2 | What is the RPW stance on porn use in a marriage / LTR?We're without porn and social media and I think it's made our marriage much stronger. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 01:46 AM |
| 3 | What is the RPW stance on porn use in a marriage / LTR?To my knowledge, there is not an official RPW stance. I think the most important thing is to agree and abide by the agreement, whether that's watching it less than X amount or only watching it together or doing whatever you want as long as it's kept private... or not watching it at all. My husband and I have an agreement that neither of us will look at porn. It's just not worth the risk to the marriage. We have moral objections, but it's more about the practical issues, like mental and physical … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/19 11:08 PM |
| 3 | Happily married women, what are your love stories?We met on a dating app. I was 27 and he was 30. I worked two jobs. He was in oil. We lived an hour apart. We'd have never met otherwise. He'd messaged first, months earlier, but for whatever reason, I didn't see it. I messaged him and we texted for less than a week, before I suggested we meet. The last guy had looked very different from his picture, so I was eager to move things offline. I suggested coffee (low commitment and low cost) and he insisted on sushi for lunch. There was no Disney movi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/19 02:41 PM |
| 1 | My best friend is lying to meThird party advice from people on the internet isn't reliable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/19 12:03 AM |
| 4 | Feminine coat suggestions?I second a peacoat, especially one that flairs a little at the waist. I have two Liz Claiborne ones I love, one in light pink and one in black. They're both really feminine, but the black one is more appropriate for more serious settings (i.e. funerals). | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/19 11:06 PM |
| 8 | Emotional outburstsWhether you can afford it or not, you need therapy. Look into free anger management courses in your area and if you can't find anything, look for books on it. Take the recommendations to heart. It honestly sounds like you may have some serious hereditary mental conditions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/19 10:04 PM |
| 3 | Should I let my bf know I’m reading the Surrendered WifeI'm actually a librarian. If she's near a strong system, she can likely download it in audio or ebook, through Libby as well. In mine, you can even request they purchase it for you and you'll be first on the list. No need to even risk him seeing it, OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/19 05:33 AM |
| 23 | I don't really care about appreciation ...I'm an Acts of Service gal. He never has to thank me for always keeping up with the laundry (my chore), if he stays on top of the dishes (his chore). I don't need praise for doing what I'm supposed to do and fortunately for me, neither does he. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/19 04:37 PM |
| 23 | Should I let my bf know I’m reading the Surrendered WifeGet this book on your own. Save his credits for less pointed reading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/19 11:57 AM |
| 12 | I'm clumsy, absent minded, and "behind" compared to other women my age(28). Boyfriend gets upset at my lack of common sense.I very much felt that, while OP is behind, her boyfriend sound unreasonable. Sure, wash your hands before touching food, but my husband would rarely expect me to grab the right tool the first time and he'd never get mad at me for failing to do so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/19 03:25 AM |
| 15 | For women who work in an office, do the women there get along well?Contrary to popular belief, librarians have a lot of work to do, so my coworkers and I really don't have much time for toxicity. It's a female lead field, but the professionals all get along fairly well. The greatest tension I've seen has been among those who just consider their position to be a job, like the circulation clerks. Passionate people tend to have more important things to focus on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 08:13 PM |
| 2 | How to manage a seemingly sudden libido difference?Well, for one, I'd stop logging sex in the app, if you're not trying to get pregnant. That's a needless reminder. However, based on what you've said, the time may have come to just ask him about this. You don't have to be accusatory or cruel, but I think it's fair to say something along the lines of "I've noticed we don't get to be together as much as we did before we moved in together and I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong." The answer might be something you didn't know about and it mig… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 04:29 PM |
| 12 | How to manage a seemingly sudden libido difference?Without animosity, I'm going to say that you're being really self-absorbed about this. I understand assuming you're the problem, but if things were great until now, it's likely there are other things going on in his life that are stressing him out. You're right in thinking you shouldn't point fingers, but perhaps you should investigate, without considering your own sex life first. For example, instead of saying "We don't have sex as much these days and it's really bothering me" ask "Is there any… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 12:39 PM |
| 31 | How do you deal with RBF(Resting Bitch Face)? 19FYour resting face isn't the only problem, though putting effort into making it more pleasant is a good idea, not just for relationships, but professionally and just interacting with the world in general. Smile at people, often. It'll feel weird at first, but you'll generally be perceived as friendlier and they'll be friendlier in response. As for the weight, you're aware that it's an issue and what it means, so I'll just tell you to work what you have better. Buy nice clothes that fit well and f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 05:30 PM |
| 10 | Paying for a man> i have know so many married couples where the woman earns more and pays more, but the husband cheats. It's a leap to equate these two. My husband paid for everything while we were dating, in part for the sake of chivalry, but also because I was working two jobs with no benefits, until right after we got engaged and he made bank in oil. Now, he's left oil, so he can be home more and I make more money, because I have a master's degree. We have a joint account and don't discuss who makes more, be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 02:29 PM |
| 12 | Scared to settle. Is love enough?You're feeling very unsettled in this relationship at 21. How are you going to feel at 31? Sometimes you just can't shake that feeling that something is missing and while your reasons aren't red flags, they do speak to an issue of incompatibility, mostly the uneven intellectual footing. My husband and I debate current issues all the time. I could never be with someone who wasn't intellectually stimulating... but I know plenty of women who can. I think you really need to consider how you're going… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Should women pursue men?Nope. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 09:16 PM |
| 32 | Can't stay in a relationship, always thinking I can find betterPerhaps it would benefit you to see a therapist. This level of commitment phobia isn't really normal. That being said, maybe it would comfort you to know that the butterflies always fade. I love my husband more than anything, but the excitement of the new relationship is long gone. Keep in mind that the next guy will fade into normalcy as well. If you don't want a relationship, you don't have to have one... and it sounds like maybe you don't. If you're certain you want marriage, though, you real… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 02:57 AM |
| 9 | Should women pursue men?My husband messaged me months before I messaged him and I never responded. Based on the timeline, I was either talking to someone or was off dating. If I hadn't messaged him, he wouldn't have tried again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/19 08:09 PM |
| 88 | Should women pursue men?I think one of the reasons women struggle with online dating is because they take the "dating" part a bit too literally. You're not dating anyone yet. You're just connecting with people who want to meet. It's really very different and messaging first is not a masculine move, especially since men have so little luck getting women to respond to them. I'd suggest a short message saying hi and asking a question about something on his profile to show you read it and give him something to say. Then me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/19 05:04 PM |
| 11 | What are some nice gestures you do for your man that says "I love you"?I buy him little gifts, like the gummy turtles he likes or a Monster drink. I made him a prize ribbon at work, the other day, that said "Best husband ever." He won't wear it or anything, but it made him smile. I put dinner in the crockpot, while he's at work, as a surprise when he gets home. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/19 02:35 AM |
| 3 | Why am I struggling so much in life?Well, you get what give. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/19 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Why am I struggling so much in life?Leaving the country seems like a strong reaction to Resting Bitch Face. You say your mom starts arguments, but have you tried heeding her advice and generally putting on a friendlier demeanor? Being unapproachable won't only cause problems in your relationships, but your career as well. I would suggest you genuinely try to smile more and appear more approachable, such as by not looking at your phone or wearing headphones in public. Get better at small talk, as well. I understand that it seems st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/19 06:59 PM |
| 4 | If you had the opportunity to go back to your early 20s, what would you do differently?I deleted all of it a couple of years ago and I feel so much better. I feel like I have more free time, like I'm more in the moment, less stressed. It was totally worth it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 05:54 PM |
| 2 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueYou give such great examples! Communication is probably one of the earliest ways to show value, by being responsive, but not coming on too strongly. My husband immediately messaged me after our first date, as in a few hours later, to tell me he had a great time and would like to see me again before he returned to the rig. When he was at work for long stretches (a week at a time), we'd text, but not excessively, so it was clear we both had lives and other investments. She hated snowboarding and I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 04:30 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI didn't look that closely, but online dating definitely favors women. My husband had some terrible stories. It was just all that was readily available to him, since he worked in oil and lived in a rural area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 04:22 PM |
| 2 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring value> That's a dissonant take, since every post with oneitis on the main sub always has "She's not yours, it's just your turn" as the top comment. RPW quite frequently suggests women avoid the main sub, since the goals of the two are openly and admittedly completely different. I'm not referencing the main sub. I'm referencing this one and that's a pretty standard comment, often from men who frequent TRP, in fact. > You're also the first one to raise the notion of weight, so be encouraged to reflect … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 04:05 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI checked the post history and they're a first time poster on RPW, so at this point, I'm kind of taking this as advice from a visitor who just stumbled upon us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 03:52 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI provided an anecdote for an anecdote, correct. Here are several to your one, if you're interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/an3ycb/share_your_online_dating_success_story/ I never suggested OP "substitute," rather supplement. Online dating profiles are designed to meet people who want to find a date, yes. I didn't ignore that point, because it wasn't a point, but a definition of online dating. No, you can't solely vet based on a profile and that's why you should be meeting… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 03:24 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueOn your first few dates, what are some ways your gal demonstrated these traits? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 12:45 PM |
| 7 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueYour rant is unrelated to my post. OP asked about early dating strategies, not long term marriage strategies. Could my husband leave me? Sure, but he obviously found me "irreplaceable" enough to marry in the first place and that was OP's question. I never said marriage was a sure thing. The word choice and emphasis were OP's, hence the quotations. I simply chose to stay on topic rather than debate semantics, since her idea is clear. Her somewhat hyperbolic phrasing doesn't change the fact that s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 12:31 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueYour story is anecdotal. We have a lot more anecdotal online dating success stories on here. For some people, dating options are limited and refusing to date online is a bad idea. I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but that doesn't make online dating a bad idea across the board. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 12:26 PM |
| 7 | Is it too late for me to become a good wife?I know a lot of very traditional people who have "don't ask don't tell" arrangements. Literally, there's an agreement that everything before they met stays in the past. That's your best bet here, to be able to tell a man "I was pretty wild" and have him respond in kind, with an agreement not to discuss it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 03:29 AM |
| 6 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueIt comes on really strong when it doesn't come up organically. You're a total stranger on that first date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 01:28 AM |
| 23 | If you had the opportunity to go back to your early 20s, what would you do differently?I'd make different friends, mostly. I wouldn't be as catty. I'd use social media less and generally make better use of my time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 01:27 AM |
| 6 | Advice on next step in 4 month relationshipI'm glad things are going so well, but it's been four months. It's not reasonable to expect this level of commitment from him yet and I wouldn't hint at it. My husband and I lived over an hour apart for the first year and only then did we begin to discuss marriage. We got engaged about six months later and then we moved in together. Give it time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 01:27 AM |
| 2 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI mean that because it was a first or second date, it was obviously just hypothetical and not a hint at when I wanted him to marry ME or vice versa. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 01:22 AM |
| 13 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI always knew by date three, whether or not there was any connection. You can usually bring up "important questions" organically. For example, on our first real date, my husband mentioned a friend of his who was getting married and how the couple had been together since college. I mentioned a friend who was still waiting for a ring and they'd lived together three years. This very naturally lead to a discussion of what our timelines were, loosely, which wasn't too threatening, since it was waaaay… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 11:28 PM |
| 56 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueIrreplaceable seems like an unrealistic goal for dating. I'd say I'm "irreplaceable" to my husband, but until we were engaged, I don't think I could have made that claim. If you're looking to "lock down" a good guy, you might simply need to work on your exposure to them. Date. A lot. There are so many good men who could be marriage material and if you're not meeting them because you're being overly picky or you're refusing to date online or you're too shy to join a church group, then you're wast… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 07:27 PM |
| 5 | Do you think that women should lie about their age on dating sites?I remember talking to a man in an app the day before my 27th birthday. He asked me why my age kept changing from 26 to 27. I told him, honestly, that I didn't know, but I assumed it had to do with my birthday. He stopped talking to me and I'm certain he felt like I was lying to him. No one appreciates a lie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 09:00 PM |
| 15 | Do you think that women should lie about their age on dating sites?No one should lie on dating apps. There's literally no excuse for men or women. People choose their dating parameters and it's not right to take that from them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Doormat vs. wgtowAssertiveness and politeness are not mutually exclusive. You can absolutely tell a man "No, thank you. I'm not drinking right now," with a sweet smile. I remember when my husband and I had been dating for a few months and went to the fair for the first time. A man was selling leather conditioner and was being quite aggressive about trying it out on my leather purse. I stood my ground and told him "No. Thank you. I'm not doing that." I said it repeatedly and he pushed harder each time, before fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 03:33 PM |
| 24 | Any experiences on hypergamy as a virgin?> I want to marry a provider and live as a kept woman. We've been seeing a lot of this lately and it's a really bold statement. A good man is a whole person with feelings, goals, dreams, likes and dislikes. I understand wanting to be with someone successful, but you really need to flesh out your vetting parameters, because most successful men will be incredibly turned off by the idea that this is your number one requirement. So my advice is to develop some additional standards, such as the type … | /r/RedPillWives | 28/09/19 06:32 PM |
| 6 | More info on Nun Mode?It's a strange thing to have left out, considering it's the core concept. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/19 04:49 PM |
| 3 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?I'm assuming they mean a ho phase. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 10:13 PM |
| 12 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?At 27, I had 1. My SIL was a virgin on her wedding day at 24. My sister is 25 and a virgin. We live in the South, a heavily Christian area. I think you're right that it can really vary by location, but I personally never struggled to keep my number low. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 04:14 PM |
| 7 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?My wife had a N-count of 12-15, and that became an issue before we got married. I was ultimately cool with it, and it doesn't bother me much now, but she was my 7th! Exactly. This was a reality you could get past, but it wasn't an ideal. My n-count at 27 was one. I never had trouble keeping it low. I'm not suggesting it's the norm, but I don't think "less than five" is just unobtainable, especially when we're specifically discussing aspirations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 02:38 PM |
| 7 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?I'm not the one who started the discussion. She asked for ideals. We could go on for pages about possible exceptions, not only for n-count, but age and divorce and weight and potential disabilities or emotional disorders. Less than 5 sexual partners was hardly an unreachable goal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 02:36 PM |
| 12 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?We're specifically discussing ideals, not acceptable realities. I know mileage varies culturally and regionally, but 5 is often mentioned as a cap in TRP. Ideally a woman wouldn't be single by 30 anyway and never went through an "h-phase." I know plenty of women between 25 and 30 who meet this expectation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 12:03 PM |
| 4 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?I'd say I usually see it stated as a max, so over 22, perhaps. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 03:22 AM |
| 17 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?I know that a “perfect” archetype or blue print does exist because I’ve noticed that the closer a woman is to a certain ideal, the more she is indeed considered “beautiful”, and that a lot of what is considered attractive or beautiful have things in common. There simply can't be a perfect archetype, because tastes, goals, and worldviews vary. For instance: What does she look like? I could never take a man in a sweater vest seriously. My husband, however, wears rodeo vests and cowboy hats and man… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Engagement Ring ShoppingThree months salary has always sounded ludicrous to me. Based on his income, I'd recommend the 7k-10k range for the engagement right and wedding band and 10k still seems really high for jewelry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:54 PM |
| 9 | Bagging a Rich ManI respectfully disagree with this method. Because....what's keeping a man from leaving you years down the road? Character. Love. You're right and I think vetting with his bank account as the primary consideration is a terrible strategy, because there's no proof a rich man won't do exactly the same thing. Meeting a good man who has the tools to become successful and serving as his rock while he makes it, seems like a better strategy than being a trophy wife right of the gate. To be clear, I am gi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:37 PM |
| 20 | Taking the Effort to Dress More Feminine WORKS!I started wearing dresses years ago and I get so much more respect from all genders and ages. I also work with teens, so I like sending the message that you can dress up, even if everyone else is wearing jeans. I do it for myself. It feels good and really, dresses are pretty danged comfortable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:32 PM |
| 9 | Bagging a Rich ManWhat are the odds, though, that the second or third wife has any staying power? Men who are going to upgrade are going to upgrade. Middle income guys do that. Honestly, everything we've both said just kind of outlines why this isn't a wonderful goal. Wealth says nothing of loyalty or fidelity. If that's what's first on the list, then it will always be more fragile than if OP placed deeper characteristics a little higher. Focusing on who he is, more than what he has, will always be a better vetti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 03:35 PM |
| 11 | Bagging a Rich ManMy point was that rich men have a lot more options and building him up over the years is likelier to earn a more stable place in his life than requiring a six figure income in your dating prospects from day one. That's much likelier to make OP look like a gold digger, which was one of her concerns. The best way to encourage and support anyone is when they need the most encouragement and support, not when they've already arrived. I didn't claim a guarantee. There are no guarantees. Some of them w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 01:22 PM |
| 7 | boyfriend troubleI meant more like 25, not 45. The issues you highlight are pretty standard for 22-year-old men. I'm not sure how you define "get along with," but trust seems pretty important. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:38 AM |
| 13 | boyfriend troubleYou don't trust him and it doesn't seem like you should. It doesn't sound like you can get past these things. Consider cutting your losses and dating guys a little older. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:17 AM |
| 14 | Bagging a Rich ManI actually had the opposite problem. My husband made big money in oil when we met... but I grew up with a hardworking blue collar dad and he was never home. I begged my husband to leave and start a new profession, one that will never have the same payout. OP needs to prepare for a lot of lonely nights, which suck a lot more when the baby is sick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:02 AM |
| 43 | Bagging a Rich ManI know a lot of women, married to very successful men, who have played the role you describe. None of them married a "rich" man. They married a man with the tools to become a rich man. A rich man doesn't need your loyalty and encouragement, because he's already made it. You offer nothing he can't get from literally any woman. You're essentially disposable to a rich man, because you're not getting hotter or younger and you've done nothing to earn his devotion. The woman who marries the general ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 03:54 AM |
| 13 | Is it possible to overcome abuse without seeing a therapist?After years of physical abuse by my mother, in addition to some terrible therapy sessions and far too high a dosage of antidepressants, I married at 19. My ex-husband set my house on fire, killing all of my pets, stole from me, refused to work, abused my new dog, and raped me. Due to a lack of funds and time, when I was working two jobs and attending grad school, therapy wasn't an option. I went back to church and took a lot of time to feel safe and recover. I reconnected with family and friends… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/19 12:37 AM |
| 5 | Guy Just Trying to Hook Up? Should I Cancel?I disagree with all the people claiming his behavior is excusable, because he's not invested. I had plenty of men put in more effort than this for a first date, let alone a second one, my husband being one of them. If he wants a relationship, he'll make the effort. If he doesn't, do you really want to take on the job of convincing him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/19 11:56 AM |
| 6 | How to break back into dating after Nun Mode?I'd start by blocking this guy. Then I'd suggest you start going out in groups, doing things where you can start talking to men organically, in a non-threatening way, maybe even cultivate some male friendships. When you're ready, try dating again, but as another commenter stated, you don't have to do it now, just because it's been one year. As for the disgust? I never liked the idea of even kissing someone I didn't know. I was so hesitant that my husband didn't kiss me until the 6th date. I have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/19 01:28 PM |
| 10 | What do you owe a man you just started dating?I've always felt we over exaggerate these things. If someone meets someone online, talks for three days, has a date, and one person decides it's just not for them, I don't feel like they owe them anything. It was literally a first meet. Yet, we title it ghosting and act like it's this cruel thing to just move along. In your scenario, I would typically say five dates at least warrants a text message, but he's apparently not interested either! It sounds like you both feel obligated. Just move on b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/19 12:39 AM |
| 30 | When a LTR isn't worth saving / how much should I sacrifice for him? / Are these actually red flags or not?I could see him being a great father one day. It doesn't sound like he can, though, considering he claims he can barely plan a week in advance. At 26, he should be able to picture the future, if he's in a committed relationship. It's hard, because for every concern I have about his potential red flags, I can see the problem from his perspective. Love goggles will do that to you. Also, I haven't dated since I was 19 - and I know it's very hard to find a man willing to settle down in the way we ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/19 06:02 PM |
| 3 | The too perfect gentleman-(No escalation or physical intimacy is leaving me very confused)In your original post, it does sound like more of a focus on getting laid than what you've said here. If what you need is hand holding and cuddling, and he's not offering it, I'd suggest you initiate. However, do so with the understanding that some people don't find this kind of touch important, and he may not be into it. If touchy feely intimacy is what makes you feel loved, I think it's fair to keep looking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/19 12:57 PM |
| 2 | How to start wearing heels (again)?It doesn't really bother him, but I find it disorienting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/19 10:13 PM |
| 52 | How to start wearing heels (again)?I hate heels. They're pretty, but they're just too uncomfortable for me and they make me appear taller than my husband. I stick to flats, with my pretty dresses and they still look nice. So, that's an option, if you decide, however: > I don't want to get the "Oooh you look nice -- where are you off to tonight? This is a bad reason not to wear heels. If you keep it up for two weeks, they'll eventually stop commenting. Do whatever you want. I promise no one's paying as much attention to you as you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/19 02:28 PM |
| 3 | How to be a better person?It is. I have many friends who aren't particularly funny and they're wonderful people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/19 12:32 PM |
| 3 | Am I being unfair?It's her choice what age she dates and if she wants to eliminate everyone outside that age bracket, so be it, just as the reverse is true for a man, regardless of reasoning. Should he also he allowed to lie about employment, smoking status, and religion, so more women will see his profile? That's a terrible justification. No one here would ever claim it was reasonable or respectful to potential dates, for a woman to claim she was 35, when she's 45, even if her child-bearing days were behind her.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 10:36 PM |
| 6 | Am I being unfair?50 is a great description for anyone who has the lifespan of a 50-year-old. You're talking about 10 fewer years of health. She can see that he looks good for his age, without him lying about it. Someone can lose weight. He cannot get 10 years younger, 10 years further from erectile disfunction, or greater cancer risks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 05:33 PM |
| 33 | How to be a better person?Be nicer. It sounds simple, but it's actually very difficult for some women to cultivate a kinder personality, especially in their twenties, when women in modern society are very competitive and antagonistic. Keep in mind that, of the things you can be, funny is like the 5th most important, behind kind, hardworking, intelligent, and loyal. There's so much emphasis on humor in the media we consume, that it's easy to hear the laugh track in our heads and forget that Chandler Bing was kind of an as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 02:33 PM |
| 3 | How to stop being scared of ending up alone?You need to go back to your therapist. The internet cannot solve this problem for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 02:29 PM |
| 6 | Am I being unfair?The same argument could be said for any lie. If a woman lies about being divorced or deliberately misleads someone as to her weight, because they wouldn't otherwise give her a chance, is it okay? OP chooses her dating parameters, just like men choose theirs. He deliberately took that from her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 11:04 AM |
| 7 | Am I being unfair?I'll preface this by saying anyone who lies about their weight deserves the awkward date and no contact that follows... but you can lose weight or misjudge how much you still look like that photo. You don't forget your age and can't get younger. That will always be a flat out, deliberate lie, which is pretty reasonably not "nothing big." | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 03:42 AM |
| 7 | Am I being unfair?This is a really big lie and any really big lie is a red flag, whether it's about being divorced or having a kid or his job. This is extremely disrespectful of him. The argument that you wouldn't have met him otherwise is literally the exact argument women make when they bait and switch guys by posting thinner/more flattering photos. It's your choice what age men you date and he deliberately took that from you. I would immediately break it off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Is No One Monogamous Anymore?I think anyone who is genuinely poly, is probably pretty upfront about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 02:43 AM |
