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Good points, I am afraid to become less interesting because of texting too much. Sorry if I ask this in a weird way. But how to reduce the texting in a natural way? I cant just stop responding. So I have to try to close the topics and end the convo?
/r/seduction25/04/21 09:12 PM
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Yes but all girls I meet with online and have a fun vibe with I get in the slow daily texting. And I wonder if that might be a bad strategy
/r/seduction25/04/21 08:03 PM
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Please clarify
/r/seduction25/04/21 08:02 PM
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It really is back and forth texting. So she responds to my texts and I to her text. Like a very slow convo.
/r/seduction25/04/21 08:00 PM
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And game is about not losing a girl or fuck it up with a girl who is neutral or even attracted towards you.
/r/seduction16/04/21 10:08 PM
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Where do you meet them?
/r/seduction10/04/21 10:33 AM
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I have turned 31 and at times I get that 'its too late' feeling regarding the progress I want to make with women. But its never too late, gotta keep realizing that and so should you.
/r/seduction10/04/21 10:32 AM
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How full the beard is depends on genes ofcourse. But do your best to make it look good and work with what you got.
/r/seduction02/04/21 10:33 AM
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Is is not difficult because you know not all girls will be interested?
/r/seduction31/03/21 09:09 PM
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If she dissapeares after a few messages thats kinda weird if you said nothing wrong and she was interested in the first place. But this just happends, move on.
/r/seduction30/03/21 08:18 PM
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Do you actualy know people who are working on this everyday and still suck? Ofcourse it depends on what you call good.
/r/seduction30/03/21 08:17 PM
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Make the best out of your 'bad days'. And be amazing on your good days :)
/r/seduction30/03/21 08:12 PM
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UPDATE: Well, I got ghosted. But it's okay guys, I appreciate the advice you guys left for me. It will definitely come in handy in the future. I am curious, do you want to share what happened? She showed interest in you, but then? ANy idea why you got ghosted?
/r/seduction30/03/21 08:10 PM
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Cool that you enjoyed yourself so much Edit2: and just for reference, it's very hard for me to get tinder/hinge connections. Especially not the caliber of girl I'd actually consider dating. Do you think you can score better in real life or you dont know yet?
/r/seduction30/03/21 08:05 PM
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Propably in some things you are confident and in some things you are not. As far as I can tell seduction wise you are confident. I just wonder, why you ask this question because you give a few reasons for us to believe you are confident.
/r/seduction30/03/21 07:47 PM
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And in those cases what happened with the high interest women? Dis they end op asking you out or..?
/r/seduction28/03/21 10:33 AM
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Maybe a silly question but does she knows you are asking about her week because you want a date with her?
/r/seduction28/03/21 10:31 AM
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it's also true that if she's attracted, basically anything you say will 'work'. Are you talking about the approach itself and getting a positive respons? Or in general?
/r/seduction25/03/21 03:43 PM
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Where are you from? Covid measurements are very different from country to country
/r/seduction25/03/21 03:42 PM
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Sounds like a fun way to counter approach anxiety. I do wonder how much you get rejected and how much you score. Any idea?:)
/r/seduction25/03/21 03:41 PM
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If that is your field ofcourse
/r/seduction24/03/21 10:20 PM
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Nice. If its gonna be for this section a post about meeting girls would be cool.
/r/seduction24/03/21 10:16 PM
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I already had with two girls that I had a succesfull second date (lots of fun, she saying she enjoyed it when saying goodbye, kissing a lot) and between the second and third date they said they did not wanted to go another date. So fading extraction is something that I have a hard time understanding (or maybe only acceptance is enough).
/r/seduction24/03/21 10:12 PM
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Thats cool, what kind of writer? And do you write pieces like this more often on Reddit?
/r/seduction24/03/21 10:09 PM
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Some good tips, some bad tips. All together nice post and you have a good writing style.
/r/seduction24/03/21 10:07 PM
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Smart reply, food for thought.
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:45 PM
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Great post
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:41 PM
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But does that not give you trouble during the date to make a good deep connection with her? (Connection as a requirement for her to like you and sleep with you).
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:38 PM
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For a lot of people positive affirmation does not work that way, so that makes it difficult.
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:37 PM
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and push myself to meet tons of girls very frequently I just think 'how' ?
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:35 PM
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Dude I feel you. I went on 2 girls with a date and it went great and she told me she had fun too and we kissed etc. But the day before the third date she texted me she was not feeling it anymore and wanted to cancel the date. She even told me she really liked the dates but her interest had just faded. I was like WTF and yea this hurts. I feel lucky to not be in love yet, so hopefully your heartbreak will soon be over. But I have the problem too that I am not dating/banging other girls. So after …
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:34 PM
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Well there are a lot of things to take from your post and we can see you are angry and frustrated. This is understandeble because you want something that you dont have at this moment and you might feel you will not have it. Unfortunately its an attitude that will not help you with the thing you want so bad. Its important to work on yourself, and thats more then just girls. If you have a difficult time to figure this out and figure yourself out a therapist can help you. Second step is to work on …
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:30 PM
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Its very difficult that you see her that often. She is a girl you have a weak spot for, that might change or it might not. Do you have an active life with other girls? Its okay to have a weak spot for someone but in most cases guys who have one-ites have no girls in there life (at that moment). Is that you? If you the advice is to chase other girls (yes I understand that might be difficult, but its the way to go).
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:25 PM
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Whats exactly the question?
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:20 PM
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The advice sounds good, only problem is what if you dont meet many girls? I now multiple guys who have those things in order but are having a hard time getting a girl because they hardly meet any.
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:19 PM
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Are you asking advice or did you just wanted to blow off some steam?
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:15 PM
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Yes it did answer my question. Thanks for your opinion and insights.
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:14 PM
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Well thats not what I said. I asked why you are thinking about a professional but did not go yet. But if you are sure about it being a depression it might be a smart thing to do.
/r/seduction23/03/21 10:13 PM
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I haven’t gotten professional help but I know I’ve been depressed on and off for a few years now. You are thinking about talking with a professional but have not done it yet? Why is that? but what happens when you feel empty inside?? At times it might feel like this and you might even believe this is true (an imagine you have created about yourself and telling yourself you are empy inside). But in your second sentence you talk about seeking compagnionsip, emotions etc. You clearly have issues bu…
/r/seduction20/03/21 09:46 AM
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I would also be very interesting about your thoughts towards (cold)approaching, rejection, numbers game. Let me know if I should clarify my question.
/r/seduction20/03/21 09:43 AM
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Great post
/r/seduction20/03/21 09:42 AM
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If they really report to the storemanager best advice is to take a good look at how you approached her and what you said, propably its more your fault then hers.
/r/seduction20/03/21 09:36 AM
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How do you start a convo in a grocery store? Can you give an example
/r/seduction20/03/21 07:22 AM
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Can I ask you how often you had this? And does it always end after the first date?
/r/seduction15/03/21 07:27 PM
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Whatsapp or another messaging app is fine for communication. Altho I am aware there are countries that mostly use Facebook messenger, so there might be countries where you really need it
/r/seduction14/03/21 12:58 PM
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I knew I wasn't going to end up romantically involved with but where you can still flirt and tease in a friendly way. Any examples how you do this with women you will not sleep with and are practicing it with?
/r/seduction13/03/21 11:23 PM
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You are kinda right. But to meet a girl to built a great relationship with the same process of meeting girls should be travelled I think. With some healthy casual sex along the way.
/r/seduction13/03/21 11:21 PM
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Thank you. So best starting point is to concentrate on my breath? Focus on the breath and let thoughts come and go, correct?
/r/seduction13/03/21 11:20 PM
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How do you meditate? I have read many times that meditation has great effects on the mind. I tried it a number of times but I have a hard time doing it 'right'. I think I have to start doing it daily asap because now I do it like 3 times a week for 5 minutes, so that might not be good enough. And I try to make my mind blank, but you think about stuff like your current situation.
/r/seduction11/03/21 03:57 PM
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We dont know exactly how your conversations, dates and vibe with her so how to ask her out is a difficult question. So my reply is gonna be a bit general. You have already asked her out 3 times so ask it the same way as wat worked before. Waiting for her to ask is alright but how long will you wait? few days? Few weeks? few months etc
/r/seduction11/03/21 03:29 PM
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Dating multiple women is creating abundance, so I am sure that will help. I do think a lot of beginners and even more advanced guys in game are not dating a lot of women at the same time. So that means there is not really abundance, do you know what I am saying.
/r/seduction11/03/21 02:07 PM
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You only have 'full' control over yourself indeed. But still that does not help with the fact that a possible negative outcome has a bad negative inpact on someone who is outcome dependent.
/r/seduction11/03/21 01:50 PM
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I just received a Wholesome Award for this thread. Thank you stranger
/r/seduction11/03/21 01:46 PM
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You could step back in contacting her. She is doing that too so the contact could become even less if you both do that or she will make up her mind and start talking to you more or even ask you out. But you are eager to see her and more texting is not helping so maybe just ask her to hang out again and see how she responds? If getting the next date is diffucult thats a bad sign unfortunately, but maybe she will say yes and be exciting to see you again.
/r/seduction11/03/21 01:13 PM
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These reminders are mostly to start cold approaching I think? Its a nice way to see every interaction as a learning experience. And enjoying female energy is something I never thought of. Being so depending on the outcome makes it difficult to actualy start approaching. Great list of things
/r/seduction11/03/21 01:10 PM
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Only chatting so I think you have met them on dating apps? Unfortunately not all girls you talk to on dating apps are gonna end up dating you.
/r/seduction11/03/21 12:52 PM
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Escalating steps are being made (kissing). It does not always go quick and if sex happends on the fourth date or number five thats okay too.
/r/seduction11/03/21 12:49 PM
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Do you have a date planned? If she is pulling back while messaging I dont think more messages are gonna improve the situation. Best would be to see if you can move towards the forth date.
/r/seduction11/03/21 12:48 PM
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It's incredibly liberating to be able to talk to women whenever you want. This must be great
/r/seduction11/03/21 12:46 PM
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I read it but did not got much out of it. The writer suggest you should read the book like 10 times. Maybe if I read it a second time I learn more from it. What about your mindset changed?
/r/seduction11/03/21 11:47 AM
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Models ( especially the first half of the book) is really good and the best book I have read about seduction. I did not really like the no more mr. nice guy book. Mainly because I did not got anything out of it. Strangely tho.
/r/seduction11/03/21 11:45 AM
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Focusing on self improvement is a good starting point after it happends. And like the topicstarter says in his last sentence, you propably dont want the girl back anymore.
/r/seduction11/03/21 11:42 AM
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Well a lot of people enjoy video games and netflix. Like I said, what do your friends do? Looking for more interesting hobbies and looking at ways to work on yourself would be good starting points. And cold approach is not hobby related.
/r/seduction11/03/21 11:33 AM
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Are these girls you also had dates with or only chatting?
/r/seduction11/03/21 11:13 AM
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Do your friends meet new people? Check with them. Besides that; cold approach, joining group hobby sessions/clubs, online dating
/r/seduction11/03/21 11:12 AM
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Ar ou not worried you see or meet the same girls again that you already approached?
/r/seduction07/03/21 10:54 PM
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How many 'succes' have you thought to be reasonable?
/r/seduction07/03/21 10:51 PM
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If you have a good click with someone it will go easyer
/r/seduction07/03/21 10:45 PM
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A positive thing you have a lot of dates (with different girls I think). Do you meet all of them online?
/r/seduction28/02/21 07:49 PM
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I say whatever the fuck I want. Stop giving a fuck about what others think, and say whatever is on your mind. ANYTHING. And, own it. I think you are trying to say something along the lines of 'dont hide your opinion', that would be okay. The way you wrote it down is not that good advice. There's nothing I need from anyone. Shelter, food, and clothing is all I need. You may want a beautiful girl, but understand that you don't need her. Good but very hard
/r/seduction28/02/21 07:26 PM
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I think working towards becoming a person of non-needyness is very good. Including being honest and confident. The post was a nice read. Maybe it is the subject but with some things it almost looks like it contradicts a bit. Like the part about 'think about yourself first' and not caring about yourself.
/r/seduction24/02/21 03:17 PM
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I dont like these types of 'wisdoms'. Because attraction itself is a state indeed. But increasing skills (boldness, socialskills etc) will improve attraction results.
/r/seduction24/02/21 03:00 PM
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It depends on what 'the past' between you is. Sometimes it just not work out at a moment and later it might does. Sometimes it might be bait for nothing and sometimes it could be a chance for more.
/r/seduction24/02/21 08:02 AM
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I dont know how well you already knew her but otherwise I would call it 'another option' instead of a better option.
/r/seduction23/02/21 08:13 AM
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I wonder too much about it and I notice I am currently re-thinking everything I sent when I am in contact with a cute girl and it gives me stress. Not a good thing.
/r/seduction23/02/21 08:09 AM
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This is a great little tip so good thread. She needs to feel comfortable otherwise nothing else will happen. There are always a lot of factors but she needs to be confortable with you.
/r/seduction21/02/21 12:12 PM
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Good that you dont struggle with opening. Just keep on doing this and improving.
/r/seduction21/02/21 11:41 AM
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The thing is a lot of people understand they have to take action but just dont do it. So the question is how to actually get yourself moving.
/r/seduction21/02/21 11:14 AM
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These are good steps you are making. Very important to understand (and I think you do) you can only control your own actions and not how he/she responds to it. Was it easy for you to do the approaches?
/r/seduction21/02/21 11:01 AM
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Simple but good post, great!
/r/seduction21/02/21 10:39 AM
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Yep
/r/seduction08/02/21 09:49 PM
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What do you mean with not too many people are active? I think more people are active on dating apps now then ever.
/r/seduction05/02/21 11:27 AM
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Good quality post. Two questions/points of discussion: work on being less approval seeking and validate yourself instead. I guess this is what we call 'needy behaviour'. Any ideas how to work on this? If every girl or guy you approach or date ends up rejecting you, you are doing something wrong. + This being a numbers game ?
/r/seduction03/02/21 12:41 PM
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I use dating apps. But the results are subpar. Not many matches and a lot of convo's that die quick or not start at all. Got a few fun dates out of it, so not all bad. I do wonder if this is normal.
/r/seduction02/02/21 08:40 PM
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Without a picture it is very hard to gve you the best advice. Best thing is to go to a good/trendy barber and ask his or her opinion about the best haircut for your face.
/r/seduction02/02/21 08:39 PM
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Did you hook up with the girls you where romanticaly interested in?
/r/seduction31/01/21 09:51 AM
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I just want you wish you good luck. Thank you for sharing your story and good that you are looking for improvement.
/r/seduction30/01/21 11:20 PM
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I think a lot goes hand in hand. So if you improve things about yourself/inner game it can also improve other areas in your life. Altho I unfortunately still experience problems with needyness the book models can really help with it and help with your mindset if you run into a rejection. Both can be usefull in other areas of your life as well.
/r/seduction30/01/21 11:03 PM
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How often did you try this?
/r/seduction30/01/21 11:00 PM
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Most guys hardly get laid.
/r/seduction28/01/21 10:47 PM
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Could you elaborate on "she gave me excuses here and there"? I would have probably just nexted her if I saw some flakeiness and a lack of enthusiasm to meet up. In this seduction the advice to 'next' is sometimes to easily given
/r/seduction28/01/21 03:46 PM
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Thank you
/r/seduction27/01/21 11:07 PM
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Good points. But what do you mean with 'owning your needyness'?
