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DISCUSSIONstevierose789/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 07:51 PM
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DISCUSSIONstevierose789/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 09:02 PM
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My husband is recovering from a stroke and seems to be struggling with some areas of his thinking. He has become very careless about some things and that scares me when it comes to his and my safety. I have found I have to argue with him lately in order to get him to see reason. I only do this in matters that are essential such as preventing an accident, but it makes me sad because I hate questioning his decisions. To be honest I feel really bad for him right now. He lost his father and our 14 y…
/r/RedPillWives22/07/21 05:39 PM
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Update to my update MY father-in-law passed away yesterday evening. I toured an assisted living facility I really liked and one my mother-in-law could afford. With my daughter on board, it was much easier than I thought to convince my husband and his sisters that this was the best option for their mom. I was able to provide them with facts, requirements, and answer their questions. When they compared them to the nursing home they had chosen, they agreed to arrange for her to go there instead. I …
/r/RedPillWives08/07/21 09:38 PM
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I have been researching. It is difficult because the ratings are not consistent from site to site. I will take my mother in law to visit a couple of choices. She has difficulty get in and out of a vehicle so I will limit it to the 3 top choices. Thank you for your advice.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/21 04:46 PM
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I plan to do that tomorrow. All three children are going over to talk to her and I will not be there. I will tell her she does not have to agree to anything right now. My daughter called and she is furious that they are ignoring her wishes. My son also is opposed to their plan. It is no longer a question of whether or not I am going to go against my husbands and his sister's preferences. I am. I just need to figure out how to do so in the most respectful manner possible.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/21 02:14 AM
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No she is not safe in her home by herself. She is prone to falls. She relies on a walker. The house in not wheelchair friendly and cannot be made so with out major reconstruction. Plus she needs companionship with people her own age and activities.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/21 12:47 AM
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I can honestly say that it is not an option for my mother-in law to live with us. We will all visit her frequently to make sure she is not mistreated. My opposition to the nursing home that her children are considering is that it is a skilled facility, a full fledged nursing home. I want to place her assisted living as long as she is mostly able to take care of herself and then move her into a nursing home environment. She has been taking care of herself and her husband until now.
/r/RedPillWives06/07/21 11:56 PM
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Thank you so much for the encouraging words. I really do feel like I have gotten some of my self-confidence back and the future is looking brighter. So far I haven't caught any mice, but I haven't seen them either. My sister-in-laws are going to meet with admission people at the nursing home to talk about finances, time frames, etc. and I am not going to that meeting. I am trying to let three kids work it out and stay out of the picture unless they need my help. We have learned that my-in-laws w…
/r/RedPillWives02/07/21 09:18 PM
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Hold onto your mental well being and allow yourself to NOT think about what the future holds for your marriage. It was very hard to admit that I was afraid that my husband would turn into his father, and truth be told he is every bit as stubborn, but he is not self-centered and he doesn't have his mean streak. My parents are a topic for another time. I am the only child in town out of five kids, so they have unreasonable expectations of my attention. My heart aches seeing my son under so much st…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/21 07:58 PM
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Thank you. I will watch this.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/21 07:35 PM
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Thank you. I know I have been pushing myself pretty hard and last night I realized that I cannot continue on like this. I feel guilty because my father-in-law wants my husband and me to visit and listen to him talk. He can't hear for shit, so it is a one way conversation. I know he doesn't have a lot of time left, but I am so angry at him right now because he is being so self-centered in regards to his wife, his grandson (who he tries to use as his personal errand boy)and his kids who he yells a…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/21 07:33 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/21 07:18 PM
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We suggested the home care route, but my mother-in-law was very against it, saying she didn't want a stranger in her home. To be honest, I think she wants to go into a nursing home because she has been stuck at home with a cranky old man who can hear, can't eat much of anything, and is constantly complaining. At least in a care facility she would have human interaction, wouldn't have to cook and clean, and she could use a wheelchair instead of her walker.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/21 07:18 PM
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Write a list of everything that you're going through right now and make a plan for how you want to manage our deal with every problem. I did this and it makes things seem more manageable. I have mouse traps set. We have an appointment set up to tour a nursing home next week. I am going to talk to my husband about hiring out some of the repairs on our home instead of doing it ourselves. And lastly, I am going to make some plans for a vacation for me and my husband. We have not had one in over two…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/21 07:07 PM
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I am so sorry to hear this. It is tough on a marriage when a husband is home all day instead of going off to work. In my case, my husband and I butt heads when he starts telling me how to do my job, which I do perfectly well without his supervision. I tend to believe a lot of women experience these kinds of situations when their men are not busy managing their own lives. It is also hard to have him there when it interrupts your daily routines. I have found that my husband and I can share the sam…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 06:12 PM
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The issue I have with this is: RPW supports the concept of bring your man your problem. There have not been many women writing to say this solved their problem. In your case it is "so your man didn't deal with your problem" then it's on you honey. So put on your big girl pants and face it. This is not fair. Of course I know life isn't fair, but it does seem that more sympathy was in order here. In fact there was a lack of empathy for both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 12:20 AM
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If you put the bait out and the mouse crawls away and dies and you don't find it right away, it will stink to high heaven. I know it seems horrifying to pick up a trap with a squished mouse, but it really can be over in a second. Maybe your guy will be cool with getting rid of the dead mouse even though a live one freaks him out. Worse comes to worse, put out the traps and when you catch one, pay a neighbor to get rid of them. Obviously start with a trap in the bathroom.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 11:12 PM
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The first thing you need to do is discover where the food source is that your little uninvited guest is living on. We had mice one time because we left dry food in the dogs dish all the time, letting him eat when he wanted. I discovered after I started moving furniture that there was a huge pile of dry dog food under a book case. After you figure out what the mice are eating (and there is a good change it is more than one), and solve that problem, then you can set traps. There are catch and rele…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 10:41 PM
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I too will add to the discussion when I get the book. I have never read it, but recognize it receives very favorable reviews from this community.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 01:31 AM
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I had a awesome Easter Sunday. I went to church for the first time in over a year with my sister who came to visit. It was just the two of us. Her husband and kids opted out of church, as did my husband and kids. We didn't mind in the least. The rest of the day was spent enjoying family and good food and good weather. I, as OP, found so much joy in appreciating the good things that have come my way.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 02:00 AM
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There are quite a few older posts that I would like to bring back around. I think this is a great idea. Why the continuous effort to reinvent the wheel based on each individual post? So many issues that come up here have been addressed in the past by wise women who have learned how to use the tools of RPW in their own lives. They speak from experience. I will go back and find a couple of the older posts that had an impact on my marriage and send them on to you with the reasons why they made a di…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 12:59 AM
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If one were to find where on the darn sub we stashed the check list, she could follow it step by step, the heavens would part and she would be blessed with the most perfect blend of alpha-beta man that has ever walked the earth. It is surprising how many women come here seeking the magic formula to a perfect RPW lifestyle. They have their future all mapped out and all they have to is find a man who will fulfill their dreams. Instead they should wait until they fall in love with a man before plan…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 10:03 PM
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When you're lost, you're lost. I personally would rather take five minutes and stop and ask than to drive around for an hour. However, someone pointed out to me once that the destination is not important to men. It is the drive itself that matters. I guess there is a certain satisfaction to finding the way on your own. That is fine on a Sunday drive. It can drive women crazy when you have some place to be.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 04:07 PM
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Love this analogy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 03:57 PM
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Thank you for this. It explains a lot and it makes sense. That surety, that you are close to finding your bearings and do not want to loose your focus by stopping for directions, further strengthens my belief that men hold to their instinctive abilities to set a course and follow it. Women are perfectly willing to alter the course if inconveniences pop up. Men may feel incompetent when they have to ask for directions, but women will see you as incompetent when you don't.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 03:13 AM
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I think the flipside of it is also true- as women, we sometimes see our husbands thinking in a big-picture way and we mistake it for being egotistical. Oh absolutely! Although I would not describe it as egotistical as such. I think it is more to do with the tendency of not understanding the significance of the events that affect us so much in our world because they do not have the same vantage point. It is the same when we as women do not understand the impact of events in their world because it…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 02:39 AM
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This is really well thought out and helpful comment.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 09:47 PM
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So sorry! I just remembered that you didn't post. I hope OP will follow up with a post asking about the benefits of alpha/dominate males. This is only one side of the equation.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 01:33 AM
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Just wanted to also add that many dominant men can be laid back. My husband just isn't one of them. Each has different temperaments. I hope you will follow up with a post asking about the benefits of alpha/dominate males. This is only one side of the equation.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 01:29 AM
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I totally agree there really is no such thing as an alpha. It is more a matter of dominance. Sometimes stubbornness and pride can be a part of that. That doesn't mean a man cannot exhibit sensitivity. I think that stoicism is a mans way to protect his woman and family from worrying about the things that he worries about.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 01:18 AM
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This took some soul searching and some guts to post this. You should be proud. Not only did you learn from your mistakes and find a good relationship, you also shared your experience so other women could benefit. That is to be admired.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 01:09 AM
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I have found, as others have said, that my husband hates to admit he is wrong. He is also slow to apologize. Most of the time it is over little things and I walk way, roll my eyes, and ignore it. If it is an issue that is important to me or my family, then I will stand my ground until we reach a compromise. However, this has to be done in a respectful manner. He is very rarely disrespectful to me unless he very angry about something I did that crossed a red line. I am the one that has a temper, …
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/21 12:11 AM
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Great post.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 07:50 PM
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I don't think that is the right wiki. Look for this on the side panel and hit the link. To dig deeper into the theory and practice of being a Red Pill Woman visit our wiki or ask a question. Its right above "Welcome to RPW!"
