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| 1 | 31M Life after divorceAt this point Im envious, I haven’t divorced yet just separated and the actual divorce has me feeling anxious but also it’ll be nice to feel truly free again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/25 10:03 AM |
| 3 | What are some life hack style advise for men who have just been divorced?Is this confirmed? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/25 04:24 AM |
| 3 | 2 months in now, I feel worse not betterSounds similar to me, I went through the stages of grief shock, bargaining, sadness/depression, and the one stage that I never fully embraced was anger and now I’m starting to feel okay about being angry. That doesn’t mean you have to do anything destructive or even publicize your anger outside your private moments or among trusted people. I guess I’m saying this because I feel like you need to embrace all these feelings completely before you can reach the final stage of acceptance which include… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/25 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Dating after divorce - She sent the money backWhy didn’t she feel right about taking the money? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/25 01:02 PM |
| 9 | Trauma from divorce holding me back.It’s okay to take your time with healing yourself. Forgive yourself, forgive her, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be angry with what she did. Screw her dude, you’re a man and the world is yours now to live freely without walking on eggshells around her. Let her stupid bullshit go, she probably wasn’t perfect herself. You need to come through, if not for yourself then for those still in your corner or the rest of us men going through similar situations that need the inspiration. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/25 09:44 PM |
| 4 | She’s Building a Case Against MeYeah, at the very least she’s trying to create a narrative so she can tell people in here life or future people how her ex was a abusive and she bravely escaped from the tyrannical oppressive patriarchy and became a strong and independent boss lady woman or whatever. Regardless though you need keep all of this in mind and understand that this is not someone rational or is interested in cooperating with you. They want a story to tell and would like for you to give them something to work with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/25 09:44 PM |
| 3 | Struggling Again GuysSelf preservation; you’re a survivor. Your ancient ancestors didn’t go through god knows what for you to fold now. If you have to exist out of defiance, but just keep trucking along no matter how hard it gets. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/25 04:12 AM |
| 4 | Struggling Again GuysTime to embrace the suck man and do good if not for yourself then for the people still in your circle who love you. You’re going to get through this and be an inspiration to other men who are put through the same shitty situation. Just keep fighting the good fight if not for yourself then others who need to see it done. It gets better with time, but it’s gradual progress. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/25 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Moving - was there anything you got for your new place to “soften the blow”?Home gym set-up and I sorta created an office/entertainment setup with a couple computer monitors and a couple tvs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/25 10:53 AM |
| 10 | Don't lose your cool.Its so true, its crazy how they can turn it off and basically laugh at men when we’re basically having a mental breakdown because, most women don’t know the depths of a mans love for their family. We have a different way of showing affection, I would of taken a bullet for my wife, our two instincts as men is to protect and provide thats how we show love and the only thing we really need in return is respect. When women disrespect you in a profound way it’s over. Thats when you need to guard your… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/25 02:39 AM |
| 7 | Attorney FeesMy attorney wants 3k just to file, he just told me I should do it myself. Lol it’s mind boggling 15-20k for the wedding and potentially thousands in attorney fees I’m in the wrong business. I should become a officiant/divorce attorney and offer a bundle option for a discount | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/06/25 12:22 AM |
| 6 | Why isn’t there a national support hotline for men going through divorce?Because women would end up being the majority of the operators and gaslight men every time they call in. You already see it happening occasionally on this Reddit page, men trying to express themselves due to trauma caused by the opposite sex just for the occasional bitter female to jump in and traumatize them again for trying to discuss their feelings; and they wonder why we shutdown our feelings/emotions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/25 06:14 PM |
| 1 | It's been a long road, need advice and input.Listening to breakup motivational lectures on YouTube helps. I listen to it as background noise while getting ready or driving places. Or look up gym motivational videos on YouTube. Take supplements, especially ones that support your testosterone. Focus on your money, and forgive but don’t forget. Also give yourself some grace and self love. Us men have to stick together these days more now than ever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/25 06:50 AM |
| 3 | Any of y’all relieved when wife filed for divorce?Dude I don’t even understand the mind game women play. As a dude, just give it to me straight Because I don’t have the time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/25 05:58 AM |
| 1 | What's the pettiest thing she did?Idk, some probably ranged from 3-4 or 5 days with travel it probably seemed a lot less. What can I say, there was years where we took more than one trip not to mention having to take time off for miscellaneous events. We met when I was 25 and I’m 32 now; through that period of time I only had so much money to spend on traveling while paying for everything else while trying to save to buy her a house and throw her a wedding, plus work only gives me so many days of PTO. I suppose I’m a failure and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/25 09:06 PM |
| 4 | Does anyone else just feel like a total pussy when it's almost all done?This is part of the reason I won’t pursue anything romantic. Healing takes time and effort, seriously though give yourself some grace. I’m here to say most of us have highs/lows and I don’t want you to be too disappointed by your low moments. This isn’t a movie where we say and do all the right things, your going to have your cringe moments and the important thing is to allow yourself to go through it until you recognize this isn’t where you want to be so you pick yourself up and keep going. You… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/25 07:49 PM |
| 5 | What's the pettiest thing she did?She also told me going back to school and regularly going to the gym (all being done while she was at work) was pushing her away and thats why she was constantly out with her friends. She also said I was too good with money lol. Shit really messed with my head and still does. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/25 10:10 PM |
| 12 | What's the pettiest thing she did?She told me I didn’t take her on long enough vacations | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/25 06:45 AM |
| 2 | She doesn’t want to leave and still loves me. Its making me question things. How do I stick to my guns?Brother, simply put take some time for yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/25 05:37 AM |
| 2 | I'm Falling ApartGo see a therapist or something, sounds like your mentality is the problem. You’re not going to be happy all the time. Honestly man this whole “I’m not happy” so I’m getting a divorce is something I hear mainly from women leaving their husbands. No marriage of the past, present, or future could survive this standard. You even said shes your best friend and there is no issue, you’re about to create an issue and the more you wave this red flag the less she’s going to trust you. If there’s relation… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/25 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Take AwaysSeems like you experienced the summit followed by a fall from grace, from your perspective what is it that allows some marriages to succeed and the red flags that lead to their downfall? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/25 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Take AwaysI like that; simply by aiming up and down the right things for yourself will 9 times out of 10 lead to positive results and eventually it becomes habit forming to aim up and develop an abundance mindset. I know with my ex I was so concerned with serving her and doing damage control for the drama she would often introduce unnecessarily that it did negatively impact me and when she left I didn’t know what to do with myself, and I’m just starting to convince myself that self love and my happiness i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/25 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Take AwaysThat’s interesting, could you elaborate in what sort of observable ways it’s propelled you and when you noticed that happening; maybe early on and what you noticed later in the process? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/25 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Take AwaysYeah in my family there’s marriages that have been through hell, but they all doubled down and stood strong, and I’m talking wars, deaths, etc. with my ex she said I didn’t take her on long enough vacations. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/25 03:17 AM |
| 3 | Take AwaysThat’s now a big deal I realize, no family is perfect but with her family divorce was very casual amongst many other issues. Another thing is whats her relationship with her father; and what is her father like. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/25 11:47 PM |
| 2 | So hard not to relapseYou need to ask yourself, “can I take her at her worst, does the rewards outweigh the risks?” If the answer is no then you need to separate in the most civil manner possible. If the answer is yes then the second question is whether you’re both willing and committed to working on yourself’s both individually and as a couple for the rest of your lives accepting the difficult lifelong challenge in exchange for the rewards that can come with it that won’t always be the most apparent. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/25 08:13 PM |