| 26 | How to stop being scared of ending up alone?You're not going to like this response, but hear me out: nun-mode... hard. You're newly twenty, not twenty-nine and 10 months. You have plenty of time to get your head on straight... because from what I'm reading, it's really not. You're acting erratically and desperately and you're clinging to anyone who comes along and that is absolutely not the frame of mind you want to be in, when you get in a committed relationship. That is an excellent way to end up with a loser or an abusive psychopath...… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 02:39 AM |
| 6 | Is chemistry due to large SMV difference?This idea is just as silly as love at first sight. People become mutually infatuated all the time. It doesn't mean anyone is out of anyone else's league, just that they're really susceptible to having a relationship right now. True chemistry is an acknowledgement of potential physical attraction, but also conversational and emotional. You feel like you can talk to this person and enjoy being around them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/19 12:30 PM |
| 4 | Can’t find a man, living in a feminist cityEveryone plays games early on. It's not manipulative. It's feeling out a stranger. What you're talking about is actually super awkward in most cases. "Hi. You're really cute and I'd like to get to know you better." "Um... I'd just like to get some cottage cheese." | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/19 12:24 PM |
| 22 | Is No One Monogamous Anymore?I generally think this is just trendy, right now, the way BDSM was for awhile. That's not to say that no one genuinely appreciates this lifestyle, just that I'd guess it's fewer than claim to, today. Your newest guy likely isn't polyamorous. He just likes sleeping with multiple women. Polyamory implies a true relationship with multiple people, a group relationship even, and most people find the one commitment exhausting enough. That being said, no, this is not the norm. Most people, at a point i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/19 12:20 PM |
| 9 | Nun mode vs the wallIf you want children for sure and he does not, I would keep looking. There are so many people out there with whom you could be compatible and this is a pretty reasonable deal breaker. That doesn't mean you shouldn't go on the date, though! That first date can be a great way to cut your teeth on the whole dating thing, in general, whether there's a future or not. It's worth noting, at 29, that you'll find online dating to be your primary source for meeting men, depending on your location. Look fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/19 05:21 PM |
| 21 | Nun mode vs the wallWe never stop growing, nor should we. If you're excited about this guy, I'd say it's safe to leave the convent. You don't need to settle, but you do need to be realistic about the boys you can bring to the yard. As long as you're doing that, I think it's fair to keep improving, while also looking for love. I wouldn't waste more time at 29. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/19 12:33 PM |
| 1 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenRight, but an additional 10 years can go a long way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 03:03 PM |
| 4 | Would it be a good idea to date someone who is attracted to you overall and likes almost everything about you physically, except a defining facial feature?The first time I met my husband, I thought his eyes were too close together. Now he's just my husband and I think he's super handsome. I don't know what the facial feature is, but these things eventually settle and it's just how they look. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 03:00 AM |
| 48 | Has anyone here thought that they would never get married but ended up getting married?I got divorced at 23 and, in the South, everyone else is sharing photos of engagement rings and ultrasounds at that point in life. I thought it was all over for me and I'd never have the nuclear family I wanted. I had really low self-esteem and was massively overweight. Over the next couple of years, though, I lost about 110 pounds and learned to do my makeup and started wearing cute dresses. I did go through a period of about two years, where I wasn't sure I ever wanted to get married again. It… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 02:58 AM |
| 5 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenIt's hard to accept that women have to make this choice so young, when men have more time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 05:29 PM |
| 4 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenI'm not sure what RP men you're quoting, but spinning plates is heavily encouraged in TRP, until a man finds a woman with whom he wants to settle down, if he does. Yes, they should be careful about doing so, but I'm not sure it's the norm to suggest that men "refrain from casual sex." I mean, the phrase "spinning plates" exists for a reason and a single visit to the TRP sub contradicts this claim. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 04:37 PM |
| 5 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenDifferent people can react differently to the same facts. For example, let's say the facts say that women are born rich and become poor, because they're as hot and fertile and low baggage as they'll ever be at about 24. One woman can use this to get all the validation and praise she wants. She'll sleep with different men, date the hottest guys, use betas for their resources, cause drama with other women, as she proves she can steal their boyfriends, etc. In the meantime, she'll rack up her sexua… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 04:35 PM |
| 27 | Might be a superficial questionMy husband is only two inches taller than I am. I remember being slightly disappointed that he wasn't taller, but I literally never think about it anymore. I promise it will mean absolutely nothing to you when the baby is sick at 2am. It's funny because this is something women turn men down for all the time and I'm glad for it, because it meant my husband was still available. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 02:37 PM |
| 10 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenIt's not about values. It's about acknowledging the same truths and working to get the best outcome for yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 09:17 AM |
| 23 | Is this a red flag?Don't tell him something is his decision, unless you're comfortable with both outcomes. It's actually pretty gracious of him to apologize, considering he chose an option you deemed acceptable. It's been three months. It's not his responsibility to handle dinner without actually being asked. Even after five years, you're not going to feel "cherished" every second of every day. This is an absolutely ridiculous expectation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 09:14 AM |
| 7 | Major Help Needed to Become More Feminine/TraditionalI'm questioning the authority you have to comment in this particular female space. There are some reliable male RP commenters here, but they have established accounts and have been participating in their own subs for years, before coming here and lecturing the women folk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 04:21 AM |
| 11 | How did you meet your boyfriend/husband?Online dating. He messaged once and I apparently ignored him. I never remembered, but I'm guessing I was talking to someone else. I messaged him about six months later. We talked for less than a week, realized we had the fundamentals in common, and met in person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 01:12 AM |
| 7 | Major Help Needed to Become More Feminine/TraditionalYou just said you married someone without kids, so obviously it didn't work out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 11:59 PM |
| 9 | Major Help Needed to Become More Feminine/TraditionalRP heavily warns men against marriage, which is why we frequently advise women avoid men who are familiar with it, on this sub. It's also literally exactly what you've said in every comment, that you'd never be able to reconcile her with her past. You went on and on about it and even conceded that she wouldn't want someone "as RP as" you, yet your account is 14 days old. You aren't exactly an authority. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 11:51 PM |
| 7 | Major Help Needed to Become More Feminine/TraditionalReading the comments, I'd suggest you avoid any men familiar with RP theory. They're not generally looking for commitment and the few who are won't be able to move past their dealbreakers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 11:02 PM |
| 64 | What are your favorite physical appearance pro tips?If you're going for sexy classy, choose between three: tight, low cut, or short. If you're tight on bottom, always go loose on top and vice versa. Personally, I don't wear lipstick or eye shadow unless it's a special occasion. Lighter makeup makes me look more youthful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 04:11 PM |
| 4 | What Is Your Ideal 'Timeline' For A Romantic Relationship?My husband kissed me for the first time on our 6th date. We met online, so he felt like a stranger, and I was heavily telegraphing my inexperience, so he waited. That night, we made out and I took off my shirt, but it didn't go any further. After two more dates, he told me he had gone to the doctor and discovered he had HPV, so I scheduled the first Gardasil shot for myself, since I definitely didn't have it. Since I was paying out of pocket for the vaccine (around $800), we limited our sexual a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 03:59 PM |
| 22 | Why is it hard for some women to be feminine ? Shouldn't it come naturally ?I think our personal models impact this the most. My mother was a nurse and wore scrubs every day. She wasn't allowed nail polish or much jewelry. Unsurprisingly, the lack of necessity for feminine attire at work bled into her personal life and she was just generally frumpy. It was a learning experience and an effort in unselfconsciousness to start wearing dresses and makeup. Even then, I had to concede that some things, like heels and complicated hairstyles, just weren't for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/19 12:27 PM |
| 3 | What does Girl Game look like OUTSIDE a relationship?I have a high value man. I literally paid for myself once before I got a ring. I did plenty of nice things for him, but I was working two jobs and struggling, so they weren't financial. He was in oil and at a place where he was ready to support a wife. He also doesn't spend time on RP subs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/19 10:05 PM |
| 18 | Will losing 30 kilos (66 pounds) in 3 months cause loose skin?Consult a doctor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/19 01:14 PM |
| 3 | Undoing Mom's InfluenceExplanations are great, as long as they're backing up actions. Put your thoughts into practice for a few months and then talk about it with him, so it doesn't come across as an excuse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/19 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Looking for advice, found partner browsing Gone Wild?Porn is about a fantasy that you can't realistically fulfill with your partner. He looks at that stuff, because it's likely not something he'd actually want to do with you. Fantasy isn't reality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/19 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Looking for advice, found partner browsing Gone Wild?My husband and I have an open tech agreement. He can look at my search history (spoiler alert: calorie info and cat photos) and I can read his texts (pretty much texts from me). Neither of us really do, but there's no fear if he Googles something on my phone or I use his computer. That's how I know that he honors the agreement we have not to look at porn, because we feel it's an unnecessary risk to the marriage. All that being said, we've had this agreement since we got engaged. Before that, we … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 10:35 PM |
| 17 | Feeling stuck and slightly guilty> So in June I basically said I wanted to be married before moving to Germany and he seemingly agreed, but last weekend he opened out more and confessed that he was feeling scared about the idea of a marriage so soon. Neither of you are wrong for how you feel. I might concede that living together during engagement would be okay, but moving to another country is a huge commitment. If things go south, you're across the planet, assuming you're in the west. > Is this compromise still too pushy? I ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 06:34 PM |
| 12 | What dating advice would you give to your younger self after discovering TRP?I definitely agree that the kind of media you watch can make a big difference. It's easy to get lost in the Strong Independent Woman ideology and lost touch with reality. If you can compartmentalize and recognize what is and is not real, go for it, but learn to recognize with the rom-coms are altering your expectations of men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 06:30 PM |
| 17 | What dating advice would you give to your younger self after discovering TRP?Luckily for me, I never took their advice and still had an n-count of one, when I met my husband at 27. They're all single moms now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 06:06 PM |
| 22 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?Yes, yes, yes. Being able to support yourself and your family is a must. I'd say we should focus more on doing it in a fiscally responsible way, than not doing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 05:26 PM |
| 56 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?I totally agree. My husband has told me, point blank, that he wouldn't have dated me, had I not had a bachelor's degree. His family is very successful and his parents still have that 90s viewpoint that college is a must, so while he'd take a waitress home, he wouldn't have married her. From what he's told me, his years of "fun" were spent with women totally different from me, women to whom he'd have never committed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 02:34 PM |
| 64 | What dating advice would you give to your younger self after discovering TRP?Your friends are sluts and it hasn't worked out for them. They only encourage the same behavior in you, because misery loves company. Get new friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 02:17 PM |
| 7 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?This is my general thought on the subject. "If you're already living together, why not?" isn't as compelling of a reason to marry as "I want to be with this person, always." Living together makes breaking up a lot more difficult, so I was always an "all or none" gal. It worked for my husband and I. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 02:13 PM |
| 38 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?I disagree that relationships are as formulaic as we sometimes portray them. For example, I married a very alpha man and we go toe-to-toe a lot more than I imagine this sub would condone. If we didn't, though, we both know that he would steamroll me. Sometimes I have to remind him that he is not the only grownup in this marriage, at a level of insistence he will actually hear, despite what Laura Doyle might advise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 02:08 PM |
| 60 | Yes, men do prefer blondesMen prefer attractive women and women are most attractive when they dress for the body they were born with, including their skintone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 12:32 AM |
| 4 | Advice needed for my sister in her new marriageYou're sharing this information third party. If your sister wants advice or help, she needs to be asking for it herself. Sure, what you describe is abusive and crazy, but you're also not actually in the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/19 04:26 AM |
| 4 | Should I move on or try reclaim this on / off again flirtationship as something serious?I think it's fair to go no contact, at this point. You want different things and you need to move forward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/19 08:55 PM |
| 9 | Should I move on or try reclaim this on / off again flirtationship as something serious?He told you how he feels. He's clearly open to FWB, but that's all. Think about all the great guys who are ready for an LTR, who you're missing the chance to meet while you're hung up on this guy. You'll never be this young and hot and baggage free. Don't waste your time on this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/19 05:36 PM |
| 14 | For College GirlsThis advice could not possibly be more specific to your own personal experience. I'm glad it worked for you, but it translates poorly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 11:43 PM |
| 9 | How Big of a Misstep is This?How old are you? How prevalent are house parties in his life? His friend got a new place and celebrated, while you were visiting your aunt? That I'd almost get. It was the weekend and another guy from high school had a party? Nope. This is pretty basic relationship, stuff, honoring a mutual agreement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 03:10 AM |
| 17 | How do you determine commitment?Verbal affirmation is the only way to determine commitment. If he hasn't said it, it's not there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/19 05:24 PM |
| 3 | HomeschoolingI agree with this. Some of my homeschool teens at work have some blind spots, but they're no more serious than the ones my public school kids have. There are right and wrong ways to do both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/19 02:26 AM |
| 5 | Boyfriend having a lot of girlfriends - when is it a bad sign?I'd call his combination of behaviors a red flag, since he's showing less interest in a long distance relationship, has a high n-count, and only really mentions women at work. Individually, I'd say you could excuse these behaviors, but they're not a good sign together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 04:02 AM |
| 14 | HomeschoolingI'm a teen librarian and we have a huge homeschool following. I literally have like 18 kids a week in my homeschool programs. Many of them attend the same co ops, art, and athletics classes, too, because their parents met through the library and they've all teamed up. I definitely recommend seeing what your library offers. Most of my kids met through story time as littles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 03:59 AM |
| 2 | The importance of being accepted by partner’s parents- grandiose or small?Having a similar situation with my own mother, I can tell you that resolving this sort of thing is very painful and can take a long time to settle. If you're game for working that out with him, I guess that's alright, but it's not going to be resolved overnight and it may work itself out in a way that you're uncomfortable supporting. Personally, I'd want to know where everyone stood before commitment... but everyone has their challenges, so the answer is going to be found in the details. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/08/19 12:31 AM |
| 1 | The importance of being accepted by partner’s parents- grandiose or small?Yes. I couldn't really tell what OP is saying about the current state of his relationship with his parents. I think this probably needs to be resolved soon, before committing. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/08/19 12:29 AM |
| 16 | How to prepare for pregnancy?Librarian here! I've extensively researched pregnancy guides and the one I most recommend is The Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 10:46 PM |
| 3 | Awkward place between career and stay-at-home-motherhoodWe all have to make choices. This is no different than choosing marriage over single life or one career over another. You're always going to be saying no to one thing (career), when you say yes to another (SAHM). The sooner you own it and stop looking in other people's windows, the happier you'll be... and I say this as a woman who never plans to be a SAHM, but still wants kids. You don't have to answer to anyone but yourself and your family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 10:43 PM |
| 12 | I never get approached by men, like my sister does. How can i improve my situation?Attention from randos isn't exactly a great personal achievement, especially if you're the kind of girl who goes home with strangers. If you want a relationship, Girls Night Out is absolutely not the way to get it. If you just want validation, you should probably reconsider that as a personal goal and maybe take some time for yourself. Men will take anyone home. Strive to be the one they introduce to mom... or stay single until you're ready for that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 06:23 PM |
| 11 | Ideal living situation prior to marriageI loved living alone and now that I'm married, I'm so glad I got that experience. I know it's tough to afford in some parts of the country, but if it's an option, I'd highly recommend it while you're able. I had so much fun listening to bad pop music and binge watching Vampire Diaries and reading all night. I can't do those things as much now. Eventually, you'll live with your own family and it'll feel like you never get time alone. Enjoy every stage of life while it's happening. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 04:20 PM |
| 7 | The importance of being accepted by partner’s parents- grandiose or small?It doesn't sound like he wants to be close with his parents. If that's okay with you, I wouldn't consider it a red flag, assuming he has other functioning and healthy relationships in his life. My husband has never met my mother and if I have my way, he never will. He's always been very respectful of the fact that this is my decision and he doesn't really get a say. If he'd been judgy about this one messed up relationship, we wouldn't be together. Sometimes grownup relationships are complicated … | /r/RedPillWives | 29/08/19 01:54 PM |
| 10 | After going back and forth he wants to talk in person..good or bad sign?I think he's being totally honest with you, in that you're the right girl and it's the wrong time. If you wait around hoping the time will eventually be right, though, you'll be missing a lot of opportunities to meet men who are available now... and this guy may never be available... or when he is, he may still want a 24-year-old and five years might have passed, making you no longer the right girl. Just chalk this up to incompatibility and refuse to meet, when you've already settled it. Nothing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 06:43 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend studies PUA> I found him watching PUA videos about how to pick up women. This is indeed a red flag for anyone who claims to be in a committed relationship, especially at 36. Really, most men should be over this phase, by this point in their lives. That's not to say that a 36-year-old can't have casual sex, but that it's a little pathetic that he's researching how-to guides. > He also was watching porn when I was there (I thought he was sleeping so I was reading a book in another room). I won't delve into m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?Rory is exactly how Rory would turn out. I kind of loved that horrible ending. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?Ugh. Team Rogan all the way. He was perfect for her. He was my favorite. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 06:32 PM |
| 7 | My bestfriend (28/F) just got married to her bf of 5 years. This was another wakeup call to live my personal values. What do you think of my values?Then that's great for you, but it's still not likely. RPW is about acknowledging the truth and that's what people are telling you. Maybe you'll find someone within your faith who has also strayed and wants to right their path, but you've also expressed some extremely anti-sex sentiments, so it's not even so much about an unwillingness before marriage. From what you've said here, it sounds like you're not interested in sex at all and finding a man who's game for that is going to be very difficult… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 06:31 PM |
| 6 | My bestfriend (28/F) just got married to her bf of 5 years. This was another wakeup call to live my personal values. What do you think of my values?You literally asked what people thought of your "values" and this is the only one you listed. The thoughts you're getting are that you're not a virgin, so this is unrealistic at best and hypocritical at worst. You asked and you're responding with hostility. This is the RPW answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 05:31 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] Feminism & RedPillWomenPersonally, I refuse to identify myself by a term that means so many different things to different people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/19 09:21 PM |
| 11 | My bestfriend (28/F) just got married to her bf of 5 years. This was another wakeup call to live my personal values. What do you think of my values?It's unrealistic to wait until marriage, when you're no longer a virgin. Most men won't wait for what someone else got without waiting. This is a risk in the modern world. Wait for commitment and trust. Use protection always. 42k is a lot of money in many places. Consider relocating. Hair loss is unfortunate and it seems you're treating it, so try to carefully style your hair in the meantime. As for being fat, dress for your body type and start working out and eating right. If you're not sure ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/19 06:11 PM |
| 18 | My (F25) Partner's (M26) Father Diagnosed with CancerBe there the way he needs you, not the way you want to be needed and not the way you would need him. That could mean letting him cry or leaving him alone or letting him lose himself in some project. Just pay attention to what he needs and avoid projecting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/19 01:48 AM |
| 3 | I feel some type of wayGoogle literally lists it as a synonym. "submissive, yielding, unresisting, obedient, compliant, tame, biddable, tractable, acquiescent, deferential, weak, timid, frightened, spineless, spiritless, unprotesting, like a lamb to the slaughter;" OP needs to stand up for herself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/19 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Organising / SchedulingMy husband is actually super chill about reminders. He knows he forgets, so he actually asks for Honey Do lists and for me to remind him about things. Sometimes I'll see my work pals on Tuesday nights and if I'm planning to go, I'll give him a heads up a few days before and then the day before... because otherwise he'll forget. I think nagging is more of an issue of tone. You're allowed to politely remind him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/19 03:43 PM |
| 71 | I feel some type of wayRPW/traditional values is not an excuse to be a doormat. You're not Edith Bunker. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 11:04 PM |
| 23 | My bf (34) broke up with me (28) over text, did I sabotage the relationship?It doesn't sound like he's in a place to get invested in a relationship and he knows that. Yes, your response was inappropriate, but he doesn't speak respectfully to you either. Furthermore, you have no time together and that doesn't seem to be changing. Find someone who has a job that doesn't make him miserable. Literally, consider that a must. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 05:54 PM |
| 3 | ProposalBecause you're suggesting something that goes against their beliefs and goals. Why not find a man who wants the same things you want, instead of changing one who doesn't? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 12:32 PM |
| 6 | Waiting Until MarriageI mean, there is no magic moment, but I guess when I'd met his family and friends and he'd said "I love you." When I'd leave his house to go home, knowing I wouldn't see him until he got off his rig a week later and I cried. To some degree, it's also an equation. What boxes does he check for you, but also you for him? Is he someone you want to marry? Are you someone he would want to marry? There just isn't a Big Moment... and honestly, it's not the end of the world if you have a good, strong, he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/19 08:57 PM |
| 34 | ProposalRegardless of anyone's complicated explanation on this, if a man wants to marry you, he'll ask. That's still a common social norm. If he hasn't asked, it's because he doesn't want to marry you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/19 08:35 PM |
| 19 | Waiting Until MarriageI think your reasons to wait are valid, but that waiting until marriage is extreme... and even unreasonable when you're not religious. The pool of men willing to wait until marriage to experience this level of intimacy with their partner is already tiny, but the non-religious pool? I'd say it's almost non-existent. The good news is, you don't have to operate in extremes. You can wait a good long time to share this with a man, but still not wait until marriage. You're going to get a lot of commen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/19 08:28 PM |
| 15 | Women who broke up with their LTRs of 2 years+, do you still think about him? If so, what kind of thoughts?Sometimes I check the court dockets to see if he's in prison yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 11:58 PM |
| 7 | Can someone help me understand men's "pull away" need?This is something that happens in romance novels, not healthy relationships where two people trust each other. Do you not feel like he's invested generally, or is it just this? Because this is just another word for drama. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 11:54 PM |
| 3 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsAgreed. I got plenty of "hey," sometimes from guys who seemed decent, but were clearly making a shotgun effort by sending out dozens of low-effort messages. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 06:36 PM |
| 5 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsWe want casual sex, it's a matter of if we can get it or not That's such an unfair over generalization. Some men are actually over that phase in life and are seeking a committed relationship. I have a 26-year-old friend who is getting really tired of the number of women who don't put in any effort to form a relationship, too... and he's a catch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:54 PM |
| 5 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating apps> These guys are an instant left swipe from me. Your life is literally the easiest thing to write about. If he can't be bothered to type up a sentence or 2 about himself, he's not putting much effort in to finding a (serious) date and is most likely looking for a hookup. This was always an eye roll for me, as well. Why are you even bothering to make a profile, if you're not going to put down something. > The thing is, you can't possibly know if someone is being honest from one line of a profile.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsMine was actually on a different platform. He'd messaged on OKCupid and I messaged him on PoF. He remembered me, but I never remembered him. I'm just glad I sent that first message, because he wouldn't have sent another. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingIt just sounds like the most awkward time ever. I'd rather read a romance novel and be alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:19 PM |
| 3 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsIt's still a waste of time not to put real effort into it, which includes starting the conversation. Why not? It's literally a couple of minutes worth of effort, max. I met my husband online and apparently he'd sent me a message a few months earlier, when I must have been off dating or possibly talking to someone and I don't remember seeing it. I never responded, but messaged him a few months later. If I hadn't, it would have been a definite missed opportunity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellA lot of people also relate to depression and substance abuse. I can see that, but I also think it's a heavily romanticized outcome. For the most part, if you date a former addict with depression, you're going to be facing relapses and unemployment stretches, along with the financial hardships that accompany them. This a hard life and if you're a sweet, cute, awesome girl, you should probably keep looking. If they were RP, what would they have done? Both figured their stuff out, been more health… | /r/RedPillWives | 20/08/19 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellFor instance, who said it was "that hard?" I'm actually not referencing your video, so much as them as a couple and their social media presence, but also people like them: #relationshipgoals celebrities. They often open every discussion with talking about how hard marriage is and maybe it is for them, because of their lifestyle, but the average marriage shouldn't be such a challenge. However, I doubt it's the only thing they talk about, the biggest thing in their life, or that if you knew them a… | /r/RedPillWives | 20/08/19 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingThis is one reason one-night-stands sounded so unappealing to me. There's definitely a learning curve, no matter who you are, because different people like different things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 03:32 PM |