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 09:10 PM
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You will be surprised at the amount of quality content to be found there.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 09:08 PM
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Yes and it is goldmine of information. I guess it needs to advertised.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 09:03 PM
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There is a good article on the WIKI about this under the heading Submissive or Doormat.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 09:00 PM
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Yes, I can see now how that would create problems.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 07:03 PM
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I am always available to review posts or suggest topics or help get things started implemented whatever. Happy to be a resource for anyone who wants to provide more to the sub. Thank you for the time and effort you dedicate this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 06:58 PM
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This has meant that TRP has ended up structured much more like a university, while RPW is structured much more like an advice column. At first this statement seemed demeaning, but after thinking about it, I realize it is true. There are many posts asking for help, but few posts sharing what has been learned. I wish more women would write field reports or open a discussion about RP concepts and how they are relevant to their own lives. However, in expressing my wishes, I have been a perfect examp…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 06:56 PM
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I still get responses that could be applied generally to other women This is a win win, you get the answers you seek and other women benefit from them
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 04:27 AM
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So ask these questions, but do so in manner that will benefit more women than just yourself. We all seek answers to these questions. If you present your questions in a way that opens the discussion to many women, instead of focusing on the specific answers that only pertain to you, it will garner many more valuable responses.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 03:45 AM
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They should be given links to services in their area. This entails a great deal of time and effort to provide links to God knows how many areas that would need to be researched. Whisper asked for a poster to do exactly this after she suggested it and it never materialized.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 03:12 AM
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Yeah these posts need to be closely monitored, but if there’s too many that can be hard to do. Monitored by whom? This is not some kind of affiliated site under the watch of so called professionals. Instead it is a place for women to connect, share there experiences, and learn from each other. If women are seeking professional advice they sure as hell are not going to find it on reddit. Furthermore, if you are a professional, you are not going to dispense advice on reddit.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 03:01 AM
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I think professionals working in this space should be the only ones to advise a women on how to respond/ next steps in evaluating the risks of non-action, or exiting an abusive relationship. That is the ideal scenario, but it is not realistic. How many professionals visit this site? The next best thing is to listen to the voice of experience, and glean the nuggets of wisdom you find.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 02:52 AM
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Thank you. I will hold you to it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 01:58 AM
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I don't think stars are the answer. You can get a A on a paper, because you were able to write about the said topic. It doesn't mean you have mastered the course. Besides, I don't think it is a matter of endorsed contributors. I think women want to know more about the other women here. What is wrong with flairs that give some kind of insight into who you are interacting with?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 12:45 AM
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So what were your questions? What answers did you find that were settled? Do you feel comfortable here now or not? I really hope you will try to explain what clarity was missing here for you. There is so much to unpack here because of the acronyms like awalt, smv, just to name two, On top of that you have a wide variety of opinions, many that conflict with each other. Please elaborate, even it just to satisfy my own curiosity. PM me if you must.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 12:22 AM
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To me, the psychology of it is simple. People who invented social media quickly realized how addictive it was. This is because of the rush, the feel good response to positive feedback that hooks people and every "like" or "upvote" adds to the temporary high and furthers the addiction. I would not be here is I did not have some form of addiction to social media. It didn't take me long to figure out it is best to delete face book and linked in and instagram. the only two sites I couldn't give up w…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 12:10 AM
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I am hoping this post and its comments will inspire other women to step up and contribute more content that is relevant to the wider audience of women who read here.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 09:51 PM
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I believe others have suggested this in the past. It seems like a good idea to me too, but there may be a reason it was not put in place. Maybe it will be reconsidered.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 08:40 PM
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I don't pay attention to downvotes. In fact I often forget to hit the up button. You never know if it is trolls or legitimate readers. Plus, I'm not here to be part of a popularity contest. Too often bad advice is upvoted because of herd mentality. Please don't hesitate to share your views. We need more input from women who aren't in their first rodeo.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 08:30 PM
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Just talk about what you learned from the first relationship and how you applied that knowledge to end up in the happy relationship you are in now.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 08:11 PM
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I am happy you agree. Perhaps you could share what you have learned as a field experience. I am sure a lot of women would benefit from your insights.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/21 07:59 PM
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It gets easier with time. Best wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 09:55 PM
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Because my husband is not one to talk much about his feelings, I have learned over the years to ignore his moments of acting like an ass and not to take it personally. If I am patient it almost always comes down to something else that is bothering him and he will tell me about it. Sometimes it is only after an hour or so. If his mood doesn't change after several hours, then I will go to him and just give him a hug and tell him I hope whatever has him so upset is resolved soon. Sometimes he will …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 07:17 PM
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I think that there maybe some underlying resentment on his end that he is not telling you about. Maybe he doesn't even know what it is if he hasn't done any self-reflection. He is acting like a toddler and you can't reason with a toddler. If he wants to pout and whine, ignore him. When he snaps out it without any intervention from you, then sit down and apologize for any disrespect on you part and then ask him what is really bothering him. Tell him you miss the man you married and that you are t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 06:46 PM
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I don't think this is a valuable contribution to the discussion. The last thing a woman concentrating on self improvement needs to worry about is having mutant children based on rare circumstances.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 02:39 AM
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I agree that this is more a matter of him being upset with himself, not you. If you assure him that you love the gesture and you love the playlist he will get over it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 01:00 AM
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One suggestion I would have for nun mode is to find a project to complete that doesn't require much concentration so it allows you to think of other things while you are working. A task that keeps your hands and body busy while your mind figures things out. Examples: sanding and painting a thrift store piece of furniture, knitting, weaving, making soap, cooking without following a recipe, gardening, and so on. I am sure that are other great ideas. The second part of this advice is to read or lis…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 10:44 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUmKUWzbDxg Where have all the cowboys gone?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 12:54 AM
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I would be willing to collaborate to research and revisit past posts that address issues that seem to arise on a continual basis.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 12:38 AM
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Being a redpilled wife is not my only option. Being a redpilled wife is dependent on the man you fall in love with, the man you marry. It is a skill set to keep some men happy, in fact most men happy, but it does require work on the man's part to give his partner what she needs to be motivated to use these skills. I never said a woman should be submissive to a man who could not be a provider. Instead I was pointing out that there are times that a man cannot provide due to life's circumstances an…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 02:46 AM
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There is no liberal feminist or conservative equation in this. A successful marriage requires that both partners come to the table ready to work for the benefit of the team using the skills and knowledge they have. The more skills and knowledge each brings offers more opportunity for the marriage to survive. Being a redpilled wife doesn't give you an excuse to sit on your ass and let your man handle life while you work on being beautiful and the goddess of fun and light. I don't know how you thi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 02:25 AM
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A redpilled woman doesn't think in terms of tit for tat or covert contracts.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/21 02:00 AM
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Don’t play hard to get, BE hard to get. Because hard to get is hard to keep So there seems to be an opposite message with these two statements, but they are actually spot on in terms of the chase. The first is a positive. Work on being the best you can be in all areas of your life. The second is a warning. Do not get so wrapped up in improving yourself that you forget to appreciate the good things in front of you and savor the day to day pleasures, which is what a man most wants from his woman.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 02:25 AM
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I agree that the issue of young readers here (those under the age of 20) should be considered. I think there should be some kind of guidance that stresses how much their ideas about life will change and encourages them to take the time to grow up before making life plans based on their current perceptions.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 12:08 AM
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If there is no danger of it being a problem later in your work environment, go for it. Come up with a reason to get together after you both leave your jobs and ask him out. What is the worst that can happen? He may not be interested in a romantic relationship and make an excuse to turn you down, but that is better than not knowing if it was possible. It is not unfeminine to ask a man to an event if you approach it the right way. Some women think a man should always be the one to ask a woman out,…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 01:52 AM
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It sounds like you want to be a member of a high value rich man’s harem. You won’t have to work, you can have fun all the time with no responsibilities, and you’ll have a big happy family. Go on over to TRP if this is what you want. I am sure they will steer you in the right direction, but I ‘ll bet you’ll have to give up your celibacy and learn some sexual skills. WTF? Is this seriously being considered a viable alternative for a woman in this sub?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 01:51 AM
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I sent a comment earlier and deleted it because it probably seemed snarky. Snarky is a new word in vocabulary. I am going to try again. Every woman worries about her looks when she is young, but the pressure on today’s young women to live up to the beauty standards of social media is down-right insane. I am going to give you a secret to aging well: enjoy your health and beauty, appreciate what you have at the time you have it, take care of yourself to keep it, and accept that you are not as youn…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 01:20 AM
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I was raised by a mother who was raised by a mother who was obese. Furthermore, my mother was a home economics major in college, with a minor as a dietician. Needless to say, weight was a huge issue in our household and my siblings and I, as well as my father were under her watch. She worried that we were too thin or overweight. What I learned from this experience is to ignore the whole watching your weight obsession and instead listen to what my body tells me it needs. It has changed tremendous…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 03:57 AM
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I agree with u/teaandtalk . If a KitchenAid is something you really want and will use and you know you are always going to want it, then buy it yourself. I waited a long time for a string of pearls and finally bought them myself. I have worn them so much they have been restrung twice. Just wait to buy one when it is on sale and you can afford it.