| 3 | I’m in a dark place gentsI had to lean into a few people that I could truly trust with seeing my darker side and not judge. In addition I did go see a therapist and Ive been going for about a year and just now see some of the benefits, but there are alternatives such as online/zoom style therapy. Theres a lot of good YouTube videos or books/audiobooks like no more Mr. Nice guy. Do it all man, try a little bit of everything to help yourself out. Watch some thought provoking videos and go for long walks. What ive come to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/25 03:51 PM |
| 3 | Wife asking for a divorce, how do I play it?I hope you can stay calm and stoic like your saying you will and your definitely capable of doing so, but I say this as a word of caution and that is emotions can just sneak up on you in these situations and will just consume your thoughts and responses which usually lead to more of a scattered or exaggerated reaction than we would intend in a picture perfect situation were we play it cool, say the right things, and find the closure we want. Something that I think is hard to except about this so… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/25 01:05 PM |
| 7 | Well I lost…Prayers man don’t give up | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/25 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Asking your husband to do as much chores as you when you are a SAHM is abuseYeah dude, she worked and had a stressful job but didn’t make any real money. I worked and my job has its stressors sure but I personally think it’s not bad at all and I made more money and paid most of the bills; I saved more and I got her to start thinking that way a little but she still spent more. I did the bast majority of cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping. When she did any of it I praised her hoping it would encourage her. If things started slipping away she would mention it to me. Like … | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/25 09:19 PM |
| 12 | What is your view on the reasons for modern divorce?I think it’s hypergamy in a modern style. Think of this, marketing is a multi billion dollar industry and it’s heavily targeted demographic is children and women because men aren’t good for business really. So much advertising is subliminal and design to make you desire something unnecessary to feel complete and theres so much of this that it becomes unrealistic and when men can’t meet these expectations and especially when we start setting boundaries they start to wonder if they could fair bett… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/25 10:40 AM |
| 1 | How to strongly encourage a man to file for divorce himself.If he’s not a sociopath and values marriage on a moral level then it’s more like treating a serious wound versus a quick fix. Do the typical read/listen to self help books, therapy/church, workout/diet, friends/family, travel, drink/yell/break shit (responsibly), plan, have good days and bad ones, go through stages of grief, I’ve also been told to talk to other women and I have not done that personally because I don’t think I can or want to handle another woman but I know why people recommend it… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/25 08:40 AM |
| 2 | What did you do with the engagement ring she left behind?If its there mom it might bring a different meaning. Luck is sorta elusive and up to the eye of the beholder but it could mess with someone’s head. Maybe hold onto it and if he gets married and you know he wouldn’t want the ring sell it and give him the money towards another ring. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/25 02:43 AM |
| 1 | I’m abusive for telling the truthLol the “McMansion” I don’t understand women, and to hell with it I barely understand anything else… well maybe I understand women better than I want to admit but don’t want to be negative, anyway it’s nice to hear you standing some ground and its very reasonable to not want your children to visit you in a “dog house” | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/25 10:14 AM |
| 1 | She gave me the death sentence.Man I will say this all sorta depends on the context behind her leaving you, but generally speaking this is not a movie where you confess your love and she is swoon and realizes shes wrong about everything and comes running back. When a woman makes her mind up theres no stopping her. If anything this message will make her feel like she still has you as a backup. If anything keep it short and simple. Do yourself a favor and take some time off for yourself and talk to people in your inner circle. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 08:55 PM |
| 6 | It's so easy to sleep with divorce women.Kinda sad, ironically men are going to have to start turning down some of these advances and demand more respect from women to get into bed kinda like how women used to be. Lol wont happen in the day and age of guilt free sex without consequences versus prior to the many birth controls and std preventions when women needed to be careful about selecting a partner who they could trust to be a good man who wouldn’t runaround/abandon her and would provide/protect in exchange for her to nurture/love. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 04:36 AM |
| 5 | You'd think Donald Trump, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Ye, and other billionaires would make reforming the feminist divorce court system a top political priority....This is more about money than divorce, those guys are in entirely different league of finances they lose millions and turnaround sneeze and make millions it’s entirely different ball game. Im sure behind closed doors they suffer but PR is probably worth its own weight in gold. Plus so much of this is based on your state. Ultimately man its on us for not being idiots when it comes to our choices, like prenups should be normalized and if she has a problem with it bye bye | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Just a vent, current stand and an appreciationI’ll never understand men past a certain age that pursue taken women. I can understand maybe a younger age, but thats when fathers should teach their sons what to steer clear of. It’s like playing with fire and it lacks honor; though I know how persuasive and manipulative women can be. Sounds like you dodged a bullet, still going to be a challenging road ahead. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Just miss her.Basically my story minus dating, I don’t think I have the heart to date for the foreseeable future and sometimes I wonder if I will ever have that desire again, I put so much into her I just feel exhausted and I don’t know if I could do it again | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 10:10 AM |
| 3 | AITA for buying my ex wife flowers on V-day, after the divorce?And no regardless of what you do you’re not an asshole for sending a woman flowers, but I think we’re all just concerned that there might be more to it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 10:05 AM |
| 2 | AITA for buying my ex wife flowers on V-day, after the divorce?Yeah I agree with some of the comments here about you simping if you do that and if anything you can give your kids some money to but their mom something but it shouldn’t be a gesture from you on what is a romantic day. But hey I know that theres an elephant in the room and that is you have some romantic feelings left towards her and thats understandable because of how long you two were together and you have kids. Idk your whole story but if you want her back and you think there is a chance then… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 10:03 AM |
| 3 | Wife Threatens Divorce if I Don’t Delete Pics of Scratches/ClawingIs this real?? Dude you need to get out asap and both of you probably need a good therapist, church, group, etc. keep the photos hidden go make copies and hide them. Know this I have heard stories from other men who stopped their woman from XYZ even stories when their just trying to leave and she’s standing in the way and gets knocked over and the dude goes to jail. When the cops show up and they have to make 50/50 call on who is going to jail it’s the dude. Get some distance before things escal… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/25 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Found out my wife is a garbage human.Man opening up a relationship doesn’t seem to ever work out in the end. It sounds exciting and fun, but I’ve never seen those relationships be free of drama/issues eventually. Sounds like she has underlying issues that are being exposed, and you deserve better. Take some time for yourself in the aftermath of all this do some soul searching/reflection. You’ll end up a better man because of it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/25 01:54 PM |
| 6 | Confused as hellJust because you don’t entertain them doesn’t make you an ass, Im a bit of an introvert myself and don’t necessarily love small talk especially if I’m tired. Maybe you just wanted to chill and watch the game. She reminds me of someone who always has to have something to bitch about; if I’m right about that then just give it time and once you don’t feed into it she’ll move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 11:21 AM |
| 1 | Someone else treasure is everyone else trash.Dude sounds like you desecrated multiple relationships, not just any relationships but marriage at that. For the sake of getting your rocks off, I know we often put the whole blame on the one in the relationship but lets be honest a man of honor and integrity doesn’t pursue promiscuous women who have made vows, not only that but smart men don’t do that shit because you don’t know what could happen like the most extreme scenario Ive heard of was a murder suicide situation. Look this is Reddit so … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 11:13 AM |
| 3 | Lets say you have rock solid proof that your wife cheated with a married man. Do you tell the wife of the AP or keep silent to maintain the peace for the sake of your kids?I know how tempting that is initially and if caught up in the moment most of us would, but it’s better to just remove yourself from her as much as possible and to protect your kids. She’s not a good person don’t get tangled up in it; these things catch up to people and gets worse the longer they don’t get caught. Just ghost these people, only exception is if I was close to the dudes wife and was doing it for her benefit. But idk man people are crazy you don’t know how all these people could reac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/25 09:42 PM |