/r/seduction27/01/21 11:07 PM
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I wonder how many guys in this subreddit are having sex with 8 girls
/r/seduction27/01/21 11:07 PM
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So regarding texting there are 2 groups of women 1) girls you have not slept with 2) girls you slept with Do you only text with them about seting the date? For both groups in my mind thats impossible. I do agree to much texting can hurt more then you win with it
/r/seduction27/01/21 11:06 PM
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Thank you for this post and last sentence. I dont have this skillset yet. It was one of my goals for last year. Hopefully i can get it this year
/r/seduction23/01/21 08:58 AM
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You are saying the best thing is to pursue multiple women. Getting to know them, mssg them and date them. So you dont get to focused on one girl?
/r/seduction19/01/21 12:37 PM
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It feels like I am anxious indeed. I think needyness is always combined with anxious feelings.
/r/seduction19/01/21 10:39 AM
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Well in this case she lives across the border and we are in lockdown. Would be cool to meet in a while, but not messaging in weeks or months and then just sending a message when the lockdown is over feels a bit weird.
/r/seduction19/01/21 07:48 AM
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And in between dates?
/r/seduction19/01/21 07:46 AM
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Good points. I do wonder how much flaking is 'normal'.
/r/seduction16/01/21 10:43 PM
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Did you meet online?
/r/seduction16/01/21 06:05 PM
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I have a question. Where you attracted to him when he approached you? (physical/vibe)
/r/seduction16/01/21 06:00 PM
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Do you have in your bio stated what you are exactly looking for? And lets be real here her level of interest needs to be high enough to date, if it is not high enough that will not happen.
/r/seduction03/01/21 05:04 PM
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Would be interesting to see what happends if you would be honest or more honest. Saving for a house, losing the job, little reset etc.
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:42 PM
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None of these women were really hot, mostly average like me If you where attracted to them that is what matters:)
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:41 PM
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I think you had a few bad experiences on dating apps? One thing to accept is that also online its a numbers games. Not every girl you like will like you back, not even when you both swiped to the right (tinder)
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:37 PM
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so it's like they just wanted a pen pal not a date For fun
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:36 PM
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I do think its important to be good in texting if you are using dating apps to meet girls. In my mind I think you need to raise her interest level and her comfort level up to a level that she is willing to go on a date with you.
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:33 PM
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Do you have tips how to start the convo without it being the boring interview?
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:31 PM
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I dont know about this advice because in the beginning when you match with a girl you can assume she gets lots of messages and questions so she might be just responding to the question itself. Sending fun stuff can make a spark burn that makes her more interested in talking and engaging with you. But if it takes too long for her to engage indeed it is going nowhere. And to be honest when convo's start like that with almost no imput from her most of the time it will die quick.
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:21 PM
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Have you used this way in the past to overcome a time gap and go on a date? Otherwise I am looking forward for an update. The reason is I have experienced and am currently experiencing trouble with girls that I dont go on a date with quick to keep the spark alive for multiple weeks or even months. (Girls I met online)
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:17 PM
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but in mine Tinder girls are there only for the attention You should think about this for a second and realize this is untrue. otherwise tinder and other dating apps will only make you frustrated.
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:14 PM
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It depends on what you call easy
/r/seduction03/01/21 04:08 PM
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I have been trying to mediate the last year and I believe it has a lot of benefits. But I get distracted so much and I can not find a nice app that is free and guides me wel. I want to meditate 2 times a day. One normal meditation and 1 at the end of the day about gratitude. I did find a nice gratitude meditation on the free part of meditation moments but during others I get distracted a lot or feel like its not helping me much yet. Any tips?
/r/seduction02/01/21 11:42 AM
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Good post. But I think seduction is changing and things pointed out in point 2, 3 and 4 are becoming more important in this sub too. And models is text book meterial, or should be textbook material for anyone in this sub. A reason to leave this sub might be because there are toxic people here like everywhere on the internet and in life. In this sub the toxic people are either 1) giving bad advice or 2) having an incel mentality. If you want to learn about 'game' its important to learn from the r…
/r/seduction30/12/20 07:42 AM
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Well this is generic. If you think about it most people are not really charismatic. So the question is how to raise this.
/r/seduction26/12/20 08:07 PM
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How did you start learning to medidate?
/r/seduction26/12/20 08:06 PM
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Well in most cases here a guys gets shorts answers or no answers (ghosted). Re-engaging every couple of weeks/months or so might not be the best advice for most.
/r/seduction19/12/20 10:38 AM
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I think he should have given a bit more explaination on that one. I think thats not really what he means. But really dont improving and changing and doing everything the same as you always did will give you what you always got.
/r/seduction19/12/20 10:36 AM
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Good pot Don't NEXT a girl just because she didn't respond to your first text. Give it a few days, then try again. After that DON'T delete her number. Just stop texting her anymore. I've went on a date with a girl after I texted after 6 months who didn't answer my first message. I fucked it up during the date; anyway, it was still a success I am curious about this story ​ If someone here answered your question, they don't know 99% of these details. So, basically there is no point in asking them.…
/r/seduction19/12/20 10:35 AM
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Nice post. Make it fun so you dont care if you get rejected and to lower the bar of starting to approach.
/r/seduction19/12/20 09:39 AM
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I am curious what things you want to improve but cant do now?
/r/seduction19/12/20 09:17 AM
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It is very important to grow as a person and growing in one area can have effect on other areas.
/r/seduction19/12/20 09:17 AM
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Time to set your goals and bucketlist stuff for 2021 is now! Enjoy life & grow
/r/seduction14/12/20 10:24 AM
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Did you learn textgame through trial and error or maybe it was always good or did you put effort in improving your textgame?
/r/seduction12/12/20 06:59 PM
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Tbh this is the reason you gotta think everything through and put every word on a scale you read here in this sub. You never now who is writing the advice. Lets all try to grow and move forward.
/r/seduction12/12/20 12:12 PM
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I have comments from you here and there in the seduction subreddit and if I remember correctly a lot of it has been solid advice. So I am interested to see your journey. A couple of questions from your openingpost: Because too many heart breaks, disrespect and bullshit from Tinder. Bad experiences that happened to you or what happened and why was it from tinder and you think it will not happen by approaching? then run mad text game. You want to improve your text game or you think your text game …
/r/seduction12/12/20 11:43 AM
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So they say thank you and you move on? This is to expand your comfort zone?
/r/seduction12/12/20 11:40 AM
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And how to respond? Or just try to move on asap without saying anything about it?
/r/seduction12/12/20 01:39 AM
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So you suggest to just let the convo die and move on without saying anything about it
/r/seduction12/12/20 01:39 AM
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To give an update. Both dates dit not happen. 1) Number one did not really respond anymore. The strange thing is that we started talking again and had a couple of fun messages. She said 'she would really like to meet me', after that I proposed a date and she stopped replying again. I am thinking, why would she act like this. 2) On the day of the date she eas acting very vague and later on the day she said she was tired etc. Ofcourse I already noticed her vague behaviour and kinda knew it would n…
/r/seduction12/12/20 12:31 AM
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How did you injure yourself with weightlifting so bad you cant do that anymore?
/r/seduction06/12/20 09:37 AM
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Can you explain what the right time is?
/r/seduction06/12/20 09:34 AM
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Well if she really had covid issues thats a good reason to not go on a date. Where you aware of this or did she just told you right before the date?
/r/seduction05/12/20 11:20 AM
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Depends did she cancel or did she not show up? I would try to reschedule it.
/r/seduction05/12/20 11:17 AM
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How did it go?
/r/seduction05/12/20 11:11 AM
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Everything is okay. You can better look at it as things that are a plus or a minus in your life that will help you (or dont help you) with woman. Its a plus to have your own place. Its just that.
/r/seduction05/12/20 11:10 AM
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Nice to read and motivational because I dont approach yet ​ 5.05pm - First 2 approaches. The girls are completely unreceptive or in a hurry. No worries. I don't need them. I still have fun with them and use them to self amuse. Get in a good mood and decide to mess with people. What did you say and how did they responded?
/r/seduction05/12/20 10:32 AM
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Can you explain why you are desperate, what you want and just a bit of info about yourself. Then we can look into it and move on from there.
/r/seduction03/12/20 10:09 AM
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Yes
/r/seduction02/12/20 06:20 PM
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our same position and had a date that the girl ended up flaking because we got chatty leading up and one day she just unmatched me. I was so hurt but like you I wanted to keep the connection go I can imagine that unmatching felt like a fist to your face. Very weird thing.
/r/seduction28/11/20 10:11 AM
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On wednesday I made a date for this sunday with a girl. We did not talk for two days and yesterday evening I asked how she was and wanted to talk logistics. she has not yet responded. So I guess I will just wait until tomorrow. But if she sents no message today I think there will be no date tomorrow . If she does not reply today I am not sure what I should sent/ask?
/r/seduction28/11/20 10:10 AM
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Its not for you because you are scared? I understand. Any plans to build that social circle because this sounds way easier then it is.
/r/seduction28/11/20 09:44 AM
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What do you do after you have made plans for a date but still have to wait a few days or a week?
/r/seduction28/11/20 09:30 AM
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Can you start a convo with a random girl you see? I try to hook on to every social chance I get like saying something to a cashier. But lets say I am infront of the supermarket and see a hot girl, I can not yet approach her. The anxiety is to big and I want to break through it.
/r/seduction28/11/20 09:26 AM
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Do you mean you approach without doing your best?
/r/seduction28/11/20 09:24 AM
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You gotta be carefull giving advice like that. A lot of guys (also here) believe they are not ready to start meeting girls and they first need X and Y. But it happends a lot they never come to that X and Y position so they never (or very late) start to meet girls. Try to make a combination.
/r/seduction28/11/20 09:17 AM
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Well you need to find a girl who is an awesome match for you. There are different ways of meeting girls and cold approach is one of them. Lets say you cold approach a girl and you just connect perfectly and end op having an awesome date, second date, third date etc...this could be your future wife. The more girls you meet the higher the chances you connect real well with her. Its a numbers game.
/r/seduction28/11/20 09:01 AM
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Can I ask you how your succes ratio is? I think mostly if there is no to little succes and you might not feel confident and good about yourself you get the women obsession.
/r/seduction28/11/20 08:56 AM
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Good job. Do you approach often?
/r/seduction28/11/20 08:40 AM
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But what do you do in the days before the first date? Like I have planned a date with a girl I met onlin. the date will be friday. But the talking has stopped for now. But I cant keep it silent until friday so what should I do.
/r/seduction27/11/20 10:53 PM
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I will try to block some time day this week to walk around and hopefully start talking to a girl. But it just freezes me you know. Like I went to the supermarket today and I did see a cute girl and though about approaching but could not do it pffff. Its in my mind a lot so I have the feeling I am getting closer but I have been saying this for months now. Thanks for the positivity in wishing me luck.
/r/seduction22/11/20 07:08 PM
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I guess its a good idea to see the approach as the success. One of my big goals of this year was to start (cold) approaching. Just 40 days left and besides thinking and reading about it its still there on my goal list..
/r/seduction21/11/20 03:18 PM
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This looked like a fun interaction and she was responding and laughing a lot. Reall balls to approach a girl like that (really hot girl). I wonder if she texted you or flaked? The interaction was short and it was fun but I cant tell if she was attracted (What do you think abuut her attraction level OP ? )
/r/seduction21/11/20 02:13 PM
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So where can we see your video 'Evol' ?
/r/seduction21/11/20 02:11 PM
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Well a cold approach can be a little weird, but that does not mean its bad or something you should not do.
/r/seduction21/11/20 02:06 PM
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Or how attracted she is to you.
/r/seduction21/11/20 02:02 PM
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Some will get creeped out on social networks and some will not If you approach in real life some will get creeped out and some will not.
/r/seduction21/11/20 01:45 PM
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So what worked better for you?
/r/seduction21/11/20 01:44 PM
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Checked it and clicked it away after 10 seconds. You should not be in that subreddit, so much negativity indeed.
/r/seduction21/11/20 01:31 PM
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Did you had a date already or was it before the date?
/r/seduction21/11/20 01:07 PM
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They want to avoid the confrontation indeed and/or have a hard time being honest about how they feel. By the way both things (especially being dishonest) is something guys do too. So yea people can suck in general.
/r/seduction21/11/20 01:05 PM
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Texting too much kills the attraction. Why is this in your opinion?
/r/seduction21/11/20 01:02 PM
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Any tips on how to deal with flaking? So how to act/feel when it does happen? Can also happen while you have only chatted for a few times online and that sucks too.
/r/seduction21/11/20 01:02 PM
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Anything that doesn't refer to the beauty they were born with. This is a smart way of complimenting
/r/seduction21/11/20 12:18 PM
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I am curious how is your win/reject ratio and how often do you approach? How do you handle rejections?
/r/seduction21/11/20 12:17 PM
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As far as I know you do not have to fill in your height on Bumble
/r/seduction21/11/20 11:35 AM
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I dont know about photofeeler. I do really like the concept. But my main picture on tinder got with 32 votes the following numbers: smart: 7.4 trustworthy: 8.5 attractive: 9.3 Good numbers I think, but I dont get many matches on tinder. Any tips how to go from here?
/r/seduction18/11/20 07:10 PM
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many guys here are afraid that women may not like them or text them back but its nothing to be ashamed Any tips on to overome this thought/fear? edit: Trying to overcome my approach anxiety, so that is where my question is coming from
/r/seduction18/11/20 06:48 PM
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Did you had no trouble to start cold approaching?
/r/seduction18/11/20 06:13 PM
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A more effective strategy in my opinion is to only go into seduction mode with women you know are attracted to you. The thing is most guys and guys here including myself cant read this.
/r/seduction13/11/20 11:44 PM
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I dont exactly understand what you mean. If you notice that you get ghosted, thats it. She wants no more contact and you respect it.
/r/seduction11/11/20 08:26 PM
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My life is not boring and I am busy with a lot of things and never bored. But I do have the problem that I meet almost no new people and especially no new (cute) girls. This is a problem for a few years now and really something I want to change. Not sure how yet, but something to work on. Good post for making this point clear again.
/r/seduction11/11/20 08:23 PM
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Low level drug addicts. Hahaha dafuq
/r/seduction11/11/20 09:12 AM
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Well the question to ask to yourself if you do 'a favor' is: 'How would I feel if I get nothing in return'. Try to be really honest to yourself and take your time. If you feel you would want to have something in return or it annoys you just to think about that she will give you nothing then you are doing a favor with the wrong motive. If you feel peace/good with the thought of not getting anything in return(or anything at all for that matter) then its probably okay to do it. At least from your o…
/r/seduction11/11/20 09:05 AM
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I dont agree. Most friends/guys you meet who are good with woman are the natural guys. This could help you approach more and t hats a good thing but big chance it will not really help that much with inner and outer game. You have to put in a lot of the work yourself. In this subreddit there are unfortunately a lot of guys with bad advice and indeed a lot of 'low levelers' who should not give advice. But as with every piece of advice and information you see you will have to find the gems. And the…
/r/seduction07/11/20 10:23 AM
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Some while I posted a thread or comment and it was about having aproach anxiety. I got a dm from someone who wanted to help me. But this was really bad he told me things like that because of my age (I'm 30) things are almost too late for me and when I said I would really love to learn how to approach evebrywhere he said things like 'daygaming is weird you should never do that etc'. I was really surprised why someone would sent an DM and give al sort of shit advice that can make someones situatio…
/r/seduction07/11/20 09:39 AM
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Sounds like you are really improving. I do think you cou/dshould have gone for the kiss with 'Sarah' if the opportunity was there
/r/seduction07/11/20 09:35 AM
