Confused as hell

Johnson_2022 · 2025-02-05T23:05:30+00:00

Ignorance is bliss sometimes, OP.

Who gives a f...k what she thinks?

MonarchistExtreme · 2025-02-05T02:56:27+00:00

Don't take the bait...just ignore that bs...that's her boyfriend's job to tolerate...you retired from that post

fffrdcrrf · 2025-02-04T11:21:32+00:00

Just because you don’t entertain them doesn’t make you an ass, Im a bit of an introvert myself and don’t necessarily love small talk especially if I’m tired. Maybe you just wanted to chill and watch the game. She reminds me of someone who always has to have something to bitch about; if I’m right about that then just give it time and once you don’t feed into it she’ll move on

Complicatedlogic · 2025-02-04T08:37:53+00:00

It sounds like she had a lot of control in your marriage. She doesn’t get to have that anymore.

warwww · 2025-02-03T16:10:36+00:00

Don’t even entertain it. Focus on your daughter, she didn’t ask to be born into this mess of boyfriends, lovers etc. in an ideal world she’d have her father there 100% of the time as she grew up as you’re there for her unconditionally. Think the new guy is going to care one cent for your daughter if the woman stops giving him sex? Not a chance on the sun. Just focus on being a dad she can be proud of.

Try to make it as ideal as possible for her so she’s not repeating or prone to repeat the same mistakes in her later years. Be the bigger person and ignore unless it impacts her well being.

EnvironmentalCod9871 · 2025-02-03T14:29:59+00:00

I am sure you have heard the term," not my monkey, not my circus". You have to say it like this to piss her off. "Hey Monkey, you're not in my circus anymore". She is board or unhappy in her relationship and she is just trying to start shit with you to share the unhappiness.

NewDay0110 · 2025-02-03T13:59:22+00:00

You don't have to do anything. Her opinion on what you should do regarding her boyfriend is no longer relevant.

vladsuntzu · 2025-02-03T13:55:47+00:00

Seems as if she’s playing games. This is a post-marital shit test. She wants to test your boundaries to see what she can get in the future.
Hold firm and tell her you weren’t rude and that you said proper hellos. You are under no obligation to be friends with these people.
Make sure you write this whole episode’s in a journal. This might start a pattern. Worse case scenario, you might need it if she drags you back to family court.

Comfortable-Angle660 · 2025-02-03T13:06:45+00:00

Why would you talk to them? Is your ex a few bricks short of a full load? Why would you even have a “meet and greet”? The only thing you are doing is enabling her lunatic behaviour.

darkerwithin · 2025-02-03T13:04:59+00:00

You aren't kissing her ass. That is now your replacement's job. You didn't act bothered by your replacement that is also a problem for her. Don't be confused she will continue to try to provoke a reaction from you anyway she can. Unfortunately because you have a child together you will have to endure this behavior for many, many years to come. Do your best not to respond. Any reaction is fuel for her.

Subtle-Catastrophe · 2025-02-03T13:02:28+00:00

Women live in an alternate universe when it comes to social interaction, rank, status, and image. They perceive slights where none are intended, and and suspect ulterior motives where none exist. Much of this is projection, because indeed, there is a lot of gossip, back-handed complimenting, and subtle social undermining that goes on among and between women in their jockeying for position in the female social hierarchy.

The only way for men to "win" that game is not to play it.

Ignore that communication, make no mention of it and carry on normally as though she hadn't even left it.

detmus · 2025-02-03T13:01:37+00:00

You’re not losing it. You’re triggered.

Keep doing your best to be positive. You have zero control over how others perceive you.

I’m early in my journey, but when I get a text like that, I respond with, “Thank you for letting me know.” It acknowledges what they said, but you don’t need accept the blame or responsibility for how they feel. That’s a losing battle.

RevolutionaryLaw8854 · 2025-02-03T12:58:51+00:00

She doesn’t understand what divorce means.

When you’ve upgraded and have a younger, prettier, smarter, better employed girlfriend - she will change her tune

No_Surround_495 · 2025-02-03T12:58:06+00:00

I’m not too far along this journey, but I assume, just like when you were married, you can never do anything right. I’ve given up trying to understand or care what my STBXW thinks or cares (at least that’s my thoughts for today - I do ebb and flow).

Title	Confused as hell
Author	NewPerformance7662
Upvotes	12
Comments	49
Date	February 3, 2025 12:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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