| 2 | What are the top things that you don’t missThat’s fair, I guess it stands out to me because of similar things my ex would say. She loves drama/chaos, it was entertaining for her. Im a very boring responsible guy who doesn’t meddle in others affairs and stays in my lane. I almost wonder if all women like a bit of drama, every girls show is shrouded in drama and when girls get together they gossip like they’re going for gold. I guess when I hear “cruise control” it reminds me of myself just being a consistent man going an even boring speed… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 11:54 AM |
| 1 | What are the top things that you don’t missThe “cruise control” thing stands out to me I wonder what the hell that means to her | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/25 11:54 PM |
| 2 | She PlottedYou said it man | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 01:22 AM |
| 5 | She PlottedLol 😂 yup, checks out Mine was too, she would go out of her way to meddle in others drama when it really was none of her business and I tried to get that through to her as nicely as possible but she enjoyed it; what sorta legit scared me was how I swore the worst the situation was for someone the more intrigued or entertained she was and she had this old weird divorced coworker who she would always gossip about the latest situation with, whom I think also got off on the drama but was too old to … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 12:52 AM |
| 4 | She PlottedYeah, she’s going to regret her decision. They think the grass is greener on the other side like they can still get that lawyer doctor cowboy astronaut type that they fantasize about in the dramas they’re obsessed with on tv or in books and then boom reality shows up and they have to settle before they lose their looks completely. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 11:06 PM |
| 6 | She PlottedYou said you were a veteran, I know you probably know all this but ill tell you anyways, any disability rating you might have she can’t touch legally | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 10:23 PM |
| 6 | She PlottedSorry man, there’s no stopping her now. When women make their minds up about this stuff there’s little to do that can stop her. You’ll soon know if she’s serious or not, but if she is being calculated about this then damn. Start doing some planning of your own | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Just heard something brutal on the radi0Wow, I’m so glad you shared that I wont forget that, thanks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 05:55 AM |
| 5 | Imagine being bitten by a snake, and instead of focusing on healing from the poison, you chase the snake to understand why it bit you and to prove to it that you didn't deserve to be bitten.That’s a really good point, thank you man | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 12:44 AM |
| 10 | Just heard something brutal on the radi0When I hear that phase, I almost want to give them some brochures or numbers to shelters for men and their children or crisis lines that specializes in wife’s abusing their husbands. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 04:50 PM |
| 25 | Just heard something brutal on the radi0hAPpY wIFE HaPpY lifE 🤤 | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 10:24 AM |
| 8 | How to protect from future divorce? Financial perspective onlyYou should start pulling some cash out here and there for “spending money” and go on a “weekend fishing or/and gambling trip and pull out some cash for that” whatever is left over throw in a safe undisclosed place for a rainy day. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/24 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Ways to tell mutual friends about our divorceWell at least you know and won’t be surprised when it does. I would just keep certain things you don’t want getting back to her away from him as well and heck lol just tell him how great things are so when she ask about you he’ll have nothing but good things to say. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/24 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Hey guysI would say that everything people recommend within reason is worth a shot: therapy, church, gym, hobbies, friends/family, self appreciation/self love, etc. there’s no one size fits all solution so dabble in it all and see what cocktail of healing works. With that in mind know its not about getting over, under, or around this but getting through this process and it will take time and going through the five stages of grief. Prayers man! | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/24 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Ways to tell mutual friends about our divorceMutual friends pick sides quickly and just being honest with you people are more naturally inclined to victimize the woman and demonize the man. Now your friends/family that you brought into the relationship if solid relationships are going to stick with you and if they don’t they ain’t for you our at the very least not part of your inner circle. What I suggest is that you identify a manageable number of mutual friends you like to keep and that are easiest picking for you out of the batch and kn… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/24 07:27 PM |
| 9 | "You should be over it by now"These people you speak of aren’t you and don’t share your unique perspective. I get what you’re talking about because I have similar feelings, but I’d to go out on a limb here and say screw her! She is only the mother of your children and nothing more she doesn’t deserve more from you. Your a man believe it or not men have an edge on life if we allow ourselves too. Your sacrifice should be yours and your children not hers. Maybe eventually there will be a woman deserving of you and hopefully by … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/24 05:16 AM |
| 1 | Why is it always the same story?I think parents are the first examples of a relationship between two people in a child’s life and are the first examples of mother/father husband/wife. I know with my wife she was bounced around often and her parents had multiple partners and even children with multiple people. Whereas no one in my family divorced so I wonder if separation/divorce is more casual for those that have been exposed to it early on and they go through the emotional turmoil as a child. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/24 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Why is it always the same story?I wonder if theres a correlation between a broken home with an emphasis on poor or lack of a stable and consistent male role model and how women engage in adult intimate relationships with men. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/24 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Why is it always the same story?How was the step dad? Was he a consistent male role model from age seven? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/24 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Why is it always the same story?Out of curiosity how is her relationship with her parents? Was her father part of the working class and the head of the household and did they stay together? Were they both (within fairness) good parents generally being available for their kids? There is no wrong answer here, I’m just curious because I have my own theory that I’m wanting to prove or disprove. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/24 04:22 PM |
| 13 | So how many of you believe your ex wife is/was having a midlife crisis?Tell me I’m wrong, but hypergamy is a thing. I’m NOT saying you aren’t one hell of a man because I bet you have good qualities. Im just wondering if hypergamy is so instinctive for women in general that they always feel like they can/might do better? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/24 04:43 AM |
| 4 | How did you deal with living together right before the physical separation?I’ll be honest, I slept on the pull out sofa in the other room, drank every night, got dark in my head, faked normalcy, and had occasional emotional breakdowns that i tried to hide the best I could. Be better than me if you can, but also don’t necessarily be hard on yourself if you have bad moments because of what happened. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/24 05:19 AM |
| 8 | Mandatory DNA test at birth?Why not? Seriously any reason why it wouldn’t be more beneficial than anything negative? Also I want to add: prenup agreements ranging from simple to complex need to be more affordable and required by law for marriage. I also think that there should be free marriage counseling especially if there is kids involved but thats getting a little side tracked. The dna test and prenup being required would make me happy enough and would help avoid a lot of issues. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/24 03:05 AM |
| 3 | I’m thinking of making a dating profile, brutally honest like how the women do.You should mention your blood type and how in your free time you like feeding mice to your pet snake. 🐍 lol Nah I only kid, but honestly online dating is all about being casual and easy going while simultaneously not coming across as only interested in hookups. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/24 08:00 PM |
| 0 | Wife threatening to leave. What should I do?Either she’s irrational or theres more to this, either way you breaking your shit because your mad is impractical and is a clear sign that you have a temper but what the hell are you two fighting about to get to this point? | /r/MensRights | 24/11/24 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Should I attend my STBXW surprise birthday party?You’re holding on man, I think it’s a matter of what caused the divorce? Are you certain that you want her out of your life? If you’re on the fence then go if you’re not and you are certain that you never want to hear from again forever then what difference does it make | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/24 01:40 PM |
| 1 | HowI found people to talk too and went on long walks to work through my thoughts. I had to sort through the positives of her leaving me and why I would be better off and I also had to cast her in a more negative light. I never lost faith and kept my stress to a minimum. Not going to lie though it all sucks and it’s sort of a unique experience to go through. Us men who have been through this are bonded and honestly the idea of being a good example through resilience and making a comeback from this f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/24 01:32 PM |