| 2 | What’s making relationships harder? (In your opinion)I think the assumption that everyone is doing it is more widespread, to be clear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 12:30 PM |
| 18 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsYou have to message people first. I get so tired of reading the advice not to do so, because that's the point of online dating and so many men are ignored for their opening messages so often, that many of them stop sending them. I mean, Bumble is popular and requires you to send the first message. Get to talking and get to meeting. It's a shame Tinder is all you've got, not because of it's reputation, but because of the limited information it requires, so you'll have to find these things out the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 12:27 PM |
| 3 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellI mean, I honestly think all actors are playing a character, even when they're not, so we really have no idea about their actual personalities, but it still seems odd to me that this is the couple so many look up to. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/19 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellOh, there are entire Buzzfeed articles about how perfect they are together. It's bizarre. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/19 06:31 PM |
| 6 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellOpposites attract, certainly, but I just don't find this iteration healthy. I'm a Suburbs Girl married to a Country Boy and it's all well and good, but Perpetual Screw Up meets Girl with Savior Complex? I just don't get why they're so many people's relationship goals couple. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/19 06:22 PM |
| 4 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingWe definitely came into it with really high expectations bc we waited so long and thought it would be just like the movies. I think I was even guiltier of this, because I knew he was experienced and then it was just... okay. It even kind of hurt the first time. It gets better. It all gets better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:29 PM |
| 2 | What’s making relationships harder? (In your opinion)> Hookups are a given now and men have come to expect them. If men can hookup with a bunch of women constantly, wouldn't it be quite a bit harder to actually get one in a relationship. I think this is true... until a man wants a long-term relationship, which many do still desire. So, yes, he can easily have his fun, but when he's ready to settle down, he'll still be looking for the woman who puts a little more thought into her bed partners. > all your friends are single and having fun on tinder.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?I loved the ending. Someone who has everything handed to her absolutely turns out to be an entitled screw up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:07 PM |
| 6 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellI've read articles about this couple and they constantly talk about how hard marriage is, a talking point I find a little tedious in general. It might be different for them, because they're actors and they're in the spotlight, but I don't think marriage should ever be that hard. For every day people, if their marriage is so hard, they probably vetted poorly. Perhaps their experience just doesn't translate well to Average Joes, but this video sort of just makes me think that the reason might be t… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/19 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Social Media UseIt has, indeed, taken years for my family to realize that I won't see their Facebook post, but they've finally adapted now that they've realized I'm not returning. They send screencaps and mostly, the people who care make an effort and the ones who don't don't matter. I only suggested deleting, because it seems to be causing a lot of drama for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:29 AM |
| 13 | What’s making relationships harder? (In your opinion)Promiscuity and the assumption that everyone is doing it have always been a societal issue, but I do think it's more widespread today, which makes relationships harder when you're dating and certainly in high school. I remember my friends shaming me for being inexperienced, but if I said one word about their legion of men, I was a jerk. I was 27, so I can only imagine how much more pervasive it is at 17. That's all the more reason I advise teens to wait until they're out of high school to have s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:26 AM |
| 14 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingI am definitely not a hunter, though I'm not against it. His hunting trips are a great excuse for me to binge watch all five terrible Twilight movies and eat snack foods for dinner. Buzz now gets to wear a sparkly pink Santa hat one month out of the year, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:21 AM |
| 21 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingI named him Buzz... and the fish Rex. They're still gross. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?It's so strange to love the show and hate the main characters, but I felt the same way. Poor Max. I hoped he found better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 01:37 AM |
| 16 | Social Media UseI actually deleted all social media, other than my anonymous blog and this Reddit, because of these issues. You don't have to have a presence online and I find it simpler to live without one. I spend more time with my husband, now that I'm not constantly being messaged by people I don't even know anymore. I find I'm less stressed by arguments with women from high school. I don't feel like I'm working all the time because of the work-related groups. Furthermore, I want children and I don't want t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 01:36 AM |
| 72 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingI didn't marry as a Christian virgin, but I did wait eight months to have sex with my husband, my second partner, after abstaining for six years. I'm gonna be honest. The sex was meh, at first. It was sweet, at best, awkward at worst... and he was far from inexperienced. He just hadn't been with anyone in a couple of years, after getting over the bar scene. I had all these romance novel sex scenes in my head and he wasn't able to fulfill those expectations, because it takes a bit for a man to ge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 01:26 AM |
| 35 | RPW who went from jobless and support-less to being financially and familial secure, what's your journey?I got divorced at 23, from an absolute sociopath. I was in my first year of grad school, substitute teaching and working for minimum wage as a rec aide at the community center. I weighed about 270 pounds when I'd finally had enough and told him I'd call the police on his warrant if he didn't go. I spent the next few months drinking myself into a horrible depression, because I couldn't file for divorce until I'd filed my taxes or I'd mess up my financial aid. Life generally sucked. Once the divor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 06:51 PM |
| 5 | Having trouble respecting my husband. Any advice would be appreciated.Wasting more time with him is literally the worst idea ever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 12:35 PM |
| 4 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?She screeched too much for me. She's literally the reason I couldn't get into the show. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?I love it, but I also love to critique it and goodness they had white people problems if I ever heard them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 12:32 PM |
| 18 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?Emily Gilmore. She was fierce and outspoken and still ran a successful household and managed to respect her husband. Lorelai was an ungrateful brat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 03:17 AM |
| 8 | Having trouble respecting my husband. Any advice would be appreciated.I left after four years and I was actually married. It's the best decision I ever made. This post made me want to go hug my husband and tell him how wonderful he is, because this was my first marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/19 03:10 PM |
| 14 | How long does it usually take to move on after a relationship and be able to fall in love again?> the mere idea of dating/being intimate/in a relationship with someone else makes me want to throw up You shouldn't be in an intimate relationship without commitment. Don't sleep with him before he's your boyfriend. Someone mentioned the term alpha widowed, but I'd suggest avoiding that research. It's often a self-fulfilling prophecy to think that he was so perfect, he ruined all other men for you, when you're 19 and you weren't even in a relationship. Give it a few more months and then just st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/19 03:05 PM |
| 2 | What Are Your Interior Decorating Tips?I hate that they take up the entire open space, where you could play with the dogs/kids instead. We use end tables. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/08/19 03:00 PM |
| 6 | What Are Your Interior Decorating Tips?My husband has gotten really good about acknowledging that I'm not going to do anything he hates, when it comes to the details, so we just hammer out the big stuff. He'll choose a color and I'll choose a shade, for instance. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/08/19 08:14 PM |
| 5 | What Are Your Interior Decorating Tips?My husband is not like most husbands. He has an opinion on everything. When we got engaged and I wanted to start planning our bedroom decor, we got in the biggest fight over a pillow. True story. Decorating was a real challenge for the longest time, because where he likes leather and dead animals, I like bright colors and pink glitter. That's a pretty big discrepancy that seems to be unique to the suburban librarian/Southern cattle rancher pairing. I didn't want our home to look like no man's ev… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/08/19 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Nun mode at 34?On that harsh by vaild note, check out the book Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 06:52 PM |
| 9 | What r u guy"s view on Incels?I don't feel sorry for people who can change, but won't. Just like the Health at Every Size girls, who get pissed that men don't think they're sexy in that two-piece, Incels are entitled and whiney. I was once a divorcee who weighed 270 pounds at 5'6". You know what I did? I dieted and exercised and lost over 100 pounds. Learned to dress and apply makeup. I went to grad school and got a great job that will work well with a family. Now I'm married to a great man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:37 PM |
| 10 | Nun mode at 34?> Do you think I can benefit on nun mode focusing on getting fit again and learning new skills? Everyone can benefit from this. Too many women never take time to themselves. > My goal is to be a mother and a wife , I know I’m a bit old and I can’t afford to waste more time being single. You are a bit old, where I'm from, to be spending a lot of time single. It sounds as though, based on your assessment, perhaps you're a bit old where you're from, as well. Take three months. Work out. Eat right. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Friend is being judgemental of my relationshipYou do seem to be moving kind of fast. It's okay to slow things down a little in your relationship. Don't let your faith make you too eager to commit. That being said, your friend does seem to be kind of jealous. It sounds like you have fundamentally different values and beliefs. It's okay to outgrow each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:27 AM |
| 8 | What are some career suggestions?I don't think this field is for you. You say you're behind in math and worried about science and literally everything you mention will require a lot of it. However, if this is what you really want, I'd suggest getting some kind of lower level position, working in the field, as an office assistant, for instance. This will give you an in to what the job is really like and it's something you can do part time while working toward your basics, because it doesn't sound like you're going to pass that p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:23 AM |
| 1 | What doe she want? Should I ask?He's on the rebound. You are, at best, his silver medal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:18 AM |
| 7 | Are there actually decent guys on dating apps? Tips on vetting?I'd recommend doing a reverse search to avoid this totally valid problem. Search for you and see what the profiles look like, so you know how to stand out. I'd recommend this for both men and women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/19 02:06 AM |
| 2 | Any characters or celebrities that are red pill women?Well, I agree that that show is, at best, a cautionary tale. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/19 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Stay at home or stay at job?I work with teenagers in the US. The are, indeed, less independent. Maybe that's why I assumed you had to be from another country. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/19 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Getting Out There/Meeting a Man -- What else do I need to do? [28F]I loved that book and I'm pretty sure I was the one who brought it to RPW. I read it about six months before I met my husband on a dating app. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 03:31 AM |
| 12 | Getting Out There/Meeting a Man -- What else do I need to do? [28F]No one wants to meet the love of their life online. They'd all prefer the Meet Cute, but you will literally only tell the How We Met story one time per person you meet, at most. I think it's great you're going out there and meeting people, but I promise you a good chunk of those people have a presence on online dating sites, too. I honestly feel that anyone who's seriously looking for love in 2019 should be doing both, especially if they're not having more luck dating organically. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 12:05 AM |
| 2 | Stay at home or stay at job?At age of 16 I was living on my own, without parents, 4 hours drive from home time, I travelled alone to China and South Korea without any company. In my country legal age is 15 years old. I met my husband in real life when I was 17. I honestly read your original post and thought "Oh, this must be a different culture." Not everyone thought predator, if that makes you feel better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Stay at home or stay at job?This is not either/or. You can work part time, pursue some kind of certificate or degree, and not be exhausted. You don't have to keep this job and you don't have to work full time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 07:11 PM |
| 7 | Is he interested or just wants sex?!OP, my husband was 30/31 when he waited 8 months to have sex with me, because I was extremely inexperienced and wanted to get the Gardasil shot. You're not wrong in wanting to wait for commitment. That's absolutely the best approach and if he's not cool with that, that's his problem. That said, no guy is going to be cool with being stopped as he's rolling on a condom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 02:42 PM |
| 14 | Is he interested or just wants sex?!I feel like she knew he liked her... but then she let things get to putting on a condom before pulling back and those are some pretty mixed signals, at best. Many guys would feel teased or used, at worst. I'm a big advocate of the fact that men have self control and are capable of waiting for the right girl. She's certainly not obligated to have sex with him, but if she's gonna put on the brakes, it needs to happen a lot earlier in the evening. I would have felt humiliated if I were him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 02:39 PM |
| 7 | My Boyfriend Isn't Excited for My BirthdayMy husband told me this verbatim: "Birthdays are for children." He did, however, humor me when I wanted to make a big deal out of mine. He even let me do something big for his, which ultimately brought him around to enjoying birthdays, as an adult. He now actually looks forward to his, but he definitely grew up in a household were birthdays were for children and even then, not a big deal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 02:34 PM |
| 13 | 22 Year Old Female looking for direction and general life advicePeople are going to tell you school doesn't matter, that your SO doesn't really care, so I'll just go ahead tell you that what you're doing is wise. An educated man, such as a pharmacist, often wants an educated woman on his arm, especially if she doesn't come with a lot of student loans. Kudos to you for remaining financially responsible while pursuing your goals! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 10:48 AM |
| 3 | Any characters or celebrities that are red pill women?Charlotte also only gets serious about finding a husband post 30, and even then turns down anyone who doesn't fit her perfect image. Charlotte is literally the desperate post wall chick who doesn't know her worth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/19 07:18 PM |
| 20 | Meeting a married man?Furthermore, good men are going to have trouble respecting anyone who'd slept with a married man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/19 07:15 PM |
| 7 | Shutting down sex while vettingThe most guaranteed way to avoid sex is to avoid any situation in which you'll be able to have sex. Don't invite him up to your apartment. Don't go over to his place to watch a movie. Go to street fairs, the park, the zoo, church, an outdoor concert... Do things together, ask questions, talk, pay attention to his actions. Get to know him before you put yourself into a situation where things can advance physically. I don't know how long you want to wait, but any man looking for a serious relation… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/19 08:15 PM |
| 12 | How important was your husband's income or financial stability in the relationship?My husband was in oil when we met, a lucrative industry that's pretty common where we live. It's so common in fact that much of my family is in oil and my father is also in a lucrative blue collar position. It sounds awesome in theory, but my dad was gone all the time. He missed everything... just like my brother is missing everything and my cousin's husband misses everything. Spoiled oil wives who complain about being the only parent are a dime a dozen. While I admired (and required) a strong w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 09:29 PM |
| 8 | Essential skills for women?Try crochet! It's super cheap and easier than knitting, in my opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 05:02 PM |
| 4 | Picking out rings! Would love suggestions!How can I make him MORE picky? I'd love to have a brand of peanut butter/cheese/lunch meat he WON'T eat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 04:23 PM |
| 45 | Should I continue talking to this lust-filled man?He's creepy and potentially dangerous. If you want to date online, use apps, meet quickly, and vet well. Stay out of chat rooms. It's not 1999. I'll add that conservative Christian men aren't "furious" when you tell them you don't want to have sex on your first meeting... mostly because they don't ask. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 02:42 PM |
| 14 | Should I interfere with my sister's future marriage to "save" her fiancé?I feel like this has to be a bad example. You're not even relaying a very extreme story. Your sister specifically asked you not to text her fiance unless there was an emergency, as she was giving you his number, which may not have been all her idea. He may be a very private person and not want you texting him. You literally immediately turn around and text him. This sounds like fairly normal sibling fighting and like he probably told her you were texting him, so there's no way he didn't know her… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 12:12 PM |
| 4 | I am too old for a "boyfriend", I thinkIt's a pretty universally accepted title, one that suggests monogamy and commitment in a way a "friend" doesn't. It's not like she's being trendy and calling him her bae. If anything, the immature move is the bragging, but I think it's unfair to judge someone for using such a general term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 05:10 AM |
| 3 | Do short girls have higher SMV?It's ridiculous regardless. This is so not going to matter when the baby has a 103 fever or your dad dies or you get fired. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 02:16 PM |
| 2 | How to be okay with him providing?Maybe it's because I'm tired, but I'm not getting this. What do you mean? Anyway, our reasons for living together before we get married are fairly similar- we just want to make sure we're compatible in that sense. My point is that if you need to live together to make sure you're compatible long term, that hesitancy is just as applicable to the commitment that is this financial entwining, as it is to marriage. What if you can't handle living together, but you've quit your full time job and he's s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 11:39 AM |
| 15 | How to be okay with him providing?How can I possibly be okay with him providing at that level? It just strikes me as something spouses would do for each other, but not a boyfriend for his girl? That's because it is something a spouse would do, not a boyfriend or girlfriend. I respect your choice to live together before marriage, even though it's not usually what I recommend, but this seems to be contradictory to literally every reason I've ever read for cohabitating prior to marriage. What are your reasons for having to live tog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 03:27 AM |
| 6 | How and When to Pick between 2 GuysIn online dating, the first meet doesn't count quite as much as a traditional first date. You're basically just verifying the facts you shared in your profile, seeing if you can carry on a conversation, finding out if you even want a real date. I honestly think that one of these guys will shine more, over the next couple of weeks, or one will just clearly weed himself out. That usually happens. You want a firm answer, so I'll give you one. I'd say about the fourth date is the point when you star… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 02:37 AM |
| 1 | What do you guys think about sororities?I really appreciate the positive response from someone who has been in a sorority. I understand the knee-jerk reaction to say no, but I've heard some really good things, even though there's no parallel universe where I'd have joined one. I feel like many of the stereotypes are based on hyperbolic depictions in TV shows and movies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Is shutting tfu the right thing to do in this case?What difference is a few months going to make? If he's changed his mind, he's changed his mind and he's doing you a favor by being honest about it. Furthermore, you're doing you a favor by checking in, but only if you listen to what he's telling you. You're 31. If you want marriage and kids, don't waste any more time with someone who doesn't. This is not an issue of STFU. It's an issue of compatibility. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 12:26 AM |
| 23 | What do you guys think about sororities?I avoid large groups of random samples of women like the plague, so sorority life sounds like a circle of Hell to me. That being said, I've met people who had really positive experiences. A cousin of mine loved her sorority and never felt pressured in any negative way. It even opened up numerous career opportunities for her, landing her a job right out of college. My sister even joined a non-residential sorority, which was basically a really tight-knit club with no hazing. She made good friends … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 08:57 PM |
| 13 | Do short girls have higher SMV?Definitely. Women are way too demanding of height in men. Less than 15% of the population is over 6' and it's still a popular must-have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 06:00 PM |
| 1 | How to stop resenting boyfriend's past with his ex? He put in more effort for her than for me..I initiate contact first most of the time, and always have to ask him for more calls, texts, etc. I found out that he put in much more for his ex girlfriend! It's gonna hurt to read this, but it sounds like he's just not as into you as he was her. That doesn't mean either of you are doing anything wrong, but this relationship seems one-sided. If he's on summer break and not making time for you, it's because he doesn't want to spend time with you. It doesn't seem healthy for you, either, consider… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 03:44 PM |
| 12 | Who are your friends?There's a subset of RPW that will go on long diatribes about your husband not being your best friend and I think that's a load of crap. My husband is totally my best friend. That doesn't mean we gossip about periods and unicorns, but it does mean that he's the one I enjoy being around the most. He's the funniest and the funnest and we have a lot in common, from television shows to worldviews. He's a great conversationalist and we have some epic board game battles. Aside from him, as I've gotten … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 03:33 PM |
| 36 | My husband wants to divorce me a week before our anniversaryYou guys sound like endless, insufferable, drama. If he's asking for a divorce, I'd imagine he's done, but it wouldn't hurt to suggest a trial separation (with strict guidelines as to what this means) and counseling, both marital and individual. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/07/19 02:57 PM |
| 1 | What do you use for birth control?My doctor was weirdly aggressive about not removing it within a year, but it may be a question for the benefits person at work, instead. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/07/19 02:50 PM |
| 3 | When to have sex with college boyfriend?I think most people who wait do so for religious reasons, so the gamble is worth it to them. But yes, I have met people who've waited, only to realize they're not compatible. It's not something I recommend outside of strict religious beliefs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 12:25 PM |
| 7 | Is it possible that some ladies just can't adopt RPW techniques in their daily life?I wish I had a head for science and math. I adore my husband. He's my best friend and we have a ton in common... but he's a math and science guy and sometimes I feel a little insecure because I'm more likely to come home from work covered in Modge Podge (true story) than have anything to say about the latest scientific breakthrough. My point? There are all kinds of women. Literally nothing you've said is anti-RPW. You can be a math and science gal and have a traditional relationship with a math … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 01:12 AM |
| 3 | How can I be less crabby with my partner?I mean, my advice to this general situation is that he's not as great as she claims he his, just because he's good looking. He's immature and disinterested and she should move on... but she specifically said she wouldn't do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/19 02:31 PM |
| 6 | When to have sex with college boyfriend?I'd recommend you wait until your long distance situation is over, and have a committed relationship, so that if things fizzle on either end, you haven't invested so much. There is no golden rule on how long you should or shouldn't wait. People will tell you a "real man" or alpha won't wait past X number of months... and they're wrong. My husband was 31, had had his one night stands, and respected that sex was a big enough deal to me to wait a while. He has several very alpha friends who waited … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/19 01:57 AM |
| 13 | I have all I ever wanted but I’m not happyIf you think this is normal, you need to be single for a bit and maybe look into what makes a healthy relationship. There all kinds of relationship set-ups, including stay-at-home mom, stay-at-home dad, two-income households with children, two-income households without children, homesteaders, work from home... the list goes on and different things work for different people, but earning your keep through housework and sex, while being ignored by a man more than twice your age, is an undoubtedly u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 10:40 PM |
| 27 | I have all I ever wanted but I’m not happyWow. This guy has it made: a teenager who will give him sex, cook and clean for him, and doesn't complain when he completely ignores her, because she doesn't have to work. Do you really want to be that girl? If not, then you don't have all you ever wanted. Leave. Find someone within five years of you, who wants a girlfriend, not a maid who sleeps with him. Also, it's super creepy that someone nearing 40 is having sex with someone who can barely vote. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 09:15 PM |
| 32 | Married women, if you were feeling insecure over your looks would you find it inappropriate to post a full-length picture online for validation?I generally consider this kind of desperate, but it's pretty commonplace. I mean, why else do women post selfies on social media? Personally, I have no social media and have found that, over time, keeping my praise to genuine sources, like my husband and coworkers, has made me more confident and less anxious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 09:11 PM |
| 3 | What do you use for birth control?Nuvaring gave me bladder problems that are just now going away after three years. Only my urologist would acknowledge the correlation. It was so painful and frustrating. My only luck was with an IUD, Mirena, which was wonderful and mostly got rid of my periods. Sadly, you can't get these unless you plan to keep them for awhile, so when we do have kids, we'll likely use fertility tracking between pregnancies. | /r/RedPillWives | 13/07/19 09:07 PM |
| 29 | How can I be less crabby with my partner?How is most of it your fault? You say you're immature and yes, to some extent the cry for attention does read that way, but he's the one acting like... well, a 22-year-old male. You don't want to break up with him to find someone more mature (older), so your only option seems to be to ride this wave and wait for him to mature on his own. I'd suggest getting hobbies that don't include him, things you can do when he's on a video game binge. Crochet or sew or read. Write a blog. Something just for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 12:35 PM |
| 15 | Transitioning from "his girl" to "his girlfriend".Ugh. Don't go about it this way. "Strategic" is just another word for manipulative. You've been together for three months. That's long enough to have a conversation about what this means. It's okay to tell him "So, I'm not seeing anyone but you these days. I really like being with you, but I'd like to make sure we're on the same page." Be direct, before he drops you for losing interest, because I guarantee that's how your game playing is coming across. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 12:30 PM |
| 3 | Hey women . What are your opinions on polygamous relationship ? Where man have multiple wifes at the same time ,4 to be specific , they do not work just stay at home raise children and take care of the husband and the household . Will you accepted it and why ?... or he just thinks he is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 11:04 PM |
| 6 | Is there an equivalent of "Poosy Paradise" for RPW? What is the best environment for finding a husband/long term partner?She was, indeed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 09:59 PM |
| 25 | Is there an equivalent of "Poosy Paradise" for RPW? What is the best environment for finding a husband/long term partner?I'd say moving away from the coasts generally gives you less competition and more family-oriented guys. Wherever you are though, there are good, marriage-minded men, if you're willing to give them a chance. I'd suggest choosing 3-4 genuine deal breakers and dating everyone who doesn't fit one of them, but tries. For example: Religion X Gainfully employed Not a mountain troll, physically Wants a family Everything else is a moot point, whether it's that he plays video games, likes anime, you think… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 09:21 PM |
