Loneliness

kindofnotdepressed47 · 2024-05-13T07:41:10+00:00

I try to keep myself busy. Go for run , cook for myself , play with my neighbors dog etc. Although these are still not enough.

Unicronbomb · 2024-04-24T06:05:52+00:00

I’m living with a couple for now until I pay some ccs down and find out where I want to live in my city or county. I can say I was lonely too but I hit the local bars up Friday and Saturday. May catch aNBA at a bar on Sunday. Other things I do could be events in the day time. I’ve always gone to the gym 6 days a week so that never changes for me. You can also do Meetups for things you wanted to try that your Ex-Wife didn’t want to do. Trust me I’m sure there is plenty. I’ve score only 2 numbers so far. One I wanted but she didn’t return my call and one I didn’t want (she did coke)lol. So no dates for me right now but it’s good just talking to women and getting back to my old self. I get lonely when I come to an empty bed at night but you can’t put a price on peace. At times that I’m out I feel like damn I love my life.

ABBucsfan · 2024-04-22T00:24:42+00:00

Got a divorce... But seriously even though she wanted it the moment writing was in the wall I just started thinking about the people I needed to reconnect with (was so isolated), hobbies I was going to get back, being more relaxed around my kids etc. marriage was the one place I felt truly lonely. I occasionally feel a tinge of it when my kids have been at her place a few days but volunteer as a scoiter and some amazing families involved with it so a privilege to know some of.tbr other scouters, other nights in online with my buddies. If I can actually find time I'm at the gym. But rare these days. My life is full. Gotta keep busy I think. Don't feel.id actually have time for a new lady in my life

shizukana-yama · 2024-04-21T13:12:08+00:00

I got back to myself. Who I was before meeting my ex? That person was pretty ambitious, pretty disciplined. I’m the same person. Injured sure, older absolutely, but also way much wiser.

Get back to yourself. Build up yourself from there. DO NOT run away from loneliness, it hunts you later with more force. Start to deal with it and eventually it becomes your best friend. And this amazing loyal friend doesn’t lie to you, doesn’t leave you and truly loves you regardless of the money in your pocket.

dday_throwaway3 · 2024-04-21T12:16:41+00:00

Do you have any hobbies?

CrazySanta7 · 2024-04-21T12:10:01+00:00

If you can't be happy alone, you will never be happy with someone else. Get rid of social media for a while. People only post 20% of their life, and it's all 'happy' moments. It makes others feel like trash, but it's not reality. I know couples who hate each other, but they post pictures of themselves together, smiling on social media. Figure out things YOU like to do. I'm so good with myself now, i will not co-habitate with a woman again. This was not always the case.

MeisterMGTOW · 2024-04-21T09:28:15+00:00

I love being alone!

Techdude_Advanced · 2024-04-21T05:05:37+00:00

You are going to age very fast and lose out on a lot of great opportunities ahead of you if you don't get off that loneliness . We always recommend the gym for a reason and other activities like going out to meet people, joining a group, finding things that click with you. It takes time for us to heal but boy when we put in the work, we become unstoppable.

Mundane-Surround-325 · 2024-04-21T04:21:18+00:00

Lonelyness occurs if you relied on her, leaned on her for feeling you had a life. Now, she is not around, and you have a life to live, doing for yourself what you should have been doing when you were a couple.

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2024-04-21T03:02:33+00:00

Have to get out of your comfort zone, try new things. Get on dating apps. Learning how to get good at the different steps from profile, messaging to actual dates will keep you busy

Enough_Youth_4564 · 2024-04-21T02:46:24+00:00

Loneliness is not an excuse or a reason for anything. This is literally under your full control. Figure it out. You can.

frogmicky · 2024-04-21T02:32:33+00:00

Get a hobby or two, Go out and have some fun meet up with friends.

bilbomontague10 · 2024-04-21T02:21:03+00:00

Try to keep busy. Exercise. Cook. Read. Don’t be a hermit. Make plans to do things (hanging with friends, a concert) so you have things to look forward to. Appreciate the silence and independence. If all else fails, get a pet.

AdventurousTrash1645 · 2024-04-21T02:20:14+00:00

I have not mastered this yet. 2 years living alone and I'm miserable and depressed. Good luck.

TechnicalAd5152 · 2024-04-21T02:16:51+00:00

Four things, obsessing about my child, cleaning the house, working out, and pouring whatever is left into my work.

Title	Loneliness
Author	fffrdcrrf
Upvotes	9
Comments	24
Date	April 21, 2024 2:09 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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