| 1 | HowI found people to talk too and went on long walks to work through my thoughts. I had to sort through the positives of her leaving me and why I would be better off and I also had to cast her in a more negative light. I never lost faith and kept my stress to a minimum. Not going to lie though it all sucks and it’s sort of a unique experience to go through. Us men who have been through this are bonded and honestly the idea of being a good example through resilience and making a comeback from this f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/11/24 01:31 PM |
| 1 | If a war breaks out and US participates, who will fight or be drafted into it?This ain’t desperate believe me, they will empty out prisons and recruit people bent on killing by legal means before they even begin to get desperate | /r/MensRights | 15/11/24 11:04 PM |
| 4 | Am I an asshole for saying this:I never thought of that, my wife is pulling some weird shit and without elaborating I’m at the point of confusion where I’m wondering why doesn’t she just call it? Since she’s seemingly moved on yet she keeps giving me a crumb of hope here and there and I had to find out through other peoples (not hers) social media that she’s moved on. I never considered it an ego thing at all, but in a weird way that almost makes sense id be lying if I said I totally understand why of all things that’s an ego … | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/24 10:19 AM |
| 2 | Is there nothing I can do to prevent crappy people around my kids?Evidence is very important here, if have a little bit of evidence or even see if a drug test can be requested: if you basically get some red flags raised it might not be enough for her to lose custody but enough for an investigation which could lead to other things | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/24 01:07 PM |
| 3 | If a war breaks out and US participates, who will fight or be drafted into it?Definitely wouldn’t happen for various reasons unless it was like the fall of the capital and they were calling in children and old people for a last stand to defend the motherland. Lol even that is not a reality though | /r/MensRights | 11/11/24 10:17 AM |
| 1 | Hard mode : loneliness and celibacyI’m with you man idk if ill never get married again, I do believe I’ll never trust again and I had my suspicions prior and now that I’ve been validated I know I will go through this life understanding I’m on my own and god is the only one I can/will trust: I come second to that. Irregardless I am in no rush to another relationship I really need to focus on my own self improvement | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/24 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Some days it feels like I’ll never get thereIf there’s mutual friends or children involved keep it neutral almost professional but when there isn’t let that shit rip my man it’ll dull out overtime and start to feel like a broken record that needs to be stopped and replaced. If it ever feels like to much hate just remember that it’s important to not cast the devil in someone without also seeing the spirit of god, meaning she’s probably not pure evil or good just a very flawed and arrogant woman | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/24 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Am I still grieving?I have similar thoughts man, I didn’t necessarily experience the lesbian thing (that I know of) but I’m pretty certain she left me partially because she wanted to act out a hoe phase like she was twenty again and Im not into that. Kinda sad tbh, my twenties were my twenties: being in my early thirties Im focused on work, family, small circle of true friends, and self improvement. I take oaths/vows so seriously looking back on it I almost wonder if she was more in it for the show/experience of it… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/24 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Should I divorce or play it through?I don’t think what I’m reading here is grounds for divorce. I think it sounds more normal than you think, definitely let her know respectfully let firmly that you won’t hear any unwarranted criticism of your parents and if she wants to do that over none serious concerns in regards to your parents she needs to do it somewhere else because its effects you poorly. I would say that you might want to consider individual counseling for yourself and that also you two might need to plan out a weekend or… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/24 12:33 PM |
| 2 | Am I still grieving?I get what your saying, I experience triggers that throw me into a emotional roller coaster. Lately I’ve been feeling almost angry at the situation, like what a joke that I took seriously when she didn’t. All i can say that I think applies to both of us (because we’re similar age and both have interests in marrying again) is that my values, interests, mentality, and even morals are different than when I met her at 25: tbh I was probably influenced highly by her looks and trying to get laid (she … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/24 12:17 PM |
| 1 | I think I dodged a bullet - it's almost overYour optimism makes me feel better about myself, I’m 32 no family and almost feel like I’m going to miss out on that. I too enjoy drinking and will always have to keep it out of control. I need to be more like you and become health focused, I just let myself go when she left me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/24 03:22 PM |
| 8 | I think my wife is prepping to divorce me. Help me prepare.So I would say weed just like alcohol is not something you can be intoxicated by and still be responsible for the care of a child. That’s legally speaking, so if she can prove to a judge that you’re high all the time even around the child the judge will probably want the sober person to be the guardian and if its bad enough maybe even require supervised visits or some kind of substance abuse treatment. I don’t know your habits, but if you’re worried about it then don’t do it in front of her and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/10/24 04:39 PM |
| 6 | Ex-Wife is going to Adult Theaters nowDamn she joined the Military at 36? Something to consider is that if you two are still married and she’s cheating on you it’s punishable by the uniform code of military justice. So that being said it’s fairly serious, the punishment could potentially be a dishonorable discharge or even confinement. Those may be on the more serious end of punishment but still I’d probably consider that potential. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/24 03:04 PM |
| 6 | Checked her social mediaShe’s not your problem anymore, if she’s living her life to the fullest not giving a damn about you then you deserve to do the same. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/10/24 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Do you divorce if there's no attraction left because your spouse aged like milk?https://youtu.be/Cw9QrPShO9E?si=ImWYCDq91grGLlDY | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/24 08:08 PM |
| 4 | She left meMan I feel you and so many of us men know what your going through; admittedly every situation is different and ranges from awful to a damn horror story, but it doesn’t matter because once a man crosses this threshold we’re all bonded together by a familiar pain we can all relate too. I respect you man for being genuine about your feelings and encourage you to lean into a circle of trust like friends/family/therapist/religion (if you are religious that is, regardless churches in my area provide f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/24 11:38 AM |
| 6 | What if I had just said "Sorry, I'm not getting divorced"I don’t see how it would be beneficial, marriage is a sacred union and bond. It’s not only a physical or emotional connection but traditionally it’s supposed to be a spiritual connection as well. My wife pulled the whole “I love you but I’m not in love with you” but that’s when we both should have worked together and instead she distanced herself. Also both spouses need to recognize that you’re not always going to be in a honeymoon phase. For a woman to want to cheat is often a thought out thing… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/24 09:06 AM |
| 1 | My Story…a summary of 15 years. Can you relate?She expected you to dog sit? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/24 02:33 AM |
| 10 | Saved marriageTell me if Im wrong (because I had a similar experience and have been wondering about this) but the issues you mentioned are not reasons to divorce they are issues that can be navigated through. The fact that she is threatening divorce over this makes me wonder if she is wanting to divorce for more selfish reasons and is just using those excuses for justification. God forbid you work hard and don’t do more around the house, divorce because of that is like flipping the game board over because you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/24 12:10 AM |
| -55 | USA: Teacher who left scratches on a teen’s back following sex and used students as ‘lookouts’ is sentenced. The sentence will be suspended after 90 days.You’re talking about the underdeveloped/impressionable mind and mentality of a child versus the mind of a highly educated adult who also as a teacher is supposed to be held to a higher level of standard in greater society. | /r/MensRights | 15/10/24 11:29 AM |
| 1 | How did I fuck up my life so badly & what to do next?Are you looking for sympathy? You haven’t done anything but make yourself look like a victim, and it sounds like there’s another side to this that should probably be addressed with the person you made vows with | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/10/24 12:55 AM |
| 6 | My wife left me and I’m struggling with understanding why.Man women are terrifying. us dudes are like dogs getting yelled at for doing normal dog behavior, we know we’re being yelled at but don’t really understand why. I think the issue might be a multitude of societal issues that are complex and uncomfortable truths to address. I’m no expert but based on observations I notice that typically women leave men more often and the blame is on the man and ironically the man will obsess over what he did wrong when its not clear therefore also blaming himself.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/24 04:52 PM |
| 6 | Very depressed.Man theres a lot to say here, but first and foremost fuck her. She is nothing more then some woman who happens to be the mother of your child don’t give her any more respect than just that. Your greatest revenge needs to be success and happiness. Women these days are corrupt and are nothing in comparison to the women who came before them, it’s a woman’s world these days at least in western culture. Men need to stick together | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/24 05:57 PM |