| 4 | Any advice from homeschooling/home educating mum's?I'm a teen librarian and I have a huge home school group, many of whom have been coming to the library since they were babies. See what your library offers. Look for co-ops in your area and research some of the social/educational holes that home schooled kids often have. For example, my teens have more trouble moderating their voices, dressing appropriately for public, and using fine motor skills than some of their public school counterparts. As for the marriage, it's actually awesome that your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 05:40 PM |
| 60 | how would you advise your younger self?It's a marathon, not a sprint. One bad year, five bad years, you can always improve yourself and your life. The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now. Also, your friends criticize your innocence, because they feel bad for being sluts. Get better friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 04:19 AM |
| 7 | I'm 25, but should I wait to date?Don't wait. If you dress and apply makeup well, men won't notice these things as much as you think. There's absolutely no reason not to try. If I'd waited until I had full time work, instead of dating while I was working two jobs, I might still be single. Don't miss any opportunities. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 04:16 AM |
| 33 | How to handle the pre-engagement period?You don't have the ring or his last name yet. You could still fuck this up. It sounds harsh, but your post reads as if you think you've got a guarantee and are now obsessing about appearances. Don't let on that this is bothering you, because it's not flattering and if you obsess over it, you might delay his plans. Get off social media. Take a break from thumbing through engagement, wedding, and ultrasound photos and work on improving yourself, because even when you do have the ring and the last … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 10:54 PM |
| 5 | Is it weird/unladylike to read a book at a bar?It baffles my husband how I can read anywhere I go... and I still agree that this comes off as an attention ploy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 04:27 PM |
| 18 | Nice women always finish last, Who agrees?You can stand up for yourself without being a bitch. Kindness and self respect are not mutually exclusive. I'm kind and respectful to my husband, but that doesn't mean he gets to steamroll me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 04:25 PM |
| 5 | Men “toughing it out”, being the strong oneWe had a bed bug problem at work (librarian) last summer and I'm TERRIFIED of getting them, now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Men “toughing it out”, being the strong oneI know you can also use many of these things secondhand, too. I've just had a few friends really invest in this, only to realize they hate it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:57 PM |
| 6 | Going your own way with foodHis lead does not extend to what you eat. He seems okay with you doing this, so just do it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:56 PM |
| 5 | How to celebrate a birthday when it’s tied to a tragic memoryIt's great that you asked and that you realize your love of celebrating isn't more important than his feelings. I recommend cooking his favorite dinner or ordering in and watching a movie of his choosing. Definitely low key, maybe read the room and decide if sex is welcome. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:55 PM |
| 17 | Guy I met on first date didn't post photos/tell me how fat he isUgh. I've been on this date and it sucks. He lies and somehow you end up feeling like an asshole. I'm glad you were polite, apparently more polite than he was with the orgasm talk, but you don't owe him anything beyond that. You don't owe any First Meet anything beyond basic deceny. Next time, don't wait so long to meet. Once you know he's not looking for a hookup and you feel you can safely do so, take the relationship offline. Anyone who wants to wait more than a few days to a week is either h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:52 PM |
| 7 | Is it weird/unladylike to read a book at a bar?As a librarian, I read pretty much everywhere. I always have my Kindle in my purse and would be more crushed to lose it than my phone, so I'm definitely in the "Yay books!" camp. That being said, I think this is something that we women might think looks one way, but it really looks another. Reading often makes someone appear unapproachable, so if you're going for male attention, I'm not sure you'll get it. Depending on the atmosphere, I'd definitely say you risk looking either disinterested in y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:41 PM |
| 5 | Is it weird/unladylike to read a book at a bar?The library is also pretty danged loud in the summertime. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:26 PM |
| 19 | Men “toughing it out”, being the strong oneHonestly, it sounds like this was a very healthy moment for you guys. He got to vent and you got to listen and realize that maybe you need to lean on someone else for a little while. I think you're right not to coddle him and cause him to regret opening up to you, as well. Fights happen, but if you're resolving issues, they're really quite beneficial. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:23 PM |
| 13 | Men “toughing it out”, being the strong oneI agree with reducing expenses, not even just for now, but with a new baby, in general. Really research cloth diapering before making that commitment, though. It's expensive upfront and a lot of people bail on it, once they realize what it entails. Also, thrift stores can be great, but they can also lead to bed bugs, especially in the summer, a much more stressful and expensive problem. Put a call out to family and friends that you'd love any hand-me-downs when the baby outgrows all those newbor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:19 PM |
| 2 | Scarlet O'Hara and a Message About BeautyI agree that charm can detract from a big nose or a weak chin or a BMI of 26 (insert gasp here)... but nothing makes up for being a bitch. Your point is valid. I just think we often mention Scarlett O'Hara as a role model that she isn't. I'm just disagreeing with the example. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Scarlet O'Hara and a Message About BeautyExactly... and Scarlett was generally unable to keep a man or even a friend. Melanie, however, had everyone she ever met devoted to her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 05:57 PM |
| 5 | Scarlet O'Hara and a Message About BeautyScarlett might be a good role model in resilience and appearance, but aside from that, she's a selfish asshole. The main reason Rhett likes her is that he admires her self-serving nature. Except for her parents, the only person she loves is Ashley and even then, it's just a version of his character she's crafted, an ideal she ignores everyone to chase. I love the book, but Scarlett is a dick through most of it. Though I do agree that charm and poise go a long way, I don't think Scarlett is the r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 05:12 PM |
| 12 | What are your thoughts on non-monogamy (polyamory, open relationships)?I feel like, in an effort to be inclusive and tolerant, we gloss over the very real struggles people have in these relationships. I had a friend in high school, who married her high school boyfriend and decided 10 years later to be polyamorous. He acted game for it, but I never truly believed he was invested. Now they're divorced, so I guess I was right. Perhaps it's different if everyone agrees going in, but it's hard for me to believe it ever works. It's hard enough to make a marriage with two… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 02:38 PM |
| 7 | Can a woman fake her virginity?I'd only had one partner at 28... and that was six years prior. I could've faked it, judging by my husband stopping because it was so... snug? So, I'm going to go with yes, just to answer your question... but it's a really bad idea to lie about this... like phenomenally bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 01:07 AM |
| 4 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterYes. I can. No. It's not. He made a commitment. Whether or not I could forgive it, it is 100% his fault that he broke that commitment, just as it's 100% my fault if I do, regardless of how neglectful he might be, how soft his middle might have gotten, or how meek he acts. Scratching your own itch is always an option. So is divorce. Then it doesn't matter who scratches whom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/19 09:33 PM |
| 18 | Best way/place for a 25F to meet worthwhile men?I understand the hesitation with online dating, especially with an earlier bad experience, but I think the ubiquity of it is one of the reasons you're struggling to meet men organically. Whether or not you're on the apps, they've really changed the way men and women socialize. For example, a man who might have approached you at the gym 10 years ago, now feels like he's bothering you. There's almost an assumption that if you want to date, you'll be available on whatever app is popular in your reg… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/19 08:26 AM |
| 3 | Thought Experiment: Emotional CheatingEvery couple should guard against cheating, of any kind, from day one. My husband and I both avoid social media, so there's zero danger of reconnecting with that hottie from high school. He's in a Male dominated field and I'm in a female dominated field. We also have an open tech agreement. He can read through anything in my phone or internet search history (spoiler alert: it's all romance novel recommendations and beagle puppy photos) and vice versa (bitcoin research and Ben Shapiro podcasts). … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/19 02:42 AM |
| 5 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterI asked my grandmother once, if she knew then, what she knows now, would she have divorced. She said no, because she had no idea how lonely life would be. I was a 23-year-old divorcee. I have no rose colored glasses as to how life would be if I were divorced, let alone how it would be if I were a single mom. It doesn't nullify the answers of the women who couldn't stay, but I love my husband. In fifteen years, I'd rather be with a less faithful version of him, than be a single mom at 45. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/19 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterI think discretion is often the most important agreement, as well. It's less about trust and fidelity and more about not humiliating them or flaunting it. It's certainly not something I understand. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/19 07:50 PM |
| 8 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterI think the reasons men and women cheat are valid, but I don't think that says anything about the capacity for their partners to forgive them. Just because a man cheats for a physical reason, doesn't mean a woman is more okay with it. I know many women who'd basically feel like he risked his marriage to scratch an itch and that's even worse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/19 03:30 PM |
| 28 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterDating: Never. If he can't be faithful when things are easy, walk. You have no commitment or reason to stay. If you don't want to be cheated on in marriage, don't tolerate it while dating. Scenarios where I could get past it in marriage? A one time thing. There's a boys trip to Vegas that goes bad. It's a tough year after his dad dies and his brother goes to prison, so he does something stupid, looking for some kind of emotional escape. A brief fling. He gets too close to a coworker, some fun is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/19 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Why do women, including myself, enjoy being feminine?Vanity. I was fat for five years. People look right through fat people. They notice a woman who puts in effort. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/19 05:43 PM |
| 3 | 32 F getting older and need tips on how to realistically date - any advice welcomedI actually totally agree with this. Standards are different away from the coasts. Everyone is mentioning your BMI like 25 is the danger zone, but in the South, this is more like 30 depending on you carry and dress it. The fact that you're not a single mom will take you far, too. I'd consider whether or not you want to be a step-parent, because as was mentioned, almost everyone paired up in high school and had kids young. If you relocate to the middle or Southern part of the country, though, you'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/19 05:41 PM |
| 3 | Mommy issuesMy husband has never met my mother. She was physically and mentally abusive and has never taken responsibility for it, so I cut contact five years ago. My husband and I don't need that drama in our lives and my children won't have it in their lives either. How does this effect my personal relationships? I'm constantly working to improve myself, unsure of what a good woman is supposed to be, looking for mothering figures wherever I might find them. I second guess everything I do, in an effort not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/19 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Share the most important advice you have from personal experience re: "qualifying your buyer"This is the real RPW response. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/19 11:47 PM |
| 2 | How Do I Build On This?Good for you! I do not miss it, but I'm glad I did it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/19 03:49 PM |
| 9 | How Do I Build On This?Date! If that means volunteering, going to church, joining Meetup groups or posting a well-written dating profile on the app of your choice, get out there! They aren't going to come knocking on your door, so get going. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/19 02:32 AM |
| 3 | "Husband" has an Affair!I think that would be an interesting discussion, as well. I, personally, do feel they exist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 10:43 PM |
| 14 | Ladies, do you want a relationship/marriage with no kids?It's selfish to have kids if you don't want them, just because that's what you're supposed to do. I typed it out and edited the sentence, which made it unclear. To clarify, I do want children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 10:32 PM |
| 1 | I’m going WGTOW.... and this is whyAgreed. Two weeks is a lot of time to waste. It was a lot more when I was working two jobs and going to grad school. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 06:35 PM |
| 13 | How can you love and admire men after taking the red pill?> If you are under no illusions about how opportunistic and superficial men are, then how can you love and admire one? Few of us date or marry RP men. We try to find a balance in the soft alpha. > Let's just face it, most men will also cheat and take multiple wives and partners if given the opportunity. No. They won't. Men have morals. They have values. They have self-control. > Your high SMV husband doesn't love you, he likes the way you look. If you got burnt in a fire or had cancer or needed … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 06:32 PM |
| 19 | Ladies, do you want a relationship/marriage with no kids?I work in a really liberal field and almost all of my coworkers want to be married, without children. They want to spend their money and time traveling and doing exciting things. They want to focus on their careers and make a difference in the world, that way. Personally, I think it's selfish to have kids, just because it makes conversation easier, if you don't want them. I admire that they know themselves well enough to realize that children aren't for them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 06:22 PM |
| 11 | "Husband" has an Affair!I've always felt like I could overcome an affair, depending on the circumstances. I was also once married to a man who burned down my house and killed all my pets, though, so I've got the firsthand experience of knowing that there are much worse things than cheating. In your scenario, however, this sounds like a longstanding deception, so I think it's understandable if you're not able to get past it, but the fact that he confessed does tend to support the idea that it's over with the midwife, wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 03:38 PM |
| 5 | Should I insist? Is chasing unattractive?This is a waste of your time. If you want to date using apps, you need to be using dating apps. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 03:32 PM |
| 17 | I’m going WGTOW.... and this is whyI completely agree with points 1 and 2. Online dating is about vetting, from that first conversation. My husband was my first and only 4th date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/19 12:40 PM |
| 11 | Should I insist? Is chasing unattractive?It sounds like she's done that. I really don't think he's interested and this way she'll know for sure. Honestly, if she wants to date via app, she should do so with dating apps, not Instagram. There would be less confusion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/19 11:36 PM |
| 84 | Should I insist? Is chasing unattractive?> But I'm always the one who text first, compliments him and asks questions...He doesn't seem interested into knowing me and getting a conversation going. I'd go with "he's just not that into you." However, asking to go out for coffee, will let you know for sure. Any time you're interested in meeting someone through an app, you need to move it offline as quickly as you safely can. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/19 02:04 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend will go to a bachelor party in Amsterdam> I've always thought that this kind of bachelor/bachelorette party were pretty trashy and that I wouldn't want to have for myself or my partner. Well, it's a good thing this isn't for you or your partner. This is a friend's bachelor party. It's not about your boyfriend. > I've told him that I didn't like the idea but that I wouldn't control him and tell him not to go. I wouldn't mention your disapproval again. There is literally only one way to read this: insecurity and distrust. If you love hi… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/06/19 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?I don't know if you meant this as a reply in general or a reply to my post. I was simply stating that this response is not really in line with the goals of most women here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 03:35 PM |
| 19 | Why do some girls feel comfortable being a side piece?Some men frequent this sub as well and they seem to mix up their goals with ours. Personally, I'd prefer a man with morals and loyalty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Why do I keep choosing to ignore red flags?Do you now work in a male-dominated field? I wouldn't suggest dating in your department, but this could open some doors to meet good, successful men, such as through conventions and other networking events. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 09:26 PM |
| 35 | is it normal to not always feel butterflies when you're with him?It's two months in, at fifteen. You really shouldn't feel drained in a relationship, this early, or at this stage of life. This is the time for fun, and if you're not feeling it anymore, it's okay to move on. Edit: You've made several posts lately. You're 15. A lot of the advice here doesn't really translate to your stage of life and it seems like you might be putting too much stock into it. Keep fit. Be kind. Look pretty. Be polite. Don't have sex before you graduate. Don't hang out with bitche… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Why do I keep choosing to ignore red flags?Regardless, I think we can agree that two weeks is a waste of time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 04:23 PM |
| 9 | Why do I keep choosing to ignore red flags?If they don't want to schedule a meeting after an hour or less of texting, then next. I disagree. The guy who wanted to meet after an hour always just wanted sex ASAP... or he was creepy. I'd suggest a few days, personally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 04:02 PM |
| 8 | Why do I keep choosing to ignore red flags?Why did you exclusively use dating apps, when you were in an environment surrounded by young, eligible, like-minded, men in the same stage of life? I am genuinely baffled by this idea that online and organic dating are mutually exclusive. If you find yourself in a place to meet good men in person (church groups, volunteer opportunities, community picnic, festivals, etc.) do so! Dating apps are an amazing option for people who simply don't have many of those opportunities, but college is the best… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 04:01 PM |
| 1 | From a RPW perspective, do you think it would be wise to leave my church?I'm religious... and I still don't really understand how this is an RPW question, but you go to church for you. You go for your relationship with God. If that's not being cultivated and all the Christian guys you might meet are taken, then I'd say it seems there's little for you there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 03:08 AM |
| 1 | Man with a child out of wedlock automatic red flag?I am very confused as to how adding a failed marriage to this would be better. Why is divorced with a kid preferable to never married with a kid? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Man with a child out of wedlock automatic red flag?That is all I'm saying. If you don't like this guy, that's your answer. If he just doesn't check all the boxes, you may need fewer boxes. You have to figure out how to tow the line between realism and desperation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 12:43 AM |
| 6 | I have to submit or I lose my familyI may have caught MRP on bad days, but it sounds like he's been spending too much time there, to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/19 12:40 AM |
| 14 | I have to submit or I lose my familyThe pillow did it for me. "If it was a stranger..." but it's not... and it's a pillow. That isn't captain behavior. It's just an over reaction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 05:19 PM |
| 38 | Do you try to get friends to take the RP?I work in an extremely liberal field, but live in a very conservative state. If someone brings up dating, I will absolutely state my opinion and if they ask for advice, I'll give it. For example, a male (26) friend/coworker of mine told me he felt bad for not wanting to date a single mom, that they're treated as untouchable. I told him that, no, they can get plenty of dates, with older men who have more baggage. If they turn their nose up at that, it's their problem. I assured him that he is und… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 05:12 PM |
| 6 | Man with a child out of wedlock automatic red flag?I think this is largely regional, as well. I live in the South. I'm 31. There are almost no men over 30 without kids. I met my husband when I was 27 and I had begun to accept that the dream nuclear family unit wasn't going to happen for me. I was shocked to meet a never married man with no kids, at 30. Were I in San Francisco, I'm sure I'd have had different results. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Man with a child out of wedlock automatic red flag?I deleted my original comment, because I didn't mean it to be accusatory or overly negative. However... He's very different from the type of man most of my family and friends would envision me marrying. I understand this feeling, but that guy hasn't shown up. This guy has and he seems really great. Don't let some fantasy guy overshadow a real one, especially when your comments indicate you're not having any luck on the search for something better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 03:31 PM |
| 3 | Man with a child out of wedlock automatic red flag?This is all true and if she were 25, I'd agree that she should keep looking, but she's 32. This is the guy she can get, based on her comments. It's simply unrealistic to claim that she'll find a man in his 30s with no baggage. Maybe she will, if she turns down every guy who doesn't fit that fantasy... and maybe she won't and she'll be alone at 40. If she can't take him as he is, she should walk simply over that, but she's over 30 and her perspective partners are absolutely going to come with som… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Man with a child out of wedlock automatic red flag?You should read Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb She does a great job of sharing how she spent years turning down guys who didn't fit the picture perfect man in her head and now she's over 40 and single. No one fantasizes about being a stepmom, but this guy seems great, and your post comes off as elitist and even cruel. I'm a religious person and still, the word "wedlock" sounds suuuuper judgmental. He has a kid. End of story. If you can't handle that, I thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Tips on playing nice when you're on your period?I had a Mirena for two years and it more or less killed my periods, which was great, in addition to guaranteeing I wouldn't get pregnant. I'd recommend an IUD of some sort, if you're not planning on kids for a few years. Now that I've had the Mirena out, I just try to give my husband a subtle heads up, that I'm a little on edge. Regardless, my period is no reason to be hateful to anyone. I'm not a bitch to my coworkers, so I'm not a bitch to my husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/19 03:07 AM |
| 2 | Parenting, Motherhood, Pregnancy Mega-Thread - June 22, 2019I don't have kids yet, but we're planning on them soon. I live in an area where it's just assumed that women will marry young and have some babies. I hopped on that conveyer belt, when I got married four months after graduation and hopped right off four years later, when I signed the divorce papers. For a few years, I really let myself consider whether I wanted children, because I was told that I did, or because I actually wanted children. Then, at 26, I was substitute teaching an elementary sch… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/06/19 11:23 PM |
| 36 | Bf considering ending things with me because I’m too irritable.Well, I know it was an example, but being mean 20% of the time does make someone a mean person. That's a lot. It's not healthy to feel like you're walking on eggshells, though. You seem to be trying and he doesn't seem to notice, which may very well mean that it's simply too late to repair the way he sees you and your relationship. He may have a deeply ingrained impression of you as ill-tempered. Maybe you were that way because of him, maybe not... but I'd suggest having a discussion about what … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/19 11:13 PM |
| 3 | Dating as RPW?I think that's a fair assessment. My husband had much fewer "nice, but not quite right" dates than I did... and a lot more "Is that the same girl from the pictures?" Most of my online dates were with nice enough guys. I certainly had better luck and more dates than my organic attempts gave me. I loved how honest I was able to be and how much info we could share before even meeting. Regardless, dating just... sucks. All versions. Most adults who want to be dating, are grown frat boys, bored 38-ye… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/19 11:00 PM |
| 8 | Dating as RPW?Online dating gets such negativity from a subreddit where so many of us met our spouses online. For encouragement, here's a post I wrote a few months ago. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/an3ycb/share_your_online_dating_success_story/ If you're dating online, have a friend help you choose honest, flattering photos. Write something concise and positive that reflects that you're looking for a serious relationship. Meet early and often. That being said, I still suggest you take advant… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/19 05:00 AM |
| 0 | i'm missing something and i can't figure out WHAT.I am not 15... but I hang out with a lot of 15-year-olds (teen librarian) and this is truly insightful for your age. It's also especially true in the early years. You change so much, so fast. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/19 04:50 AM |
| 11 | Who should pay on dates?You seem to be making the right moves for you guys. You offer enough that he's grateful, but not so much that you confuse the roles. Just keep doing what you're doing and find more cheap or free dates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/19 04:45 AM |
| 4 | About situationships and having a guy commit to youThis is so true. I've met so many single moms,/divorcees/overweight post-wall women who think the hot guy with little baggage might commit, because he had sex with them. But there's a big difference between getting a guy to take you home and getting him to have breakfast with your kid. The latter is never going to be a 9. In the real world, Bridget Jones dies alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/19 04:42 AM |
| 15 | What marriage advice would you give?Don't look at porn, either of you. Be open with your technology. My husband and I have practiced both and while we do argue sometimes, we never have to have the "Who are you texting?/What are you watching?" fight. Those problems really sneak up on you, during the toughest time in a marriage. We also deleted our Facebook accounts and it's done wonders for our relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/19 12:46 PM |
| 6 | Are most women doomed to marry a man that isn't attractive?You just have to go in open-minded and hope for the potential for attraction. "Can I become attracted to this man over time?" For instance, I did not consider my husband attractive or unattractive when we met. He was just some guy. Over time, his humor and chivalry and how incredibly un-self-conscious and outgoing he was, began to impact his physical appearance in my eyes. Just don't write off the average guys and they'll eventually become attractive to you if they're decent enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/19 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Throwaway account: bible cult, abusive marriage, affair, BP open relationship, nun mode. LONG READI think you mean that they'll confirm AWALT, not NAWALT. But yes, any lurkers have just had several TRP rants confirmed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/19 07:54 PM |
| 11 | Throwaway account: bible cult, abusive marriage, affair, BP open relationship, nun mode. LONG READYou need to focus on your children. Literally, while I read this whole thing, all I could think is "Where were her kids during all of this?" Your ex-husband is far from innocent, but so are you. Your kids, however, had to live through all of this, too. They are innocent. You need to work on being a good person for your children and for yourself. Don't date. Don't flirt. Buy a vibrator and check out some romance novels from the library. Focus on being a good mother and see where you are in a few … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/19 07:29 PM |
| 3 | What else can I do?I found myself divorced from my first kiss at 23. There is no secret. You just have to jump in, make the mistakes, and learn from them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/19 01:42 AM |
| 9 | What else can I do?Date... a lot and with purpose. Meet men, ask the right questions, and vet well. However, I would also advise you to choose your female friends wisely. I spent my twenties cultivating friendships with women who mocked my lack of sexual and relationship experience and made me feel incredibly awkward and embarrassed. They were all single moms, who chose poorly when it came to men, and misery loves company. Fortunately for me, I stuck to my principles, but it would have been much easier to have fri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/19 01:23 AM |
| 12 | How to express disappointment respectfully?Share your thoughts in ways men understand, focus on this problem and remember that tears are emotional blackmail. For example: "It's frustrating for me when you say you'll make a call and arrange a quote for a new roof, but you don't do it. I don't want to nag, you don't want me to nag, but we need to know what a roof costs. I would do it, but this is my busiest time of the year and I often can't make calls during business hours." I've told him how I feel, without hyperbole. I've told him exact… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/06/19 06:57 PM |
| 4 | What do you offer?The appeal of Christianity varies by location. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/19 10:54 PM |
| 5 | How to deal when guys just want you for sex?Oh, SatC is utter trash. It's only the one quote I like... but only a man who wants to settle down will settle down. You cannot bake the perfect cookie or give the perfect blow job to convince anyone to change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/19 09:01 PM |