/r/RedPillWives16/12/20 10:31 PM
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>Am I being childish for wanting a stocking? Or for wanting him to spend more money on me? I think he's just being sensible during a time we don't have a lot to spare. No you are not be childish in wanting to have something to open on Christmas. Maybe instead of material gifts you could ask him to fill you stocking with written descriptions of acts of service such as washing your car and changing the oil, or adventures such as visits to museums or state parks, or breakfast in bed, massages, a ho…
/r/RedPillWives16/12/20 10:08 PM
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Consider that in the light of this idea that a man's actual self might not want sex as much as his body demands it. This was an eye opener for me. This is one example (for me personally)where a male perspective gives me a new understanding of how a man feels in his own body.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/20 10:57 PM
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Hey I found it. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 02:17 AM
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Thank you for your help. Would preferences be under user settings? If so it does not allow me access.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 02:16 AM
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Literally, MY guy. He had everything on my list. All of it. Our first date was amazing. Three hours never went so quickly and half way through we were disabling our dating profiles together. He just picked up his phone, opened the app we’d met on and said right, I don’t need this any more. Do you? I took his lead and did the same. A week later I had his house keys, his credit card and was driving round in his car. That’s how quickly we moved. He walked out of his last 9 year relationship because…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 12:27 AM
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I have to agree with your opinion that it is a way to fill time and practice their game. I am sorry the OP got sucked in, but she hopefully will learn from the experience and become a little more street smart about life.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 08:59 PM
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First off masculinity has nothing to do with this. You are hurt by your mothers mean comments and in spite of this you still love her and that makes the situation harder to face. Sometimes mothers are overly critical of their children when they are worried about their welfare because they project their own insecurities on to them. The kindest thing you can do for yourself and for her is to cut her tie to you, which is to control you and expect you to live up to her expectations. You need to live…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 02:39 AM
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I posted this a year ago. I sympathize. www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/br0yib/lets_talk_about_mean_girls/
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 01:25 AM
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Don't give up hope. There are men out there who want marriage and a family. As to where you meet them, sometimes it is in unexpected places. Don't be afraid to talk to men who approach you in Home Depot or the coffee shop. Even if they are not someone who is your type, it does not hurt to engage in conversation. The more you work to make yourself approachable, the more it will come naturally and the more men will feel comfortable in striking up a conversation. Of course this means using common s…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/20 06:31 PM
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One small piece of advice I would suggest is to look around your apartment or your room or what ever place you live in and find the things in that space that bring you joy. Then work to create a room or apartment that you love to come home to without going into debt. When you achieve this you are on the first step toward appreciating what you have because you worked for it and also being grateful for what you have. This is the secret to being happy. Constantly wanting new and better things in li…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 11:04 PM
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Perhaps we consider the term "role model" differently. I do not understand "role model" to mean "awesome person". I consider it to mean, "a person whose path I would like to follow." Fair enough. When you put it in these terms I can see how we differ in perspective. I would not choose ACB's path but I still view her as a role model because she is a woman who crossed the finish line on a pretty hard steep journey to get where she is today.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 10:56 PM
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What I do resent is that when I tell people my long-term plan is to be a stay-at-home mom, many people feel the need to say, "you can be a Mom and have a career, too!" You are addressing an entirely different subject: the resentment you feel when people don't encourage your plans to be a SAHM. This subject has been discussed numerous times here. This post is about an exceptional woman and I also pointed out another exceptional woman. The goal is to is to learn what you can from looking at what t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 10:21 PM
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However, I'm tired of successful women being used as proof that women should try to "have it all." I think a lot of women have trouble juggling home and work, and are happier when they commit themselves to the home. You should do what's best for you, not try to chase what is best for another woman. These women are not not your run of the mill women. They are to be admired because they manage to achieve what many of us cannot. You can have respect for their accomplishments without feeling any res…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 09:18 PM
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I found this post interesting and immediately thought of a post from a few weeks back by u/lawyercatgirl: May Every Woman Find Her Marty Ginsberg Here is a comment from u/jonmarli Part of what draws me to RP is not some tradcon domestic bliss fantasy (and it certainly isn't the "TRP" misogyny) but rather my appreciation for an approach to relationships that tries to disconnect from the status quo and make truly neutral observations based on what works. In that sense, RP from a woman's perspectiv…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 07:33 PM
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So if you leave him and hit him up for child support payments does that mean he will be paying child support for three children? If so, does he have a really good income? If not, how well will you be able to survive on a meager amount of child support? Do you have a good job and health insurance? Do you have reliable childcare? These are all questions that should be addressed before you take your child from what sounds to be a stable environment into an unknown future that could be less secure t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 08:42 PM
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Thanks for the info. My husband taught himself. There was one hard lesson during the dot.com bubble that kind of turned me against the market until I understood that he had learned from it and in time became pretty savvy about where to put his money. I make my own choices, but I pretty much take all of his advice.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 06:28 PM
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One of the skills that was most useful to me was sewing. I have made draperies, roman shades, comforters, bed skirts, pillows, cushions and altered and repaired clothing. I took a continuing ed course at a local high school on re-upholstering furniture and saved a fortune buying and recovering used furniture. I even had fun changing the style of a couch by cutting down the frame. I was confident enough to try this because I had also taken a class in simple wood working techniques from the same h…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 05:07 PM
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I have to admit I was pretty ignorant about investing until a couple of years ago. Fortunately once I was ready to learn, my husband guided me through buying and selling in the market with some of my retirement investment. I am a very much a play it safe girl, but I did do okay with my choices. Unfortunately unless a woman studies finance and business there are not very many places to learn about investing unless you want to go through a broker. Then you pay some one to manage your money. It is …
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 01:05 AM
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I never thought I would see the day when once again women make a conscious decision to be completely helpless as a means of survival. This was well and good in warrior times, but it ain't such a good idea today. I hope they wake up from their fantasy, because there may be a few rough years ahead of us from the covid fall out and they may be forced to step up or perish.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/20 12:14 AM
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Today, career focused women work independently, outside the home, with the purpose of advancing their own career or self actualization goals. Yes this true. And again I would like to point out that I am not bringing up the question of whether a woman should have a career. Building a career is a different scenario than finding a niche that you are good at that and can be economically advantageous. It is the difference between selling your homemade bread to the local cafe and starting your own bak…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 10:39 PM
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No one wants to carry their partner along, especially competent people that work hard. I am afraid that this idea of a woman expecting her husband to carry her is what lead to the RP concept that "a woman is the oldest teenager in the house".
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 10:29 PM
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A plan B is your way to be a support system in a marriage. It is using your brain and your talents to add to the quality of life for your family. It is a way to have your husbands back and take the pressure off of him in uncertain times.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:44 PM
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Yeah, but sewing isn’t a career skill. Ever hear of re-upholsters, drapery makers, fashion designers.....?
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:38 PM
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If you are counting on insurance you are more disillusioned than I thought. Try buying insurance under an individual plan that you pay for yourself. Read the FINE print of your contracts.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:32 PM
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Loved this comment.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:30 PM
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but there should always be a "plan B" This is exactly what I am trying to stress. If you are single and working and you have the time and opportunity to learn something that interests you and adds to your knowledge and skill set, you are wasting precious years if you don't take advantage of it. This is the time to ensure you have more than just one path in life. The road that seems easy and straight can have nasty curves up the bend.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 09:27 PM
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Yeah! A voice from an experienced RPW. Thank you. I have been some what horrified by comments from girls working in dead end jobs who refuse to educate themselves because they don't think it will be necessary once they get married and have kids. They look at marriage as a way to opt out of having to be responsible for themselves. They want to be taken care of. All women enjoy being taken care of by a man she loves. The sad fact is there are times a woman has to take care of herself and if she is…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 08:59 PM
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Well for your sake, I hope your husband doesn't get sick or hurt or laid off from his job because your family may be in for a world of hurt if you are not willing to pick up the slack and try to earn some money.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 08:22 PM
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I think you have misinterpreted what I have written. I am not spouting feminism. I am suggesting that women accept that sometimes one bread winner in the family is not enough and to find avenues that can offer a chance to bring money into the household when it is needed like right now when a number of men have lost their jobs because of Covid. Yes, obviously you need a job before you get married. I am suggesting you learn other skills and gain knowledge while you are working. Especially if you d…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 08:04 PM
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I agree it is probably the noise that would cause me to do this. Even with ear protection it is jarring. I will keep this mind when i am practicing. I am fully aware I still need to get in the right head space in order to be comfortable and safe with a gun. Right now I am going to work on the physical skills and hope the mental skills come along with it. Thank you for your advice. I will continue to reach out to you for answers.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 01:04 AM
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Do you mean I am reacting to the fear of pulling the trigger because I now know there will a recoil? Why would I not do the same thing when firing the 22? Is it because the recoil is so much less? I was really hoping it was a simple thing like not gripping the pistol the right way and that maybe the trigger was too stiff. I am going to find a gun range that will let me try out the smith and Wesson and hope I do better with that gun.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 12:40 AM
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I looked at a gun today that a woman behind the counter recommended and liked it. The slide was easy to pull, the clip was easy to load, and it was compact. I went back and reread your recommendations and was really pleased to see the Smith and Wesson Shield EZ nine was there.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 07:55 PM
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Thank you for your offer and I will take you up on this when I know more about what I don’t know. Today I did some target practice for the first time. I was successful with the 22 (don’t know the brand), but I was dismal with the Ruger 19mm. At first I thought I will just learn to use the 22 and then I found out it is not recommended for protection and some ccw classes don’t even allow you to use it. The problem I had was with the recoil. Try as I might to keep the gun steady and slowly squeeze …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/20 12:45 AM
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So I looked up my state laws on use of deadly force. It appears that if someone breaks into a home or a car, there is not much issue. However from what I gathered, the law on using a handgun on a property differs, because of the possibility of running from the scene. I will learn more about the specifics. Thank you for giving me a heads up on this. I want to be as educated as possible about using a hand gun.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 01:13 AM
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I've been researching guns and classes at shooting ranges ever since. Maybe we can compare notes later. I have a lot of research to do before I can become familiar with handguns. Good luck to you and keep that door locked.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 02:28 PM
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I will look up the laws in my area to be aware. You are right about being prepared. Forewarned is forearmed.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 02:10 AM
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When I talked to the sheriff, I told him my husband had a gun and would not hesitate to use it if confronted on our private property. He seemed cool with this, but maybe my husband or I would be in more trouble than we anticipate if we shot an intruder. I don't know. The whole thing makes me crazy. All I know is I am going to do my best to be safe in the most responsible way possible. I will look up Deadly Force Triangle when I understand more about handguns. Thank you for your comment
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 01:43 AM
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So I will have to do some research and then I will come back and reread this when it makes some sense to me. I know nothing about handguns. My limited experience is with rifles, muzzle loaders, and shot guns. I have only fired a shot gun shooting skeet. I tried the pistol once and even with both hands I was too shaky to fire it into the target because it seemed so heavy. All I know is the gun is a 9 millimetre. There is no kick, but it is loud. Still I am going to learn to use it for the simple …
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 01:33 AM
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Thank you for the recommendation to take martial arts and if I was a younger woman I would consider it. I am a small woman and even though I am fit I don't think I would stand a chance.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 09:42 PM
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My husband has his conceal carry license and he always brings a gun when we go to the cabin. I have always felt safe. This incident was a wake up call for me. It put the responsibility for my safety in my own hands. It is a big responsibility. I get that. I will not be careless. Thank you for your advice
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 09:38 PM
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Thank you for sharing your info. I am also a small woman so it seems like finding gun that fits my hands and is not heavy and doesn't kick is something I am going to have to research. Thanks for the offer, but I am a long ways from you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 09:03 PM
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Yes I was in a car and I was really stupid for not backing up the driveway and getting the hell out of there. The only thing I can say is the fire really distracted me and at first it seemed like the man belonged there, like maybe he was a friend of my sons or husband. Who else would settle in a build a fire like that? It wasn't until he gave his excuse for being there that I knew he was trespassing.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 08:58 PM
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If I do decide to carry, I will not attempt it until I have hours of practice under my belt. Right now I am just focusing on learning about my options. Thank for the encouragment.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 08:51 PM
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I think that you're afraid of a situation where the outcome would have been non-violent, except you misinterpreted the situation, and pulled out your gun, which caused him to react in a violent manner? >If that's the case, let me assure you that this NEVER happens. In case after case of defensive gun use, when a gun is drawn and used the assailant runs away. This is reassuring. Remember that the intent of shooting someone is not to kill them, it's to stop them. You are trying to stop them from w…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 08:45 PM
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Also, owning a gun won’t protect you unless you know how to use it. You have to pick a gun that works best for your anatomy (hands, wrists, recoil) and know how to swiftly take it out and use it if needed. I’ve had some people tell me that they wouldn’t even take it out of their purse, they’d just shoot through it. Thank you for good advice. I was planning on learning with my husband's gun but it might not be a good fit. Try to get warmed up, do some reading, go to a couple of ranges, and once y…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 08:26 PM
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I suppose this is going to sound very pollyanna of me to say this, but the response that came most naturally to me was giving this man the benefit of the doubt. I knew he knew he didn't belong there, but I hoped that accepting his excuse and being respectful would give him an out and he could walk away. I never thought about any of the possible consequences of this until later and then it scared the hell out of me. I just don't know what the answer is to the ultimate question: am I prepared to s…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 07:57 PM
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Thank you. I will do some research on what is available around me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 07:47 PM
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I will check on the ladies night possibility. That sounds somewhat reassuring though I can't explain why. I bet the thought of being around a bunch of women learning to shoot would be terrifying to most men.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 07:23 PM
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Yes I am going to get a small container I can wear around my neck when I am out in the woods. The greatest danger I was in in my situation was he might have had a gun, shot me and stolen my vehicle. He actually got a stolen car stuck in a field before he found our place.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 07:17 PM
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I looked up a couple of places that offer classes. Most are eight hours. Do you recommend breaking it into two sessions or just do it all at once? I really appreciate your input and your ability to see my perspective in this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 07:07 PM
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I am trying to determine if I could be cool headed and comfortable with a gun if it was absolutely necessary. I have had guns in my home for years as my husband and sons are hunters. I have been skeet shooting and it is fun. I know I could learn to hit a target. I just don't know what I will do if that target becomes a living human being. I always understood that if you pull a gun you better be ready to kill.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 06:45 PM
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Well that definately changes things. It does seem odd that he wouldn't give you the compliments you ask for when he is alone, but maybe he has found that in giving them so often, they might not mean as much. My husband has never been one to regularly compliment me, but when he does I know it comes from the heart. That being said, I would still encourage you to vet this man more thoroughly before you leave your home and move to Spain.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/20 12:57 AM
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We agreed we are both bad at texting and he said especially now that he's working a lot and with his friends after work, If he is working and with male friends the last thing that he wants is to be caught texting flowery complements like a love sick puppy. Consider the fact that he might not feel comfortable texting some of those nice things when he is in a group of people. This might be too simplistic but he might just be safe guarding his privacy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/20 12:36 AM
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While men are accused of being “shallow,” they are actually the opposite. They are like deep, deep wells. If you don’t give him a chance to draw up another bucket, you will only get what was on the surface. A great analogy and one that I have finally learned. If I am patient I will get an honest thought out answer.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 10:36 PM
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So who would you choose to be king?