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i donr have much value to offer Also depends on what value you mean. A car, a big house etc are values but you can also take a good look at your self and see other values like perceverance or other good stuff.
/r/seduction07/11/20 08:01 AM
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I do not agree. There are multiple levels to what you can see as 'having your life together'. Secondly it creates the idea that you have to keep working on your inner game before you start outer game. Its best to work on both and working and becoming better at outer game (increasing social skills) can have a big effect on your inner game. It is al connected. Only when you would have really really serious problems like being homeless and out on the streets or something like that you might have to…
/r/seduction07/11/20 08:00 AM
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Good comment and correct Tyler.
/r/seduction03/11/20 09:24 AM
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You don't need another person to complete you. This is powerfull
/r/seduction03/11/20 09:21 AM
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Good post and advice Let women go that aren't attracted to you. You need to be a man. I think I still have some trouble with this. Any advice?
/r/seduction01/11/20 09:12 PM
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Yes indeed. Same goes for giving compliments. Give it because you really feel that way and want to give a compliment, dont do it because you want it in return.
/r/seduction28/10/20 08:24 PM
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I am reading this book right now and I am halfway through. I do not really like it, but I see a lot of people here do. Maybe I will appreciate the second half of the book more.
/r/seduction28/10/20 08:23 PM
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You have no core mission or core purpose that is your own Any advice on how to find and make this for yourself? Any examples of your own ?
/r/seduction23/10/20 09:01 AM
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Thank you for this post, I saved it. Still I have been on this point for some time now that I look in this subreddit almost daily but still cant get myself to approach. Its one of my big goals for this year so hopefully it will happen between now and 31 december.
/r/seduction23/10/20 07:43 AM
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As Always, great post Andy. You should write and comment in this section more often, we need people like you here.
/r/seduction23/10/20 07:31 AM
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You could work on your humor. If you do that daily you might become better with it.
/r/seduction20/10/20 09:28 PM
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I do not agree. If you want to become better at something it can be very usefull to make it a habbit. This can be a number of things including improving seduction, social or 'bold' skills.
/r/seduction20/10/20 09:27 PM
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This sounds like a nice exercise
/r/seduction20/10/20 09:25 PM
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I think it has to do with your mindset. But I need to ask, have you been rejected because of your car, lack of possessions, job etc?
/r/seduction18/10/20 10:33 AM
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I have started doing mediation to try it out becouse of the benefits it can have. I mostly read about shorter meditations (5-10 minutes). Why do you suggest to medidate 30-60 min?
/r/seduction18/10/20 10:28 AM
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Such a simple but powerfull post.
/r/seduction18/10/20 09:11 AM
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Problem could be that you are not leading, not bold and it can be obvious you are fishing for a date. I wonder if she is not into you or really in doubt if she likes you and you ask her what a first fun date is. When she replies 'bowling' and you say lets go bowling I wonder if that would really push a girl who is in doubt to go out with you. I do like that you have thought about this and my first impression was 'nice question' until I began to think about it.
/r/seduction16/10/20 11:13 PM
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Good post and recognizable. I have that thought in my head that 'she does not want to be approached by me/talk with me'. I feel like I am getting closer to a first daygame approach but I still cant get myself to do it. Hopefully posts like this will help me through it :)
/r/seduction13/10/20 09:25 AM
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I wonder how long did it take to get 200 matches for you?
/r/seduction13/10/20 09:19 AM
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No more mr nice guy is on my readlist, will start on it soon too. Hopefully we get something out of it.
/r/seduction11/10/20 08:35 PM
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What did you liked the most out of it? I just finished reading this book
/r/seduction11/10/20 08:34 PM
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I get the idea that she does not like me even before talking to her. It really adds to the approach anxiety so i dont approach unfortunately. It seems to be very hard to get out of this circle.
/r/seduction11/10/20 08:33 PM
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but not since moving to California My first thought was awesome that you live in California! I was there 2 years ago for a roadtrip and really liked it (I am from Europe).
/r/seduction10/10/20 10:12 AM
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How often do you approach? Nice to read in your post that you have no problem rubbing a rejection off your shoulder. I wonder does it happen often ?
/r/seduction10/10/20 10:11 AM
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How many girls do you in meet in a month or a year? Lets say how many girls have you met this year? Then we can look deeper in the trouble (its still a numbers game)
/r/seduction10/10/20 10:05 AM
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Will you be doing this more often?
/r/seduction10/10/20 10:02 AM
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worst thing that can happen is being rejected, But this is a thing a lot of guys including me are affraid of..
/r/seduction08/10/20 11:16 AM
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I would call this a succes! Good job
/r/seduction08/10/20 11:15 AM
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I am saying hello to a lot of people I pass outside to get that into my system. I try making eye contact with girls I like too, but they dont watch back.
/r/seduction07/10/20 08:10 PM
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Nice video. Hopefully I can get myself soon finally in action. its one of big goals for this year but also feel like the hardest
/r/seduction07/10/20 08:06 PM
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So if you say hi to someone and they completely ignore you, you've maximized that encounter. But if you see a girl you wanna talk to but don't...you haven't maximized that encounter. This is deep, very interesting way to think about it
/r/seduction03/10/20 01:59 PM
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If you are an average guy out of college with a small social circle and don't actively seek out women. The single women you meet is like 5 a year. Lol this is me exactly right now.
/r/seduction29/09/20 07:13 PM
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I am like so close to approching (it feels that way). I have approach anxiety and I think one of the biggest things holding me back is the following: Don't enforce your insecurities because you got rejected. I am affraid a rejection will crush my self esteem I am trying to built. And maybe the first rejection does not crushes it but I am affraid I will get rejected 10-20 times when I start cold approaching and thats scary for my confidence. Any tips? Approach, get rejected. Blame it on the rando…
/r/seduction29/09/20 07:11 PM
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So you just accept the anxious feeling. A few hundred approaches feel like a lot.
/r/seduction28/09/20 09:59 PM
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being curious is a nice outlook
/r/seduction28/09/20 09:57 PM
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I have read about the 'regret' feeling before. But the AA still weights more then the weight of regret at the moment. How did you train your brain?
/r/seduction28/09/20 09:55 PM
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I am reading a lot in this sub too and have read 2 books about the subject now. So you accept more that you are just not compatible with everything girl you think is attractive. Do I understand that correctly?
/r/seduction28/09/20 09:53 PM
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Interesting view on anxiety. Not something that you should remove, but rather embrace the feeling. i wil let this post go through my mind, thank you for replying.
/r/seduction28/09/20 09:51 PM
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Hmm getting into a fun mindset sounds good. It might lowes the stress that you have to get something out of it.
/r/seduction27/09/20 12:13 PM
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When you statrted did you have approach anxiety or did you just started? Did you had a lot of rejections and if you got one did you care about it?
/r/seduction27/09/20 10:56 AM
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Well if you dont have any friends that could also be a goal for you besides attracting woman.
/r/seduction27/09/20 10:51 AM
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Thank you for your post. Any good video or article about making the first steps approaching if you have aa?
/r/seduction27/09/20 09:43 AM
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Nice post. I do wonder do you have other girls in your life right now? I have the idea that makes it easyer to just 'let it go'. But I dont know how your situation is.
/r/seduction25/09/20 07:54 PM
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Well same thing. For one or two rejections I coule believe there is something wrong with them but what to think after multiple rejections
/r/seduction23/09/20 09:06 PM
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Altho some of my threads got deleted I am happy I found this subreddit. Reading almost everyday about the subject.
/r/seduction22/09/20 08:47 PM
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Multiple rejections can cause you to think you are indeed not good enough. If it happens with 1 girl well okay maybe you can keep your confidence up but what if it happens multiple times and it really starts breaking down your confidence.. Any ideas? This is one of the main fears I have that keeps me from approaching and daygaming. And I really want to start doing it.
/r/seduction22/09/20 08:45 PM
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I think a lot of guys with approach anxiety who want to start approaching recognise my story. It feels like I am getting closer to a first approach, but not there yet.
/r/seduction20/09/20 09:08 AM
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Accept that not every girl will like you, and that you can’t get every girl. If you accept the burden of rejection, you will also be rewarded with the prize of success. I have to get this in my head. I am affraid of rejection, so I cant get myself to approach.
/r/seduction20/09/20 08:44 AM
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You did great. My last daygame session was just walking around and I could not get myself to approach. So great job on your end, keep it up.
/r/seduction20/09/20 08:42 AM
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But its very hard if you dont live in abundance. So if you stop focusing on a girl but have no other girls to hangout with. Thats one of the biggest problems when guys get stuck on one girl, because they have no other girl (s)
/r/seduction19/09/20 01:38 PM
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Kinda stupid about these kind of posts (I have seen it a few times already) is that the advice is to move on if she does not replies. I agree to that. But the post(story always ends with the girl crawling back to you. When in most situations she will not crawl back and you really have to move on and meet other girls.
/r/seduction15/09/20 08:37 PM
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Well I am working on myself (try to get that inner game to the next level) and I think thats good, but I gotta say great post man! Some of the lines really get to me like this: ​ Don't try to change people's perception of you. Own who you are without apology. If you find someone attractive, ask them out. If someone doesn't text you back, move on. Life's too short to not be true to yourself and try to be someone else. Word. Even if you are working on yourself this should not be forgotten. Your wo…
/r/seduction15/09/20 08:30 PM
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This is great. Thank you
/r/seduction13/09/20 07:46 AM
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I hope this is a fun post. This makes no sense at all.
/r/seduction12/09/20 11:32 AM
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f you are receiving signals from the woman that she wants you to approach and talk to her, I think most who approach in this section do it also without receiving signals .
/r/seduction08/09/20 09:22 AM
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I liked part 1 and I like part 2. Great read. Did you enjoy writing both post? Because if you ask me you can write a part 3, 4, 5 etc
/r/seduction07/09/20 08:16 PM
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I dont have really good experience either with girls who have an instagram name in the twitter bio or when they want to switch to instagram quickly. Looks like most of them are not on tinder to find a date. But this could also have been bad luck or bad messaging game from my side ofcourse.
/r/seduction07/09/20 08:07 PM
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Great post. I saved it.
/r/seduction07/09/20 07:23 PM
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Very nicely written, good job. Some more examples would be nice for most of the readers..maybe a part 2?
/r/seduction04/09/20 08:41 PM
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Thank you for your well thought reply. ​ I overthink a lot. This includes thoughts about myself. I have a certain idea of who I am and what I am capable of. What my flaws are and what my strengths are. Because of my overthinking, I sometimes start doubting myself and think if I really am who I think I am. This is why I would rely on other people’s opinion on who I am. And since they don’t know the complete me, different people have different opinions of me. And in these differing opinions, most …
/r/seduction04/09/20 04:01 PM
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An what if you see a cute girl on facebook? Sending a pm is not really possible anymore if you are not friends. So you got 2 options: Add her on facebook or dont do anything at all. Whats everybody's thought about it?
/r/seduction04/09/20 03:39 PM
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I do not agree. How to check improvements you make on your online dating profile is not covered in the threads you are forwarding me too. So maybe my thread was too vague, I will re-think about it.
/r/seduction04/09/20 11:01 AM
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Thank you for your detailed reply. i would say firstly keep working on yourself. also its impossible that all the girls you like wont like you back because there are so so so many women in the world. Yes you are correct. I know there are girls who like me back, because some did in the past. But then I think maybe that was such luck I wont have anymore. I just meet such a small amount of girls which must be part of the problem. ​ The simplest 2 are fashion and fitness. Nothing major. A lot of thi…
/r/seduction03/09/20 05:14 PM
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But in my mind receiving lets say 20 no's in a row will break doen the confidence I have now. How do I change this thought?
/r/seduction03/09/20 04:48 PM
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I think it hardly hapens during the day. A small part of guys approaches girls in a bar/club.
/r/seduction03/09/20 04:43 PM
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So how did you do it and how much time did it took to grow? Congratz and good luck on your date
/r/seduction03/09/20 04:42 PM
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I think a lot of people are scared of rejections because they think they will get rejected by all girls they like. I have realised this is one of my main fears of my approach anxiety. Like I am trying to built op my confidence but how I am I supposed to feel if all the girls I like will reject me. I cant watch your movie now but I did read your post. And because of the above fear I cant reframe it as something good. This may sounds whiny, but do you understand what I mean? How should I progress …
/r/seduction03/09/20 01:29 PM
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Well since I still have to make my first approach I think you did great. Too bad she did not respond so well, but you approached so thats important here.
/r/seduction03/09/20 10:59 AM
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Well the answer for dating apps that you might not want to hear is that you need to be better looking/have better pictures (probably a combination of both) if you are getting no matches now while you have tried it on different dating apps.
/r/seduction03/09/20 08:32 AM
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Do you experience differences in the amount of matches you get on the apps you are using? Its difficult to day what is a descent amount of matches. But I do have some tinder matches built up and I have installed bumble (not used it much tho). but have no bumble matches and the same pictures as on tinder. Either I should swipe more on bumble or something else i going on.
/r/seduction03/09/20 08:31 AM
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Wel to be honest I dont now if everyone who is in medicine automaticly does well with woman. It might increase the chance (its another plus to your resume). Important to remember
/r/seduction03/09/20 07:40 AM
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Just staring sounds weird. I am not sure if it is a good excercise in this way
/r/seduction01/09/20 03:03 PM
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I really liked to read this. Great text and nicely written, like it was warm but strict together. I have got some of the points checked you listed, so thats good. Things like the gym and hobbies (always got something to do and I am almost never bored). You got a point regarding game tho. I am reading about it a lot since I found this subreddit a few months ago, but I keep hanging in this approach anxiety vibe so dont approach and hardly meet new girls. Its on a gaming level my biggest problem no…
/r/seduction01/09/20 02:02 PM
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Thanks for this post. Keep the motivation to work on yourself comming.
/r/seduction01/09/20 09:32 AM
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Fix as much as you can appearance wise. How to check what should be improved?
/r/seduction01/09/20 09:31 AM
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will it be weird if I talk to this possibly 19 year old?" No it is not.
/r/seduction29/08/20 08:22 PM
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I have read models and I am now reading 3% man. You could both read them again? Have you also watched al the youtube videos corey refers to in his book? This will also give a lot of interesting examples that might answer some questions you have. I am not far in the book (about page 80) but I think you missunderstand some of the things he said. Because you ask about 'dominate woman' And as far as I have seen that is not what he talk about at all (or this will come later in the book ofcourse).
/r/seduction29/08/20 08:19 PM
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Indeed you should not speak for others. low motivation to fix my issues. Step by step. You gotta work on your mindset and motivation to work on the different parts of your life. but ain't no decent woman gonna be interested in any event And why would this be?
/r/seduction28/08/20 11:27 AM
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Handling rejection means not letting other's dictate your own self-worth I am scared to start with approaching because of this. I am workong very hard to improve and built up my confidence and I am affraid if I get rejected lets say 20 times the confidence I am working so hard on gets broken down...
/r/seduction27/08/20 07:22 PM
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is he still banging a lot of girls? If so he himself is a strong argument looks are not all and working on other aspects of 'game' are very fertile
/r/seduction27/08/20 07:15 PM
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Just take it as a no
/r/seduction27/08/20 07:11 PM
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Kindness is free. I like this, word up bro.
/r/seduction26/08/20 08:36 PM
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Nice, her reaction was great. You did well, keep it up and lets go for even more improvement.
/r/seduction26/08/20 08:35 PM
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Soms nice mindset tips, thanks This_Mode
/r/seduction26/08/20 08:28 PM
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I wonder. How many approaches did you do? And did you get positive reactions?
/r/seduction26/08/20 08:27 PM
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Most guys act better when they jerk off less. Have you really had more succes after you came or do you think you will have more success. 2 totally different things.
/r/seduction26/08/20 08:18 PM
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Thank you for your reply. I will save this post but I still have a hard time letting go of the feeling that if I will start approaching and getting rejections I will believe in my self even less. I cant shake this off. But...I need to change and improve my mindset even more. I know...any extra advice would be appriciated. I have read through the comments and you are writing good posts about the seduction subject.
/r/seduction23/08/20 02:09 PM
1