| 15 | What do you offer?I have a similar sense of humor to my husband's. I'm Christian and want children, both of which are important to him. I'm highly educated, have a respectable career, and make decent money in a position that will work well with having a family. I like to dress up and look nice. I have several feminine hobbies, like sewing and cooking. I make an effort to get along with his family, even if we don't have a lot in common. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/19 09:00 PM |
| 27 | Feel guilty about makeupHe's not even going to notice this. He'll notice that you're wearing makeup or you're not, but he's not going to think "Wow. Her nose looks awful, today." Most men just aren't that detail-oriented. Stop thinking about it and continue to look your best when you can. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/19 02:23 PM |
| 8 | Dealing with HypergamyI disagree. I think porn is more comparable to the validation a woman gets from social media in general. This is one person, a person OP could easily meet up with, not some fantasy girl in a studio. This is worse than porn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/19 11:00 PM |
| 51 | Is there a pretty girl privilege?Honestly, it's likely your self-consciousness shows when you're with these friends. Beautiful and outgoing next to plain, but putting in effort, and also outgoing aren't going to get much different treatment. If you look like you're miserable and self-conscious, men aren't going to look past the plain. I'm not claiming that they don't have some privilege, but this level of privilege is likely related to your attitude, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/19 10:43 PM |
| 5 | How to deal when guys just want you for sex?I think he can only be derailed if he's ready to be derailed. It sounds like you're on the right path. Dating just sucks in general. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/19 08:45 PM |
| 1 | What do women who took the redpill think about feminist opinion (in comments) about conformity?You just can't control other people's thoughts and opinions. If you're taking on that role, you have to be aware of that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/19 02:08 PM |
| 21 | How to deal when guys just want you for sex?I'm not as attractive as you are and my husband treats me wonderfully. It has little to do with all of that and more to do with finding a guy who's at the right place in life. I love this quote from Sex and the City: "Men are like cabs. When they're available, their light goes on. They wake up one day and they decide they're ready to settle down, have babies, whatever. And they turn their light on. The next woman they pick up, boom, that's the one they'll marry. It’s not fate, it’s dumb luck." Y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/19 12:58 PM |
| 5 | What do women who took the redpill think about feminist opinion (in comments) about conformity?My coworker has said that her wife feels like a spectacle and it makes her miserable, not because she's a lesbian, but because she doesn't shave her legs or wear a bra or makeup. I can't help but think, that if she's unhappy, she should stop being a spectacle. If you're happy with the way you are, screw everyone else. If you're not, change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/19 12:45 PM |
| 11 | How to best deal with a feminist (future) mother-in-lawI was wondering how fellow red-pilled women deal with people like that in their close circle and whether you think it's better to keep up as much of a good relationship with her as possible, maybe making the interactions easier for my boyfriend, or reinforce him in keeping her out of his decisions and most areas of his personal life. The two aren't mutually exclusive. You can see someone on rare occasion and get along with them as well as possible, when you do. That's what I'd recommend here. Yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/19 02:37 PM |
| 3 | When did you talk about marriage?It's interesting to see the reverse, with you having investments and trusts. My husband told me on our 4th date that if he ever got married, there would be a prenup, as his family owns a multi-million dollar ranch. I was totally fine with it. I didn't want his money. Funnily enough, he neve got around to the prenup... and I'd still never take anything from his family. But it's a concern I respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/19 02:54 AM |
| 8 | When did you talk about marriage?I was 28 and he was 31, so careers were a go and school was over, but we'd been dating for 8 months, after meeting at 27 and 30. I don't think there's anything wrong with mentioning marriage, as a hypothetical, around a year, at your age. If it's not something he wants or sees in you, you need to know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/19 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Best place to meet RedPillWomen?I met my husband on a dating app. Hardworking, handsome, funny, super sociable and laid back, same values as me... worked in oil and didn't have time to date. Don't give up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/19 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Feeling a lot of resentment, need encouragement please!I was resentful that he hadn't picked the kids up on his way home like normal and opted for a bit of chill time instead. That meant we had all to rush and suffer his bad temper as he tried to find things he could have been getting together instead of scrolling on his phone. I think you should opt for more chill time for yourself, especially when things will get done anyway, even if they're a little rushed. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/06/19 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Feeling a lot of resentment, need encouragement please!Why were you resentful at footy training? You got there, on time, and the whole family was there. What did you have to do, except wait for husband to pick up your son? Surrendering doesn't mean not having to mention things/your spouse always remembering things. This seems to be a communication problem. You can't expect your husband to remember all of your stress, when he deals with his own, or vice versa. Just because OP is awesome at keeping all those balls in the air, doesn't mean it's reasona… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/06/19 04:39 PM |
| 1 | I need help being grounded to realityYou can't slow things down, at least not sexually. You've already set the parameters for the relationship, that it's one that includes sex, with or without commitment. Trying to "slow things down" is a classic bait and switch. You can only withhold sex until commitment if you actually wait for commitment. My advice is to go with it. Be honest about your feelings, show healthy levels of affection and vulnerability, and see how the relationship progresses. At this point, if you try to pull away, h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/19 07:58 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?Yesterday was four years since my last first date. I'm thankful that online dating exists and allowed me to meet my husband when I was working two jobs and hated the bar scene. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/19 04:38 PM |
| 5 | Need relationship advice pleaseIf you're coming across in person, as you're coming across here, it's not surprising that women are hostile to you. You seem to operate as though you think women are boring simpletons and that's going to have anyone's defenses up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/19 12:38 AM |
| 4 | Need relationship advice pleasePlenty of women are funny. There's just a time and a place... and that goes for men, too. It sounds like your problem is less about humor and more about tact. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/19 12:22 AM |
| 10 | Need relationship advice pleaseHonestly, I think the problem lies in how much time you've spent in the male RP spaces. Those aren't intended for women and they seem to have really messed with your head, i.e. feeling jaded about relationships and talking about them like a man. I'm funny. I own guns. I bake. I sew. I crochet. I love terrible alpha male romance novels. Star Trek is my comfort food. Other Women aren't two dimensional and you're not just sooooo complex in comparison. Everyone is complex. Everyone's personality has… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/19 12:20 AM |
| 20 | SO addicted to smartphone — advice?That's the catch with self-improvement, when you're in a relationship. Your SO is not always going to be on board with whatever new thing you're doing. I'd suggest being direct, telling him about the changes you made and why, and just asking him to try not to look at his phone so much during your time together. It's possible he'll be interested in limiting his screen time, himself, if you allow him to consider it without feeling pressured. It took my husband six months longer than it took me to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/19 02:28 PM |
| 4 | How do you get out of the friendzone when a guy showed he was attracted to you before?No. He's being honest with you. He doesn't want a relationship. Find someone who does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 07:56 PM |
| 3 | Abstinence - Telling HimHonestly, if OP is vetting at all, this shouldn't be an immediate deal breaker for a guy who's comfortable with her faith, in the first place. She could probably wait a few dates, for the first time things get a little physical, and then bring it up. My husband didn't kiss me until date six, because we met on a dating app and I felt like he was a total stranger, but when we did, it got heated quickly. I pulled away, before things went too far, and told him that I liked him, but I wasn't ready fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 05:44 PM |
| 15 | How should I handle my insecurities about my husband being unattracted to me?I know we're not supposed to insult an OP's husband, so I won't make a sweeping statement about his overall character. I don't know what's going on with their marriage or who he is, but I agree that he did this on purpose and this is 100% a shitty thing to do to someone. It was cruel and it was deliberate and if he has a habit of doing this kind of thing, it's symptomatic of a larger problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill Parenting?I absolutely agree with all of this. I work with teens every day and social media, especially the constant connection to it, is deeply harmful. Furthermore, I've heard kids scream at someone to go kill themselves, but I have never, not once, heard "She doesn't even have a smartphone" as a reason to ostracize someone. It's just not happening. That argument in favor of giving a teenager a smartphone is ludicrous. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 02:46 PM |
| 5 | Abstinence - Telling HimMen are capable of refraining from sex if they want to. Some men will never want to do it and will pass on dating you. Look for men with similar values to yours. You will absolutely narrow your dating pool down but that doesn't mean it's impossible. Do not assume that men who wait will cheat. This comes down to a man's character and how he views himself. I'd agree with literally all of the above. Men are people with morals and values and if you find one who shares yours, at the right time in his… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Some thoughts and observation from an upper middle class man who is looking for marriage.Resolving conflict through sex is a porn thing, not a healthy relationship thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 02:27 PM |
| 6 | Some thoughts and observation from an upper middle class man who is looking for marriage.So, you want an accomplished, beautiful woman, from a good and wealthy family, to make love like a porn star and be your silver medal? It's an interesting list and I find it fascinating that you want someone smart and successful, because my own husband wouldn't have married someone who didn't fit those requirements. It trumped looks for him, as well. But all those amazing qualities and she might measure up to your lost unicorn? Best of luck, dude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 12:36 PM |
| 11 | Relationships and feeling attraction etcI'd talk to a medical doctor about this, in more detail, to see if they suggest a hormonal issue or actual therapy. It's also possible that the guy who looks good on paper just doesn't strike a cord with you. I often think we over emphasize and romanticize chemistry, especially early on, but in an established relationship, you shouldn't feel flat. My husband and I have been together for four years and I've literally never felt this way. I don't think I could continue a relationship where I did f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/19 12:07 AM |
| 34 | How to build your self-esteem?Be pretty and well put together for you. When I divorced at 23, it crushed what little self-esteem I had, as I thumbed through all of my former classmates' photos of engagement rings and ultrasounds, and prepared to start over, myself. I wasn't ready to date, or even really consider it, but I worked out and started wearing makeup and dresses. I lost 90 pounds and completely transformed. Suddenly men and women noticed me, when I'd felt invisible for years. It wasn't about attracting a man, but ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/19 05:01 PM |
| 18 | Do you offer to pay and insist on paying on every date? Or going Dutch? How do I let the man feel manly yet stand my ground?I agree with you. I always suggested cheap or free first dates. I drink my coffee black, so a Starbuck's date was literally like $2. If he wasn't up for that level of chivalry, we just had a different view of things and that's okay... but there wouldn't have been a second date. I don't think I ever even ran into this problem, though. I live in the South and men generally pay for the first date. It still is very much a cultural thing in some places. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/19 02:39 AM |
| 4 | Red Pill Parenting?I love Heritage Girls and Trail Life! We're planning on Catholic school, ourselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/19 05:13 PM |
| 8 | Red Pill Parenting?I would definitely approve of 18. My husband says 18 and I just feel like I'd rather do it when I can still monitor what they're doing. We'll see. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/19 05:12 PM |
| 15 | Red Pill Parenting?It really is telling how many of those guys warn against smartphones. My husband and I have actually considered getting rid of ours, but it would be a bit silly to forgo all the benefits, such as navigation, timers, cameras, and music players that we get. We've just heavily weeded our apps and we both read from Kindle Paperwhites. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/19 05:11 PM |
| 48 | Red Pill Parenting?Don't give them smartphones. I work with teens and some of the most toxic influence comes through their phones. The bullying never ends, not even when school let's out. The sexual solicitation is constant. Boys trade nudes of girls like playing cards and girls are just expected to send them. Teens are addicted to porn in shocking numbers, giving them unhealthy and unrealistic sexual expectations. Some teenage boys are already showing signs of erectile dysfunction from this over exposure. Teenage… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/19 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Passion between LoversPassion is both mutual and unique to each relationship. If you feel like you need to harness it, there may not be enough there. As for kissing, I'd actually suggest a YouTube tutorial rather than a subreddit. It'll be more visual and detailed | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/19 12:58 PM |
| 12 | Overwhelmed leading up to the wedding day. Please share your experience with me!As you're walking down the aisle, tell yourself "I'm walking down the aisle to my husband." Do the same with the first dance and every other memorable moment. You have to deliberately remember or you'll miss all of it, worrying about place settings that you can no longer change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/19 12:55 PM |
| 15 | ‘Not Good for Dating’Try different apps. While popularity varies regionally, Tinder seems to be a hookup app universally. At 20, in college, I'd say you can easily find those guys in person. That's not to say that you should forgo online dating, just that you're using it to replicate your on-campus results. Try any app that allows you to give an impression of your beliefs and values in the profile, even just from a drop down list. Sadly, even if you put those on Tinder, the nature of the app tends to negate them. A … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/19 08:40 PM |
| 7 | Advice for meeting the parents?Go with a thin maxi skirt and a tank top. Bring a cardigan you can pull on when you land. The most important advice I wish someone had given me, when I met my in-laws, is not to expect an immediate connection and not to be too crushed when/if it doesn't happen. You're a girlfriend. That's a tentative position and they'll likely be a little reserved. If you and your guy go the distance, it will probably take a couple of years to form a bond with his family, especially considering the distance. Be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/19 04:57 PM |
| 84 | Is the goal of daygame always sex?Have lunch! He might be a great guy. Even if sex is his goal, that doesn't mean you have to fulfill it. If you turn down nice men, though, because they might just be trying to get laid, you're not going to have a lot of dates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/19 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Having an affairMen who cheat on their wives are shit. Women who cheat on their husbands are shit. It's immoral, regardless of gender. That's a pure thought. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/19 08:07 PM |
| 16 | How long is too long to wait for commitment?Personally, I think you were completely within your rights to question his intentions after three months. What was the alternative? Wait another three months and then find out he's not interested in a commitment? You asked. He answered. You were both honest and mature. It's okay that it's not meant to be with this guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/19 02:32 AM |
| 4 | When It's Not an UltimatumI guess the trick is to not be so blinded by the attraction and chemistry that you ignore the incompatiblilties That was actually what I was trying to say, not so much that they aren't important. I do think some people have far too narrow a definition of both, however. On a first date, chemistry is almost entirely conversational, attraction almost entirely an issue of potential, especially if you meet online. They're important, but you also have to be open to letting them develop. The guy who wa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/19 10:22 PM |
| 27 | When It's Not an UltimatumI feel like it also indicates that you've stayed too long, in the first place, after discovering an incompatibility. Whether you want marriage, children, to travel the world... these things should come up very early in a relationship. I think people ignore these concretes for abstracts like chemistry and attraction, thinking it will all work out, which inevitably translates to thinking they can change their partner. Then they can't and five years are wasted, so an ultimatum seems like a worthy g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/19 07:29 PM |
| 2 | I don't know who to pick!I like all of the logical responses, but I'll offer a reactionary one. Go with the older guy. You know who he is and what he wants, because he knows who he is and what he wants. The other guy could go either way, especially if he's not thinking about marriage and family yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/19 03:55 PM |
| 21 | How do you divide housework when both people work?My husband and I work 40 hours a week, each, his manual labor and mine mental labor. I bring in twice what he does and it's completely irrelevant. We're pretty egalitarian. We generally divide responsibilities by chore, so there's no issue of who did it last. He does the dishes and I do the laundry. He cooks and I pick up all the clutter, pay the bills, organize things like the termite inspection and taking things to Goodwill. Some days the sink is full, though, and I don't go in until noon, so … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/19 02:41 AM |
| 13 | A few questions on surrendering.You have to consider your own relationship first. Any book you read or post you read is a road map. If you know the bridge is out somewhere, you take a different route. My husband and I tease each other a lot. That's how he wants it. Sometimes, I'm the one who has to pull the plug on the teasing, almost never him. If I stopped doing that with him, he'd think I was losing interest. I know that, just as you know that not helping your guy would hurt him, so don't do it. It's great to get ideas on h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/19 03:38 PM |
| 3 | What age did you get married?Mine all lived two or three hours away, as well. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/05/19 12:08 PM |
| 1 | Why is lying about your past frowned upon in the RPW community?Yes, I felt like her story was more appropriate than the cheater. She probably should have told him earlier how often, but if he's done it and she's admitted that she's done it and he didn't ask for details, I'm not sure if it was even his business. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/19 05:58 PM |
| 9 | What age did you get married?I met my husband at 27 and we married at 29. I had a lot of anxiety about not fitting in with his family, so I'd tell myself that it's okay that we weren't close, yet. They'd get to know me over time. I dated my husband for a year and a half, before getting engaged, not them. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/05/19 05:57 PM |
| 19 | Does kissing count matter?I'd say this is almost entirely irrelevant to most men. Few people know the number of people they've kissed or even made out with. I say that when mine is only two, so I'm not projecting. Your only concern would be that if you're publicly making out with guys you barely know, you're going to get a reputation for doing more, whether that's the case or not. To most people, perception is reality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/19 02:34 AM |
| 8 | Why is lying about your past frowned upon in the RPW community?The scenario you describe only worked out because he stayed and most good alpha men wouldn't tolerate blatant lying, regardless of the investment. Not to mention, a year for a man isn't as valuable as a year for a woman, whose young and beautiful years are limited. He's only getting more successul and attractive. You're right. A woman could lie her ass off to get the best guy she can, but it's a huge gamble, because the best guys won't put up with that shit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/19 12:31 PM |
| 27 | Why is lying about your past frowned upon in the RPW community?> Since TRP is amoral and men use lying and manipulation techniques in order to get women to sleep with them, why can’t women do the same (to got a quality man to commit to them)? I actually understand your thought process here, though it's worth noting that most Red Pill Men don't advocate for manipulation and lies so much as finding a woman who understands the score and is okay with it. Regardless, a man who just wants a woman to sleep with him, doesn't have to live forever with any lies and m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/19 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Help, in need of advice for online appsIt's recommended that you put in effort. For most, that will involve apps, because everyone is so busy and, truth be told, you can vet more thoroughly before ever spending time together. Which app will vary by region, but I'd say Tinder is probably the most universal hookup app. I always found the same guys on both paid and free sites, but I couldn't tell who could actually see my messages on the paid ones. I met my husband on PoF. Dating apps are a totally legitimate way to meet men, if you cul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/19 01:40 PM |
| 11 | Don't enjoy feminine clothes, how to dress?I've been wearing a repurposed flannel shirt of my husband's, that doesn't fit him anymore. I roll up the sleeves, pair it with silver jewelry, flats, and slim black pants. I get tons of compliments on it. There are definitely feminine options beyond dresses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 03:50 PM |
| 6 | I need advice and maybe this is the best sub to come to...It can be great to marry young, but it can also be great to have a few years to yourself. Either way, if you keep your focus, you'll be okay. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Dating is destroying my self esteem and confidence..Sounds like you're still lonely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 03:46 PM |
| 28 | I need advice and maybe this is the best sub to come to...There's a middle ground here. You don't have to marry your high school boyfriend, nor do you have to break up with him. Date for a couple of years and see how it goes. Keep your eyes open to how you change as people. If it doesn't work out, you don't have to wait until your thirties and I wouldn't recommend it. You would have plenty of time to meet someone and marry in your mid-twenties. Life doesn't only exist in extremes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 02:57 PM |
| 0 | What type of women do "Chad" commit to and marry?It's probably a fair assumption that she's not trying to land a meme, but an archetype defined by the Red Pill. Maybe you're right, though. Maybe she's referencing the meme, not Chad as he exists in RP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 12:42 PM |
| 3 | What type of women do "Chad" commit to and marry?N-count is a largely overblown concept and I say that with an n-count of unquestionably two. It's not that it isn't important, just that we overemphasize it sometimes. You should keep it low, because it's better for you to be able to truly bond with a man, not just for the sake of attracting a high value guy. There is no absolute number, though. Some men will never even ask. Others will shy away if it's more than one. As for proof? I dont know. Mine is two. The first time I had sex with my husba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 01:38 AM |
| 1 | What type of women do "Chad" commit to and marry?Chad is a concept defined by typical RP wisdom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Reasons for getting married if you don't want children?It does, but it's far more guaranteed if you forgo marriage and children entirely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 12:26 AM |
| 1 | How do I come to terms with being submissive?You're a self-proclaimed dom. Why are you even asking how to be submissive? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/19 12:24 AM |
| 9 | What type of women do "Chad" commit to and marry?Unlikely. He's the stereotypical perpetual bachelor. He's successful and good looking and can date whomever he likes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 11:21 PM |
| 29 | What type of women do "Chad" commit to and marry?Chad doesn't marry... at least not while he's Chad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 08:50 PM |
| 9 | Dating is destroying my self esteem and confidence..You're assuming that men feel as you do and see sex and relationships as synonymous. You need to flip your order. Instead of having sex to secure a relationship, you need to secure a relationship before sex. Men will bail, because they won't always be into it... and you'll feel a lot better about it, because they don't leave with that piece of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 12:11 PM |
| 31 | Reasons for getting married if you don't want children?You don't have to get married, if you don't want to get married. If you're content with the knowledge that you might find yourself single and childless at 50, because your relationship has run its course and kids aren't your thing, that's okay. Personally, I find marriage has made our families and community take our relationship more seriously. We're seen as a unit, a family, even when we're doing simple things, like picking up prescriptions or getting the title for our new car. I also like that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 12:28 AM |
| 1 | I dont find most american guys attractiveI guess it's a good thing you live in such a diverse city. If you don't want to date a certain type, don't, but I'm pretty sure if someone responded to this with a list of all the nationalities and races they found unattractive, it could get pretty offensive, so I'm not sure what good can come of this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/19 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend says he never wants to get married??No. He's just seen that most women won't waste their time like that. She's likely younger and just wiser. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/19 08:15 PM |
| 21 | Boyfriend has been lying to me for a while about his ex, I am confused as to how to move forward.Honestly, I'd let it go, but I'd also make it clear that it's really not appropriate for him to talk to his ex about your relationship. If he wants to follow her on social media and catch up every six months, I can see where you might be okay with that, depending on the circumstances, but confiding in her about your problems is something of a betrayal. Let it go. Tell him you love him, that you trust him, but that you're not cool with him playing couples counseling with her. Help him mark down a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/19 12:37 PM |
| 8 | How to get to the optimum biologic femininity?Then I'd suggest wearing dresses and subtle makeup. You'll excel above the women in sweats with bling on the butt. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/19 01:56 AM |
| 11 | How to get to the optimum biologic femininity?Cue the weight comments. In all fairness, morbid obesity is so common that obesity often just ranks as average, so it's a valid point. Maintain even a semi-healthy weight and a feminine style and you'll easily catch the eye of men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/19 01:15 AM |
| 15 | Does the way you feel attracted to/love a man change as you grow older?It's not age related. It's experience related. The older you get, the more men you're likely to see screw over you or your friends. It's hard to have much faith in finding love after being pumped and dumped a dozen times. However, if you keep your panties on and work on yourself, but still find yourself single at 27, you're probably better off than a 23-year-old who's been used by a baker's dozen. I met my husband at 27. He was my second real kiss and I absolutely bonded with him. Age is just a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/19 01:09 AM |
| 12 | Boyfriend says he never wants to get married??then magically 1-2 years later, he meets someone and marries with kids within two years. ... because he knows that this woman won't stick around to play wife, with no guarantees, like the first one did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/19 05:51 PM |
| 25 | Why would a man continuously try to contact a woman be doesn’t want?You were his backup. He wants to prove to himself that he can resecure you... and it's bordering on stalking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/19 02:30 AM |
| 1 | I want to see a discussion about this video, my medical ethics teacher showed us this video during class.My husband was in oil and we were just dating, when I got it, so we only saw each other every two weeks. I just never noticed having a lower sex drive, especially since the Pill and Nuvaring had made me miserable for most of the time we had been having sex. I wasn't sleeping with anyone for six years before that, so it just didn't resonate. Mirena was right for me at the time in my life I had it. We did not want a baby prior to marriage or for the first two years of our marriage. I'll still neve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/19 04:32 PM |
| 3 | How can you work on having a prettier heart?I live in the South, so I too am familiar with Christians who just use the label to judge and don't actually follow any of the doctrines. I grew up Catholic in a Protestant town that was weirdly hostile to Catholicism. I was in my twenties, before I was even comfortable calling myself Christian, in addition to Catholic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/19 03:51 PM |