/r/TheRedPill23/07/20 05:55 PM
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I think it’s too late to comment on the post as it’s been a few months, so I wanted to give my 2 cents. That post got me thinking quite a bit. I wish you could post it on TRP. I think alot of men would benefit from reading this.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/20 04:52 PM
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she expressed that I‘m a pretty, respectful, and kind girl and should reflect love within my spaces to show more of my character. The wealth of wisdom in this statement left me in awe. Your grandmother is a very astute woman. I am so glad she is part of your life.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/20 04:44 PM
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https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/b3ei9q/is_there_a_female_equivalent_of_wife_goggles/
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/20 07:59 PM
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If there is a plotline with the women acting tough, pushing the men away, etc. and behaving like you mentioned, it’s usually what fucks up their lives. Like... “you didn’t fuckin’ listen, now you’re shot in the head and also my mom turned you into a ghost” This made me laugh. I am not familiar with either of these authors, but I remember reading paranormal before the women were tough. They tried to be independent but always ended up the care of a dominant man. There is a great website called Sma…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 05:25 PM
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Fabulous post.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/20 10:01 PM
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When she is done healing and ready to reach out I will be there. I am glad you recognize that some women, in spite of history and shared experiences are not true friends. Wishing you the best.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 02:18 AM
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I am sorry you split from your friend of six years. What ever the reason it happened, you are now on a path you have to travel alone for a time. You will make new girl friends. Sometimes women who you would never dream have anything in common with you can become true friends. And on a sad note, sometimes you can have a friendship for years and life circumstances can end that friendhsip. I am so sad that a friendship of mine of over 35 years has disintegrated due to her son's suicide and the impa…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 01:47 AM
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I am not negative about being a part of a female group, even if you are on the outskirt because you don't fit in. There is a great deal to learn in these situations about other women as well as yourself. Sometimes it will be a lot of fun, other times it can shake your self confidence for days. The best thing that come come out of this is making a couple of good friends, true friends in the process.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 01:00 AM
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I love Ian Ironwood. His blog led me to RPW. I can't steer you to any resources, but I too could benefit from them. To be honest I don't think there are many resources that approach this topic that have any value. It boils down to more than just being one of the girls when it comes to female friendships that have any lasting emotional impact. I have been an outsider of most female social circles since elementary school. I always felt like the boy in the group, not because of how I looked, but be…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 12:41 AM
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So here is a little bit of hard facts. You are living with three men and you are not happy with the living arrangements so you are trying to change them to meet your expectations even though they choose to live that way. They have no inclination (except perhaps your SO) to change their way of life to suit you. Honey you are outnumbered three to one. If you add the aunt and her son into the mix, you don't stand a chance in spite of how much you love him. Move home and get your shit together and i…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/20 02:41 AM
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Sorry I took so long to reply. I did not have access to internet over the weekend. As far a juggling first baby and studies, I was almost done with my second degree except for student teaching which I did when she was about nine months. I have no regrets about daycare. She thrived in this setting socially and educationally. My twins who never went to daycare, except for half day preschool, struggled more with school, but it could have been do to twin speak and ear infections causing language del…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 03:34 PM
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I had my daughter at twenty five and finished up my schooling while she was a baby. I found a teaching position when she was a year old and she went to day care. I had my twins when I was twenty nine and quit teaching to stay at home until my boys were in first grade. I was very lucky a teaching position opened up and I went bact to work. I did have to go beck to school every four years to renew my teaching license.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 04:25 PM
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If you are disappointed why don't you find the old posts you were interested in revisiting?
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/20 07:59 PM
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We are definitely the only couple where the man stays at home. I watched a marriage disintegrate because the man was happiest when he was growing a garden, canning it's harvest, fishing, landscaping his yard, making house improvements, and hunting. All of these things gave their family the food and comforts they needed. He worked a 40 hour a week blue collar job that was good pay and great benefits but it wasn't enough to meet his wifes expectations and so he worked more overtime and spent less …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 11:00 PM
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(they must date/marry a man who has at the very least equal but ideally higher provisioning capacity than themselves). A man can have higher provisioning capacity in other ways than the amount on their paychecks. It does not always come down to who earns the most money.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 10:04 PM
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I am afraid it would not work for most men because it goes against the instilled idea that to be a provider means bringing home a paycheck. Even though a man who is the stay at home partner can still provide protection, security, stability, and perhaps even food from hunting and gardening, it still doesn't equate with being the bread winner.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 09:58 PM
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And don't forget to stock up on cases of wine. lol
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 09:15 PM
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And I've had several men tell me over the years that they'd love to be the SAH partner. This would make for an intersting discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 09:05 PM
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Also - I attract (and keep!) better quality men 28-present than I did in my early 20s. I’m still thin and pretty (and at my age now they have more proof I’m likely to stay that way), except now I’m definitely a healthier, more interesting and stable person. What?! You didn't turn into an old hag when you turned thirty?
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 08:59 PM
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Anecdotally, I was 21 when I graduated with my undergrad degrees and 24 when I completed grad school. When did 24 become too late to start a family? I am glad you pointed this out. The secret is not to wait to have that first baby until you are established in your career which is where many women go wrong. If you are good at what you do, your employer will accomodate your pregnancy and some will even give you more flexible hours.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 08:31 PM
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Looking back, would you change anything if you had the chance? If I could go back I would get my MFA instead of the second degree in education. At the time school districts were not hiring starting teachers with masters degrees because they had to pay then too much. How do you think your education make you a better mother? First and foremost because I valued my education I instilled in my children the expectation that they were to take school seriously and try their hardest. I spent many nights …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 07:52 PM
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I have two college degrees: one in fine arts and one in education. Both of these degrees allowed me a career with a decent income and benefits, as well as money on the side when I was a SAHM. The thing I would like to stress is that I went to college to study a field I loved ever since being a child and picking up a pencil to create my first drawing. I had a true love of learning and I still do. There will be people who say you can learn from books or the internet, but it is not the same as inte…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 06:33 PM
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I wonder how often this kind of scenario happens if a boy has the nerve to say it. Holy shit. I bet that kid grew up to be a player or he crashed and burned and is now an incel.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 11:54 PM
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'joked' that I'd 'pay him back later' with a gross wink. That made my skin crawl. How did you handle this?