| 8 | Dating Culture in the U.S. is Broken; Seeking Honest OpinionsLol “hes my work hubby, tehe” shut the f**k up 😂. Dude you’re not wrong, honestly I think part of the problem is when I was young and dumb girls could do ignorant shit and i would push my boundaries to their limits to make them happy. Now I don’t care, why waste your time with someone who doesn’t meet your standards and doesn’t bring anything to the table besides physically. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/24 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Were you once these things or subscribed to them prior to divorce?Yeah I don’t want to go back to that lol, I was a simp for her paying bills, cooking, cleaning, telling her how wonderful she was but what really did it was I had certain things I had to stand my ground on because it was irresponsible or inappropriate. Men have to stop worshipping women, at my job I see dudes (even those in charge) just turn into mush around attractive women. I just stare in awe because it’s like they’re in a trance, that’s the real inequality in the workplace. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/24 01:39 PM |
| 5 | Was marriage worth it?Your going to have to find a woman who is the same as you religiously, better chance of it working out. Its a risk no matter what, i think having a woman who has a very strong faith in something higher gives you better odds because when your relationship or life in general gets rough instead of turning to TikTok or her shit head friends she’ll instead turn to the guidance of whatever religion you are. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/24 04:12 PM |
| 7 | Another thing I won’t miss from the ex….Preach brother, you know what’s badass about that is all the money you get to save | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/24 01:18 AM |
| 2 | I figured out that the divorce really is my fault but it’s not what I thought it would be. A lesson learnedI took care of her, paid 90% of the bills came home from work to do 90% of the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, caring for the dog, etc. Tried to make her a priority and tagged along with her and whatever she wanted to do. But once I started to say no to things she wanted to do, due to the lack of money and explaining how we needed to cut back, sacrifice, and budget. When I pointed out she was getting involved with promiscuous drama magnet unethical friends, and that I didn’t care about her … | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/24 06:26 PM |
| 4 | What are the top things that you don’t missLol rest easy brother she can’t control you anymore. I remember my ex would compete with me for who worked harder, I never initiated any of that and recognized her labor to find myself standing there getting yelled at thinking 🤔 “not only do I work hard I’m not trying to compete with you and I also pay for all the bills and I’m able to do so because I served our country and went to college” I didn’t say anything because I was almost in shock of the blatant lack of respect. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Nothing is sacred anymoreShit pisses me off, we are increasingly moving towards a classless hedonistic me me me undisciplined society and culture. Imagine ten twenty years from now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Wife said to husband "I'll just fuck someone else"Sounds like both you and her have issues communicating, try having a heart to heart or counseling. Sounds like she trying to tell you something and doesn’t know how, you’re both threatening each other. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Who's my emergency contact now?!?I don’t have kids and I don’t know you or your situation besides the sliver of insight you’re sharing on reddit, so take whatever I say with a shaker of salt. If I had a ex wife with three kids between the two of us I would still care for her not as my wife but as the mother of my kids so I would be perfectly fine if she had no other choice but to put me as a emergency contact. No kids involved I would be more hesitant, probably still do something if called and then ask if they can put someone e… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 12:01 AM |
| 5 | What are the top things that you don’t missShe would fill up her cart just to buy half the shit she would put in it like it was therapeutic, its weird how woman buy cheap merchandise to fill a void, to be fair though they are marketed towards for shopping. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 08:23 PM |
| 4 | What are the top things that you don’t miss“How laughable till death do us part, we signed a contract remember” lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 03:24 PM |
| 6 | What are the top things that you don’t miss“He should have worked faster, no excuses. Gawd good men are so hard to find these days” lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 03:14 PM |
| 3 | What are the top things that you don’t missPreach 🙌 | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 03:12 PM |
| 12 | What are the top things that you don’t missDude she one day told me i lost a document and had real bitchy attitude about it, I tore the place apart going through my stuff and ended up having to pay seventy bucks for a new one (a piece of paper) while apologizing to her for my failure. Well yesterday I was going through a few boxes she left and boom she put it in an old ipad box of hers smh. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 03:10 PM |
| 5 | What are the top things that you don’t missThis hits home, she would complain about chores/projects and made me feel uncomfortable about laying down and being lazy until I did it and halfway through she would become tired and quit and I would usually finish whatever it was. Also every weekend had to be filled with events that I had to typically take the lead on even though occasionally I wanted to just stay in for a weekend to save money, rest, and maybe just find some boring tasks around the house to mess with. Felt like I essentially h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 04:12 AM |
| 10 | What did you learn the hard way from your marriage and divorce experience?Women are very specific in what they want and if you can’t meet their demands and they still have their looks they will blame you solely for it and find someone else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 12:28 AM |
| 0 | Help me talk some sense into my 20 year old sonIts true, women are a lot more alluring to young men when they’re still young, pretty, and undamaged from the modern age. Maybe he needs to experience a serious relationship and the potential heartbreak that ensues with it to understand. It would just be better if the damage could be minimal like if he has to fall than don’t fall to far and have a safety net in place. Heartbreak is a valuable life lesson i suppose, as a parent, family member, or friend who has been through it all you can do some… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/24 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Help me talk some sense into my 20 year old sonI don’t envy your position, see if he is open to understanding how he needs to focus on himself and his success right now and a relationship takes a lot of time and energy away from that. One thing I don’t agree with from what Ive seen parents do is just give in to their children and let them do whatever. Stand by your beliefs because you’re the older and wiser adult/parent, might mean you have to be more tactful on how you get through to him maybe even manipulative if we’re being honest. He is … | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/24 01:44 PM |
| 1 | ResourcesWish I knew what that was | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/24 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Does it get any more bizarre than this?Where is this located? Four years of marriage and she left you, let me ask do you think her quitting her job was a big factor for her getting anything? Just curious because I’m in a similar position but she has a job with similar pay as mine only thing is its much more stressful than my job and without being biased towards her she doesn’t have good boundaries or knows when she should just be quiet and play along with work BS. I could see her quitting or getting fired | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/24 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Closing bank accountI recently closed the entire account and put it in an account under my name only and I wont touch it until everything is official, she hasn’t said a word about it. Shes probably too busy enjoying our wedding gifts in her new apartment with her boyfriend that she doesn’t know I know about, We’re talking 1700. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 07:17 PM |
| 5 | Is my wife cheating?At this point i feel like a very naive person when it comes to this stuff buy for what its worth it sounds like to me even if they haven’t been sexually active she’s getting a feel for another guy and he’s just playing the waiting game. Women are the gatekeepers and she’s just testing the waters to see if she has another option. How would she feel if you did the exact same thing with the text, going out, and admitting attraction but with another woman? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/24 10:42 PM |
| 0 | Why men must never open up to women.Theres a time and place for vulnerability, but if you find yourself in a hellish situation such as war or in the middle of a crisis you’ll benefit from being hardened up and deal with enough of these situations your character will be shaped by such external circumstances. Maybe we should just accept that some people are meant to be more emotionally vulnerable than others and that those differences combined can make for a well balanced society. | /r/MensRights | 11/07/24 10:17 PM |