| 3 | I want to see a discussion about this video, my medical ethics teacher showed us this video during class.After a disastrous experience with Nuvaring and the Pill, I never felt like my Mirena had any negative side effects. It was a pretty great experience. I got it taken out in December, though, and I've noticed that my sex drive has soared. I've always had a higher sex drive, so I never noticed this was an issue, but clearly, Mirena had to have impacted me in some way. My husband and I don't plan on ever using hormonal birth control again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/19 03:02 PM |
| 3 | How can you work on having a prettier heart?Don't say anything about anyone, that you wouldn't want them to hear if they walked up behind you. I'm not always great at this, but I do try. Funny is not the most important thing to be. I'd say it took me through my twenties to learn that being kind and considerate trumps being funny. It's fine to joke around, but not at the expense of others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/19 02:47 PM |
| 6 | How can you work on having a prettier heart?I actually think that's more genuine than someone who just want to get into heaven so acts 'good'. That's not practicing religion. That's practicing the prosperity gospel. Few, if any, religions actually encourage disingenuous acts of service as some kind of afterlife scavenger hunt requirement. I do agree that you can be a good person, sans faith, but it's also unfair to paint a picture of a bunch of Christians just doing something for their otherworldly reward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/19 02:45 PM |
| 2 | I think I passed the Final Exam...now what?This feels like a form of confirmation bias; like you really wanted to have sex with this guy and found the one post that said it would be a good idea. I agree that, in general, RPW would not advise sex until exclusivity. That's not to say this guy will never commit, just that I think you've misunderstood the recommendation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/19 12:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you bring up serious topics?It sounds like you're on the fence with this guy and he's seeking secret gal pals. You don't seem like you even trust him. Maybe it's time to just cut your losses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/19 07:59 PM |
| 6 | Establishing a good dynamic in households where women make more $?My husband left his lucrative position in oil, for me. I told him I didn't care about $80 manicures. I wanted him home, raising our children with me, living a life with me. He started over, working for the city, and initially made less than $12 an hour, while I pull in about 50k a year. Honestly, we just don't talk about who earns what. It all goes into one pot and it's irrelevant who put it there. We both work 40 hours a week, so we do an equal amount of house work. We both know that if I threw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/19 07:58 PM |
| 0 | Retinol Product for beginners?I'd recommend a dermatologist. They'll be able to actually look at your skin and determine what's best. For example, Reddit will tell me to use Retinol, at 31. My dermatologist told me it's essentially wasted money for a few years, because I have really good skin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/19 12:00 PM |
| 1 | How do you bring up serious topics?I agree. I don't object to that as a deal breaker. I just object to deciding to date a guy and then telling him to drop his friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/19 04:00 AM |
| 3 | How do you bring up serious topics?You know, my husband doesn't have female friends... but OP's boyfriend did and she chose to date him, regardless. She doesn't get to do that and then decide he has to ditch said friend. So, I agree with you that close female friends are a yellow flag, at least, but if that's what you agree to when you start dating, that's what you get. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/19 01:10 AM |
| 33 | I hate children.Thank you for not assuring this girl that she'll change her mind. She may not and that's okay. The last thing the world needs is more people who were bullied into having kids for the sake of having something to talk about over Christmas dinner. OP, if you don't want kids in ten years, fifteen years, stand your ground. If you change your mind, that's okay, too. You don't have to decide this now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 10:39 PM |
| 2 | How do you bring up serious topics?Never make a man choose between you and his friends. You might not like where that leaves you. If they've never been in a relationship, don't push him into her arms, because his girlfriend is unreasonable. If you really trust him, trust him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 10:35 PM |
| 5 | How do you bring up serious topics?In response to your edit, of course he's hiding it. You're telling him who he can and can't see and apparently making a huge deal of it, even when he has "permission"... even though you claim to believe there's nothing going on. He has no choice but to hide this friendship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 10:15 PM |
| 11 | How do you bring up serious topics?You need to elaborate. What are these serious conversations? Is this "I was raped as a teen", "I have six figure student loan debt", or "You're drinking too much, lately"? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 07:30 PM |
| 16 | Leveling up after effectsI used to be fat. You know what the worst part of being fat is? Invisibility. People aren't cruel. It's not middle school. They just look right through you, because you're one of the thousands of fat girls. The same is true for being frumpy. You blend in and people treat you like part of the scenery. It doesn't take much to stand out, though. You don't need lip fillers and other pseudo-medical solutions. You can just dress nicely and do your makeup. Keep your weight in check. It doesn't mean peo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 05:48 PM |
| 22 | I'm [27F] at a pivotal point in my life and need to know whether to stay or cut my losses.You are at a critical point. He's using marriage as a bargaining chip, to ensure he gets the behavior he wants. That's enough of a reason to cut your losses, but when you add the distance and his sexual dysfunction, it doesn't seem there's any path to mutual happiness. There are healthy, local men. Find one. On a side note, you might reconsider being a SAHM, if you were so depressed by not working. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 01:53 AM |
| 7 | Women who have changed their fashion choices/style of dress to become more conservative, did people treat you any differently? If so, how?Honestly, all of my stuff comes from Target and Ross, maybe a Kohl's or New York and Company clearance rack. I'm a librarian and might splatter myself in Modge Podge on any given day (true story), so I have to buy cheap stuff. FYI, Modge Podge does not come out of polyester. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/19 01:07 AM |
| 46 | Women who have changed their fashion choices/style of dress to become more conservative, did people treat you any differently? If so, how?I started wearing dresses (reasonably modest, often A-line), on the regular, years ago. People commented then, just as much as they do now. "I don't think I've ever seen you in pants." "Do you always wear a dress?" Overall, I got a lot more attention from men, especially once I started growing my hair out, and I still notice they'll make eyes at me. I attribute this to my style, because I wouldn't call myself gorgeous or anything, but I am usually dressed very nicely. My husband has actually men… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/19 09:26 PM |
| 7 | How to manage pet peeves?Why don't you guys watch separately and then critique together? My husband and I both love the running commentary and simply pause it to discuss. It literally takes us an hour and a half to watch an episode, but it's still enjoyable. Perhaps you could do this, after you've already watched it. Here's a possible way to suggest doing so: "You love to discuss what's happening, as it's happening, but I really prefer to watch without interruption, if I've never seen the episode. What if we each watch … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/19 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Is his anger and upset justifiedPeople leave unhealthy relationships all the time. Sometimes they wasted two years, sometimes thirty. Which would you rather it be? I divorced at 23. It was terrifying and I felt like I was starting over, when everyone else was getting their shit together. I'm 31 now, married to an amazing man, great career, talking about kids. I'm so glad I left when I did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/19 12:35 PM |
| 8 | CryingI was more referencing the idea that counseling could in no way help. OP and her husband do clearly struggle to communicate. Some kind of mediator could benefit them, even if TRP advises men not to go to counseling. There are other options than a misandric single career woman, who defaults to blaming him. Edit: She did not recommend "mainstream" counseling... and anyway, RPW frequently references love languages, which is about as mainstream as you can get. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/19 03:30 AM |
| 6 | CryingShe's not asking TRP. She's asking RPW, which rarely suggests finding a true RP man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/19 03:21 AM |
| 6 | CryingPerhaps explain that you feel you need to fix "us." | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/19 03:02 AM |
| 9 | CryingMy husband grew up on a cattle ranch. It wasn't just understood that men didn't cry, but that women didn't cry either. Children and people who've just lost a loved one cry. Of course, this wasn't actually spoken, just the law of the land. I, on the other hand, cry all the damned time. I used to be hard as nails, but meeting my husband made me feel more comfortable being vulnerable, because he is surprisingly good with my tears. For instance, animals are currency to him, but I can't watch a show … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/19 02:45 AM |
| 8 | Help! How to handle this super cringy thing my husband does?!This is the best advice. If people find it annoying, they don't have to follow him and he might even gain a following! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/19 11:18 PM |
| 2 | I slashed his tireIt's over. You attacked him for something he likely considers normal. You're done. Personally, I married a man who objects to porn just as much as I do. We both see it as an unnecessary risk to our marriage. It's not as ubiquitous as people say, but attacking your boyfriend's personal property points to a level of instability in this relationship that you cannot repair. You need to take time to be single and work on yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/19 05:28 PM |
| 48 | Article: Where Are the Socially Conservative Women in This Fight?I do get frustrated with this dialogue in RPW. The age seems to get younger and younger. My OBGYN isn't concerned until I'm 35. That's the opinion I'm going to give the most merit. I literally told her my timeline, asked if I should bump it up, and she said no. Furthermore, there have been an increasing number of studies correlating autism with paternal age, but we never mention that one, when advising women to date older men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/19 05:20 PM |
| 2 | How to recognize TRP menI agree. This was a pretty exceptional case. This man did not fit in the booth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/19 06:53 PM |
| 5 | How to recognize TRP menOh, I absolutely agree with meeting quickly. I asked my husband to meet in under a week. I just needed some time to let them slip and show me they were creepy/rude/vulgar and to figure out if we shared any of the same values/goals/interests. Funnily enough, the guy I met before my husband, was at least 40 pounds heavier than in his photos (in which he also looked a little chubby). On his 5'7" frame, it didn't matter how nice he was, I just couldn't find any level of attraction. We hadn't talked … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/19 05:47 PM |
| 20 | How to recognize TRP men> If you are online dating, he uses your name, quickly asks for a meet and then stops replying except a confirmation on d-day. Their reasoning: they already have a date, saying more just risks messing things up. And it comes across less needy. A man who identifies as RP was never really for me, for reasons I won't elaborate on, but this was probably the best telltale sign for me. If he wasn't willing to chat for a few days, I was perfectly willing to next him, because... > Gets you in bed quickl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/19 05:25 PM |
| 4 | How to recognize TRP menI'd say it's probably a poorer gamble for this particular subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/19 05:18 PM |
| 7 | I'm suffocating (long)I mean, the answer is that you're going to need transportation. Period. Save fifty dollars in grocery money every two weeks, for six months, and go buy yourself a junker or even an electric scooter. Start working and save up to buy something more reliable. I'm all for deferring to a your husband, if he's a leader. It doesn't sound like your husband is up to that task right now and money seems to be the primary reason. It's also what would make you feel in more control of your circumstances and h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/19 05:10 PM |
| 9 | How to recognize TRP menHow would you know OP's sexual history? Are you just hiding behind AWALT? That's just a lazy argument. I, myself, met my husband at 27 and had only ever even kissed one other person. You know literally nothing about OP to justify your very personal butthurt comment. What OP is saying isn't offensive to men who practice TRP. It's all completely within their directives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/19 05:02 PM |
| 8 | How to recognize TRP menThere are any number of men in your life who you were head over heels in love with and were pumped and dumped by that have never seen the inside of a gym or told you exactly what's on their mind, you just hamstered it away. This is quite the assumption on OP. Her statements are general and fair, based on TRP guidelines. Yours are rude and insulting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/19 04:55 PM |
| 7 | How to recognize TRP menEspecially since it's so dependent on location. There are plenty of "real alphas" in rural America. In these cases, online dating is often the only option. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/19 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Sexually incompatible with my husbandThat's a bigger possibility if you leave. You have to make choices that rule other ones out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/19 12:23 AM |
| 15 | I'm suffocating (long)I'm a teen librarian. I work with a lot of homeschoolers and many of them have been in and out of different schooling situations, based on what works best for the family. It doesn't sound like this is working for yours, right now. Your kids can go to public school. It's not like being at home is providing them with a better experience, right now. Perhaps, when they're older, you'll be in a different financial place or they'll be able to self-direct through online school, but you feeling trapped … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/19 11:14 PM |
| 6 | Sexually incompatible with my husbandAbsolutely yes. Sometimes, you're not going to be compatible in a dozen different ways... and some of them are emotionally painful and frustrating. Marriage isn't about sex or supporting the same political candidate or having the same hobbies. It's a commitment and sometimes your desires and interests don't line up. OP, I understand how frustrated you are and I think you should have a real conversation with your husband about this. Perhaps he could bring it up with a physician and get some kind … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/19 02:32 AM |
| 5 | I'm so happy with my boyfriend of 6 months that I'm becoming fearful and riddled with anxiety that I will lose him in the future.It's actually super healthy to still sometimes feel this way after commitment. Every now and then, I look my husband and think "Why does he even like me? Surely there are much (insert insecurity here) girls out there." It's good to remember that you have to work to keep him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/19 12:19 AM |
| 4 | I'm so happy with my boyfriend of 6 months that I'm becoming fearful and riddled with anxiety that I will lose him in the future.You're welcome! I was going to live in a camper. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/19 12:17 AM |
| 8 | Don't waste the waiting/single season: what are the things about yourself that you wish you would've worked on more when you were single?I wish I'd been nicer. I took the time to get my education and work out and read and watch stupid girly shows. I'm proud of myself for enjoying that time. I was also super catty with bitchy girl friends, who are all divorced single moms now. I'm glad I got away from that and maybe it's helped me to realize how negative those influences can be, but I hate that I ever wasted time and energy on it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/19 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Help me unpack my ideas? Virgin, no dating, never kissedI spent a couple of years in nun mode. It's one of the best things I've ever done for myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/19 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Help me unpack my ideas? Virgin, no dating, never kissedI would argue that being aggressive or brazen at any stage is unfeminine. It can work, but it's not appealing. To clarify, I meant in private, when seriously committed, like in a marriage. It certainly depends on his take, but I think that can be fun in the confines of the marital bedroom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/19 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Help me unpack my ideas? Virgin, no dating, never kissedWhen you're ready, which you don't seem to be yet, let them come to you. Make eyes. Be sweet. Don't bust their balls. You'll stick out so much just from that, you won't need to do anything else. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/19 04:12 PM |
| 19 | Help me unpack my ideas? Virgin, no dating, never kisseda man should like you more than you like him This would mean you were dating down. Women should date across or up. If you date down, you'll eventually realize you can do better and you'll either branch swing or be really unhappy. you should only put in what he gives in dating I mean, kind of? It's sort of a separate, but equal discussion. If he's showing his love in super masculine ways, like by fixing your car, that doesn't mean you refuse to do sweet things for him, because he never buys you f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/19 02:45 PM |
| 47 | I'm so happy with my boyfriend of 6 months that I'm becoming fearful and riddled with anxiety that I will lose him in the future.Welcome to vulnerability. I think this is more or less normal. I know that, when I'd been dating my husband just long enough to fall for him, but not long enough to talk about marriage, even hypothetically, I felt the same way. My advice? Make sure he knows you love him, if you've said that yet, but otherwise, keep it to yourself. Forcing him to reassure you will push him away. If you're looking to calm your nerves, hash out a fallback. I was 27, when I met my husband. If that fell through, I'd … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/19 02:27 PM |
| 31 | How do I attract the man I need,Men likely don't approach you in public, because of the ubiquity of online dating. I don't think most men know how to do this anymore, outside of bars and hookups. Furthermore, the metoo movement has made it downright risky to come off too alpha. That being said, do you have any church groups you could join? Could you join a meetup group and go hiking? If these don't sound appealing, I think a carefully cultivated online profile is your best bet, along with giving every guy who isn't an obvious … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/19 01:54 AM |
| 2 | Divorced parents?I have one biological brother. Our parents had a Lifetime Original Movie divorce and he's so terrified of putting his kids through what we went through, that he will not leave that golddigging bitch he married at 19. It doesn't matter how horrible she is to him or the kids, how she spends all of his money and isolates him from his family. He won't leave. He'd have been a great match for some sweet girl. I have three step-brothers, whose parents had a really messy divorce, which is now fairly ami… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 11:29 PM |
| 4 | Older menMy husband is only three years older than I am and we've had the same power dynamic issue. He was in oil, when we met, making really good money, but I have a master's degree and was moving up in my field. He, too, has a very strong (sometimes too strong) personality and I think we're well matched, as I'm absolutely willing to stand up to him. I wouldn't necessarily say age is a factor in this, though. He's just stubborn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 11:16 PM |
| 6 | How to be humble and loving, yet self respecting/respectful to my fiancé about his mother and sisters not liking me and keeping my distance.It was a harsh comment, but it was also correct, and therefore not ignorant. I am sorry that I worded it in a way that's upset you, but it's not your place to defend the way this woman speaks of her son. It's his, as everyone is stating, which you also haven't been interested in hearing, judging by your responses. I understand that, in this instance, he wasn't there to defend himself, but intervening to tell her you wanted to talk about it later was ill-advised, because even though you're marryi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 02:01 PM |
| 4 | How to be humble and loving, yet self respecting/respectful to my fiancé about his mother and sisters not liking me and keeping my distance.You asked for advice and several people have suggested that you overstepped with your mother-in-law. You might consider providing more context and asking for alternative options for how you could have handled it. If you're not willing to consider handling her comments a different way, the relationship is unlikely to change. Disagreeing with you doesn't make people ignorant. I will agree that "you blew it" probably isnt helpful, though. I'm not the one who made that comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 01:30 PM |
| 6 | How to be humble and loving, yet self respecting/respectful to my fiancé about his mother and sisters not liking me and keeping my distance.You can support your husband without being openly combative. My MIL frequently insults my husband's dress/beard/weight. I just tell him and her that I think he's handsome. It doesn't sound like you're willing to do that, though. You can't even handle the recurring opinion you asked for, on a forum, about where you went wrong. So best of luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 01:01 PM |
| 4 | How to be humble and loving, yet self respecting/respectful to my fiancé about his mother and sisters not liking me and keeping my distance.She stuck her nose where it didn't belong. It's on him to defend himself to his mother, not her. He's a big boy. My husband would never tell off my dad or step-mom and I would never tell off his parents. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 12:27 PM |
| 10 | Online relationships & cheatingIt sounds like he might be the one to smack you. Seriously, the man sounds unhinged. Just end it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 03:04 AM |
| 12 | Online relationships & cheatingAny man who pressures you the way you've described, is unstable, especially when he's never met you. Honestly, you're probably safest having never met him. If you don't want to date, right now, simply don't date, in any form. When the time is right, I would advise looking into the way most people date online. It's nothing like what you've described. This isn't really even dating, at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 03:00 AM |
| 31 | Online relationships & cheatingThis is all just ridiculous; not that you feel betrayed, but the idea that you and he could have a relationship when you've never met, but he does exactly the same thing with another woman and he claims it's not a relationship. In my opinion, you're not even in a relationship with this man, because you haven't met. If you want to continue dating online, meet local men within two weeks, in a public place. Period. Otherwise, it's all pretend and a waste of your time. Tell him you're not interested… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 02:44 AM |
| 11 | How do you know if you are being used/ taken advantage of or just lack personal agency & grattitude? Is this duck that I am related to abusive or incapable??This is not the place for this question, but you need to run, fast and far. See if there are women's shelters in your area, where you can get help. Many churches would help you as well. This is not healthy and internet strangers can't do much more than tell you that. Do not put your name on any legal documents with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/19 05:39 PM |
| 36 | Do I need to ditch my beta orbiters?You obviously know the answer to this question. Using people to make yourself feel good, when you don't even seem to like them as friends, is shitty. Any good man is going to see this and agree. Furthermore, hanging around with men you've slept with is generally only detrimental to any new relationships. Go no contact and work on yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/19 05:34 PM |
| 49 | How to vet for men who will not "put their feet up and stop trying" after marriage?My advice, for both men and women, is to find someone with intrinsic motivation to be their best self. You see it all the time, the woman who gets her ring, gains 60 pounds, and starts wearing leggings everywhere; the man who marries and permanently sits down in front of the XBOX... because their only motivation for being attractive or succesful, was getting a spouse. I lost 90 pounds about 10 years ago and I've kept it off, because I wanted to feel healthy and confident and pretty. When I wasn'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/19 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Apparently knowing how to cook and sew is odd to my CoworkersIt's in family and consumer science education. I wanted to teach it. There were no jobs available, when I graduated, and no one takes it seriously when there are. I ended up getting my MLIS and I'm a librarian now. I wouldn't recommend a similar undergraduate program. There are very few jobs available. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/19 01:36 AM |
| 5 | How do you be graceful in the morning before having showered or looking presentable?I would just advise you to get plenty of sleep and not speak until you have something nice to say. Start a good morning routine, that makes you more prepared to face the world. Have some coffee and sit on the porch and read the news, or eat some oatmeal and listen to music. Do something that makes you feel good and doesn't involve other people. It's okay to not be a morning person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 06:24 PM |
| 14 | Apparently knowing how to cook and sew is odd to my CoworkersThey just buy fast food and prepackaged meals and cheap clothes off Amazon and then complain about climate change and the evils of capitalism, while showing off their new Apple Watch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 06:19 PM |
| 65 | Apparently knowing how to cook and sew is odd to my CoworkersI work in an extremely liberal environment. Several of my coworkers don't shave anything and regularly make comments against the patriarchy. One even said my husband doesn't cry because of his "toxic masculinity." It's exhausting, considering my bachelor's degree is literally in home-ec. Just be glad that this is your competition. You look more put together and more competent (and apparently better at your job), next to the feminazis. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 06:09 AM |
| 1 | Taking a Leap of FaithHow is this RPW, related? You're not asking about how this will impact your chances of forming a healthy relationship, but I think it's worth mentioning that, if and when, you can't make a living as a musician, you're going to be just shy of a valuable degree, that you could've fallen back on. No man is going to respect that you quit in the 11th hour, especially if you have debt from the years you put toward it. Best case scenario, many successful artists still have degrees, because it's a volat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 06:04 AM |
| 9 | Boundaries in the gf vs wife dance with a busy bfI read the post and definitely thought that he just let it go, because she'd handle it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 05:14 AM |
| 17 | Guy I am talking to has not committed yet. How do I give a soft ultimatum?It sounds like he's keeping you on the backburner and losing interest now that you're out of sight and out of mind. You're a side chick. Screw subtle. I'd suggest you tell him you're interested in a committed relationship and that if he's not, you should go your separate ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 05:00 AM |
| 11 | [Discussion] So we know about chicks with daddy issues, what about mommy issues?My relationship with my mother has never been easy. She was physically and emotionally abusive and told me lies to keep me from my father for most of my teen years. He was no angel, either, but he's owned and apologized for his wrongdoings, so we have a good relationship. My husband is a lot like the best parts of him. As I got older, my mother got worse and worse. Eventually, I had to cut contact. It's not something people understand, not speaking to your mother. I assumed a decent guy would st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 10:39 PM |
| 6 | He said I was "wife material"I'm glad this has worked well for you and that you saw the light in time! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Opinions on balancing college?Yeah, I meant more like she could work hard and move up without a degree, if all she wants is to be a SAHM. I certainly wouldn't suggest she remain unmotivated and entry level at the Dollar General, but being a pretty bank teller with a great smile could certainly bring in a good man. It seems as though OP genuinely wants this career, though, so it's kind of a moot point for her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 07:27 PM |
| 7 | Opinions on balancing college?Do you want to work? If you're just planning to marry and stay home, perhaps you should consider just working full time, making good financial decisions, and dating. You don't have to have a degree to attract a good man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 01:23 PM |
| 3 | How to subtly suggest I want to do the 36 questions?Some of these, even my husband and I struggled with, knowing the answer already! "How would you describe your relationship with your mom?" Him: "Good." Me: "Bad." We both know the details, because we're married. Still, we didn't want to get into it. He has always had the same answer for the last time he cried, something I've never seen. His junior year of high school, he lost some super important sports game (indoor girl) and hasn't cried since. I believe him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 02:27 AM |
| 15 | How to subtly suggest I want to do the 36 questions?Oh, just don't. Not yet. Someone mentioned these the other day and my husband and I tried them, yesterday. Several of them seemed super intense for a first or second date. Like, there's no way I'm answering that, intense. Others seemed silly, just because there's no way to know enough about each other. How do I name three things I have in common with someone I barely know? Wait until you're the girlfriend or at least a serious prospect and then suggest you do it for fun. It's way too much pressu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/19 11:48 PM |
| 1 | I realized that I have absolutely nothing to offer men.Internet strangers can't fix this. Get therapy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/19 01:15 PM |
| 7 | Marriage adviceMy husband really wanted an actual wedding, while I wanted to get married in the chapel at my church, with immediate family only, and go to Chili's afterward. I wanted him, though, so I planned a rustic Southern wedding. It was beautiful and fun and I love the photos. Was it worth the stress or the money? No. My husband doesn't regret it and he paid for the whole thing outright, so we have no debt from it, but we could've used that money elsewhere. If I had it to do again, I'd probably push hard… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/19 01:07 PM |