Thank you for this exercise and post. I will try it when I walk outside to just things I notice. Do you only use this exercise to think about what you notice with atractive girls or on everyone?
/r/seduction23/08/20 02:04 PM
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If you are going to try tp text her again or not, please look into this comment from Kenic_In_MD. You really want to keep the contact going because you have no other options. So work on yourself and on creating more good options.
/r/seduction23/08/20 01:14 PM
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I’m open to being friends Are you open to listen to her stories about a guy she is dating and having sex now? I dont want to offense you but I think its important to be honest to yourself about why you want contact with her again. Is it OK to be friends again or do you want to date her again and try to fix the relationship you once had.
/r/seduction23/08/20 01:12 PM
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Not really a well thought post, but point 1 is good. Point 2 and 3 are correct in a way, but the explaination is not so good imo.
/r/seduction23/08/20 01:10 PM
3

I dont think anyone is claiming you need to be perfect. But working towards becoming the best version of yourself is a great outlook, not only in seduction but in life in general.
/r/seduction23/08/20 12:41 PM
2

I have read models too. In this category I have started reading 'how to be a 3% man, corey wayne' today. Heard it was good, so hope it is as good as models.
/r/seduction22/08/20 10:59 PM
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I have read about 'our purpose' before. To be honest I am not sure if I am a man on a mission, I feel lost instead of on a mission. Any recommendations how to find our purpose and not being lost anymore. I can imagine that you dont understand what I mean, I can clarify if needed. Btw whats your purpose if I may ask?
/r/seduction22/08/20 02:19 PM
1

I have started to greet a lot of people on the street (so look at them and say hi). To practice to become more social and hopefully I can start approaching soon (I have approach anxiety so I have not really approached girls). But most of the time when I see a girl I like she does not make eye contact with me or look at me, thats not a good thing..
/r/seduction22/08/20 01:53 PM
2

And what if the cute girls avoid eye contact?
/r/seduction22/08/20 01:50 PM
1

It isn’t easy, it feels like crawling over nails at times. Hell it nearly drove me to suicide, the pain was so much. 10, 20, 30 approaches, a whole day, no numbers. Girls rejecting you left, right and centre. “No.” “No.” “No.” “Maybe...No.” I am in the beginner stadium and experiencing a lot of approach anxiety so I have not approached (yet). I am working on myself and my confidence for the last months but to be honest I am very affraid it will get broken down if I only get rejections. I am affr…
/r/seduction21/08/20 06:36 PM
1

How often do you meet a new girl? Maybe this frequentie should be higher? (easyer said than done)
/r/seduction21/08/20 06:02 PM
1

Maybe post a recent convo you had here to get some feedback?
/r/seduction21/08/20 05:43 PM
1

If someone is unwilling to make eye contact with you, or seems to be avoiding it, this may be an indicator that she is not interested in speaking or meeting you. So never having eye contact means no one wants to meet you?
/r/seduction21/08/20 05:30 PM
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Would something like this really help with improving eye contact?
/r/seduction21/08/20 05:29 PM
1

and you can go from low to high interest if you behave in the right ways. People who experienced this?
/r/seduction21/08/20 05:22 PM
1

Oh damn I made a thread about a fear of that happening a few days ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ibmcgq/what_if_the_approach_anxiety_is_true_and_it/
/r/seduction19/08/20 08:53 PM
1

Its nice to have something in common. But you will learn a lot more common interest when you get to know her.
/r/seduction19/08/20 08:25 PM
1

Why does your sister do that? Just for fun?
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:58 PM
1

Does it ever happen that you are are giving short answers at first and this changes because of the messsages you receive from the guy?
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:51 PM
1

Yea short responses or no responses cant really be turned around it seems.
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:50 PM
1

But there needs to be a connection for the both of you to start dating right? So if its not there its gotta be built (Lets say if you meet her online as an example).
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:49 PM
1

Great post. And I think I have to find more things in life that scare me and just do it. One of my biggest goals for this year is start approaching, so hopefully I can do it soon. But like you said; easyer said then done. I already put a lot of time in a sport, so I will not start MMA altough I like the idea.
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:45 PM
1

productively like... what do you have in mind?
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:27 PM
1

The numbers game approach destroyed my self esteem for years and took a lot to get it back. What happened?
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:06 PM
1

How do we separate genuine advice from women from the not so helpful ones? Lol this can also be asked about guys who give advice. Some advice in this subreddit sucks.
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:05 PM
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(one girl literally sent me some kind of love letter by message but I still managed to f*ck it up), Not to bring you down ofcourse, but can you explain how this went south?
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:01 PM
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Nicely written. Looks to be great advice. Thanks for this post.
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:59 PM
1

I recognize this unfortunately. But I do believe you can become better in building attraction through and killing convo's less.
/r/seduction18/08/20 12:04 PM
1

I was expecting more replies, because I think this thread really touches the real fear of a lot of guy. How to believe you are a high value guy if yiu get multiple rejections.
/r/seduction18/08/20 11:24 AM
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I am trying to work on it, confidence building is one of my focus points in inner game at the moment. That is why I was thinking about what holds me back with approaching, so I came up this post.
/r/seduction18/08/20 11:09 AM
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Well to be honest the lack of IOI gives me the idea a girl does not find me attractive. And I have the idea that there are a lot of good looking guys getting IOI's. Also in this subreddit I have read multiple times about receiving IOI's. I agree with the second part. Good experiences would be nice and adding to the enjoyment.
/r/seduction18/08/20 11:08 AM
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I think it is good if you have the strength to walk away. It will help in the abundence mindset and your self esteem. Cool that the girl reached out to you again. Altough it makes your entire post a bit less powerfull. Because lets be honest here I think when you walk away most of the times the contact will end there and she will not reach out to you again. And thats fine, because you walked away and will focus on other girls.
/r/seduction18/08/20 10:02 AM
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The phone is for making dates, not building attraction. I replied in this thread already about a statement like this. But if you are not on a certain level of attraction when you ask her out through tekst she will avoid the subject or ghost you. What is your opinion about this?
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:54 AM
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Yeah when you meet her online just using texting for logistics would not work because you have no connection yet. Or am I seeing this the wrong way?
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:49 AM
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Texting is for logistics only. I have seen this quote many times already. But if the connection is not high enough she will ghost you or just keep talking with you without responding to a date. How do you think about this?
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:48 AM
1

Honest post. You have been doing wel for the last 3-4 years. May I ask how/where have you meet most of the girls?
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:46 AM
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Not sure if the comment was for me or the topicstarter. But I meant if you have more matches its easier to just let it go and start talking with someone else.
/r/seduction18/08/20 08:44 AM
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And have a lot of matches I guess
/r/seduction17/08/20 09:34 PM
1

If you can change your mindset so you 'like' the feeling of excitement, I guess you are right. But I am not sure how to do this. When I see an attractive girl walking by I dont get an IO so it makes me extra affraid and not a good form of excitment at all.
/r/seduction17/08/20 09:34 PM
1

Well, yes I guess they have the same physical atributes. Whats the take away?
/r/seduction17/08/20 09:07 PM
1

I agree I might be overthinking it, a habbit I know I have. Well I have talked about approaching with a couple of friends already but I think I am alone on this. But besides overthinking I dont think i am really saying anything strange. How can we believe in ourself if the girls keep on rejecting you.
/r/seduction17/08/20 09:06 PM
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I'm thinking of asking her out to drinks sometime this week. The way I see it you have nothing to lose, so go for it and ask her to grab a drink.
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:47 PM
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By the way I did not wanted to bring you down, but it felt relateble. And yea I know, would be a nice boost.
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:22 PM
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Does that have a bad effect on your confidence (too) ? Like if you would have the scenario of cute girls laughing at you and looking at you when you walk by or when you are at a bar a lot I guess that would make your confidence grow and gives a feeling they are attracted to you and its OK to approach. Would be nice..
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:15 PM
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Well she might laugh. He changes the subject and its okay again because she is attracted to him.
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:12 PM
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I also don’t really get IOI’s or get checked out so I quite frankly feel blind out there. I recognize this. I wonder do you feel bad about it? A lot of advice here are about reacting to IOI's and flirting with the eyes and that kind of advice makes me feel worse.
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:09 PM
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Use the 4 hours to work on your mindset.
/r/seduction17/08/20 07:58 PM
0