| 3 | Ever wish she cheated?I dont want to catch her in the act or anything but knowing she’s started another relationship with another man is whats giving me the motivation to move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/24 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Triggers (rant)Seeing her romantically with another man was the clarity I needed, when I saw that on social media (his profile not hers, she doesn’t know I know) all the red flags clicked. I will know be very proactive in severing ties and filling for divorce. Any emotional thoughts or words towards someone like this are almost useless and more harmful, she almost feeds off the drama or attention. A reasonable person would file for divorce and be officially divorced if they wanted to pursue other relationships… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Triggers (rant)It’s crazy i never even knew about narcissism before this happened, and I’m almost in shock. Im actually scared of her not physically “necessary” but by what i say around her. When I did attempt to express my feelings towards her at the peak of this she would listen for things that she could take out of context and twist around on me instead of trying understand how i felt she would use it to make me feel crazy and hypocritical. It finally hit me at one moment that she didn’t want to come to a m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Triggers (rant)Sometimes I wonder, she did use me for a lot and when she made demands it would piss her off and the moment I made boundaries about her hanging out with guys alone and this group of “friends” who were sleeping around with married men and women that ended up getting her in trouble at work (she said she loved the drama). When she got in trouble at work for hitting on another woman on the behalf of her friend, i suggested that maybe she should distance herself from that friend and she got angry eve… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/24 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Closing bank accountWhat if i close the account and cash it out, then she just never brings it up again? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Is chivalry oppressive to men?Chivalrous men are the makes of a gentleman, something that used to be the goal for every young man in western civilization in return they were highly regarded for being such and given respect. Chivalry is oppressive when it goes from being a well respected gentleman to being a simp. It’s up to older male role models to teach their sons the difference so they don’t suffer from the “nice guy syndrome” later on and get taken advantage of. | /r/MensRights | 09/07/24 12:18 PM |
| 3 | Closing bank accountWe’re still married haven’t spoke to a lawyer or even begun the divorce process, and this isn’t a account she uses or has even mentioned since leaving. Thats why I was thinking about cashing it out and closing it down before I start the divorce process. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 10:52 AM |
| 3 | Closing bank accountI imagine that the previous dude was half as bad as she told me and she’s doing the same deal to this new guy. I was an idiot i had romanticized ideas of things and should of took notice | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Closing bank accountYup, as soon as you said it a light bulb went off. At one point when she was telling me how she’s leaving she said “i dont want you out of my life forever” she’s been talking to several “friends” throughout our relationship and sure i felt insecure about it but kept silent as much as possible thinking i should trust her. I should’ve known i found her when she was coming out of a relationship and something tells me she monkey branched than as well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 03:08 AM |
| 3 | Closing bank accountWhats that? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Closing bank accountYeah i was thinking i should cash it out before filling or even calling a lawyer | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Closing bank accountWell I was just hoping to file a no contest divorce with the hopes that we keep everything as is, with whats in her name and whats in my name as is (we own nothing together). I was just hoping it would pay for part of the attorney charges just to file. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Closing bank accountYeah i sorta wanted to use it for the attorney to file, which would actually benefit her as well | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Closing bank accountIts 1700 roughly give or take | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 02:05 AM |
| 5 | Closing bank accountShe signed herself off my lease and doesn’t know my code, really the only things tying us together (besides marriage) is that bank account and all of her stuff she left with me. That bank account is 1700 bucks i sorta want to close it and if she even cares enough to mention anything give her half | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 02:05 AM |
| 4 | Closing bank accountIt’s weird because Im not emotionally explosive, if she would just ask for a divorce I would accept it. I’ve been going through breakdowns and isolation. She says we need to talk and then ghost me, i asked her “what are we” she replies “thats hard to know” I told her this is hard on me and she proceeds to list off everything wrong with me. Now I find out she has a boyfriend and id assume they’re probably physical together. So I’m now in full on damage control trying to figure out an exit. She st… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/24 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Have any of you seen the Barbie Movie?No, judging by the title I thought it was a kids movie and I’m a thirty something year old childless man. | /r/MensRights | 07/07/24 04:56 PM |
| 4 | Tell me something that will wake me up!You’re not responsible for her any more you are responsible for your self though. She said she doesn’t want you for whatever reasons, and you can’t be down on yourself for to long we as men have to keep fighting for ourselves and those who choose to stay in our lives. If you have loved ones rather it be family, friends, peers, pets, even a plant you have someone or something that deserves you to be the best version of yourself and for you to be happier for it. It’s okay to be down and out for a … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 04:01 AM |
| 0 | Recently divorced - Can I still live a fulfilling life staying single forever and dating multiple women?Depends on who you ask, I’d be cautious about embracing hookup culture entirely. Theres an entire psychology behind physical intimacy. I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s a factor in failing relationships in today’s society and it really has no pushback or recognition as being potentially harmful for people and relationships. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/24 11:47 AM |
| 5 | Would you take her back?When did she regret it? When she left? The first guy? Second guy? Third guy? Number four? Could you realistically trust and respect her? Is this a person that you could introduce to your friends/family with the upmost pride and joy? Also who were these guys? “Friends”? Strangers? A combination? All bad for different reasons. Look if it was one drunken fling then you could forgive her and walk away, but with it being four you should forgive her and run away. At the very least man take a year for … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/24 06:26 PM |
| 8 | [Serious] How young is too young to date if you're not looking for your next wife? I'm 37Thinking about this and honestly if you find someone you see as attractive and there’s a real genuine compatibility and they make your life better not worse than age is only a biological factor, obviously it has to be legal lol. Generally speaking though age and maturity are linked so you’ll probably find yourself drawn to women of specific age/maturity levels that meet your own desires. I personally would caution against young and pretty type lacking maturity especially if they have daddy issue… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/24 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Its never enough.My wife threatened to leave me, I overlooked it and tacked it up to shes angry/emotional. But it still made me feel like her leaving was a legit possibility. The real surprise is I didn’t think it would mess me up so much | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/24 03:33 PM |
| 17 | Why wasn't the relationship worth fighting for?Women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally, men are loved based on what they have to offer. Women these days don’t need to stick it out and don’t have the same values as previous generations. We’re in an era of happiness being the number one priority in life and if you suddenly feel unhappy it’s unbearable and must be remedied even if it’s temporary. I cant imagine how our ancestors would feel about marriage and divorce in the modern era. Divorce used to be such a taboo thing and hell t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/24 08:11 AM |
| 2 | Trip ideas?Cawker city Kansas has the worlds second largest ball of twine | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/24 09:13 AM |
| 1 | Red flagsI hate how relatable this is, I didn’t have the ideal childhood (who does) so I married someone who had a worse childhood than me (I think) and held on to the whole people change mentality. Sad part is at one point she even tearfully told me she was messed up and couldn’t change. I still married her and thought anything is possible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/24 04:59 AM |
| 6 | Red flagsIm proud of all of you for speaking your truths, stand tall gentlemen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 05:37 AM |
| 1 | Guilt of the early stages of separationShe needs a job and both of you probably need to start individual or couples counseling. Being amicable is the best way to handle it which requires you to be a bit stoic. Even with that being said I would be thinking about worst case scenarios and have a plan of action to counter those scenarios if they do arise. In the meanwhile find a lawyer that offers a free consultation and get your questions organized and find out where stand legally by talking to them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Decent car for getting girls?You’re not going to go wrong with a classic car or truck, like something from the 60s/70s. Designs from those eras were esthetically appealing and she’ll probably think or assume with an older vehicle you know your way around vehicles and every girl appreciates a man who can be knowledgeable and handy with stuff such as fixing cars. | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 10:45 AM |
| 7 | Living in HellAmazon has tons of options for body cameras some that will even easily fit in your pocket. They also have pens and key chains that double as cameras but are less obvious. Good luck man | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 10:24 AM |
| 2 | Moving into same apt building as exwifeFair enough lol, it is the internet and everyone here is fairly intense (understandably) its hard through text sometimes to interpret ones sentiment among strangers. Anyways like I mentioned before I’m happy for you dude. Theres a lot of guys on here being dragged through hell by their ex wife and we live in a system that isn’t necessarily on the side of men especially depending on where you live so its good to hear you came out on top. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 04:54 PM |