| 9 | Time to STFU?I'd give it some time, a few weeks, since emotions are running high. Then, I'd ask, without accusation, if you can talk about your future together, because you're feeling anxious about it. Actually ask permission to discuss this with him and promise that you won't bring it up again. If he denies it, that's answer enough, as far as I'm concerned. If he agrees, listen. Whatever he says, you then have to drop it. Don't ask for reassurance again. The people who are telling you to just let him lead d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/19 03:24 AM |
| 4 | Time to STFU?I respect a differing viewpoint, but I feel like a woman in her forties needs to give a lot more significance to a year, than someone in their 30s. You literally have less time overall, but especially in regards to SMV. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/19 02:37 AM |
| 9 | Time to STFU?If you've been together for a year, I personally feel like the "where is this going" conversation is a little overdue, especially over 40 with kids. I'd be careful, though, because your post makes it sound like it might not be well received. You might need to prepare for the worst. Regardless, I think it's fair to want an answer and I'd consider it unwise to waste more time if you don't want the same thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/19 01:49 AM |
| 2 | What questions do you ask on the first date to vet someone?My husband has never met my mother and he never will. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/19 12:43 AM |
| 2 | What questions do you ask on the first date to vet someone?That's exactly what I was referencing. Haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/19 12:39 AM |
| 10 | Time to STFU?I think it's silly to break up over his social media representation of your relationship and I'm so glad my husband and I deleted ours to avoid this kind of drama. That being said, I also think it's super weird that he's so removed from a relationship with someone he supposedly loves, after a year. What do you want out of this relationship? Does he want the same thing? Your language and the fact that you're here suggests you want marriage. It doesn't sound like he's on the same page and maybe th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/19 12:38 AM |
| 1 | New Wife TipsMy MIL still gets upset about the month and a half we had to live together, because of the way leases lined up. It would have caused unnecessary drama for us to love together. I also agree that it would've slowed us down. I met him at 27. I didn't want to waste any time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/19 12:41 PM |
| 8 | What questions do you ask on the first date to vet someone?The first date is such a great time to share things like this, too, before anyone is invested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/19 12:30 PM |
| 17 | What questions do you ask on the first date to vet someone?Yeah, I'd call it a yellow flag to bypass the question. If he's not close with his mother, but he and his dad and siblings all get along great, there's likely more to the story and everyone has some baggage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/19 03:56 AM |
| 35 | What questions do you ask on the first date to vet someone?Keep the conversation flowing, in general. On my first date with my husband (we met on a dating app), I got him talking about his family, his faith, his political and social views, all of which came up pretty organically. If you can just table the awkwardness and keep him talking, you'll learn so much from normal conversation. It's actually far more important that you take what he says to heart, than it is that you ask specific things. People will often tell you exactly who they are on a first d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/19 12:50 AM |
| 2 | New Wife TipsWe're coming up on two years and I agree with all of this. I love that you didn't specify whether or not you should live together. It wasn't for us, but yes, there were growing pains, at 29 and 32. We were pretty set in our ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 06:20 PM |
| 2 | New Wife TipsI met my husband online, too. He's a keeper. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 06:18 PM |
| 2 | New Wife TipsSome people can really manage their time on it. I could not. Furthermore, I've grown to love the sense of privacy I have, not being on it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 06:17 PM |
| 3 | New Wife TipsI love wasting time on enjoyable activities. Looking in other people's windows and being on call for mindless conversation 24/7 just stopped being enjoyable for me. It took me out of the moment. I just couldn't stay away. It's been a year and a half without social media (aside from this and my anonymous blog) and I have so much more time and energy and I'm so much less self-conscious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 06:16 PM |
| 9 | Where to go from here?Whats the goal in this relationship? Marriage? Can you do this forever? Can you handle this kind of behavior when he has no boundaries with wedding plans, buying a house, kids? You're understandably upset about the here and now, but you need to be thinking longterm about how this lack of regard for your feelings is going to manifest and whether or not you can sign on for it. I, personally, could not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 05:57 PM |
| 32 | New Wife TipsTurn off the TV. Delete your social media. It's so easy to waste your life together on fiction. It doesn't have to be all or none, but be very aware of how much time you spend on these time suckers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 12:53 AM |
| 3 | Is it futile to try to come up with a timeline for marriage/family?I only dated within my religion, as well, but that's not difficult to do as a Christian in the South. All I can say is to take a break when you need it and go all in when you're ready to date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 12:49 AM |
| 10 | Is it futile to try to come up with a timeline for marriage/family?OP mentioned marriage and children. She never even mentioned a wedding or what her friends were doing, just a timeline. I agree that her plans need some room for fluidity, when someone else comes along, but you're assigning some really unfair motivations with no evidence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/19 06:22 PM |
| 8 | Is it futile to try to come up with a timeline for marriage/family?I'd agree with the responses you're getting. It doesn't change when you're 30. It changes now. Choose 3-5 legitimate and reasonable deal breakers and date with a purpose, giving every guy who doesn't possess one of the above a real chance. I met my husband online, only after I started to date with genuine purpose and reasonable standards. He's an amazing man, too. In no way did I settle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/19 06:19 PM |
| 22 | Is it futile to try to come up with a timeline for marriage/family?When I was 25, I had just finished grad school and told a friend I wanted to be married by 30. She thought it was weird to have a strict timeline for that. I told her that no one thought it was weird that I wanted to finish my undergrad in four years or grad school by 25 or have a full time job by a certain age and all of those things relied on multiple people accepting me. To get married by 30, I only had to hit it off with one person. I got married at 29. Timelines aren't stupid, but holding t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/19 03:16 PM |
| 1 | So can someone help meYou should try asking this on r/relationships, and elaborate, because your situation makes little sense. This really isn't the place for this question. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/19 12:37 PM |
| 3 | What women inspire you? What traits in women do you find yourself admiring?Yes. Mrs. Weir is unapologetically dorky and I can absolutely see myself in that light, as a mom one day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 09:45 PM |
| 11 | What women inspire you? What traits in women do you find yourself admiring?Kitty Forman, from That 70s Show. I love that she's sweet and perky 80% of the time and the other 20%, she's fierce. I love her relationship with hardass Red, because I swear I married Red Forman. I love that she's his only soft spot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/19 01:45 PM |
| 3 | Rushing to buy a House!?This is not just your husband's decision. It's your financial future, too, and if you're concerned enough to ask Reddit, I would say you at least get veto rights. This isn't what you discussed or planned. The timing is bad. His commute is atrocious and would still be horrible. This house isn't near as perfect as he seems to think. The worst case scenario here, is that he rushes into this and it's a disaster, but worst of all, that you resent him for doing it against your wishes. Speak up for you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/19 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Wanting Children Earlier Than I Planned?The part that happens in your twenties, apprenticeship and such, still happens in your twenties. You'll be in the same place, competing against younger women. The field doesn't matter so much that that isn't true. You'll have to make choices. I say this from a highly competitive field that requires a master's degree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/19 02:40 AM |
| 6 | Help me with this disagreement!!If you're struggling, it's possible he just wanted you to make the call, so he wouldn't have to, and then any financial repercussions wouldn't be on him, if and when it comes up later (potentially in a fight). I honestly don't know how much light can be shed on this, from people who don't know either of you or your situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 10:29 PM |
| 4 | Help me with this disagreement!!If she is new, I feel like this was definitely the wrong time to hand him his captain's cap. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 09:50 PM |
| 8 | Help me with this disagreement!!He wanted guidance. I think what you said was initially fine, but he was clearly torn and nervous and, in this one instance, he didn't want to be the sole responsible adult... and that's okay. It's a big decision. It's not "where do you want to eat/I dont care." Next time, if he pushes back against a response that allows him to lead, test the waters and see if what he wants is for someone else to make the final decision. Sometimes, everyone, no matter how strong and capable, really wants a more … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 09:46 PM |
| 6 | Childhood traumaAgreed. If someone's being invasive or something comes up too soon, it's fair to change the subject. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 08:14 PM |
| 3 | Wanting Children Earlier Than I Planned?You're going to have to make choices. If staying home is important to you, you may have to face the possibility that you'll never have a notable career. By the time your kids are old enough to fend for themselves, you're going to be competing with younger candidates, with more recent and relevant experience. If you want a career now, you'll have to have children after it's established and you'll be a little older. It seems this is what your boyfriend wants. Perhaps if you do this, you can work p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 08:12 PM |
| 7 | Wanting Children Earlier Than I Planned?You should bring it up, if you feel your goals have changed. It's perfectly normal to talk about this before marriage. Honestly, though, "baby fever" is terrible motivation for bumping up your timeline. You're speaking in extremes of "I must be married and pregnant in two years" vs. having kids in your thirties. There's a middle ground. Also, going back to school and building a career when your kids are young, is going to mean missing out on a lot. You should really rethink doing anything becaus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 02:07 PM |
| 21 | Childhood traumaYou really don't want to date anyone from TRP, anyway. Most people have some trauma. It's just a matter of sharing it in the right way, at the right time. For instance, crying about it on a third date is weird and needy. Sharing when it comes up organically after four months? Totally fine. Lying about it? Not cool. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 01:51 PM |
| 5 | Men never show interest in meThere's a recent post of RPW women who have all found their men online. It's worth a try. It's literally like the number two way people meet, now, depending on the article you read. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 04:48 AM |
| 5 | Need advice, intense situation. Involving my boyfriend, his child and his ex wife.Most likely, because he's lying to you. He's not a Nigerian Prince, either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 01:24 AM |
| 17 | Partner doesn't want a "legal relationship" & when to say "I love you"Dont move in with someone if you haven't said "I love you." There are zero legalities in that. There's nothing wrong with telling him that you don't think your relationship is there yet, as long as you're okay with the idea of never having a legal marriage. You don't seem like you think you can change his mind, but I feel it's important to clearly state that that won't happen and shouldn't be your goal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 01:20 AM |
| 9 | Need advice, intense situation. Involving my boyfriend, his child and his ex wife.Take or leave it? Leave it. You're not even really with this guy. He's not even present. Don't waste your youth on this mess. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 12:24 AM |
| 8 | Men never show interest in meI'm hesitant to recommend online dating to college age women, but it really could work for you. The people are more or less open about why they're there and if you do meet, there's literally zero confusion about whether or not you're looking for something romantic. I was never great at flirting. I really never knew exactly what constitutes flirting. Was it just being nice to men, because that got me into a lot of creepy situations with strangers at work. Did that mean I was subconsciously flirti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 12:09 AM |
| 12 | Need advice, intense situation. Involving my boyfriend, his child and his ex wife.What, exactly, about his situation is stable? It sounds like a total clusterfuck. You're 22. You've got your whole life to spend with someone without this baggage. There are no soulmates. Find someone local. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 12:04 AM |
| 6 | Having a crush on a male coworkerYou've been appropriately scolded, so I won't add to that mix. What I will add is how to avoid this in the future, because, as you've said, sometimes we just work with cool people and sometimes they're men. I don't think this kind of wandering eye is normal or healthy so early in a relationship (engagement), but your specific situation aside, it does happen. If you find yourself in a burgeoning work friendship, the first thing you should do is invite your husband into it. If he's involved in the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/19 11:37 PM |
| 4 | Why do so many white men like Asian women?This isn't "obvious," from your post. It comes across as extremely racist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/19 09:18 PM |
| 21 | I’m so on board with the whole devoted-wife-to-a-strong-husband idea…but I absolutely do not want children.I've met plenty of women here who are child free by choice. I think your only possible trouble might be that it seems like you'd prefer to stay home. We literally have robot vacuums. Few men are going to be cool with you staying home all day, even if you don't need the income from a job, so I'd be careful how you phrase that in the dating world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/19 08:38 PM |
| 16 | Finding direction in lifeWe often talk about how career is unimportant here, in terms of finding a man. In many cases, it's true, that men don't really value the career woman archetype. However, you have no guarantee that you'll find a good man. Not only do you need a way to support yourself in the meantime, but you need direction and purpose in life, in case he never shows up. My career is a big part of who I am and what I contribute to society. It just happens to also be very family friendly. If I hadn't met my husban… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/19 01:19 PM |
| 8 | Long Distance RelationshipI think very few of us subscribe fully to the teachings. We all take what works for us and leave the rest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/19 04:07 PM |
| 2 | What’s the way for relationships to develop?That's great that it worked out for you, but it's not the norm. Most one-night-stands are between a random sampling of people who could have vastly different interests, backgrounds, and goals, which would not make for a successful relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/19 09:17 PM |
| 15 | Me and my SO broke upI found myself single at 23, after a divorce. It was so awful looking at Facebook and seeing everyone's engagement rings and ultrasound pictures, when I was starting over. I felt like I didn't have time to start over and get the life I wanted. If you're struggling with the same thoughts I had, it might help to know that I finished my masters at 25, met my husband at 27, married at 29, bought a house at 30. Now we're thinking babies. I made good decisions and got exactly the life I wanted. It's n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/19 09:14 PM |
| 12 | how did you meet your guy?My husband was in oil, when we met and I was working two jobs. Online dating was a natural choice for both of us, especially since he was a lot more rural. We messaged for less than a week, before he drove from an hour away for our first date: sushi. The kind of masculine man, who was over the bar and party scene, that I sought, would have been near impossible to meet, otherwise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/19 02:00 PM |
| 4 | The Pros and Cons of Multiple DatingOnline dating was a slot machine for me. Nothing, nothing, nothing, three seemingly great guys at the same time, nothing, nothing... | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/19 01:35 AM |
| 1 | What’s the way for relationships to develop?If I had a male friend, independent of any other aspect of my life, like work, family, or other friends, I might have given it a shot, assuming he had the same goals and values, but I never really had any of those. If I had, I'd have done so, with the understanding that once it was done, we couldn't be friends anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 09:51 PM |
| 8 | The Pros and Cons of Multiple DatingI honestly was never able to date multiple men at a time. For one, I didn't want to be in a place where I had to choose between two great guys, but also... I just couldn't keep up. If I was talking to more than one guy, I couldn't keep the details straight. Whose mom was a teacher and whose was a nurse? Who had a half-brother he didn't talk to and who considered his best friend to be family? There are so many faucets to getting to know each other, that I felt like I needed a spreadsheet just to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 09:49 PM |
| 0 | What’s the way for relationships to develop?I just don't think it's a good idea to shop in your friend group for dates. I don't have male friends who aren't coworkers, now that I'm married, but had I dated any of my guy friends, it would have caused all kinds of drama when it ended. I suppose it depends on your group of friends, but I still think starting with a clear understanding of what you're looking for lessens the confusion and heartache later. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 09:39 PM |
| 11 | What’s the way for relationships to develop?The first one is a terrible method, for obvious reasons, but I'll elaborate. When you have one-night-stands, you naturally begin to disconnect sex from emotional attachment and if this is your way to a relationship, you're going to rack up quite the number of sexual partners, which further hinders your ability to truly bond with a man. That barely touches on the heartache and doesn't even begin to address the possible physical and social consequences. It's a great way to end up a single mom and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 07:33 PM |
| 31 | What to do when he is angry with you?I generally hate STFU discussions on this board, because STFU is terrible advice, in a general sense. You STFU when the comment isn't helpful, is snarky, or is just ill-timed. You don't just not speak up for yourself. I don't know what you guys keep fighting about, but I'd say the problem is less about what you're saying to make the situation worse and more about what you're not saying to make the situation better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 12:59 AM |
| 3 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateI'm simply too clumsy to wear white. Cardigans are great for covering coffee spills or that spit where I got orange paint on my dress at work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Can I introduce him to red pill?It sounds like you're on the right path. Just don't pull a bait and switch and you should be okay. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 04:14 PM |
| 6 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateI wear florals all year long. I wear very girly Zooey Deschanel style dresses. I was wearing one when I met my husband and to this day, I only own two pairs of jeans. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 03:45 PM |
| 16 | Can I introduce him to red pill?Ok, so I was wondering can you ever introduce your partner/boyfriend/husband to RP? There's a lot of risk, here, in my opinion. We don't often recommend women date RP guys, here, because many of them go through an angry phase, upon discovering TRP, which can manifest itself in ways that are really toxic to a healthy relationship. Essentially, you could ruin a great guy by sending him to talk with a bunch of men about how "all women are like that," "that" being manipulative and horrible, and that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Examples of vulnerability?We actually gave each other a lot of space, in the very early stages. We would go two or three days without texting, which was refreshing, because when we did get in touch, we were more genuinely pleased to see each other. I'd say around this time, I was really just open about being happy to hear from him and see him. He did the same, texting with really clear time and date suggestions to see each other. The "game playing" that everyone references is what keeps you from showing vulnerability... … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 03:27 PM |
| 10 | What living together means for vetting?I think you've touched on one of the reasons living together can go badly. You're not committed yet and ignoring red flags is easier than breaking up, now that you're financially tethered... so you stay. However, unless you have a timeline for marriage, or really a ring, I think you're doing yourself a disservice by playing marriage beforehand. He gets absolutely everything he'd get from marriage, with none of the risk and you may very well never see that ring, as a result... because you aren't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/19 01:35 PM |
| 10 | Examples of vulnerability?Based on your responses, you seem to be really clinging to the idea of dropping all of your childhood drama on this guy. Don't. The time will come. You'll recognize it when it does. You have to lay your cards on the table one at a time. You can't just yell "52 card pickup" and expect a guy you've been on five dates with to care about the mess. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/19 09:48 PM |
| 3 | Examples of vulnerability?One way to be vulnerable with a new guy is to be honest about how excited you are to see him. This is exactly the kind of vulnerability you should be displaying at this stage of the relationship. Show him how excited you are to see him. Tell him you're happy he called. Make him a nice dinner. Not all vulnerability is dramatic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/19 09:45 PM |
| 36 | Examples of vulnerability?I had a really bad day at about five months of dating my husband, much of it due to financial troubles. I was working half time as a librarian and substitute teaching 40 hours a week and it never seemed to be enough. I had my MLIS and I still couldn't get full time (libraries are extremely competitive). A lot of car trouble was the straw that broke the camel's back. I called my husband crying and when he realized I wasn't about to ask him for money (it literally never occurred to me), he was unb… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/19 06:50 PM |
| 28 | What is your man supposed to make you feel when you're in love?My husband lived an hour away and worked one week on and one week off, in the oil field. I was working two part time jobs. We were essentially old school courting, only seeing each other for a couple of days, every other week. When I got to the point that I wanted to cry on the way home, knowing I wouldn't see him for two weeks... when I counted down the days and was just passing time until the next time we could be together... that's when I knew. I felt safe with him, loved and cared for, but I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 10:42 PM |
| 4 | Why should women reject the “princess mentality”?In this era, the message is you can get anything you want by being young and pretty, and serving a man is "degrading". She's not always going to be young and pretty. Even if she gets marriage from a man, it's no guarantee that she won't find herself single again once the bloom has gone off the rose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 10:34 PM |
| 1 | RP moms with 20-something RP daughters—where do they find good men?I’m thinking she might just suck it up and try online dating the longer this goes without meeting anyone. With the right vetting, this could be a good method for her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 09:54 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on the advice: "Men should date women half their age plus seven"Are there successful 30-year-old men, though, in any kind of abundance? I know of a fair amount of 30-something men who are still living with their parents with unstable jobs, and it seems like the majority of them are apartment dwellers with too much debt for their annual salaries. I suppose it depends on location. Most men in my region more or less have their lives together by 30, but our cost of living is much lower. My husband had $60,000 in savings at 30 and pulled in about $80k a year. His… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on the advice: "Men should date women half their age plus seven"I never understand why people don't know their own age of consent laws. What possible reason could exist for everyone to just know this by heart? I'll never understand why some people default to rudeness. I can Google too, however, and even by your statement, in California, Idaho, North Dakota, Oregon, and Wisconsin this man is screwed. My point was entirely relevant. Regardless, it's risky to get involved with someone under 18, especially since your "close in age" exemptions can greatly vary, w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 09:50 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on the advice: "Men should date women half their age plus seven"I was because intentionally hypberbolic. I just don't think this would really apply, today. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 09:42 PM |
| 25 | Dominant MenCut contact and find someone who's ready for commitment, while you're in your prime. It sounds like he's taking advantage of your youth and naivete, to spin plates. You have no future with this man and you can't change that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 05:24 PM |
| 28 | What are your thoughts on the advice: "Men should date women half their age plus seven"I've heard that, as well. It makes much more sense in that light, that it's the minimum and not the ideal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 03:09 PM |
| 17 | What are your thoughts on the advice: "Men should date women half their age plus seven"This made sense when we all died by 50, but narrow rules like this just limit your prospects, today. I can see why a 40-year-old man would want to date a 27-year-old woman, but I don't really understand a woman limiting herself to the reverse, when there are successful 30-year-old men with more energy and less baggage. Also, that 20-year-old could see jail time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/19 02:44 PM |
| 6 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?The male gay community can also be extremely harmful in their views and representations of weight, especially among teens and young adults. I can't imagine that helped. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 04:57 PM |
| 10 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?I prefer this explanation to your original statement. It sounds very healthy. I wish I'd grown up that way, instead of with an overweight mom who ate whole boxes of Snackwell cookies and obsessed about weight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 04:27 PM |
| 3 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?I think that's the underrepresented key. If you're comparably fat, it's probably not going to impact your relationship, though health is a different topic. It's when people do a "Why is he with her" or vice versa double take that you need to worry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 04:26 PM |
| 6 | RP moms with 20-something RP daughters—where do they find good men?Where are you located? In the South, the man you describe wouldn't be difficult for her to find. I feel my husband fits that description pretty well. That being said, there's no Good Man Emporium. She's just going to have to get out there and put real effort into dating. Fortunately, if she's religious, she should be able to find a church with numerous opportunities to meet a good man. Even if it's not through worship, I imagine there are a lot of volunteer opportunities. If you're located in a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 04:23 PM |
| 12 | How should I feel about this?Whatever might be worth exploring with this guy, you cannot do so, with any success, until he's single. The next time he contacts you, tell him you enjoyed catching up, but that it's really not appropriate to spend any time together, while he's seeing someone. Then end it. If he wants to break up with her, to explore things with you, he will, but giving an ultimatum or becoming the other woman will doom things before they start. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 02:59 PM |
| 26 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?I don't support unhealthy choices or a Health at Every Size perspective, but there are so many worse things to be than fat. My brother is miserable with his wife and it's not because she's fat. It's because she's the antichrist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 01:32 PM |
| 1 | I consider myself a traditional, redpilled man. I am also short (5'4) and I have a slight life-long speech impediment. Based on these parameters, is it possible that a red-pilled minded woman would ever consider marrying me?This post will be removed soon, but I'll leave you with this: confidence is key. Walk and talk like you're the hottest, tallest guy in the room and they're much less likely to care that you aren't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 03:49 AM |
| 20 | In honor of Love Day, what is the best relationship advice you have ever received?Marriage isn't a feeling. It's a choice. Every day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/19 02:45 AM |
| 36 | How to nun mode without becoming a complete hermitGo to a movie alone. It's a great first step, one that won't allow you to look at your phone. If it sucks, you can just walk out, with no concern for how your partner feels. If it's amazing, you can stay for the next showing. Keep in mind that no one is as interested in what you're doing, as you assume. If you're eating dinner alone at a nice restaurant, literally zero people are staring at you. Zero. They don't care. They're thinking about their own problems. As for meeting new people, look int… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Book Recs please on rpw?It was so eye opening to see what happens to someone who waits too long. The choices don't get better. It was sad to read about how she changed only her age on her dating profile and got so much more attention. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 06:22 PM |