Great to read you have grown a lot because of approaching :)
/r/seduction17/08/20 07:58 PM
2

I think it is a good idea to write down what went good or bad after an approach/interaction/online match etc.
/r/seduction17/08/20 07:28 PM
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There is not much I can help you with to be honest. I can understand the frustration and questionmarks you seem to have because girls dont like you. I have asked myself the question too multiple times 'why doesnt she just like me or why is she ghosting me'. It is hard to accept and move past it if the failures are a lot more then the successes. But be carefull you dont get to mad and frustrated. If you start to hate women that is not going to help you at all and might make you into a bitter pers…
/r/seduction16/08/20 08:11 AM
1

Do you know her in real life or is it a random girl?
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:57 AM
1

See a girl holding prolonged eye contact? And if this does not happen? ​ Edit: Good post tho
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:54 AM
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If you look at your tinder profile, what do you think? Now look at it again and think what do I say on the pictures, who is that person, what kind of person is he. Then think again about what can be improved.
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:50 AM
1

And sometimes she might not really know it herself just that she does not feel interested/attracted to you
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:48 AM
1

despite approaching hundreds of girls during daygame and going out. I wonder what the expert will say about this. Concidering approach approach approach is an advice usually given.
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:44 AM
2

Great post. Any ideas/tips how to improve confidence?
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:42 AM
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Give her a look like "I think you're attractive, but I'm not thirsty". Your average guy who likes a woman has what I call "Needy eyes". He has a look of "I think you're so beautiful. Please like me". If she likes you or not doesn't matter right about now So how do you give that 'right' look?
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:40 AM
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Well first good luck with everything and I have to say you reflect pretty okay, and good to see you get a lot of replies. Besides girls I think you also have to start working on some things in your life like meeting people in general and hopefully gain a few friends.
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:35 AM
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Haha well I dont know. To be honest I dont know how many people I look in the eye and how much of a differents it makes. I will try to look everyone in the eyes to see there eye color to practice.
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:33 AM
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I think you will to start small. Like thinking of something you want to ask/say to a girl. To practice it could also be 'hey do you happen to know if there is a starbuck arround here'. Having real convo's and approaches can come later when the freezing is a bit less.
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:31 AM
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That goes againt every other advice indeed.
/r/seduction16/08/20 07:13 AM
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Would it be an idea to 'look in her eyes to see her eye color' as a way to practice really looking into her eye? I never now which eye color someone has and the only way to see it is too really look in her eye.
/r/seduction14/08/20 11:09 PM
1

Why is therapy not an option?
/r/seduction14/08/20 10:18 PM
1

How many girls did you approach ?
/r/seduction14/08/20 10:16 PM
1

Thats why a lot of advice in this subreddit are aabout working on outergame and innergame (this is innergame)
/r/seduction14/08/20 10:15 PM
1

If a girl wants to meet with you she won’t really care if you send her 3 or 30 texts before actually asking her out. Maybe depends if you meet her in real life (there is already attraction) or online ( some attraction needs to be built). Do you agree?
/r/seduction14/08/20 09:52 PM
3

90% of girls are still going to be flakes. That's reality. Is this really the score for guys(lets say also the people in the seduction section)
/r/seduction14/08/20 09:51 PM
1

Most of this would be face looks right? Or dont you agree?
/r/seduction14/08/20 09:49 PM
1

Interesting thread. So how do we feel bout just adding a girl on facebook or something like that. Sending a message if you are not friends does not really work anymore.
/r/seduction14/08/20 09:46 PM
1

I have read it more about not having contact for multiple days when the date is set. Feels a bit weird to me, but I am not the expert (yet). Let us know how it went.
/r/seduction14/08/20 09:38 PM
2

So you would practice looking everyone in the eyes
/r/seduction14/08/20 09:33 PM
1

You just mean looking in someones eyes or in a special way?
/r/seduction14/08/20 09:26 PM
1

Maybe it is a strange question but what if you never really have eye contact with girls. Or do you only mean eye contact while already talking to a girl
/r/seduction14/08/20 09:05 PM
2

You are inviting her to join you on an epic adventure! I like this
/r/seduction12/08/20 07:47 PM
3

Yeah I fellt your post, like you where saying it to me. I am so close to taking those actions but yet it still feels so far away.
/r/seduction11/08/20 01:07 PM
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Just read your question again and you will know the truth. Looks matter but they are not all that matters. And to give some more of my opinion: Let's be very honest, no sparing any feelings. I guess you dont find yourself attractive? Have you approached girls already? Does cold approach only work if you are an attractive male, I mean an 8 or above. I feel like if you are average it just doesn't give off the right flavour. Looks matter so it will be easyer and she automaticly will like what you s…
/r/seduction11/08/20 12:58 PM
1

Oef, spitting some harsh truth
/r/seduction11/08/20 12:50 PM
1

Strange thread, I wonder what you are expecting to hear?
/r/seduction11/08/20 12:48 PM
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So this is something you are telling us or telling yourself? I agree with you, but I am having the same problem; reading, but not taking (enough) action.
/r/seduction11/08/20 12:43 PM
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Yes I used photofeeler and my first picture got a good grade on photofeeler. But tinder results are still a bit dissapointing. In total I have 4 pics now so maybe some of the pics need to be changed and I could add one or two more so they really tell a story (the story aspect is missing). And I do not have a bio yet, altough that might be the last thing the girls look at I might still need it.
/r/seduction10/08/20 02:23 PM
2

And important question how do you go from low value or medium value to high value? What steps should we take? I also asked this question yesterday in a thread.
/r/seduction10/08/20 01:56 PM
2

Do you meet this girls online or in real life?
/r/seduction10/08/20 01:54 PM
1

I will do that if I have the chance :)
/r/seduction10/08/20 01:54 PM
1

Either everyone knows what exactly is hight value or nobody knows haha. I was exting a bit more views on this important subject.
/r/seduction10/08/20 01:51 PM
1

I have been powerlifting for some years now, so lets move to the second step. What would that be? Posts like this are creating the idea's in my head but I can not yet connect everything and really move myself forward with seduction.
/r/seduction09/08/20 10:01 PM
1

90% flaking is hell of a lot. So lets say you meet or match with 20 girls its not strange that you can only get 2 of those on a date?
/r/seduction09/08/20 09:46 PM
1

Great job. And so nice she responded that well Hopefully I could do something like that too. I am strugling with AA so much. D o you approach like this a lot?
/r/seduction09/08/20 09:40 PM
2

I think you have a lot of learning to do. Take 2-4 hours of your time and start reading through the threads on this subreddit.
/r/seduction09/08/20 09:37 PM
1

Depends how you get rejected.
/r/seduction09/08/20 09:35 PM
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Most girls will decide on your first picture (the face picture) if they will swipe you to the right. So what to do if you have no matches or almost no matches. Because when I see the tinder threads on reddit I almost all the time see 2 groups. Groupe 1: Lots of matches, groupe 2; no matches. Groupe 1 are the guys who look good. 8+ on the looks. Groupe 2 has guys with a bad profile (Thats what you made this thread for) and the second part of the groop are the average and below average guys. What …
/r/seduction09/08/20 09:31 PM
1

Great post. But where to start:)
/r/seduction09/08/20 08:59 PM
3

You have a chance to share the female perspective
/r/seduction09/08/20 08:59 PM
1

You are on the right track that you are thinking way more about what you message to the girls that you like and maybe should try to care less. But something thats still a big difference you dont flirt with the girls you are just friendly. And the girls you like need a different kind of messaging so I dont think its really a problem that you think more about what you message.
/r/seduction09/08/20 07:21 PM
2

I think approaching and dating have a lot of the times a little bit of awkwardness in them and thats totally fine.
/r/seduction09/08/20 02:00 PM
2

This sounds more like you are expecting the conversation to be boring and might die, thats very different then beeing creepy. And I think the solution is different. You could think of a few stories and subject beforehand that you switch to when the conversation is turning into an interview.
/r/seduction09/08/20 01:58 PM
1

Have you (cold) approached girls ?
/r/seduction09/08/20 08:22 AM
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Please put some more time in creating your question. How good are you with the girls you are not interested in ? (And why are you texting with them and how do you get their phonenumbers ). And how shit are you in the girls you are interested in?
/r/seduction09/08/20 08:21 AM
1

If you can’t date multiple women in this day and age then it’s a problem with you. You think si?
/r/seduction09/08/20 08:15 AM
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I understand the feeling, I have turned 30 and really want to improve myself on multiple aread of my life including girls . But age is just a number you should not look back at what did not happen but decide everyday is a chance to grow and take steps. ​ She makes getting laid seem super easy. What does she say? About her getting laid or about you? (any kind of advice in what she says or does it just works against you?)
/r/seduction09/08/20 08:13 AM
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Then what do you want ? What do you want in life and what do you want with a girl? Can you explain that? Because if you dont want anything social then I guess you dont want to date a girl? Please clarify. ​ Since I'm being myself... everyone says "be yourself." a lof of people say this and its either good and bad advice. I would say improve yourself, but stay honest.
/r/seduction09/08/20 08:02 AM
1

It looks like you are growing as a person, which is a good thing.
/r/seduction09/08/20 07:48 AM
5

A lot of people are sick in the head. Attacking a girl is horror stuff.
/r/seduction07/08/20 06:40 AM
10

Did she already notice you? Like did you had eye contact or something or did you approach he without any of that?
/r/seduction05/08/20 09:18 PM
1

This is so nice to receive. You did great and really made her day
/r/seduction05/08/20 09:16 PM
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proud of you. Hopefully I can post soon I did a cold approach too.
/r/seduction05/08/20 10:18 AM
1

So you look very good is the subject of this post? Congratz on the score and the happy vibes.
/r/seduction04/08/20 09:37 PM
1

Maybe there are other people who can give advice regarding the dating sites. I strongly have the idea that looks matter a lot on datingsites. Have you approached girls on real life?
/r/seduction04/08/20 02:56 PM
2

I have read models and it really helped me altough I still have big steps to make in the seduction section and I am still at the beginning. Some of your other recommendations are on my list.
/r/seduction04/08/20 02:48 PM
1

Friendzone situation?
/r/seduction04/08/20 08:33 AM
1

Thank you for the list. Do you feel the books have added a lot to your personal development and improving in seduction?
/r/seduction04/08/20 07:01 AM
1

Almost all of these problems, are a product of guys that are overthinking, have insecurities or a fear of rejection. Sounds like me indeed. So what steps to I take from here? Gotta work on my confidence and have to overcome approach anxiety...
/r/seduction02/08/20 08:18 PM
1

The question is will you ever meer your expectations and be on the level that you take the step to start approaching?
/r/seduction02/08/20 08:14 PM
3

I have only read models and thats a great book (especially the first half). I have not read 3% man yet, but its still on my must read list.
/r/seduction02/08/20 07:19 PM
12

The pen idea is pretty smart to practice keeping your hands our of your pockets
/r/seduction01/08/20 09:10 AM
1

Any tips for a bio? Currently I have no bio
/r/seduction31/07/20 08:52 PM
1

Yes attractive guys get tons of matches and the rest just get a few unfortunately.
/r/seduction31/07/20 08:51 PM
1

How in gods name anybody is scared of rejection is beyond me empathy
/r/seduction31/07/20 11:13 AM
1

Lots of threads too about people not getting (good) matches
/r/seduction30/07/20 09:17 PM
1

To me the point of game and approching is more about finding women you already have intrest in you and it's not about persaduing someone someone to like you. The way I read it ,besides improving yourself, is meet a lot of girls because the TS says you have to find woman that already have interest in you. And for that some might have to hit 'high numbers'. I will quote the TS below. But I could have misinterpreted him To me the point of game and approching is more about finding women you already …
/r/seduction30/07/20 08:58 PM
1

For example, a girl I met rejected an offer do go on a date with me but wanted to continue being friends, I told her that she's way too special of a person for me to just sit on the sidelines, I'm not that kind of guy, I won't be passive and inactive, I'll keep trying, so if she doesn't want that then we should stop seeing each other. I stopped messaging her and a week later I received a message from her. She started chasing me after rejecting me. Nice this worked out so well for you in the abov…
/r/seduction26/07/20 03:09 PM
1

I always have the idea that the guy who post to daygame a lot (like daily) live in a big city, but I am not sure ofcourse.
/r/seduction26/07/20 02:57 PM
2

Day 4: "Hey excuse me, can you give me a compliment?" ----NOTE: THIS WORKED EVERY SINGLE TIME AND I GOT TONS OF LAUGHS AND EVEN A COMPLIMENT This is a cool question that can light up your day. But (maybe the AA talking) dont you get strange reactions or people who dont want to give a compliment?
/r/seduction26/07/20 01:36 PM
3

It is on top of your mind and you have the intention to do it. Good luck tomorrow.
/r/seduction26/07/20 01:34 PM
1

Well by bending the guy hopes she will like him more. But you have to accept not all girls like you and thats OK.
/r/seduction26/07/20 01:29 PM
3

I am reading a lot here and I want to make the steps to tart approaching (i got approach anxiety) and a post like you should wait for an IOI makes even more scared. Because when I walk outside to be honest I never see girls give an IOI.
/r/seduction26/07/20 12:39 PM
1

So if you never receive a smile the advice is to not approach?
/r/seduction26/07/20 07:48 AM
1

How was your connection a few years back? Is there something you could sent (like a picture) and say something like 'hey long time ago we spoke and so weird but i was reminded of you because of ..... '. And then see how she responds.
/r/seduction25/07/20 08:55 AM
2