| 4 | Moving into same apt building as exwifeIdk man, I know you seem to be okay but why antagonize her even more. At the end of the day it sounds like you came out on top which is good and I’m happy for you but if it was me I wouldn’t want to antagonize her and hope she can heal and move on successfully just like you have done. With that being said though if its like one of the only places available and we’re talking about saving a lot of money per month that changes things especially if you can live on the opposite side of her to avoid r… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Not sure where to beginYour daughter can become an RN through a two year program at a community college while living at home. Sorry man, but kids are sold to much on the “college experience”. I work with people who have four year degrees and high school diplomas all making the same income. The college experience is an expensive social experience, which is important but there’s cheaper ways to replicate a social experience such as community college to get her RN and then she can decide after two years if she wants to c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 10:56 AM |
| 11 | Is this the best forum for men?This sub has truly helped me, it’s nice to have a group of men who feel free to talk openly and honestly without judgement. Occasionally I think you’ll get a pissed off ex or soon to be ex on here that gets offended by the raw insight to how men feel and think when faced with divorce but you sorta have to ignore them and focus on your brothers. There’s great advice on here too, a lot of experience and guys who really want to help and pay it forward. Seems like society often frowns on male only g… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 10:10 AM |
| 2 | Sounds crazy but I will do it again . Would you?Sorry to hear this man, one thing I can relate to is social media. I’ve definitely been hooked on social media more so since my wife left because I’m a mess and seeking answers so it’s an okay resource. But there’s some absolutely terrible rabbit holes on the internet and the algorithms are designed to show you what you want to see/hear to keep you scrolling effectively creating a personalized echo chamber. Also everything is heavily edited and cinematic to the extent that it doesn’t matter if w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 09:59 AM |
| 6 | Wife left meCall an attorney for legal advice and maybe a therapist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/24 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Feeling so aloneYou’re going to need to find a circle of people to talk to about this stuff, friends/family/therapist/pastor or some variation but I would avoid confiding in mutual friends and family members. Something i came to realize is that no one understands this type of stuff than other men who have gone through it, I had no perspective or understanding before my wife left me but now I see people who have been through divorce in a completely different light. So if you have a close friend or family member … | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/24 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Wife cheated, getting divorced and have a moral question.If it wasn’t personal then I wouldn’t go out of my way, because what the hell are you going to do run around exposing all the cheaters of the world, but if I had the convenient opportunity too I would stranger or not. Now if it’s personal like how I feel your situation is and you had an easy way to tell her I absolutely would in a very delicate/sensitive way. There’s a lot of reasons to do this some are malevolent in the terms of revenge or karma. But the righteous intent that I believe outweigh… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/24 03:15 PM |
| 2 | Is this NormalId find out when shes moving out for sure and then you have a date at least. Maybe even tell her how you feel about her dating in your current situation and see if she’ll be willing work something out. If shes openly dating someone else then her happiness and also her sorrow is no longer your responsibility, your new responsibility is to recover and then live your best life for you no one else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/24 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Is there a natural way out of the depression? Time? Gym?Long walks, therapy, supplements, talk to a small circle of people you can trust especially if they’ve been in similar situations, bought some edc fidget stuff, time, videos of stand up comedy about divorce, etc. I also did unhealthy habits, but the goal is to avoid that stuff but i also wouldn’t beat yourself up about it either just know that you mainly need to find something healthy for yourself as the goal. Time does help dull out some of the emotion. You’ll need to develop a dozen ways to he… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/24 11:35 AM |
| 2 | Don't rush inYeah, I got to take some time for self improvement and some reflection before I go out finding another girl. Only problem is I have a distrust for women now even if a girl is being nice to me or smiles at me I immediately think they’re just faking it and eventually they will turn. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/24 11:23 AM |
| 1 | 47yo Recently Divorced - Looking for AdviceTake a proactive approach towards your mental health and learn how to be emotionally independent | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/24 11:13 AM |
| 4 | I’m lost.If she’s physically trying to fight you, then you need to leave. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/24 11:09 AM |
| 5 | I feel like I’m the only one?I swear this is where I’m heading, I don’t want to care anymore. I put a lot of blame on the current culture, so fuck it let’s all just focus on ourselves. I put way too much energy into my relationship now its time for me to not give a shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/24 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Early divorceProbably the most similar story to mine on here all the way down to still having some hope. Personally I just want a clear and cut sign for me to know that it’s over. But idk if I’ll ever get it, and at some point I need to end it for everyone’s sake. I swear this generation of women are different than what we witnessed with our parents and grandparents. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/24 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Just shy of 10 years and thinking about ending the marriage; advice?Might not be politically correct advice but screw it, i stopped caring and became stoic | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 05:06 AM |
| 2 | Financial recoveryI find this to pretty inspirational and wise, thanks for sharing | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/05/24 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Marriage insurance for menIm pretty sure there would be to s of fraud, i know when I was in the military a lot of people would marry just for the extra money and options for family housing in exchange the other person got health/dental insurance or some sort of deal. What would keep someone from divorcing and getting the insurance money and still remaining together, an insurance can’t keep people from having a relationship romantically or friendship. Im just playing devils advocate and thats the first thing I could think… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/05/24 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Stopping My Emotional ResponsesI realized that it doesn’t help me and really just gives her fuel to her fire. Even after I realized that I relapsed a couple times, but the idea of not giving her that emotional power over me helps. You almost have to be stoic towards women while separating. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 01:02 PM |
| 4 | Would you ever think about trying again?Maybe with a good prenup and if there was a religious reason for it not just a social media post/status. But who knows because really my faith in women and generally the world today has been severely shaken and I’ll probably never trust anyone again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 12:50 PM |
| 3 | GriefI had to leave my empty apartment and go for a drive or walk. I also had to go spend weekends with my parents. I do great at work, it’s when I’m alone that the thoughts creep up. That’s what helps me get out and about don’t stay home | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 12:37 PM |
| 1 | What’s a positive way to release anger?You’re probably going to get a variety of answers and what Ive come to find is you have to do a little bit of everything until you find the right mixture of help that seems to work for you. Seems like the most trending suggestion I have seen is some kind of exercise, which I myself need to start doing. But if you’re looking for a quick release I suggest calling someone you trust and can be open with limited judgements, this could be a therapist or family member/friend. Id suggest having a few pe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 12:24 PM |
| 4 | Today is the day of my divorce and I'm just so sad.I almost wonder if she is going through something like depression, I know with my own depression its hard to focus or be motivated to do anything besides work. Im assuming that your reference for counseling is for couples counseling, but maybe you both should consider individual counseling irregardless of what’s happening between you two. If she still doesn’t want to go, you should consider it for yourself it takes a few sessions before you feel comfortable opening up to a stranger face to face … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/24 10:39 AM |
| 3 | Coming up on a year since separation heading to official divorce.Keep fighting | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/24 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Coming up on a year since separation heading to official divorce.There’s plenty of opportunities for purpose in life, no matter what finish the game if not for yourself then everyone of us who’s trying to get through. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/24 06:00 AM |
| 2 | RantOh I know, men need to start watching out for one another. Encouraging each other and being a voice of reason when necessary. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/24 05:30 AM |