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 09:25 PM
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When I first started dating my husband I was a little concerned that he was a cheapskate, not because he didn't pay for dates, but because he picked inexpensive places to go. What I didn't realize was how tight money was for him, as a 22 year old man who lived completely on his own and paid all his own expenses, compared to other men his age who still lived at home. Now I am so grateful that he has been so frugal with money and has taught me the value of a dollar as well. We live with in our mea…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 05:53 PM
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I am sorry your parents are like they are. That has to create unnecessary drama in your life. I appreciate your input. I will try to be a supportive but unintrusive grandma.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 08:57 PM
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My parents and my best friend’s in laws can’t handle their new “downgrade” to supportive role rather than the family center. This is a very thought provoking comment. The grandma used to be the matriarch when families lived close to each other and her home was the gathering spot for family gatherings. Now days this is no longer true. So the idea of all the kids and grandkids coming home for Christmas can be an unrealistic expectation. This is just one example. I think the best way to approach th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 06:55 PM
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deprives us an opportunity to buy her anything because she already has so much coming in. I would never want to detract from the parents pleasure in buying their kids the stuff they really want. I also don't just send gifts unless it is a special occassion. I have learned to ask first because sometimes the grandkids are not interested. This is also not the relationship to process your own birth and parenting. I am not sure what you mean here. I am not trying to go back and relive my parenting ye…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/20 06:06 PM
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Thank you for this. I still am new at this.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 05:12 PM
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My mother is a strict grandmother. I think strictness can be a good thing -- but I wish my mom wouldn't get so stressed out when the kids are messy, or loud, or disobedient. I feel like she over thinks things. The strict grandma made an effort to do nice things with my kids, but because her standards for behavior were not realistic, they fought going to stay with her until they were teens. This also happened with my siblings children. about offering advice. I say give it when it's asked for. And…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 05:10 PM
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Thank you for some really good advice. A lot of times she will buy things for them to have at her house which is something I appreciate. She has not bought anything for us that she hasn't run by me first to make sure we want and need. One of the problems I had with the permissive grandma was she bought things that were not age appropriate or went against our wishes. The hardest thing IMO that you'll run into is encouraging your son and DIL to ask for help. I think there is a natural tendency to …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 05:04 PM
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husband spent a month installing a French drain in the basement. This is the stuff that really matters down the line. It is the difference between a dry useable area and one that is damp and a potential for mold for years to come. It sounds like you are talking about alot of renovation. I would cut yourself and your husband some slack on how fast this is going to happen. In the mean time do what you can to make the situation the best you can even if it is only temporary. If you hate the wire she…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 01:11 AM
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When we moved into this house we had a three year old and soon to arrive new born twins. The lawn was dead so my husband cut the grass with the weed wacker that summer. The first thing we did when we moved into the house was put up a clothes line early in the spring. Also being very pregant I hit the column between the two garage door and knocked it down. My husband had to jack up both garage door and we had to keep them open until a man came to relay the block. The neighbors were absolutely ski…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 12:08 AM
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One example of submission for me was giving my husband final say on the first house we bought. I hated it. It was out dated and drab and the yard was in terrible shape and.... I could go on and on. He meanwhile had checked out the grade of the lot, the plumbing, the foundation and ....I could go on and on. To make a long story short we have made that ugly house into a beautiful home and it has been good to us for many years. Soon we will sell it and downsize and it will break my heart to do so. …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 11:16 PM
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I don't think you are describing submission. You are basically saying each partner has equal opportunity to say no in the relationship. If that is the case there is no leader, no one with the authority in the end to make the decision. This means clashes and stalemates which does not lead the relationship forward.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 06:44 PM
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I know of the Madonna/Whore complex but it seemed too extreme. I never thought of it from the” lady in the street, a slut in the sheets” perspective. When I was thinking of dichotomies it was things like wanting a quiet tame woman and wanting a firecracker. Wanting a city woman and a country girl. Wanting an extrovert when he took her out into public and an introvert at home. Men have fantasies as well, but mostly those are about how attractive she is, and how well she treats him. There's no rea…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 12:39 AM
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they will imagine this impossible dichotomy of traits in one guy. I get it now. Thank you. Do you think men imagine a dichotomy of traits in one woman? I read an article about a mans perfect woman and it listed the usual fantasies, but what was interesting was that many admitted they would soon grow bored with her and that she had to have a couple of flaws to be perfect.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 11:05 PM
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Thank you for putting in the effort to do this. I am going to find out about this book. It might even be in the library.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 08:07 PM
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Are you saying that the protagonist, the hero,(that I consider to be an alpha because he is handsome, confident, successful, good in bed, and holds frame in spite of his tortured soul) becomes a beta when he falls under a woman’s spell? Oh no! Say it ain’t so! An interesting question to ask is why are males like this written into a story that is designed to be a woman's romantic fantasy? I guess it is because most of these romantic fantasies are written by women. They create a male protagonist w…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 08:02 PM
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Sorry to hear they ruined Sabrina the teenage witch. However what is really funny and interesting is that while each novel tends to attempt to get more 'progressive' they actually usurp themselves ultimately with the old archetypes which often support/ reflect redpill values. They just try and garnish it up to hide it. I guess there is nothing new under the sun. I am going to have to pick up a newly published romance novel to see this for myself.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 11:58 PM
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Just curious if you have ever read the Women's Room by Marilyn French. It is one book I remember reading that sumed up the second wave of feminism for me personally at the time close to when it was published.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 09:52 PM
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I haven't had any real trouble separating the myth from the man. In my case it was the myth that kept me from noticing the romantic things that he WAS doing, like fixing the heater in my car for instance, to keep me safe and warm. I miss sometimes that he doesn't take my hand, or lead me through a crowd, but he is my protector in so many other quiet unassuming ways.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 09:39 PM
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“You may have tangible wealth untold; caskets of jewels and coffers of gold. Richer than I you can never be. I had a mother who read to me.” ― Strickland Gillian
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 09:26 PM
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I am not ashamed to admit that I am a recovering romance novel addict. I have quite a collection I have amassed from garage sales and used book stores. I had to lay the habit down when it started taking too much time in my day. But I am like that with most books so I limit myself. The biggest reason I gave up reading romance novels though was because it was really skewing my perception of men and making me wish for something that was really only fantasy. Instead of seeing my husband for the good…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 08:42 PM
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I would be curious to know the title of that book. Was it a Bertrice Small novel by any chance? She wrote erotica long before it was a thing.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 08:16 PM
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I agree that the male characters are usually red pilled, but do the women show RPW behavior?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 07:52 PM
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Wow. That is not something I have ever encountered in a book that I read. It was usually the hero that was sexually promiscuous until the heroine made him fall in love with her and change his evil ways.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/20 06:22 PM
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If you can afford it, a duvet cover for warm months in lightweight cotton and flannel one or quilted one for winter works really well and they get less wear and tear. They can be pricey but if you take the time and scroll on Amazon you can find them on sale. If you can sew you can make them from sheets that are one size bigger than the comforter. It doesn't sound like you have much time to sew however. Best wishes to you and your family in these crazy times.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 10:47 PM
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I guess I should have phrased that as "of an all male workforce" I laughed at your comment.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 10:32 PM
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I know my other siblings make fun of me for being the cautious voice of reason, but they turn to me first when the SHTF.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 11:49 PM
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I am lucky to have a father I could turn to at times also. I feel that because my husband isn’t able to model emotional self regulation for the children, it’s doubly important that I do so. This is rather worrisome. Are you enabling him to lose it because he knows you won't. It is one thing to be the calm one in a storm, but you should not have to be the protector.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 10:49 PM
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I am happy you have found something that works for you. I am sure your children and husband benefit from your self discipline. When I my three children were under the age of four I was heaving pots and pans into the yard at midnight to keep from screaming in frustration. It was a really stupid thing to do and I had to get the flashlight out and go find them, but I sure felt better afterward. Everybody has different ways to handle stress in a way that doesn't hurt other people.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 10:30 PM
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I have been married to man who is a boss (of all men) for a long time and I have to tell you that if I was forced to work for him I would no longer be married to him. Now that he is home and grocery shopping with me I can see the critical side of him more and more. He is telling me how to do things I have managed quite well until now. I too am the peace maker, but there are limits. I can laugh about his behavior now because I can ignore it. But I did not ignore it earlier in our marriage and let…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 10:10 PM
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I am just happy if I can keep my worries to myself until I can think them through. If I decide it is an important issue then I will let my husband know how I feel. I would jump out of my skin is I tried to sit still and mediate when I am so emotionally worked up. I tend to find some activity like sanding a piece of furniture, or wiping down cabinets, or hiking that allows me to be busy and still think things through until I am tired enough to relax. I find it admirable that you can maintain tran…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 09:49 PM
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Are you by any chance the oldest sibling? If so perhaps it is one of the reasons you come across as the sensible one because you have had others rely on you since you were a kid.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 09:39 PM
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I believe this also.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 08:25 PM
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Why would anyone want to use this word anyway, particularly women? I guess this word is just a term like "the wall" that women here have come to accept as RP theory and use. RP's word choices tend to have fairly negative connotations. To be honest I can't think of any red pill terms that are favorable to women.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 08:23 PM
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Have you ever been with a man that grew into a captain over time? Yes and I married him.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 08:06 PM
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So u/girlwithabike just pointed out a flaw with my thinking: the fact that that there are times I have let the hamster free and have not even been aware of it and it has returned to its cage and I am oblivious to the harm it may have have caused.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 03:05 AM
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I think it involves first of all seeing the emotions as that - emotions. Not about whether they are right or wrong, but that they are emotions first and foremost. Exactly. And letting your emotions affect your decisions is never good, because they spring from the heart and not the mind. I am a true advocate of listening to what your heart tells you, but only after you use reasoning to truly analyze what is bothering you. It is so easy for me and I think a lot of women to skip the reasoning step …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 02:49 AM
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I posted this because I want to hear other women's thoughts on this. Please add your input. I am not trying to lock down a definition. Instead I am wondering if this is a real part of a woman's thought process and how it affects their relationships in life.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 02:25 AM
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I am too. So good to know there are other women like me here.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 02:14 AM
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I too am stressed, but I have been expecting the shit to hit the fan for a while now, though I never dreamed it would be a pandemic. I worried more about hackers shutting down the grid. I could be better prepared, but after hauling home tubs of canned goods from our cabin so they wouldn't freeze this winter, I have become rather less enthusiastic about stocking up. My greatest go to happy place is the knowledge that we have the means to survive if things get bad. The thing that upsets me the mos…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 12:06 AM
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As a fellow worry wort I say cut off the news, put on some music you love and look around at all the good stuff in your day right now. I know you worry because of your kids but they might be gaining more benefits than risks from this situation. They are experiencing a new form of family life and hopefully it will make an impact.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 12:19 AM
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Keeping the hamster in the cage to me means not allowing myself to freak out (when my emotions are demanding that I do so) until I can objectively look at what is so upsetting. The things that are upsetting to me that are beyond my control are the things I can let go of. The things that I suppress is the guilt I experience in knowing that yes I could have some control, if I choose to. It is the things that bother my conscience the most that I make a conscious choice to deal with as that is the o…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 12:05 AM
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I am glad you are finding your "we" in your relationship. I would say that being in quarantine for 30 days would be true test and if you are doing well then props.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 10:22 PM
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I am glad it has been amazing. I have noticed when I am out walking that there are many people out and they seen genuinely happy.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 10:16 PM
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Thank you. I am proud of the fact that I have finally recognized when my emotions need to be put in check long enough to really look at situations that upset me from an objective perspective. The down side is that this self reflection can sometimes lead to my losing focus and doing some really stupid shit like locking myself out of the house today. Fortunately my husband is whistling again and laughed when he came home to let me in. I appreciate your comment more than you will realize.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 10:13 PM
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Just keep that hamster in its cage. Tell yourself to let things go for a while. That is different from suppressing things.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 09:58 PM
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I find that for both my husband and myself it is essential to make some stride for improvement each day and find satisfaction in completing it. At the same time we find our groove at different times. Sometimes I just need to lay in bed and be sad in the mornings, when he is up and at it. We are both pretty busy during the day, but often times at night he is a couch potato and I am on a roll. I have found that the way to make this shelter at home work best for us is to respect each others work ha…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 09:52 PM
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I am happy to hear your husband is holding up well. Sometimes it it the little shit that can trigger people, but they can handle the major hurdles.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 09:32 PM
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We actually were in the process of getting our home ready to sell when this hit the fan. I continue to work on improving things so we will be ready to sell when things turn around. You have my sympathy dealing with your children and the emotional upheaval they are experiencing. I am glad your SO is taking this in stride.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 09:28 PM
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I am also making an effort to put really good meals on the table and I know he is enjoying them. It has also been a challenge for me as I try to use what we have on hand instead of running to the store. It does make me feel better that I can whip up good meals from scratch. I really have never been into cooking new recipes and really depend on old standbys, but now I am experimenting with what I have to work with. Thank God for Pinterest. If the apocalypse does happen I plan to count on a well s…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 09:24 PM
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Be grateful for that. There have been a few posts here in the past from wives whose husbands started following the RP and it was not a good thing.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/20 10:21 PM
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Why would you want to introduce him to the Red Pill? If it ain't broke don't try to fix it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/20 09:23 PM
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This is hilarious.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/20 09:14 PM
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https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/ba0con/lets_talk_about_the_reality_of_being_a_stay_at/ I posted this a year ago. I think it may be relevant in today's circumstances.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/20 09:35 PM
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There is a serious problem with your marriage that will not be solved by your going back to work. You have not even mentioned your children in all of this except for the fact that you are being forced to spend time with them. As a mother of twins I know how hard it can be and there were many times I raged at God for giving me too much to handle. But I survived the terrible twos and you will too. Instead of looking for ways to escape your situation you are going to have to face it and look for an…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/20 09:16 PM
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Does he still deserve your loyalty if he betrayed his loyalty to you? I honestly can say I can’t think of a time when my husband betrayed his loyalty to me. He may have made a few uncomplimentary remarks about me when with his guy friends, but never in my presence, and he has made a couple of remarks that have made me look bad in front of our children, but that is all part and parcel of parenting. I can’t say how I would react if he was disloyal. Does he still deserve your fidelity if he was unf…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 02:12 AM
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I think every worthwhile explantion helps. I believe many women are trying to find answers that this sub provides. I appreciate your efforts in keeping its intregrity alive and well.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 12:47 AM
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I would not continue to comment here if I did not agree with the philosophy of RPW. I think it has the best interests of women in mind and it is honest in its message. Furthermore, I happen to love many men in my life and want to see them happy. I hope society can find a balance that restores some harmony between the sexes.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 12:14 AM
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When I was in high school (a catholic highschool) I was not allowed to take woodshop. Fortunately, the teacher allowed me to come in after school and learn to use the lathe and jigsaw. This was really important after I graduated and started art school. Today girls are given opportunities that I only dreamed of. Many women take this for granted and bitch about inequalities that really are trivial.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 11:04 PM
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It took me some time and some research to understand why feminism is frowned upon here. What I can tell you is that my idea of what constitutes feminism no longer aligns with the philosphy of many feminists today. They have taken things to a level that has only suceeded in hurting both sexes in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 10:42 PM
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My point was this no longer applies in today's world, at least in developed countries.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 10:30 PM
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I hope not. We may be weaker then men physically, but that does not mean we are lacking in character, fortitude, creativity, or intelligence.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 10:27 PM
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Thanks. I continue to learn reading here.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 10:22 PM
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Any man or my husband? Any man is entitled to my common courtesy and respect as a human being. My husband is entitled to my loyalty, fidelity, support, forgiveness, sex, affection, and my pulling my share of the weight in the responsibilites of our relationship. I give him my submission because he has proven to be capable of making wise decisions that are beneficial to our marriage and our children. We married very young. He had some growing up to do before he was ready to lead. It would not hav…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 10:16 PM
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I will look forward to watching. Thank you for having the courage to do this and the grace to make it look easy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 01:23 AM
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So are you proposing that absolute submission is favorable to submission given freely?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 12:10 AM
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Exactly. A man recieves a woman's submission because of his behavior. He is not entitled to it simply because he is male. It is not based on what worked in the past. It is based on his actions in the present.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 11:52 PM
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Well my husband shows he loves me in the best way he knows how, but flirting is not his forte. To be fair my girl game is sub par also. Maybe I need to explore this idea of gaming from a new perspective and see it's advantages.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 10:43 PM
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I can't argue with that. It is a definite way to keep the fire burning. But in spite of RP belief that women do not have the capacity to be loyal and submissive unless they are gamed or maintained or handled, I for one give my submission freely because I can see the man my husband is without any pretenses. He is worthy of my respect because of who he is, and he gets my devotion because he does not demand it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 10:28 PM
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So you see a woman's submission as a game that does not extend beyond the bedroom?