| 5 | What is a good way to meet a quality man?I'm not sure what kind of response you're expecting, when you ask while simultaneously rejecting all of the possible answers. I get it. Dating sucks. Anyone who says differently hasn't been doing it very long. No one wants to date. They want to be in a relationship and you're not allowed to just skip to that part. There is no Good Man Emporium. You just have to try, with purpose and intent. You have to be realistic in your expectations and I'd say 23 is the perfect age to read Marry Him: the Cas… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 03:18 PM |
| 9 | Where should a 24 year old woman be in life.At 24, I was in grad school, pursuing my MLIS, working half-time as a circulation clerk, and substitute teaching. I was learning to dress and do my makeup. I was beginning to date a year after being divorced... and was pretty bad at it. I felt behind, at the time, since everyone my age was getting married and having babies, starting careers. It all came together, in time, as I focused on my end goal of marriage and family and a career. I got my degree at 25, became a librarian, met my husband at… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/19 04:59 AM |
| 7 | As a 30 year old single woman, I feel left behindDate with purpose. Look for a potential husband, not a Facebook prop. Be realistic about factors like height, hair loss (2/3 of all men will experience significant hair loss by 35), and baggage. Look hard at what you bring to the table and what you can realistically expect to get... and remember that you can get just about any man to take you home, from the gorgeous and fit to the fabulously wealthy. That does not mean you can get the same caliber of man to introduce you to his mother. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/19 11:35 PM |
| 26 | How do you ladies deal with the beta orbiters?If you're asking this question, I think you might be confusing casual male friendships with orbiters. They aren't the same thing. If you realize one of your male "friends" is into you, he's not your friend anymore, because he's only in the "friendship" for the possibility that you'll eventually have sex with him. That's shitty and that's on him. If you take advantage of that to get favors or compliments, that's also shitty and that's on you. So, just don't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/19 01:25 PM |
| 6 | Too submissive, can't say noYou shouldn't exist only in extremes. It's not all or none. Set firm, but reasonable, boundaries and see how he reacts. Mild disappointment is neither reason to cave nor end things. Anger, exaggerated guilt trips, tears... those are reactions to make you reconsider the relationship. Stand up for yourself and see where that leads you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/19 08:58 PM |
| 16 | Too submissive, can't say noThis isn't healthy, which you clearly realize, or you wouldn't be posting it. He wants me to move in. It's soon, really soon. But I immediately said yes... in the heat of the moment, & he really melts me, and I just can't bring myself to think or say "I'll think about it." This would be so unfair to your children and your submission to him, on this level, is especially risky to your kids. You don't even really know this man yet, if it's only been five months... at least not enough to let him sle… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/19 06:42 PM |
| 7 | Empowered wife - mother in lawI made my mother-in-law cake mix cookies last weekend. She told my husband that she set them out to "set," because they were too soft. My husband and I just laughed about it. She's not trying to be rude. She just has no filter. Overall, I let him deal with his mother. If she calls him fat, but it doesn't bother him, it's none of my business. If he tells her we're not coming to visit, because something came up and she gets angry, he gets to hold those boundaries. All in all, he does a much better… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/19 06:31 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend's mom takes advantage of himI have an MLIS and lot of student loan debt, so I understand what's at stake. It's just best to save husband and wife risks for when you're husband and wife, for him as well as you. It may never pay out for either of you, if you find you have to go your separate ways, for whatever reasons. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 11:33 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend's mom takes advantage of himI agree. My husband paid off a bunch of my private student loans for me, but I'd have never accepted a dime before we got married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 11:28 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend's mom takes advantage of himIf you're still together, it will be, but what if you break up? Relationships end all the time and you're not even engaged. The risk is on you, so it's obviously your decision, but it is a risk, especially if he's making financial choices you can't support. What if he still can't make rent next year, because of what he gives his mother? I suppose I just stand by my advice to split your finances, as best you can. He should be able to support his family if that's what he wants to do, because you a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 11:27 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend's mom takes advantage of himI concede. I deleted my responses. They weren't really relevant if she's paying his rent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 11:15 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend's mom takes advantage of himYou've posted new information, that you're paying the rent, so he can pay down his debt. Honestly, if you have a problem with the way he's spending his money, you should consider separating your finances as much as possible. Split everything 50/50 and let him deal with his own debt. Then he can do what he wants and the impact on you is zero. You can discuss the details of his family arrangement, when you're speaking in more depth on marriage. You should really reconsider carrying a man while he … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 11:12 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend's mom takes advantage of himNowhere in her post does she say he's not pulling his financial weight. I checked. Honestly, I wouldn't be okay this kind of enabling behavior. If she wants to discuss that as a relationship deal breaker, she can, but she doesn't seem to be willing to do that, yet. How he spends his money and relates to his family is his business, until it effects her. I agree that this is a reason moving in before marriage is a bad idea. Personally, I'd walk, but she's clearly not interested in considering that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 10:59 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend's mom takes advantage of himAt the moment, this is really none of your business. It's his money and his relationship with his family. You can, however, bring this up when you start discussing marriage in greater detail. Just as you would discuss debt and credit scores and monthly budgets, you can discuss what portion of your income can be spent on helping out family. If you aren't there yet, you're just going to have to bite your tongue, as long as he's paying his fair share. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 10:20 PM |
| 62 | Should explanations only be given when they are asked for?The difference between nagging and discussion is found in tone, time, and place. If he's busy doing something he enjoys and you interrupt to tell him it annoys you that his dirty clothes are all over the floor, it's nagging. If you're both in the bedroom, changing to settle in for the evening and you ask him to please decide if the clothes on the floor are dirty enough for the hamper or clean enough for the drawer, so you don't make the wrong call, it's a reasonable request. There's nothing inhe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/19 08:49 PM |
| 4 | Is my relationship going anywhere?If you feel this negatively, now, imagine how you'll feel at 27. He's Howard Wolowitz. It's funny in a sitcom, but it won't be after you waste your best years on him. Just based on what you've shared, it sounds like this relationship may have run its course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/19 10:26 PM |
| 29 | What made you think differently?I was 23 years old, newly divorced, and more than a hundred pounds overweight. My ex was a lazy sociopath with no goals or ambition. I knew something had to change. I found this strange school of thought online and read The Red Pill Room the way someone might stare at a car wreck as they drive past. It didn't seem for me, because TRP was developed for and catered to men, but I couldn't deny that there was some wisdom in it and I took some of the advice to heart. I started wearing makeup and dres… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/19 09:19 PM |
| 29 | How do women get treated as they get older?I think it greatly depends on the path you choose. I have a lot of feminist coworkers, who've chosen not to pursue marriage or family. They're respected in the field, as they've dedicated their lives to their careers, but in their personal lives, they do fit the stereotypes of older, single women. They travel and they have cats. They have annoying aunts who ask about their love lives and they insist they don't need no man. On the other hand, the older women in my husband's very traditional famil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/19 08:53 PM |
| 6 | Is this a bad sign? (22F) and 22 (M)If he's on the fence about marriage, moving in and giving him everything he would get from marrying you, without any of the lifelong commitment, is not going to convince him. You are right not to agree to it, without a ring. Furthermore, five months is way too early to even discuss this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/19 02:39 PM |
| 17 | Is this a bad sign? (22F) and 22 (M)Not all the steps need to be taken in order to move forward. Plenty of people marry without ever having lived together. If that's what you want, then I'd suggest you stick to your guns, because he does not seem to be marriage-minded, at the moment. At best, he seems to know he wants commitment... eventually... but maybe not anytime soon and maybe not with you. Personally, if you're looking for marriage, I would suggest you move on to someone older, who is actually ready to commit. If you're not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/19 04:28 AM |
| 17 | Newly 18 and interested in becoming a red pill woman.DON'T go into debt. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 08:50 PM |
| 8 | Where to get started in a non-traditional relationship?Do I need to get off my high horse and realize that shoveling (for example) isn't any less "masculine" than childcare...? Yes. I make almost twice what my husband makes, annually, and I have no problem seeing him as the man of the house, because the idea that the "man" makes more is someone else's stupid rule that doesn't apply to us right now. He does have a manual labor job, but he also does the dishes and cooks most of the time, while I pick up around the house and take care of the laundry. H… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 08:47 PM |
| 5 | How to handle a situation like this?If you have other signs of cheating, like he texts this woman frequently or they "bump into each other" for lunch on the regular, then sure, I'd be suspicious. If this is just him helping out a friend, be glad you have a man who will step up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 05:35 PM |
| 9 | Book Recs please on rpw?If you're in your twenties or very early thirties, I highly recommend Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. I was the first to bring this title to the sub, after reading it when I was dating, at 27. I felt like my expectations were reasonable, but this first person account of a woman who regretted being so high on herself, when she was more coveted in the dating market, really helped me to see how ridiculous I was being, in some of my deal breakers (must like ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 05:33 PM |
| 13 | How to handle a situation like this?It sounds like he's just helping a friend. You can either trust him or you can't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 05:07 PM |
| 7 | Love LanguagesMy love language is Acts of Service. My husband's is touch. The funny thing is, knowing that this is how he *shows* love, I've come to crave touch more. My husband is great about doing things around the house, without being asked. I'm a lot more touchy feely with him than I used to be. Aside from my dog and grandma, I don't particularly like to be touched by anyone else. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 05:06 PM |
| 43 | Help me understand something about my husband> Should I purposely make less money so he makes more than me? It's tempting because he seems so happy in those off months. But is it right for me to dim my light so he can shine? Surely that can't be right? Why would you put your finances in jeopardy to stroke his ego? This seems extreme to me. Just let him have his month of triumph. If it were always that way, he likely wouldn't appreciate it as much, especially if you were doing it deliberately. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 05:03 PM |
| 9 | Are Tattoos Unlady Like?For a traditional guy, I'd say anything bigger than a square inch is probably going to be considered unattractive. I have my grandmother's signature on my foot and it's never bothered my husband, but I work in a tattoo-heavy field and he's mentioned more than once how trashy he finds anything bigger or less sentimental. In short, if you must get a tattoo, keep it small, but for your reasoning, I'd skip it. Very few people should see your inner thigh, anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 01:19 AM |
| 49 | Boyfriend has this female friend that's a little too flirty with himI agree with this. At 30, overly flirty gal pals should be a non-issue, for anyone who's seeking marriage. My husband and I had been dating for about three months, when he went to a wedding and a woman made a pretty clear pass at him. He shut it down immediately and told her he had a girlfriend, because he was a commitment-minded adult. OP, you clearly don't trust this man very much and, at 28, you're wasting precious time. If you want to wait around and see if your instincts are right, just kee… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/19 08:22 PM |
| 8 | Why am i so attracted to younger guys?This feels a bit extreme. I think OP could easily hit it off with a late forties, early fifties guy. Most of them aren't going to want to date a thirties woman who likely wants children or still has young ones. They're also, however, not going to want to date a woman who goes home with teenagers. If she plays her cards right and looks at men about 10 years older, though, I think there's hope | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/19 05:59 PM |
| 8 | Dating in College and Ghosting-Advice Needed!My husband was 30, when we met. He waited 8 months for sex, while I got the Gardasil vaccine. He'd had more than his share of hookups and was ready to settle down. He realized that any girl worth committing to, wasn't going to have sex with him on the third date. College can be a great place to meet a guy and you should definitely keep looking, but there's also no shame in Bumble. A lot of guys looking for something serious do have an online presence. As for your parents, I doubt they'd be upset… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/19 05:15 PM |
| 24 | Dating in College and Ghosting-Advice Needed!So, the thing no one tells you about saving sex for a relationship, is that these encounters are absolutely going to happen a few times before you actually find a guy who wants a serious relationship enough to wait, as opposed to a guy who wants to get laid and then see what happens. It's nothing wrong with you. It's nothing wrong with him. You want different things from the opposite sex. Why worry about dating guys your own age? Go for a 27-year-old who is actually ready to commit, if that's wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/19 02:44 PM |
| 13 | Why am i so attracted to younger guys?When you were a little kid, how old was Prince Charming, in your fantasies? Was he 47, with 2 kids and a bitter ex? No. He was a max of a very good looking 30, in his absolute prime and he had zero baggage. In the book Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, Lori Gottlieb tells her story of dating after 40, and she experiences exactly this phenomenon. She just isn't attracted to older men, because her entire life, she pictured finding happiness with someone in his prime. You're hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/19 02:08 PM |
| 5 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?I remember reading an article about how it was likely the number 1 factor for Kate and William. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/19 01:58 AM |
| 17 | How to inform an ex that I'm in a relationship in a ladylike mannerI wouldn't worry about being gentle. I'd just respectfully send him the following after a less than platonic comment: Thank you for the compliment, but I'm seeing someone now and I really don't think that kind of flattery is appropriate, anymore. In the meantime, accepting these remarks is leading him on, when he doesn't know you're in a relationship. He likely sees hope of reconciliation. At worst, you could even be creating an orbiter, which isn't fair to anyone. I, personally, don't think the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/19 01:52 AM |
| 25 | No sex in a year :(I don't think this an RPW problem, but a therapy one. If it's been a full year, and you've brought this up in several different ways, I think you should really consider couples counseling. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 09:08 PM |
| 8 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?We both admit that intelligence was a must have. We are both insufferable know-it-alls. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 01:34 PM |
| 16 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?He doesn't mention it much, but I think my husband is more attracted to my lack of sexual experience with other men, than I had once thought. The other day, he told me to stop saying "tits," because it sounded too vulgar coming from me. He said it made them sound "used." It's funny, because I swear all the time, but that's where he drew the line. For reference, my husband was my second real kiss at 27. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 01:32 PM |
| 4 | When did you know he was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life withI had to explain to my husband's very Southern family, that my dog, Rupert, was named after the librarian from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/19 06:10 PM |
| 2 | Share your online dating success story!Yes, I do. It's all pseudonyms, as well. I've shared it with a couple of people on here. belleofthelibrary.com | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/19 04:10 PM |
| 22 | When did you know he was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life withWe went to visit his friends and I did not fit in, at all, with their wives. They were all really nice to me, but those gals took two hours to get dressed for a trip to Wal-Mart, while all of my drugstore makeup was in my purse. They owned their own hunting gear, went to rodeo dances, and knew everything about the high school football team. On the way home, I was really quiet and my now husband asked me what was wrong. I told him I was never going to be those girls, that I'd always be more Zooey… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/19 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Should women have bank accounts?Yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/19 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Share your online dating success story!I needed to know career, faith, kids, and political affiliation. Fortunately, almost every site asks for this information on the profile. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/19 12:28 AM |
| 3 | Share your online dating success story!I bought him a nice leather bound set of the three and a copy of the Silmarillion for his first birthday that we were married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Share your online dating success story!I prefer online dating to vet honestly. Might as well get the bigger questions out of the way to determine if it’s worth my time. Plus it allows me to be safe and avoids awkward dates. I always preferred online dating. It was so much easier to connect with someone if I knew whether or not we'd even be compatible in the most important ways. I was always worried I'd meet some great, fun guy and a few dates in, he'd mention that he never wanted kids. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 10:26 PM |
| 7 | Share your online dating success story!Awww. This is such a real and genuine way to fall in love. The meet cute might look good on screen, but I feel like this is more the norm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Share your online dating success story!My husband is still begging me to watch the last LotR movie with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 10:18 PM |
| 3 | Share your online dating success story!Very unconventional, but interesting. I'm glad it's working out! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Share your online dating success story!I went on a lot of first dates and, hands down, my favorite thing about online dating was vetting. I could ask all the really important questions before either of us invested real time or energy. That was pretty handy when I was working two jobs and going to grad school. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Share your online dating success story!I don't know that marriage is the only way for a relationship to be successful. It sounds like you met a good person and had a good experience with him, before you were really ready to commit. I think that qualifies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Share your online dating success story!What was the movie? I really want to know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 07:29 PM |
| 7 | Share your online dating success story!This is exactly why I posted this! It's great to see you gave it a shot! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Share your online dating success story!My cousin met her husband on Tinder! Some people are just curious about it and are willing to meet people if they feel like they're genuinely interested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 06:31 PM |
| 7 | Share your online dating success story!I met him on PoF, but I also used OKCupid and pretty much every paid site at one time or another. In time, I realized that anyone on a paid site would also be on a free site, plus you can't actually tell who can even get your messages on the paid ones. My husband actually messaged me on OKCupid at one time, but I guess I was inactive, because I never remembered it. My profile always had multiple pictures of just me or me and my pets. I regularly updated them to reflect my weight and hair and sty… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 06:23 PM |
| 9 | Husband wants to upgrade engagement ringI always joke with my husband about how I want a five carat diamond for our fifth anniversary. I'd never upgrade my wedding ring. That makes it not my wedding ring. We agreed on this, when he bought me the one I specifically said I wanted. I think it's okay to stand your ground, here. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/02/19 05:44 PM |
| 27 | Share your online dating success story!I met my husband on June 9, 2015. I remember the date, because it was my grandma’s birthday. My last date had been with a very nice guy, who was about 40 pounds heavier than his still-quite-heavy profile picture. Despite being an otherwise perfect candidate, there was absolutely zero potential for attraction. I felt like a total ass. Naturally, my hopes were low for this new date, about which I had told no one, because I could not bear to tell my grandmother that great-grandbabies were not pendi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Should I move to a left wing area?Go to a middle state. More conservative, real seasons, much cheaper. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Having a lodger as a couple, advice!?You've already posted this, but with fewer racial generalizations. I can't imagine you'll get much new advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 01:36 PM |
| 7 | Valentines...what do I do for him? I’m not the romantic typeI remember thinking "He never buys me flowers... wait... I hate flowers. I specifically told him to never get me flowers." We've been without Facebook for a year and a half and we'll never go back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 01:31 PM |
| 13 | Valentines...what do I do for him? I’m not the romantic typeValentine's Day is the definition of a greeting card holiday. It's beyond commercial and is just an excuse to make a man top his efforts from last year. It's an expensive excuse to brag to social media and my husband and I both consider it a major eye roll opportunity. That being said, it is also an excuse to buy pizza and a practical gift and have sex, so why not? He's getting headphones and snack mix. If you have a romantic guy, but you yourself are not romantic, you're going to have to learn … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 03:02 AM |
| 12 | Division of Labor in the HomeMy husband and I both work a pretty solid 40 hours a week. I make substantially more money, because he got out of oil for me and started over in a new field. We don't hire outside help, for anything we're capable of doing ourselves. We have a communal pot and are pretty good, but getting better, about not mentioning who brings in what. This absolutely would have been a problem, were he still making so much more. We split some chores, as opposed to trading off. I do the laundry and he does the di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 09:52 PM |
| 13 | Fiance using drugsDon't do it gracefully. This is not an RPW moment. Fuck grace and make it clear you're not going to stick around and watch him ruin both of your lives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 02:49 PM |
| 6 | Who should pay?My husband paid for literally every outing. We're both very traditional, but he was also in oil and I was working as a half time librarian and substitute teaching. He always wanted big expensive dates, so he got to fund them. I'd occasionally make him dinner or bring him a picnic at a park near his rig. I regularly drove to see him an hour away, paying for my own transportation. We, however, never ever went Dutch, nor did I pay. It worked for us. I think you just have to find your own balance. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/19 12:22 AM |
| 13 | My needs/his needsI think you're expecting a lot from a text message. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 08:36 PM |
| 31 | I think it’s time to end things.You're 29. If you're going to bail, there won't be a better time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 08:34 PM |
| 17 | I think it’s time to end things.What would incentivize him? What does he get from marriage that you aren't already doing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 08:34 PM |
| 13 | How do you change your mindset to always put him first?You can't always put him first. You have children. You need to clarify, in your mind, the scenarios where you do have to think about your kids and yourself first, such as their health and safety. If you can allow yourself to acknowledge that, until you're married, your relationship can't come first, you won't feel as bad when you have to say no to something, because you don't think it's a good idea for the children. As for the salsa? I think you realize now that you were being a selfish ass. You… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/19 02:25 PM |
| 4 | How to express my feelings without sounding like a bitch?It is difficult to tell how unreasonable he's being, without information on your finances. If you're doing okay and can reasonably afford both, I understand your frustration. If things are tight, I understand his. It sounds like you're on the right path to a compromise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 07:53 PM |
| 4 | How to express my feelings without sounding like a bitch?Maybe there's a cheaper version for you. Can you just take the dogs along? Perhaps a friend would look in on them? Perhaps he just doesn't feel like you can afford both of these things right now, which would explain why he assumes you just don't want him to go. Maybe the question shouldn't be "How can I do something fun with my family that weekend?" Maybe it should be "When can I do something fun with my family, for a weekend?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 07:35 PM |
| 11 | How to express my feelings without sounding like a bitch?If his trip is fully covered, I think it's fair to ask you to save money. If he's planning to splurge, though, and doesn't want to pay for you to see your family, who you haven't seen in months, I think he's having a selfish moment. You have to choose your battles. Seeing my family is one I would choose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 06:58 PM |
| 10 | How to express my feelings without sounding like a bitch?She was excited. You really think he missed that she wants this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 06:49 PM |
| 26 | How to express my feelings without sounding like a bitch?You're not being a bitch. I would personally add up what boarding the dogs and any other expenses would cost and discuss the budget he has for his trip. If it were less, I'd agree to skip mine. Otherwise, I'd simply tell him I was going. There's nothing unreasonable about spending a weekend with your family, especially if he has the money to gamble. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? What are your plans?I bought him cheap headphones, because he loses them all the time, working outside. I also got him some long matches for the fireplace and a container of pub mix. We're going to eat pizza, watch a movie at home, and have sex... on Saturday, because I work on Valentine's. We mostly think the holiday is stupid, so we do little stuff like this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 05:33 PM |
| 6 | Thinking about breaking up with my boyfriendI think it's fair to consider this excessive. My husband will work in the yard, until dark, then play for an hour while I do the elliptical. A balance exists. It doesn't seem your boyfriend has it. If he doesn't see this as a problem, it's not going to change. You say he wants to take care of you, but he doesn't seem to he doing that working part time and gaming. Imagine having kids with him, the way he is right now. How does that make you feel? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 05:29 PM |
| 13 | Thinking about breaking up with my boyfriendThank you for the gaming comment. While I do think it can become problematic, I'm not going to criticize my husband for playing Red Dead Redemption, while I'm rereading a bad romance novel. We all waste time in different ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Marriage and Prenuptial Agreements.My boyfriend and wouldn't consider marriage if we saw a significant chance of divorce in the future for religious reasons. Literally, no one marries if they see a significant chance of divorce, regardless of faith. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Marriage and Prenuptial Agreements.My husband mentioned a prenup for the family business early in our relationship. I never had a problem with the idea, but he also never got around to having it drawn up. It really doesn't matter, at this point. I cannot think of a scenario where I would ever take advantage of his family... and if I could, they've got connections that could screw me sideways. We tend to forget, however, that prenups are pre. They literally only protect assets you have prior to marriage. Anything earned after that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 01:22 AM |
| 3 | Marriage and Prenuptial Agreements.One of the things that never comes up in this discussion is how some of the clauses people suggest will actually fair, legally. One about "not letting yourself go" is never going to hold up in court. Not only is it too broad, it's simply not a legal matter to determine these things based on appearance. I've actually read that bizarrely specific parameters like this can make it less likely for a court to uphold the legitimate ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/19 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Can learning RPW make some women more manipulative?Even people on social media claim everyone's lying, so I'm not sure how valid that method is, by itself. I think meeting friends and family probably trumps all. You are the company you keep and your relationship with your parents, the comments they make, reveal a lot about you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/19 06:30 PM |
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