| 2 | WTF am I doing?Im 31, pretty random question but I’m trying to figure this out how long did it take for you to start seeking out other women? Part of me wants a long break, but also wants female championship. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/24 01:18 AM |
| 1 | I'm really struggling. Any support would help?Man I know how you feel, this stuff is almost shocking. You hear about it happening and know that it’s possible but think “maybe we’re the exception” and then when it happens you’re just not prepared mentally or emotionally unless you’re the one leaving. Im going through all the stages of grief, there’s no easy way through it but people seem to find a way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 11:39 AM |
| 1 | My divorce is my first breakup and I’m having trouble being optimistic about having any future relationships.Once I get through my stuff, I’m going to just focus on myself and having friends for at least a couple years. I can’t imagine having a relationship, It’s time for self love. Hard to think about being selfish but I’m starting to feel like I deserve it everyone else is and I spent years kissing her ass while neglecting myself and other relationships and she ended up leaving me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/24 11:17 AM |
| 9 | DiscussionMan I completely agree with this, like I do fine with money and I had some aces up my sleeve but she wanted it all, like a big house in the most expensive area and multiple week long vacation throughout the year and everything in between and shes pissed at me because I mention how we need to budget for this or sacrifice to obtain that. It’s enough to make me feel crazy like I’m the evil oppressor for not being able to provide everything she wants on a silver platter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/24 03:42 PM |
| 1 | natural supplement recommendationsIm just taking a multivitamin and magnesium, idk if its doing anything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/24 12:27 PM |
| 10 | Men what is a reasonable weekly or monthly sex output from your wife?Lol thats hilarious, hell dude I would have been happy with just dinner and a compliment once a week | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/24 10:21 PM |
| 2 | When do you actually let go?I go back in between angry sad and sometimes I feel some bliss. Sad because I’m lonely and miss some of the good times. Angry because what she did to me and the bad memories. Bliss comes from the fact that maybe I’m better off and that I learned somethings from this situation about myself and women that might help me in the future. I’ve failed at plenty of things or more so not take initiative for opportunities that have presented themselves, well it makes me upset but i don’t regret my mistakes… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/24 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Got laid off a few days before filingNot that I’m im saying you need to do anything asap, but you might want to think of options if she thinks shes just going to continue on like this is fine for the foreseeable future | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 11:52 AM |
| 1 | Got laid off a few days before filingShe’s playing a game with you, at some point if she keeps ignoring the question and not communicating you might want to just let her know that she needs to give you a date and time our your going to plan on leaving yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 11:50 AM |
| 3 | Got laid off a few days before filingIf I was you I would find a family or friends that would rent me out a room and let the lease expire. Find a mind numbing easy and flexible job and get a new place. I wouldn’t want my kid exposed to that nonsense, work husband lol what an idiotic notion woman invented. Something has happened to the culture along the way in this world that has made things change for the worse when it comes to relationships | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/24 10:15 AM |
| 4 | Young Dude in Need of AdviceYou’re being humble man (good trait), keep working on yourself. When I was in my twenties I just wanted physically attractive women, I now realize in my early thirties a good woman is so much more than the physical part. Don’t get me wrong physical appearance is still important but also just one element among probably a hundred different qualities. You will be much happier in the long run if you keep that in mind. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Young Dude in Need of AdviceSorry for being devils advocate here, but I’ve observed enough to know what I’m saying here. You’re on your way to being a high valued dude you could probably end up with a very high value woman don’t screw that up by screwing whores. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 10:27 PM |
| 5 | Young Dude in Need of AdviceThe fact that you are looking for validation here among a bunch of (lets face it) pissed off males due to our experiences with females is an indicator that you’re conflicted by your impulses and morals. Dude I know how I personally feel about this type of stuff, but we might have differences in values so If I was you I would simply ask yourself would you be okay with your future partner doing the same? Understand that there is some psychology behind physical intimacy, chances are a woman who’s c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 10:21 PM |
| 9 | Did your wife come back and if so when?There are things that you can’t control, simple as that. She left you and thats out of your control, she said to herself that she didn’t want to be a wife to you for whatever dumb reasons. Thats hard to understand, but you need to understand you did your best while being true to who you are and she wanted something different. So be it I say, focus on yourself what you have control over and building better relationships with those who still choose you. Us men have no time for people who don’t wan… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 11:12 AM |
| 1 | LonelinessHer and her dog were my hobbies lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 07:27 PM |
| 3 | LonelinessI can tell you’re on to something | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 05:23 AM |
| 3 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks for sharing, it’s motivating to see it laid out like you did this will help guys here | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Religious PreferencesI mean your days are your days, if she’s serious about her religion and having your kids raised within faith maybe there’s a compromise like take the kids to a Easter sermon or do something that teaches the true meaning behind Christian holidays like easter or Christmas. You don’t have to necessarily be a believer to understand the meaning and history behind the culture and its practices. That is if you guys are committed to raising the kids that way. Might be difficult or confusing if you guys … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 11:12 AM |
| 1 | How did you level yourself up?Im probably moving back in with my parents too, mixed feelings about. They seem to be thrilled I’m not though. I think they’re lonely and need someone with energy around. Since my stbex left i just sit here in an empty apartment which is lonely so i guess moving home will help that and also save me money. Ill probably give them some money for utilities and food. Dont feel bad about that though your not alone especially in this economy they could probably use your help around the house and it mig… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/24 04:42 AM |
| 5 | Why do we seem so rare?I’ve never observed a relationship without problems, vice versa I haven’t observed relationships that don’t show joy. I just went through something similar and it’s lonely and sorta embarrassing but you have to adjust and avoid being cynical about others. Somethings are just out of our control and in hindsight maybe there’s a more compatible person out there and this time you’ll be looking from logic and experience versus (if you were anything like me) lust and excitement | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/24 10:30 PM |
| 2 | I really need help with navigating through my divorceSorry man that you’re going through this,i feel like your command could’ve done more to help you out. I don’t have great advice for this one, I just want to give you my well wishes as one man going through bs to another. Take of yourself and keep up this fight for yourself and your daughter. I like how you sound calculated more then emotional on how your handling this situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/04/24 09:17 AM |
| 3 | Financially devastatedI can’t say I’m facing the same financial issues as you and I’m sorry. I can’t stand the idea of alimony, splitting joint assets/child support I can wrap my head around being part of the system but the idea of alimony is ridiculous unless maybe they’re ill/injured and cannot physically work or your a multi millionaire. I will say that the amount of extra money I have since my stbex left is insane. You will probably realize some of that if you haven’t already. Another thing is I don’t have to spe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 11:48 AM |
| 3 | Panic attacks/depressionThanks everyone, this is the only outlet I’ve found to be men helping men and it’s working. Makes me feel better about myself as a man | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/04/24 04:40 AM |
| 1 | I'm allowed to use refried beans againI bought spicy food a couple days ago, felt sorta liberating to think for myself lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/24 01:35 AM |
| 1 | Letting goNot as a diagnosis, i mean loving someone just to suddenly get the cold shoulder. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/02/24 03:41 AM |
| 3 | Trouble in the bedroom with other womenId say despite what our society and media often implies sex is more than just a physical act. This becomes true especially with maturity. You might have to be mentally or emotionally prepared and the physical part will follow naturally. But what the hell do I know lol, I’m just spitballing here | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 05:02 PM |
| 5 | Single Divorced Men, how are you dealing with the void on Valentine's day?Drinking, video games, and anxiety. Might order junk food lol. Two more days until she moves out, will be at work while her and her friends help her move. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 02:46 AM |
| 1 | AdviceI wish i could respond to each and everyone of you. Your comments give me some reassurance, sometimes it just seems like men are heavily bashed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/24 05:31 AM |
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