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 10:07 PM
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Submission means nothing if it isn't given freely. Furthermore submission given freely from a high value woman who is responsible, capable and reasonable is only in the reach of high value men who in turn appreciate its worth.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 09:55 PM
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Well it is okay to be a smartass if you suceed in teaching someone something. lol
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 09:00 PM
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Does BCE mean before common era? Is this the equivalent of before Christ?
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 08:41 PM
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Marriage is a business agreement where female freedom is traded in exchange for male protection and provision What century did this definition come from?
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 07:34 PM
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To me submission means accepting that he has final say. Sometimes it is not easy to be told no, however I know he says it because he feels it is best for me, our marriage, our finances, or our well being. I was not always a submissive wife. We were young when we married. The first year of our marriage he took a risk and started a small company. He had enough to deal with getting his own shit together without making decisions about my life. I am sure he was not happy about some of my decisions I …
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 02:33 AM
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Male authority has been present since time immemorial until a few decades ago. Feminism stripped away male authority in law and culture. Your argument here and in the post, is an argument for feminist ideals and doesn't belong in a RP forum, as explained in the previous comment. I am in a female forum, that is under the RP banner. I am not arguing for feminsit ideals. I am writing from a purely feminine perspect of my own experience and passing on what I believe is good advice for women to find …
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 02:30 AM
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The key word here is trust. Just make sure your trust is not based on just your feelings, but is based on his actions. I am happy for you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 11:23 PM
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The premise behind this statement and the post that follows is: you own your body. You own the marriage. Yes I own my body. I am not even going to debate that fact. No I don’t own the marriage. A marriage is not a business relationship, but if you want to put it in terms of value as a commodity, then it is a company with two equal shareholders. With time the woman made give the man her shares of the company knowing he will invest them wisely. You will decide when he earned your submission and to…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 11:13 PM
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I agree with everything you have said here. This is what it is all about : the complimentary nature of marriage, and the peace that comes with it. Submission is not a quick fix, or a sexual game, or a whim. It is a conscious decision that encompasses many aspects of your life.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/20 10:58 PM
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I don't think I would recognize a male feminist if I ran smack into one. Could you give me some general characteristics?
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/20 10:32 PM
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I liked your comment. I know the word submission is controversial, but it is tossed around so much by men who have no clue what is means to really lead. Furthermore, women are asking for dominant men when in reality they only want dominance in the bedroom. That is why I wrote this post. It took many years of marriage before I gave my husband my complete submission. That doesn't mean I don't voice my opinion and have my areas of expertise.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/20 10:19 PM
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This comment was not directed to me, but I am going to respond anyway. The problem of the dating market today is not male feminists. It is males who were raised by feminists. Males who never had an example of acting like a man. Males who think that they are men and dominant because they get a hard dick and can toss their women around the bedroom.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/20 03:44 AM
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If you have a man who tells you he wants you to look across at him instead of up to him, he is telling you he wants you as a capable partner, one who can handle responsibility and is dependable. He is telling you that he does not want to be responsible for things that you should be responsible in accomplishing. To me this is dominant behavior because he has expections that he feels you should meet. He says other things like he wants a normal adult relationship. To me submission is a normal adult…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/20 01:21 AM
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Sorry for taking so long to respond. Two sources that are opposite ends of the spectrum are the Washington Post and the Washington Examiner.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 12:58 AM
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He was incredibly sorry, and I could tell he regretted what he did. He wanted me to lay out all my concerns and he addressed them all with solutions. He said he will give me time, but he wants me back. I tried to warn you about this: Do not take him back. You will be here again before long moaning about how bad things are. In the mean time you have wasted time you could have used to improve your life.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 03:57 AM
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The best way to hold a converation is to know what you are talking about. That means being well read. Instead of spending your time on facebook, check out both liberal and conservative news, read about what is going on in the art world, in finance, in your community. Be quiet until something sparks your interest. If it is something you know about, add to the conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/20 03:35 AM
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https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/bjza6x/some_advice_for_the_teenaged_girls_who_read_here/
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 12:46 AM
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Oh for the love of God! Enough of this teenage agony. It is normal to fall in love and have your heart broken when you are a teen-ager. It is how you find your direction in life. It is part of growing up and should be a learning experience; one that wakes you up. It is not a reason to seek therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 12:38 AM
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No matter how down you may be feeling, don't allow yourself to stop going to the gym. It will be the best thing to keep you from starting to feel any self pity. You will have the satisfaction of sticking to something that brings positive results and you are increasing your SMV in the mean time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/20 11:40 PM
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You absolutely had no choice except to leave this man. He will never change and most likely would only continue to grow worse. There are many good men who can give you the relationship you are looking for, including marriage. Write this off as a mistake and learn from it. And under no circumstances take him back. He may come to you and swear he will change, but you know it will not happen. It will not be easy to start over, but you can do it with the help of your family and friends. Think of it …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/20 11:12 PM
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Oh for crying in a bucket! How many more posts are there going to be that moan over lost virginity? There is way way too much emphasis placed on this. Instead, it it is time to focus on the things that do matter in a marriage: honesty, loyalty, faithfulness, integrity, forgiviness...
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 02:07 AM
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Thank you. I will do some research.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 08:01 PM
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I love this idea. True female friends are gems. I am going to call my oldest and dearest friend tomorrow and make plans to see her. It has been months since we have seen each other. She only lives two hours away but sometimes it seems like it is miles apart because of life's hectic schedule.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 02:40 AM
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I found it. There are many models out there. I think this might be the answer for me. I would certainly feel much much better if I knew that all he had to do was push an SOS button and I could find him. This way I won't worry about freak accidents and dire emergencies. If you could find the model number of the one you have I would greatly appreciate it. Some of them are very expensive. I just need the basics. Thank you again.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 02:20 AM
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Thank you so much! I will research this. Did you buy it on line?