Thats about 171cm right? Thats my length too and luckily one of the things I have always accepted. You know it is something you can not change. There are things about you that make you more or less attractive. And yes being taller would have 'given you bonuspoints' but its not the case so it does not matter. You are also not that crazy short. Change the things you can and accept the things about you that you cant change. There is a lot you can work on and improve so dont put to much time and tho…
/r/seduction25/07/20 08:52 AM
1

teach me more about that mentality
/r/seduction21/07/20 08:02 PM
1

Not sure if it works this way unfortunately.
/r/seduction21/07/20 08:01 PM
0

Hard to argue with your post
/r/seduction21/07/20 07:59 PM
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It feels weird to start a convo with such a random question. Have not done something like this tho.
/r/seduction21/07/20 07:38 PM
4

Only works if you get rejected just after approaching her. If you get rejected later this does not work.
/r/seduction21/07/20 07:33 PM
6

But you still have to put time in meeting girls right? Being productive gives you a more busy life and might lower your needyness and that are advantages I think. Thoughts?
/r/seduction21/07/20 09:30 AM
1

Well i think you have to learn how to meditate. I dont think i can force myself into that right now
/r/seduction20/07/20 09:08 PM
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Haha is this advice for real or is it an advice more packed as a joke..
/r/seduction20/07/20 08:36 PM
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If you meet someone online you might have to put more time and effort in getting to know them better so she will go on a date with you. What are your thoughts about that?
/r/seduction20/07/20 08:24 PM
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The ideal situation is to not be needy intrinsically. This means having an abundance mentality–knowing that there are always other women out there. This sounds real valid but very hard for a a lot of guys who are just talking to that one girl they are into. Must be way different if you have a couple of hot girls texting you they want to sleep with you. So in the first situation. How do we do it?
/r/seduction20/07/20 06:30 PM
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I think I read something like this in models. But it is very hard if you dont really believe it. Like the girls I am attracted to I have more the feeling I need to win them over then that they want me bad and need to win me over. Know what I mean?
/r/seduction20/07/20 06:24 PM
1

That went quick. Too bad after this great start, but good luck on your new date.
/r/seduction18/07/20 09:21 PM
1

Cool post. Keep us updated how it goes with her.
/r/seduction18/07/20 09:08 PM
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I think I saw this post or something similar a while ago and I wondered...how do we find our purpose.
/r/seduction17/07/20 07:07 AM
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It looks like she is giving a few hints for you to go away. Two times she mentiones her boyfriend, she mentions he is real, she begins to walk slower, she is not really in a convo with you and she stops walking etc.
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:24 PM
1

Great idea for a blogpost here on reddit; curing the fundementals of needyness.
/r/seduction16/07/20 09:32 AM
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I saw a comment from you in my thread about needy behaviour. So great timing! Your post is well written and very informative, thank you for sharing.
/r/seduction16/07/20 09:28 AM
1

Not easy to find that balance between not contacting too much and contacting enough.
/r/seduction14/07/20 09:56 AM
1

One of the biggest problems all beginners have in this seduction section is being to needy. I had expected this thread to be way more populair.
/r/seduction14/07/20 09:44 AM
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If you go with the flow but have a high degree of needyness in you this will influence your behaviour even if you just try to go follow that flow.
/r/seduction14/07/20 09:41 AM
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So lets say she sents something that does not really need an answer. It feels very weird to stop texting and let a day or so go by without texting anything. Is this just me or..?
/r/seduction13/07/20 07:37 PM
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So look for common interests and hobbies. And what if you dont have many things in common? Or would you say you can always find enough if you connect with someone
/r/seduction13/07/20 09:51 AM
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Kinda vague to just follow the flow?
/r/seduction13/07/20 07:41 AM
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We talked a lot during our first date and I think I gathered some info about her that you mean. Things like ; I know some of the movies and series she likes and I know about her pet. So those are subjects that might spike the conversation and make it fun is what you are saying?
/r/seduction12/07/20 09:46 PM
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Normal chit chat is not really the way to go while texting. I agree it can get boring. Still gotta wait for like a week untill the date and I dont want her to flake because the messaging becomes boring. If its like a continues conversation stop texting her can be a bit hard isnt it? Do you mean when she says something that does not really need a respond just dont respond instead of sending something new?
/r/seduction12/07/20 09:41 PM
1

Simple but effective
/r/seduction12/07/20 07:37 PM
1

Great job. Do you remember how you started the convo?
/r/seduction12/07/20 07:29 PM
1

Thank you for this post. And nice to read you have improved yourself and your life so much.
/r/seduction12/07/20 07:23 PM
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I am sorry, I will try to explain what I mean. There can be girls you meet (can be online or offline) and you message. But the messaging is going on and on and seting up a date is not really going that well. Is there a moment in time you would just move on or would you keep on messaging. It's best to go out with a girl after a month of meeting her, rather than never. My question is a reply on your second point, like this sentence ^^
/r/seduction12/07/20 06:59 PM
1

Would you say these points are also the way to go while texting?
/r/seduction12/07/20 06:41 PM
1

Did you already score a few phonenumbers?
/r/seduction12/07/20 06:39 PM
1

Nice list. I wonder you talk about 'stay patient'. How would you message with her before you stop if you cant get her on a date?
/r/seduction12/07/20 06:28 PM
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Most girls do not want to feel like a slut. So if you ask them out of the blue to have sex big chance there defense mechanism will start to work. But if you see it in a more flirtatious matter and you are flirting a lot then she is in an adventure that can go anywhere.
/r/seduction12/07/20 06:23 PM
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The thing is; whatever answer you will get you can not change your height. So you will need to work on other things.
/r/seduction12/07/20 06:20 PM
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Could be true. Altough I guess there must be some kind of 'attractiveness' minimum you need to be. if she is not attracted to you at all it is going to be very hard.
/r/seduction12/07/20 06:18 PM
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Vulnerable as a word makes it a bit vague what he exactly means. Because some men are feeling so vulnerable so for example they do everything for a girl (=very needy). Bold would have been better I think. But I do understand why he choose vulnerable.
/r/seduction09/07/20 09:12 PM
3

Bold would have been better fitting indeed
/r/seduction09/07/20 09:09 PM
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Well for me the first chapters (about 1/3 of the book I think) was really mind blowing. Reading about the needyness and the examples really learned me a lot. It fellt like the basics, and shed some light onto my own behaviour. And also behaviour of others (Everyone knows somebody who is in a relationship and just throws everyting from his own life and personality out of the window). I does not have a lot of practicale hand on things to use. But the things explained in the beginning of the book a…
/r/seduction09/07/20 09:09 PM
2

Great post about a great book
/r/seduction09/07/20 08:59 PM
2

How old are you? My answer will depend on your age
/r/seduction08/07/20 08:48 AM
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Good read!
/r/seduction06/07/20 08:40 PM
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Dont use it too much. I think 1 emoticon every 2 texts is a bit much. An advantage of lowering the amount of emoticons you use is that you think better about your tekst. You want her to feel an emotion and without the emoticon you have to do your best to make her feel the emotion just by reading the words you have written.
/r/seduction05/07/20 07:51 PM
1

Haha alright so lets try out tinder plus for the experiment
/r/seduction30/06/20 09:25 PM
1

You need gold or something to use passport right?
/r/seduction30/06/20 09:03 PM
1

So maybe worth trying out the gold version for this? Its an experiment
/r/seduction30/06/20 09:01 PM
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She reacted very positive, you did great ​ Some nice validation there but I'm not really sure what to do. For the advanced guys in here, do you think I should keep texting/snapping her and push for a date or just wait for them to break up? I am not one of the advanced guys but my gut says trying to get between a relationship is just not cool Keep in on the low side with her and maybe if they break up you two will hook up.
/r/seduction30/06/20 08:48 PM
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Being sleep deprived can sometimes help, altho eventually leads to a crash. I would say being energetic and fully rested is much better. Just because of the fact that a person feels more hapyer when he is not sleep deprived would add to a better vibe I think.
/r/seduction29/06/20 08:47 PM
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I do not deny the openingpost but I want to add not anyone does this right. In my experience some people make the crazy enthusiastically 'hellooo' sound very fake, and that is not what you want to achieve.
/r/seduction29/06/20 08:22 PM
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I can imagine you want to believe there is a reason for her flaking, but unfortunately if this happends more then once she is just not that interestred. One thing I am curious about. In the beginning she flaked a few times and then you did hangout together twice. What did you do that made her not flake. Think about that and maybe you can try it again if you really want to give it one last shot.
/r/seduction29/06/20 08:04 PM
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You are lucky to be in the Netherlands where most (younger) people at least talk a bit of basic english. So I would not worry too much about it. And she will wonder why you dont speak dutch so that gives you something to talk about atleast.
/r/seduction28/06/20 09:59 AM
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Because it can crumble the ego/self worth you have
/r/seduction28/06/20 09:57 AM
1

so true...
/r/seduction28/06/20 09:56 AM
1

Thank you for taking your time to write this post. You worked a lot on your inner game. Can you explaine how you worked on your outer game, where did you started meeting girls etc. Because you have a lot of succes that makes me curious too.
/r/seduction28/06/20 09:47 AM
1

Cant downplay this fact.
/r/seduction28/06/20 09:09 AM
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It can be so harsh if she flakes especially if you have the feeling it is going well. An example I had: A few months ago I matched with a girl on tinder. The first few messages she was not responding that much but it turned and we got in some nice messaging and exchanged number. We texted for a couple of days and she even started to responding in voice memo's (I thought this was a good signal) and we decided to pick a day for a date. We picked a date in 2 weeks. We texted a few more days and sud…
/r/seduction28/06/20 08:56 AM
2

You did great! ​ for a moisturizer I didn't need xD Maybe that moisture is really good. haha
/r/seduction28/06/20 08:27 AM
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You are already giving a few answers. You should socialize, why dont you do it. Secondly I read you have no friends. I know this is the seduction section but having friends is one of the best things in life (if you have cool/nice friends ofcourse). So besides thinking about girls I would also be thinking how to make friends, that would increasy your happyness. And having friends might help you with girls too if you sociale more or become more outgoing with them.
/r/seduction28/06/20 08:19 AM
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You cant control your length but there are a lot of other things you can work on, focus on those. Good luck.
/r/seduction28/06/20 08:15 AM
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Cool that you have started daygaming. I am from the Netherlands too and will follow your progress :) I have not yet approached like this, hopefully I will do it soon too. Did you noticed no problems with the corona situation while approaching or did you kept your distance? If I understand correctly your indirect opener is just asking for a cool spot ?
/r/seduction28/06/20 08:10 AM
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If this help keep it in your mind. I am too much of a theory guy to stick to this unfortunately. But if it helps you thats good.
/r/seduction28/06/20 08:06 AM
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Haha well I think he means next time he sees her he wants to approach her before he starts to doubt himself again (And this sure will happen if he wait to long). But yeah 3 seconds rule means within 3 seconds the first time you see a girl
/r/seduction28/06/20 08:06 AM
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Although you did not approached the girl you wanted you did approach a girl later so thats good. I kinda laughed because you called yourself 'theory guy'. I think some beginners in this sub including myself can relate to that. ​ Keep it up
/r/seduction28/06/20 07:59 AM
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I would also be interested to learn how you improved your profile to get thousands of matches. Thats really a lot
/r/seduction21/06/20 04:13 PM
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So you are telling me you message these women out of nowhere, and out of all the male options she has, she picks the random social media stranger she has never met to hang out with and fuck? Where have you read this ? Because I have not seen that advice a lot around here
/r/seduction20/06/20 02:11 PM
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I read a lot in this section about daygaming, so that might be possible. To be honest I have not yet done it, but thinking about it a lot and hope I will start doing it soon too.
/r/seduction20/06/20 02:08 PM
1

The pause is a good thing. Makes it interesting indeed and less fake.
/r/seduction20/06/20 02:06 PM
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Most are responding nicely, good to see.
/r/seduction20/06/20 02:05 PM
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Well it can be a downside for a girl if you dont have your own place. But thats it, it does not make you unatractive or undatable if thats what you are asking. But yes as a downside it can make you less atractive. But I want to add for your innergame and to grow as a person living alone can really help you grow. This should me something to concider
/r/seduction20/06/20 02:03 PM
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Cool to read you are still keeping up. Great, hope I will soon take my first steps too. Keep on motivating us.
/r/seduction18/06/20 09:25 PM
1

Kinda sucks to read about eye contact because I like never see it (or maybe I never have it). Either way not good.
/r/seduction18/06/20 09:24 PM
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You can give it a shot. Why not.
/r/seduction14/06/20 07:48 AM
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Congratz with the number. Tbh I like to read your longer reports, but I understand it takes a lot of time
/r/seduction13/06/20 02:11 PM
3

I like this post; being the most intense most authentic version of yourself.
/r/seduction12/06/20 08:15 PM
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If you thing RUNNING after a girl to say hi is game then you’re hopeless You see a girl who looks amazing but she is walking fast and is not near you anymore. You can run and meet her or you can stay where you are. Its your choice
/r/seduction12/06/20 07:57 PM
1

I understand. I live in a smaller city too (a few hours from Amsterdam).
/r/seduction12/06/20 07:49 PM
1

You are acting very sour
/r/seduction11/06/20 07:21 PM
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Well I once read that open with 'excuse me' gets attention and gives her a moment to see who is standing before her. I think its an okay thing to do but I am not an expert (yet)
/r/seduction11/06/20 07:19 PM
1

You did great. Thanks for sharing. Will you try to continue cold approach?
/r/seduction11/06/20 04:53 PM
1

to just being at a grocery store getting food for the week and seeing someone who sparked my interest ave you approached in the grocery store? If so, how?
/r/seduction10/06/20 07:49 PM
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S o I went next to her and said excuse me you look interesting to me so I wanted to say Hi. So cool. I want to get to this level too haha
/r/seduction10/06/20 07:32 PM
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Thats a lot of girls if you live in a small city. Or am I making excuses now...
/r/seduction10/06/20 07:14 PM
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This is great. I am looking forward to read the rest of your journey, you are doing great. Ps do you live in Amsterdam? A city that big gives you the advantage of having a lot of people around who you might be interested in.
/r/seduction10/06/20 06:30 PM
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i have read it again, thanks for sharing. How did you feel after number 1 and 2? Dit is do anything to you?
/r/seduction10/06/20 06:22 PM
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but upon a 2nd meeting will get the feeling they think i am a loser and avoid me I do not understand the link between this and social media.
/r/seduction09/06/20 08:31 PM
1