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 02:07 AM
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I came to RPW seeking a way to reconnect with my husband. After years of being “ships passing in the night” as we raised our kids, worked full time, and carved out a future we had become more like roommates than husband and wife. It was time for me to hang up my captain’s hat, sink my ship and take on the role of his first mate. Improvement didn’t happen overnight, and for the most part it was due to my struggling to hand over the reins. It was also due to his skepticism that I was willing to le…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 09:06 PM
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Does a sat beacon show you where he is? So if my husband has accident in the woods and I can't reach him by phone, would it allow me to find him on 30 or more acres?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 07:53 PM
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Thank you for the link. I will check it out.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 07:47 PM
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Yes this makes sense. I have thought about this and have come to the conclusion that my husband is quite capable and I need to accept this. Worrying about unforeseen accidents is stupid and beyond my control. I am going to ask him to text me every couple of hours when he is alone hunting or working on heavy equipment and then I am going to let it go. Just for the record, he also worries about me. I just agreed to cancel a two hour trip to see my sister because he is worried about the weather and…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 07:46 PM
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I don't think there is a app that would work in this scenario.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 01:58 AM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 01:56 AM
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I think what I am going to do is combine both of these strategies and take him my problem to say: Worrying about you is stressful. And I worry about you is because I am vulnerable. Both of these statements are true. I know he loves me and the fact that I am vulnerable would erase the concept of if my request is necessary. I know this puts my husband in such a bad light and I do not mean to. He is a pragmatist, raised by a pragmatist.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 12:35 AM
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One of the ways we mitigate this is with the Life360 app. I can at least see that he's moving so less stress. Thank you for advice on how to handle my worry. The irony is I do not need an app. I really only need a text. I never send a text at the times when I am most worried because you don't interrupt a man when he is working under a piece of equipment, or hunting, or rewiring, or splitting logs, and so forth. Maybe I just need to have him establish some communication with me using text every c…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 11:56 PM
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I do trust him. What I need to do is learn to not worry. I am disappointed that no one has offered some tips on how to accomplish this. I realize now that I should have titled this post differently.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 10:50 PM
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Or you can use his libido to your advantage. Try saying "I'll have something for you when you get back," and give him sexy eyes. Do you think this would work? Honey let's just hire a tree trimmer and I will make it worth your while.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 09:48 PM
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My husband does dangerous stuff all the time because of his occupation. I don't worry about him on a daily basis for two reasons: he is experienced at what he does, and he has other people around to call 911 if needed. It is the times he takes on dangerous tasks that are out of his wheel house that scare me, especially if we are a long way from a hospital. Some of these tasks are things that are necessary for our survival or comfort. My husband refuses to hire someone to do something if he belie…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 09:33 PM
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So what do you do to alleviate the worry on your end? Or do you not worry?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 09:06 PM
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I did try to change the title of this post. I guess I can't.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 09:03 PM
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I don't get flack, just an eye roll. He will even lie and tell me he will wear the harness when i know he won't. He honesty does see not see the danger where I do.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 08:51 PM
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Do you have times you worry? I might need to change the title of this post.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 08:45 PM
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Thank you, thank you for this. There is such a fine line sometimes between being a nag and being a voice of reason. I have learned to shut the fuck up about things that might not be a good idea if they do not entail permanent financial harm, bodily injury, or damaged relationships with other loved ones. However, it is my nature to want to keep everyone I love safe and I know it is totally beyond my power to do that.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 08:22 PM
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"Be careful" does kind of imply telling him how to do things. Yes you are right about that. Later I wished I had just said "Come home to me." But you don't mention if you worry. Do you?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 08:05 PM
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I hardly ever say no, but if I am too tired I promise to make it worth the wait the next morning and I follow through. He is totally fine with this. There are other times I know he wanted sex, but realized that it was not appropriate due to circumstances at the time, ( lack of privacy, time factor, etc.) and he acted like a grown -up about it. Your husband is acting like a spoiled brat.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 12:32 AM
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This is a part of your makeup routine and does not involve a procedure like (Microblading?) Not sure what is is called when they tattoo fine lines into the brows to fill them in. Anyway I am not criticizing any woman who makes a effort with her appearance. I have no issue with a nose job if your nose detracts from your beauty or teeth alignment. It just seems that things have gone over the top in trying to meet a particular look that is all the rage right now. Lip fillers and butt fillers and br…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 02:44 AM
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I am sometimes taken aback when I read about some of the beauty regiments that are mentioned here in some of the posts on self care. I hope it is money well spent, but I have my doubts. Cher once had a commercial where she said something along the lines of: If you could get a great body from a bottle, everyone would have one. How long does botox really stave off aging? The cost and the health risks seem to outweigh the benefits. My sister had it done and it really changed her normal appearance. …
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 01:35 AM
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are both 21-22 He probably has a lot more growing up to do. Most males don't mature into adulthood until they are 25. When I look back at my past self I can see how much I've grown since we got together. I think you have outgrown him. Yes you still love him, but you are no longer in love with him. It is time to end the relationship. It would be best to tell him before you go abroad again.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 10:17 PM
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Is it worth it to salvage the friendship?? I also ask this because she was my closest friend and only friend at work, so basically if I stop being friends with her, I don't really have other colleagues to talk to. The social dynamic between teachers in a school setting is a tricky one. If you have a good friend and ally I would salvage the relationship. You may have to cut back on the time you spend outside of school to keep things on a more professional level, where you share things that you ar…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 07:51 PM
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First I would like to say that you are dealing with a lot of stress due to being unemployed where you feel out of control. Your child's behavior is making this worse. It is a vicious cycle. However, you are not going to control your child's behavior until you control your own. I know how easy it is to snap when dealing with a hyper active child, but it only makes things worse. You should not be using physical punishment on a daily basis. In fact physical punishment should only be used as a last …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/20 12:30 AM
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I came from an upper middle class background and married a blue collar man. He started a successful business with a ten thousand dollar loan from my parents which we repaid with interest in a couple of years. He started off small and we had a few lean years. Because I worked as a teacher in the public schools, we had very good insurance which allowed us to have a baby and live comfortably even though we were not making much money. Eight years after starting his company he had gained a good reput…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 05:45 PM
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https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/d8tdi7/a_little_message_of_hope/
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/19 12:04 AM
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I had hit the wall long before I had ever heard of the term. Of course I was aware that a woman's beauty fades and she becomes invisible in the sexual market place. But I didn't care about that because I wasn't on the market. I also was unaware of the concept that a woman's value diminishes when she looses her youth and fertility. Again I didn't worry about that because my relationships with my husband, friends, and acquaintances are not based on youth and fertility. I was pretty when i was youn…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 03:16 AM
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I think a clothes chair is pretty common. I know mine looks like that.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 08:06 PM
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The saying is "patience can have what it will", but I would say you went over and beyond the call of duty. I am so happy all your weeks of determination paid off. Don't get discouraged if he starts to fall into his old ways a little. Instead keep him focused with praise and gentle reminders. I speak from experience because I am the messy one in our household.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 02:07 AM
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The happy one who approves of me is someone whom I can feel safe with, so I can be my true self. My true self is submissive and wants to please. It is sad that there are some women who will never find this because it entails being vulnerable.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/19 07:18 PM
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Are you saying you reached the conclusion by observation that women want the end result of misogyny? All women?
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 11:42 PM
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Are these the only options? Intimidation or being patronized? Why would I want the end result of misogyny?
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 10:31 PM
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I may not be interpreting your words correctly. If you see me and dislike me, that is scary If you direct your anger towards me simply because I am female and have done nothing to warrant it, it is scary. Male anger is always scary if comes from someone who does not care about you. If you see me and dislike me but you're happy, that is unsettling. This one is a little harder to pin point, but I think it stems from a woman wanting male approval, wanting to be liked by men, because she for the mos…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 09:56 PM
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I have been married close to four decades. The one thing missing from our marriage was jealousy. From the beginning we trusted that we would be faithful and because of that we each had the freedom to pursue our own interests. I have been on girls weekends with friends and sisters. He has had his weekends with the guys. I could not be happy with a man who worried that I would cheat on him. I could not be happy with a man who considered me to be a child. We do have some traditional gender roles, b…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 11:02 PM
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Just came back to say: Today I regained a lot of my faith in the men of the RP after reading many of their comments to a post from a teenage boy who had characterized himself as being black pilled. Their compassion, honesty and encouragement was exemplary in my opinion, which I know does not count for much, but I feel good in expressing it. I am always glad to see good positive advice. I did not read every comment.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/19 02:45 AM
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Thank you for this. I really love the RPW sub and think it is a benefit to the women who read here. I just get discouraged sometimes because it is controlled by men who have a really skewed perspective about women. Some of the advice they give is spot on. Other times it is just patronizing or down right offensive. I really wouldn't care except for the fact that I am worried that some of their handiwork is going influence young men who in turn will use their new found knowledge to be disrespectfu…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/19 09:31 PM
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All in all though it should be taken with a grain of salt Yes you are so right. I tend to get my feathers ruffled too easily.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 10:44 PM
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I would also say that the flip side to a woman is like water is that if you want a woman to be virtuous, a man must be a virtuous shaped container. That is, he must also hold himself to such a standard. Yes you are right. Great way to put it. The balance is achieved only when each partner hold themselves to such standards and this capacity to do so is what defines virtue.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 09:04 PM
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I read this exact comment "women have no souls" just a couple of days ago on a RP site from an endorsed contributor who has been around for a awhile. I know I need to stop reading in the manosphere altogether because it is starting to bring me down. Part of me has a need to know what is going on out there just so I can understand other people's attitudes and perspectives. The other part of me wants to run away and hide from what I read here because it centers around theory that I will not accept…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 08:57 PM
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Women are like water says that you don't deserve anything. I am not sure if you are saying women don't deserve anything or men don't deserve anything. And it is not incompatible with striving to deserve virtuous women. The man has to have built himself to be worthy of a virtuous woman, otherwise she will walk. Yes I agree with this. I think I finally get a new angle on this: women are like water because they will slip through a man's fingers if he does not prove himself worthy. This is a cruel a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 08:46 PM
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No one person alive knows every single skill required for the production of a Ticonderoga #2 pencil! Really! That is a new fun fact I will mull over.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 07:06 PM
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My experience is that a lot of men want a baby, but they will often say I am not ready right now. Many will say they are not ready until the day they find out they are going to be a father. Fortunately, they have nine months to get used to the idea. I say bring up the conversation now. There is no guarantee you will get pregnant right away. It sounds like you are in a good position to bring a child into this world and that is very important. Why wait and possibly encounter fertility issues as yo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 06:16 PM
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Men strive to deserve virtuous women. You do recognize that this is in direct contrast to RP theory that preaches: If you want a good woman you have to be willing to train her? Women are water that takes the shape of the vessel it is poured into. Women have no souls. I do not agree with this concept and find it to be utter horse shit. It is definitely encouraging to read a post that recognizes that women have the capability to be virtuous, even though not every woman achieves it. And this is the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 05:42 PM
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Honestly, I like most of the men I encounter in real life. The ones I don't like, I steer clear of as much as possible. I don't have a bad attitude toward all men because of a few bad apples I have had to deal with in the past. Most men are gracious and deserve a smile and a genuine thank you when they make an effort to be of help. I say encourage their protective instincts, but do not take advantage of them.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 06:57 PM
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Women must have the first kind before they will even listen to you, and both before they will obey.> Again we are in agreement There's trust in intentions (is what you say chosen with my needs in mind?) and trust in competence (is what you say going to be good for me?). This is where I object to your premise. I can still trust in your intentions even if they don't meet my needs, because I believe they are intended to be of some good to someone. Furthermore I can trust in their competence without…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 12:13 AM