So using less words? Or is that not what you mean
/r/seduction09/06/20 07:37 PM
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I was wondering do you live in a big city? because I think you will be doing a lot of approaches the following weeks. ​ Good job btw.
/r/seduction04/06/20 09:34 PM
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I was wondering. i guess this all takes (a lot of?) time. Where do you find the time to go daygaming everyday or dont you have to go to work?
/r/seduction04/06/20 09:15 PM
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tions sound very cringey I wonder how all your daygaming goes.
/r/seduction04/06/20 09:13 PM
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I think it really depends why she loses interest and how it happened. Also how far are you with her (in the talking stage, dating, already had sex etc). It looks to be easy to make her lose interest and very hard or make her interested in again unfortunately. Hopefully this thread will have some good ideas and solutions.
/r/seduction04/06/20 09:12 PM
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Cool. Good luck, I will follow your updates
/r/seduction02/06/20 05:23 PM
1

Nice. Goodluck tomorrow on day 5
/r/seduction01/06/20 09:22 PM
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I'd have to travel by train each time also and go to our busy cities. So you do not aproach girls in your city but you travel to other cities. Is that because you live in a small city?
/r/seduction01/06/20 09:04 PM
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Nice post and great to read you have learned a lot about yourself and improved a lot. So my advice is this: take every opportunity possible to socialize. Literally anyone. People in a coffee shop, in your workplace, school, etc. Just sit down, and say something like "Hi, how's your day going?". Then talk to them and relate to them as a person. Learn their name and stuff about them. Maybe even grab their number to be a friend/acquaintance. Taking every opportunity to socialize is a good thing to …
/r/seduction01/06/20 09:02 PM
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Great post, thank you ​ Free Your Mind of Negative Comments About Others Solution: Focus on improving yourself, your life and helping the people who you care about. Strive to be indifferent to what other people are doing. If you must say something, make it positive. Reframe any situation into a positive. “Yeah, your coworker is a pain in the ass. But if he quits, all his work would fall on you.” something that I can get sucked into and I always feel bad about it afterwords. At my work there is a…
/r/seduction01/06/20 08:42 PM
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1 approach= 1 phone number? So a 100% ratio of getting the number? Well I am fair from an expert and getting a lot of information at the moment from this subsection and from reading but I have never seen a 100% succes ratio or anything close to that number. Or am I understanding you incorrectly?
/r/seduction01/06/20 08:22 AM
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IOS=sign of interest?
/r/seduction01/06/20 08:20 AM
1

Thanks for the links. Looks good so will read it now (and save it if its really good)
/r/seduction01/06/20 07:55 AM
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I dont know how long you have been active here, but I would start reading a lot of threads. (that is what I am doing). There is a lot of valuable in this subreddit and chances are there is not 1 thing that needs to be improved but multiple things (could be both outer game and inner game). When you start reading other threads you will find questions and answers who also fit your personal situation. Do you have any idea why you feel more insecure then a few years ago (because you say you look more…
/r/seduction01/06/20 07:52 AM
1

That sucks soo bad. It feels like you are on a great flow with someone and then it just dies . I have no advice, but will read the comments for usefull info
/r/seduction30/05/20 08:20 AM
1

Good points. So what would you say are good 'moments' to walk away?
/r/seduction29/05/20 09:41 PM
1

Its not even something I would call a shit test. Just be honest about it.
/r/seduction29/05/20 09:13 PM
1

Nice going. Do you live in a big city?
/r/seduction29/05/20 08:53 PM
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What advice would you give when someone has aproach anxiety? So he just does not approach any girls (yet).
/r/seduction29/05/20 08:52 PM
1

So you do approach but your conversations are not good enough to make her enthusiastic ?
/r/seduction22/05/20 09:37 PM
1

well if you cant hardly feed yourself and dont have the money for a 15USD book you might have to look at other parts in your life you need to develop first.
/r/seduction22/05/20 09:36 PM
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Its not looking so good at the moment. You can try to see if she wants to go on a third date and just see how that is. Dont know how you feel about her?
/r/seduction22/05/20 09:03 PM
1

"Tinder Desktop unblur method" What is this?
/r/seduction21/05/20 09:47 PM
2

Good post. Thanks for sharing
/r/seduction21/05/20 09:33 PM
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​ You have been talking a lot so thats great. You could think of a subject you already talked about to break the ice. About about staying near her all day. I would not try to hard to stay around her all day, but if you notice she stays at your side thats a good signal. And just wait with saying something about loving her.
/r/seduction21/05/20 09:13 PM
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And finally, when do I tell her that I love her? Not tomorrow.
/r/seduction21/05/20 09:06 PM
1

Maybe a more concrete example of how it went with a girl. Then you might get better advice
/r/seduction20/05/20 09:54 PM
1

Maybe you can give a concrete example of how it went with a girl who flaked?
/r/seduction20/05/20 09:52 PM
1

I had downloaded it some time ago, but did not really know where to start so never really did anything with it. I will check it again.
/r/seduction18/05/20 08:47 PM
1

Have you both lived in the US and Europe?
/r/seduction18/05/20 02:47 PM
1

But if you want to improve textgame you have to think about what to sent so....
/r/seduction14/05/20 07:05 PM
1

Well if you see her messages getting shorter too that would be a bad sign. I guess long messages that just take a few hours is okay. You seem to be pretty invested in her at the moment.
/r/seduction14/05/20 06:54 PM
1

Thats a big guide. Well I can use some tips for my tinder profile so I will read it this week.
/r/seduction13/05/20 07:39 PM
2

And I have just started checking your website now. First impression; great and full of details
/r/seduction12/05/20 09:24 PM
2

So nice to read you are doing and feeling great now!
/r/seduction11/05/20 08:33 PM
1

Thinking about positive momentum (and negative momentum) sounds interesting.
/r/seduction11/05/20 08:18 PM
1

Thanks for sharing. How are you planning to move forward from here?
/r/seduction11/05/20 07:42 PM
1

There are 2 ways where you meet a girl 1)offline 2)online I think when you are not in the flow when you are texting with a girl you met offline something in your meeting might not have really given enough spark. And it might need some work. When you meet her online, lets say you match on a dating app and there is no flow and she is responding stiff or not at all. How to go from there? I would think 'fun' is needed in both cases, but dont know exactly how to make it more fun. Any thoughts?
/r/seduction07/05/20 11:19 AM
2

First you become a student of the game and later you become teacher. From asking questions to giving answers.
/r/seduction07/05/20 09:59 AM
1

How do you make the tekstconversations more fun if there is not yet a good flow.
/r/seduction07/05/20 09:57 AM
2

Nice read. I know the feeling of always thinking 'she does not want me'. What would your first step me to improve this? Would you start thinking 'you want me' everytime you see a girl like you explain in your tekst?
/r/seduction07/05/20 09:52 AM
1

Well it can happens that she forgets to respond or some other reason. If this just happens once you can just continue talking fun right?
/r/seduction07/05/20 09:37 AM
3

Nice TED talk motivation. More of this! But add a few white spaces so it is more easy to read
/r/seduction07/05/20 09:33 AM
3

I would not say it make them attractive but it can make someone more attractive.
/r/seduction07/05/20 08:12 AM
1

No chance for what is the question. The question is a bit vague.
/r/seduction07/05/20 08:06 AM
1

Would you call yourself a naturel or have you learned all your 'skills' ? or a combination maybe.
/r/seduction07/05/20 08:01 AM
1

You are both already on a good flow together. So just hangout when you want to. You do not need a strategy for this part anymore.
/r/seduction04/05/20 08:41 PM
1

I think you already got her to like you before you started to 'push'.
/r/seduction04/05/20 08:39 PM
1

It sounds like you might have Gynecomastia . Google it on the pics you can see if that looks like your chest.
/r/seduction03/05/20 09:09 AM
2

I think you can receive better tips and advice if you explain a bit more about yourself because now you will receive general advice. So a little bit about yourself and your situation. And how shy are you exactly and in what situations. You say you cant talk to strangers. Does that mean you are afraid to say hi to the cashier in a supermarket? Remember, the more info you give the better the info is you can receive.
/r/seduction03/05/20 09:07 AM
1

Can women be attracted even for casual encounters with a dude that is usually portrayed in pop culture as a “loser”? Write down some good points about you. Not all can be bad.
/r/seduction02/05/20 10:08 PM
2

So how does one finds his purpose
/r/seduction02/05/20 10:06 PM
1

A lot of people now have the time and focus to learn and improve. Everything you learn now can be used later .
/r/seduction01/05/20 09:08 PM
1

This might be easier if you date a lot? So have many choices yourself..
/r/seduction30/04/20 09:55 PM
2

Wow!!! Really, really, in depth and great answers! I will need to read it a few times for it to really sink in. I am reading all his posts in this thread twice. But it is great stuff that makes you think.
/r/seduction30/04/20 02:26 PM
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Thank you, Perception and start seeing life as a blessing sounds so wonderfull. Now to think of how to see, act and think to get to that point. ​ your hung up on approach anxiety but if you realized your doing it to yourself Hmm I dont know if it is something you do to yourself. I guess if you are too affraid for ejections that is something you do yourself. Or is that not what you mean? I will make a thread later about my own feelings and situation if that is allowed here (still pretty new on re…
/r/seduction30/04/20 02:22 PM
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And Anxiety and depression kills your motivation/drive to take the steps you need to take for those goals.
/r/seduction30/04/20 02:15 PM
1

Great idea for a new thread, the question; what do you want in life and how close are you to reaching those things. A thread that makes you think before you post and can contain a lot of solid advice.
/r/seduction30/04/20 02:15 PM
1

She would not say it if it was not true
/r/seduction30/04/20 12:53 PM
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That you see woman look at you means you are gifted with at least okay looks. So that is already something i in your advantage. Hope you can tap some strength from this insight.
/r/seduction29/04/20 09:44 PM
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u fix your mental health and perception of your own self worth and you will resolve your anxiety because once you awaken to the fact of life that no ones options of you matter unless you let them then y Your answer is a lot deeper then I expected it to be. Finding out what the root problems are can be hard, but I will do my best. I will try to dig and find out. Another thing for my goals list during the quarantaine crisis times. Because if have AA for a very long time now and I really really rea…
/r/seduction29/04/20 09:23 PM
1

What was your intention when approaching those girls?
/r/seduction29/04/20 09:17 PM
1

Are there insights you wished to have realised sooner during the 8 years? And a question for my personal situation, but a of people can relate to it. Any tips for people with approach anxiety? I am not sure if you had it so maybe you can not realt say anything about it, but just wanted to ask.
/r/seduction29/04/20 06:18 PM
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Haha is this the AA guide?
/r/seduction29/04/20 02:42 PM
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Nice thread and great improvements you are working on TS. I am doing my best too to come better out of this quarantaine then I went in it and I agree that this is a good period to work on a lot of things. You have more time and less stimulation from outside activities (events/trips/doing stuff with friends etc). In the same categories as the topicstarter: Fitness: I have always trained but the last few years I had an injury that came back every few weeks or months and totally halted progression.…
/r/seduction29/04/20 01:06 PM
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How slow?
/r/seduction29/04/20 12:43 PM
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Sometimes it is just too vague why she flakes :(
/r/seduction29/04/20 12:03 PM
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And what if you have AA, then you will not even do step 1. I am looking for the threads about AA because it is really something I want to work on. I have almost never approached a girl like that before.
/r/seduction29/04/20 11:12 AM
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How many times have you tried it? I saw you had succes with it but has this never escelated to her getting angry or annoyed?
/r/seduction29/04/20 11:07 AM
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If she is low responsive it might be okay to begin telling a one sided story and hope she gets more responsive. But if it is clear she does not want to talk to you this does not feel like good game advice tbh.
/r/seduction29/04/20 11:00 AM
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Dont you have or know the issue that if you do not message a lot you get not connected enough? But the problem in messaging a lot is it can get boring or you fuck it up. Like both ways seem to be having problems. So in situation 1 you have a few fun messages (lets say 5-15 exchanges) but when you stop talking she does not pick up the conversation. So you have to create new content t get her more invested because you think there is not enough connection (and she might say not to a date). In situa…
/r/seduction29/04/20 10:56 AM
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Yes indeed how does the numbers game work if you do not live in a big city? How should we do it once the pandemic is over
/r/seduction29/04/20 10:40 AM
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How do you know your purpose...
/r/seduction28/04/20 09:15 PM
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Well he saw her working in a fast food joint and he immidiatly asked for her snap chat so it must have been because of her looks or vibe. He had to be quick. Was maybe not the best but he did it so thats good
/r/seduction27/04/20 07:19 AM
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If she keeps on walking by ofcourse..
/r/seduction26/04/20 10:02 PM
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Since the corona crisis i have already tried it a couple of times. It was one of the things I wanted to do during this time.
/r/seduction26/04/20 09:32 PM
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It is hard to make the pictures in my mind clear and real
/r/seduction26/04/20 09:25 PM
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Any app you would recommend for some bulletproof meditation?
/r/seduction26/04/20 09:24 PM
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Dus you know her before the crisis? (Of the anwer hoe dat did u go) or did you meet her (online) during the crisis ? Without This info it is impossible to answer
/r/seduction25/04/20 10:55 PM
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I will try a visualization today. And thinking about meeting a girl, not an orange haha
/r/seduction25/04/20 08:11 AM
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Try to get better out of the crisis then jou went in it
/r/seduction25/04/20 07:20 AM
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Well when people talk about personal development in this section, improving looks is also a thing. So lets say you are a 6 and get ut up to a 6.5 or 7 thats a Victory there. And not all good looking guys get laid a lot, but ofcourse of you look great that helps a lot.
/r/seduction25/04/20 07:15 AM
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Its a visualisation technique you describe. But when you meditate you need to focus on your breathing and not thinking of anything or am I wrong? I have tried to meditate a few times because I Want to try new things and grow as a person during the corona crisis , it felt okay when I did it for 5 minutes but not great yet. How do you make the visualisation strong enough to really feel the chille you experience when seeing a real girl?
/r/seduction25/04/20 06:36 AM
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AA is such a hard problem..
/r/seduction24/04/20 09:17 PM
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You can write down things you want in a person and state these things as green flags
/r/seduction24/04/20 09:09 PM
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Well you can always excuse yourself for having an empty battery.
/r/seduction24/04/20 09:05 PM
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You could become a great benchpresser with relative short arms.
/r/seduction24/04/20 09:01 PM
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Reading the seduction section of reddit
/r/seduction20/04/20 09:31 AM
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There must be girls who think he is not her type or it would not click. So yes he would get rejected, but I do think his succes rate will be high. Also have to do a lot with his looks.
/r/seduction20/04/20 09:30 AM
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Use what exactly as means to get a girl? You are talking about it like its a magic trick. If you lie and try to trick a girl its not genuine. If you are trying to become the best version of your self in many parts of your life including the improvement of your social skills this does not sound as anything non-genuine at all.
/r/seduction20/04/20 09:28 AM
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started seduction, I was so focused on women I didn't focus on other areas of my life. It's important to build other productive goals / hobbies / passions too, balance is the key. + Women find men who are passionate abou Nothing wrong with playing videogames. Kinda depends on how many hours you do it and how many hours you spent on doing other things (for growth etc).
/r/seduction20/04/20 09:22 AM
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One of us should clarify.
/r/seduction20/04/20 09:06 AM
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This is not correct and not helpfull.
/r/seduction19/04/20 09:51 AM
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Post stories of you doing cool and fun shit which is a bit difficult during the quarantine but you can still demonstrate value in different ways. Any cool ideas?
/r/seduction18/04/20 09:06 PM
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Lets hope we do not have to stay in the social distance situation for years
/r/seduction18/04/20 04:17 PM
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rking on myself" was going to the gym, traveling, visiting museums and monuments, taking part in social activities and of course go and meet girls out there. None of that can be done right now for several months and I'm not coping well with this at all. So what are some real, tangible things that can be done to n You can learn a lot from books on various topic. And you can do it from home, so thats already an idea.
/r/seduction18/04/20 04:09 PM
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Very curious to see if there are people who have experienced a very bad start with a girl which turned around later. ​ edit: Do you mean it is all based on appearenced at first sight topic starter?
/r/seduction18/04/20 04:02 PM
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Some girls will give good advice, and some will not. Same as with guys.
/r/seduction17/04/20 01:04 PM
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I have started with the mindshine foundation course. I am in week 1 and did about 4 different exercises. I have already done the morning routine twice. My first imperessions are really good. In the beginning it is a bit vague how it works and where to start, but the exercises I have done are look to be very good and diverse. I have the feeling this van really help in personal devolepment, but I will have to use it a bit longer to really conclude how valuable it is. What I already saw is that the…
/r/seduction17/04/20 01:01 PM
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I've read on this sub to keep these texts short and sweet until the meet up, but i swear that advice must only work on really attractive guys because it just does not work for me. I have been thinkin the same. Because you need to create fun and have nice converations before she will go on a date with you right.
/r/seduction15/04/20 09:13 AM
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Haha not the love story I thought it would be but cool man
/r/seduction14/04/20 07:32 PM
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Some posts are so great and helpfull but they get lost here so easily because of the many threads. Go this idea is not to shabby.
/r/seduction14/04/20 07:30 PM
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The difference between a 5 and 6.5 in looks is pretty big tho. 6.5 would be something like: good enough in appearence. A 5 would be not enough.
/r/seduction14/04/20 10:58 AM
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i downloaded mindshine. Tried the first exercise, lets try it for a week or two
/r/seduction14/04/20 10:55 AM
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To add something positive; you had your first date so thats great. Unfortunately it did went so well, but you can learn form it. And before the date you did something right, because otherwise she would not have gone on a date with you.
/r/seduction13/04/20 09:15 PM
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Kinda correct. But most people will still have to put effort in meeting girls, so dont forget that. But besides that and improving with them it is great advice to be productive (and work on multiple aspects of yourself)
/r/seduction13/04/20 09:11 PM
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Nice easter line
/r/seduction13/04/20 08:38 PM
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I think in a few months it will be back to normal. Lets say 3-6 months and we are back shaking hands
/r/seduction09/04/20 06:02 PM
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Might still be worth researching about it. Who knows
/r/seduction09/04/20 08:10 AM
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Its about honesty. Remain honest in your game. I am still new in this and others here might be able to explain this better. But if you remain honest about yourself and your intentions you will not be so manipulative. Being manipulative normally means tricking her, so in that case you are not being honest to her. The book models bij Mark Manson is being praised a lot in this subsection. It talks about being honest to girls. I have just read it and will read it again. So you can check that out.
/r/seduction09/04/20 08:09 AM
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Thanks for the tip about that chapter. And I will check out the link to your book thread, thanks.
/r/seduction08/04/20 07:21 PM
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New idea for a thread. What are the best books about kicking you over your doorstep and start approaching.
/r/seduction08/04/20 07:20 PM
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Several books gives you different ideas and information. And you can pick out of the book and learn from the book whats good. Because in most books not 100% of what you read is good enough to use/remember. When you read more your filtering of valuable information will become better.
/r/seduction08/04/20 07:18 PM
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The Nick Sparks book looks good. Will check it out
/r/seduction08/04/20 07:15 PM
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fundamentals of female dynamics I have never heard of this book
/r/seduction08/04/20 06:37 PM
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Would you say it's LEGEN - wait for it- DARY!
/r/seduction08/04/20 06:35 PM
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Maybe try to stay on the sexual topic a bit longer and enthusiasm them even more. I would not go to far, just staying on the topic for a bit and see how that works out. And for now dont text to much. I dont know if you have met these girls in real life or online. But it looks like it goes wrong while texting. You are in a good flow but not good enough to get them on a date and after that the contact might die. It sucks because I can understand it is hard for you what exactly goes wrong because y…
/r/seduction08/04/20 06:03 PM
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I think a lot of people will ask questions about why they are not getting enough matches while it us because of the pictures. It can be the disadvantage in online dating. Threads and tips about improving pictures are always welcome.
/r/seduction08/04/20 10:52 AM
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I want to add to this the same goes for humor. To quote the TS: ' I really wanted to make her laugh but the most I got was a smile. ' Different people have different humour. Just look at comedy movies, comedians and even funny sketches you see on a social media. Some people think it is hilarious while other people will not even smile about it.
/r/seduction08/04/20 10:42 AM
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what you learned from these girls, focus on what you did right and try to improve it then fix shit that you messed up with. Every girl is different and every guy as well, so whatever works for me might not work for you. Your problem is you’re trying to copy others but they ha I am curious to hear this (love) story
/r/seduction08/04/20 10:29 AM
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ole-play/acting them out to practice is an AMAZING way to get really fucking good and notice how you fall short in these 8 areas. Watch some infields from solid dudes and copy their tone, speech vibe. Then once you get the vibe, mindset, and execution, change the wording up a bit to make it I will check it out too. Thanks
/r/seduction07/04/20 12:14 PM
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Clarify 'met a girl'. Dit you met her on a dating app, a bar, common friends etc. ​ Is it just mee or feels a month no contact pretty long if you two where planning to hang out very soon (ofcourse if the corona virus never showed up).
/r/seduction07/04/20 11:42 AM
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And you end up with just a big questionmark (Why the f'ck is she not talking anymore)
/r/seduction07/04/20 10:53 AM
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Well I thought it was an important question. Because if girls act or even say they want to have sex with you thats would be very good. The question is are you sure about it and if so what happeneds after they say it. Because the way I read it now; 'they say they want to have sex', this means they totally want you (at that moment). Looking forward for more details and info and hopefully we can find the bottleneck in your game.
/r/seduction06/04/20 03:18 PM
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It can take some time to get her invested if you meet her on a dating app. So for a while you might have to invest more, and the tie must turn a bit ofcourse.
/r/seduction06/04/20 02:33 PM
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Names of the books pls
/r/seduction06/04/20 01:37 PM
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What are you exactly asking?
/r/seduction06/04/20 01:23 PM
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They so to you they want to have sex with you? Are you sure about that ? because you ask 'I cannot make them to want me. Very vague thread
/r/seduction06/04/20 01:22 PM
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Hmm I still got some work to do in the confidence department. Great to read the TS is doing alright
/r/seduction06/04/20 12:29 PM
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Well if she does not respond it is not a good signal. The interesting follow up question in this thread would be how to make her more interested/responsive. Especially if you met someone on a dating app it could be that it needs some more time to get her more responsive.
/r/seduction06/04/20 12:05 PM
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This corona time gives you time to make your plans and goals (And dont forget subgoals; what do you need to do to get your goal). A couple of month are and will be very strange because of the corona virus, but you can still make this year a banger. Because I expect the corona virus will not stay here for the entire year. Good luck
/r/seduction01/04/20 11:50 AM
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Strange thread. I would suggest that you start reading around here for a while. Ofcourse you can be good with woman without being an asshole. By the way being a asshole will not automatically give you good results with woman. You might have some bad experiences or saw an (in your words) asshole having good results with the ladies and that is the reason you opened this thread.
/r/seduction01/04/20 09:49 AM
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I have read Models at the beginning of this year and it was a good read. I will read it again asap. I will also check out your other two book recomandations. Especially the six pillars book looks good. Thanks.
/r/seduction01/04/20 09:44 AM
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Build your confidence and self-esteem. There is a lot of material out there on how to do that. First, learn to love yourself. Learn what's good about you, and what isn't. Fix what isn't, or at least soften it. Pudgy or outright fat? Go to the gym. Have a 1-dimensional life? Go out, get a hobby or two. Have social anxiety? Go out. Looking worse than Shaggy? Go get a decent haircut and get a wardrobe overhaul. Any good material tips for the building of confidence and self esteem? You really 'stab'…
/r/seduction01/04/20 09:35 AM
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But what if the conversation then dies?
/r/seduction01/04/20 09:30 AM
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I read it, but about rule 1. Should you not try to get her interested or invested in the conversation?
/r/seduction01/04/20 09:29 AM
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I guess it is just an extra way to potentially meet woman.
/r/seduction01/04/20 09:27 AM
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Better was if you tried to describe in details how it was going with the girl and about the mixed signals. That might give you more answers regarding your own personal situation.
/r/seduction31/03/20 08:45 PM
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Hmm good point. So healthy flirting (without too much PUA stuff) could be very related to good social skills is what you are saying here?
/r/seduction31/03/20 06:39 PM
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Changing those thoughts can be very hard. But yeah change it and her pedestal will lower.
/r/seduction31/03/20 03:14 PM
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Would be nice if there is a thread after the corona virus to motivate and help each other. Something like approaching everyday: 31/62 approaches in 31 days or something like that.
/r/seduction31/03/20 03:10 PM
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Tell us more !
/r/seduction31/03/20 03:08 PM
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Sounds nice. I think this works best if you and the girl might go towards relationship feelings. I think you can look forward to getting and writting the email which is cool. And you are right about the cons of texting like drying out and getting into boring stuff. Enjoy your email writing and lets hope you will have a fantastic date when the corona virus is over.
/r/seduction31/03/20 01:48 PM
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Meeting during these corona times is not so good. But I will give you probes for the great night you had and nice to have this experience after the last date (which got you ghosted).
/r/seduction31/03/20 11:30 AM
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I can understand improving social skills and just being a cool guy to talk with is very good. But is there not a difference between talking with family and talking with a girl. Because you have to flirt in the latter and maybe not being too much of a nice guy.
/r/seduction31/03/20 07:25 AM
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The drama thing (like getting mad) only has this attraction effect when there is already an attraction. Otherwise she would ignore it or just think he is stupid.
/r/seduction31/03/20 07:17 AM
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'Emotionally operatote at 20% and even wake up in this 20% state' What would be the first steps to check this (where you are) and how to bump the percentage up according to you?
/r/seduction30/03/20 09:14 PM
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This looks like a very positive post and kudos for that. I have not been here long (just a couple of days on reddit/in this section) and most threads in the seduction section are not as positve as this one. I can totally agree that a positive mindset brings you further, same as in other areas of life. Keeping a positive mindset can be a bit hard though. And how we turn or mindset into the positive vibe as described in your post if that is not (always) the case.
/r/seduction30/03/20 02:24 PM
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How are ou dealing with anxiety? because I think mostly your anxiety is challenged by doing things outside the doorstep and that is not really possible right now. ​ By the way I have never seen that app. What do you like about it?
/r/seduction30/03/20 01:08 PM
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My question was way too open, but I know those are possiblites.
/r/seduction30/03/20 12:56 PM
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e person a day. * How to meet someone: talk to someone new and exchange names, that's it. That's all you need to do. If you end up having a conversation from that, good! If you don't, good too. Where to meet a person a day?
/r/seduction30/03/20 12:53 PM
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Clarify interesting haha
/r/seduction28/03/20 11:27 PM
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I think think is also matters where, how and when you have met her
/r/seduction28/03/20 07:05 PM
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You say 'you must pratice at home' what do you mean exactly?
/r/seduction28/03/20 07:04 PM
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Kinda new to this section. What is ghosting? Something like not responding?
/r/seduction26/03/20 09:23 AM
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Doing approaches, reading books, trying out lines etc is also a part of personal devolepment. And best is to also grow on other (personal) departments of your life
/r/seduction20/03/20 07:58 PM
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Nice tip. Gonna check it out
/r/seduction20/03/20 07:43 PM
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