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Men listen to the content of what is being said to decide if they should trust the speaker. Women ponder whether they trust the speaker to decide if they should listen to the content. I agree with this. However, it does not mean that when I do listen to the content, I will accept it just because I trust the speaker. For example: I trust that you are real and are who you say you are. I trust that the personal details you share are real. I trust that you really believe in the content you share. Ho…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 09:15 PM
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There is most definitely a liberating feeling in going without a bra. However it can put you in a bad predicament at times when you least expect it. I, being a A cup, got away without it being noticed at work for a along time. Then my responsibilities entailed that I had to go into the freezer and pull out boxes and it was all over. A couple of cold nipples poking through my work shirt later I was hauled into the office and told that I was to wear a bra if I wanted to keep my job. I guess a few …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/19 02:34 AM
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I would say that you have something about you that is very attractive to men and it is most likely something that comes naturally to you, therefore you are not aware of its effect. Because all men see this, the younger men may be thinking they are wasting their time with you because they think you are out of their league.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 11:20 PM
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I feel like you need to see more about yourself that would be considered a badge of honor, like honesty, loyalty, and conviction. These are good qualities that you can hold onto for a lifetime, unlike virginity that is gone in one day. Your future husband (if he is worth having) will care more about your character than your missing hymen.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/19 11:47 PM
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Sorry I deleted the post because it was such a mess and I couldn't clean it up. I am using old reddit version and even though I edited it, it still didn't delete gibberish. I am glad someone agrees there is a lot of RP theory that doesn't make sense to a woman. Probably because it was written by men. I do accept many of the perspectives found here, but there are some "so called truths" that are just so off the mark. Thank you for your comment
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 07:27 PM
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Sorry I deleted the post because it was such a mess and I couldn't clean it up. I am using old reddit version and even though I edited it, it still didn't delete gibberish. I appreciate your answer. It is sad that integrity is so rare. I hate the water analogy because it doesn't allow a woman to have a soul, or any autonomy as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 07:19 PM
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Great post. Further, you need to know which tool is the right tool for any given situation. If you are partnered up, it’s very easy to find the right tool. Ask your man. I found this out this past weekend in the most literal sense. After spending an hour with a hammer and a crowbar trying to pry some boards loose from an old pallet I gave up. My husband noticed when I put it in the burn pile. He pulled out the chain saw and had all the boards loose in less than five minutes.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 01:10 AM
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it's the perfect storm of too much going on in my head. Try and sort some of these moments into your memory because you will look back at these times and realize how fast they flew by and how much meaning they gave your life as a couple at that time. Sounds cheesy I know, but the older you get the more you appreciate your good memories and it is awesome to share them with your mate, the person who was there and lived them with you. Best
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 11:36 PM
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Hi, I am thinking about you and miss your comments. I am sure the word preoccupied has taken on a whole new meaning by now after having a baby and returning to work. Sending best wishes your way.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 09:17 PM
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A lack of strong fathers is a pretty good explanation, but it doesn't cover all of it. I think sex has become extremely distorted in today's culture and both genders are seeking an experience that has to get more and more intense to satisfy them. It almost seems that the general population believes you have to be kinky to be cool.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 12:50 AM
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I cannot say we were the best of parents. We got married young and had our kids young. My daughter is really a much better mother than I was, because she is mature enough to do her research and dedicate her time to seeing that her children do grow up in a secure, stable environment. She has established healthy routines into her family dynamic that I could only dream of as a young mother. I learned as I went, but in my defense there was not the wealth of information out there at the touch of a bu…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 08:50 PM
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I don't recommend asking a date about her sexual history. If you are concerned about STDs then don't sleep with her until you know her well enough to trust that she is clean. Chances are if she is she will insist that you both get tested before you do. Otherwise you can ask about LTR relationships she had and why they failed. That is an area that can open up a discussion about what you both want in a relationship. If you are not interested in a relationship then you do not belong here asking adv…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 05:59 PM
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Here is my take on this: An older woman, no matter how attractive will be invisible when she is with a young attractive woman. However, she may very well stand out when she is alone or with women her own age. You are actually doing your sister a disservice by taking her to bars with you if your are going to talk to men. If you are going to relax and socialize only as sisters and only with other women that is fine. To expect that she will attract a man in a bar setting only sets her up for disapp…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 04:38 PM
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Keep taking small steps toward progress. I am rooting for you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 01:39 AM
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Ok, so this is going to sound harsh. I would quit worrying about being feminine and concentrate on just being approachable as a human being. I actually fit into the goth subculture - always wearing black, I have a deathhawk hairstyle (that can be concealed) and shaved eyebrows, lots of very visible tattoos down my arms. Wearing color in my wardrobe is foreign and even scary to me. I've always had a foul mouth. You sound very scary. Until you decide to renter society as a person who does not imme…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 12:40 AM
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I am the student in the back of the class of RP theory and I am a little confused. I have read so much here about AWALT and it is a woman’s nature to be: hypergamous, the most responsible teenager in the house, incapable of unconditional love for her man, and irrational (hamstering away her misbehavior) These are considered truths. Are you saying that these traits are a biological where as femininity is not?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 11:54 PM
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Please don't bother yourself about this. I found a lot on the internet about the different waves of feminism. And boy was I wrong when I considered myself a first wave feminist. I am actually caught between the second and third. I never realized that the suffragettes were considered feminists. i also read a lot about Phyllis and I am sure the perspective was skewed but I really don't like her. I would call her a do-gooder. I actually know Phyllis's perspective quite well, because my mother is ju…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 12:50 AM
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Hi girlwithabike I thought about you when I flew and visited my daughter for a week to help out when she had to go back to work after her maternity leave just when her husband had to be out of town. Her two year old went to daycare every day, so I only had to watch her son who just yesterday turned three months. I had forgotten how time intensive it is to take care of an infant. I hope things are going well for you. I thank you for your suggestion. I cannot find that book or any book by that aut…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/19 08:36 PM
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I don't know why you are so threatened And now you move straight to the shaming tactics. So I just finished reading The Cataloue of Anti Male Shaming Tactics and I plead guilty as charged. Instead I should have asked why was this post shut down? However, I probably will hate the answer. necessary to prevent an error in assumption from going unchecked, I don't what the error in assumption is. Because that's how teaching works. That's why when someone is knowledgeable in a subject, they're called …
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/19 06:09 PM
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Yes I learn by listening. I don't learn a thing listening to you. I don't know why you are so threatened by a thread that discusses feminism. Why do you resort to an authoritarian attitude and dismiss a movement which did happen and did change over time? I really would like to come to an understanding of how things went so off the rails. I personally don't see it in my life or my daughters life. I have two new daughter in laws and I sure hope I don't see it in their lives. And I do recognize tha…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/19 01:17 AM
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So okay... TRP does not approve of feminism. We all get that. However that does not give you justification to rant and remind us when we are only discussing the many variations of feminism. How do we learn if we do not talk about it? I for one was too busy raising kids to even notice second wave feminism.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 02:29 AM
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Sorry I responded to a question meant for OP. And it is a good question and I too would like to read her reply.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 02:12 AM
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I really don't think in terms of equality. I think in terms of strengths and weakness and recognizing where you can find a balance that benefits both people in the relationship. Sometimes that strength is a natural talent, sometimes it is hard knocks learned. It doesn't matter. What does matter is that both people in the relationships can trust their mate to use their strength when the time is right and to admit their weakness when it is called for.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 01:59 AM
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When I was twelve I was not allowed to deliver the graduation speech I was asked to write for the ceremony for eight graders entering into high school. It was held in the Catholic church and because I was female and prohibited from stepping on to the altar to stand at the podium, I was replaced by an eight grade boy who read my speech. I never received any credit for that speech. The reason first wave feminism was necessary is because it pointed out that women were being overlooked simply becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 12:10 AM
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Oh for pity's sake. When did common sense fly out the window. There is a big difference between respecting your man and letting him lead and sitting by and watching him fuck up with out saying a word. Any man worth his salt will appreciate when his woman points out when his actions might be costly and detrimental if it is presented in a respectful manner.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 11:43 PM
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Did you do acid when you wrote this? Twice I tried to read it and make sense of your wall of text and numerous links. You do not have my permission to link to my post. If you had not been high when you read it and decided to link it, you would have realized that I was advocating for young blue collar men working hard to establish their own business.
/r/MGTOW20/08/19 02:53 AM
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I agree that Michaels are generally safe and reliable, but they are not easy to control. They would never succeed in business if they were.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 11:17 PM
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I think you underestimate the role she played in raising her children and her decision to take on a job when it was a benefit in terms of finances or her own mental health.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 10:37 PM
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And it is the Michael Thunders who start the old money families and the cycle repeats. I think what is import to point out is the role that Michael Thunder's wife plays in this scenario. She is the woman who is happy to start out in humble beginnings because she loves her husband and trusts that he will take care of her and her children, but she also enters into the marriage knowing that she will have to pull her own weight. She is going to have to figure out her own talents and how to use them …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 09:11 PM
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There are no guarantees in life. Michael might not reach his potential, just as a boy who is given very advantage in life might fuck it up. Just don't dismiss Michael because he comes from a working class background.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 08:57 PM
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Yes Michael Thunder does come from a working class community. He may leave that community as he makes his way or he may decide to stay there and do his best to improve what he can. The point is that a man can start with nothing and end up with a good life if he sets his sights on it. I think that is where the idea of a good captain fits.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 08:05 PM
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Well, If you are going to have a good comic book you have to introduce a hero or two.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 07:57 PM
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Holy shit are you bitter! I am sorry you settled for a beast of burden. I think you missed the point of my post. Michael is a laborer who is working to start his own company. He is a diamond in the rough because of his potential. He just has to start by pulling the plow. He does not have to stay there.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 07:16 PM
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I agree with all that you say here. However, I want to point out that Michael is a laborer who is working to start his own company. I think many missed that point. I am not suggesting that his choice of work is noble and that it is romantic to be poor. I am pointing out that there are women who will dismiss him at first glance if he is in his work clothes with dirty hands. It is the whole "don't marry down mentality" I recognize my mistake in making Michael another stereotype, but there are youn…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 07:04 PM
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Well, I recognize I went too far with this, but Walmart?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 03:58 PM
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Yes I agree. However, I wanted to point out that there are high value men out there that many women don't recognize because they don't fit the stereotype of well dressed and wealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 03:55 PM
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Sounds like a keeper.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 01:10 PM
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Give me a man with dirty hands and a clean life.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 01:09 PM
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I guess I'll just go back to my romantic life and wash the work clothes of my imaginary man.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/19 01:05 PM
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I am dishing out some tough love advice. I am your age and I have watched a couple of my girlfriends start over in middle age when their marriages ended so I worry when I read your post. I started feeling an overwhelming desire to find a man whom I could be a real help, comfort, and support to in all the ways that a woman should serve a man, including sexually. It's been working out well so far, and in the process of getting to know one another, I've become strongly attracted to this man. You ha…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 01:14 AM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 09:35 PM
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I have seen 4 year old girls in full mean girl mode. I think it is an innate quality in females. Unlike boys, who will fight and then an hour later be friends again, girls can drag out the unpleasantness for days. The sad thing is that the girl who was tormented and cried her heart out over the mistreatment will turn around and be a mean girl to the next vulnerable target just to keep her newly won acceptance back into the fold. I don't know about the biological adaptation idea. Perhaps it grew …
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 09:25 PM
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It doesn't matter if you are pretty, or not pretty when it comes down to being a victim of mean girls. Men can beat the living shit out of each other and walk away with their pride intact. A mean girl can utter one sentence and crumble the spirit of another girl or even worse, some unfortunate boy .
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 01:07 AM
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Men, by our very nature, engage in a great deal of conflict, and hence we have developed both hardwired and cultural protocols for limiting it, what is and isn't appropriate, etc. I never understood the difference in men's interaction with other men when compared to women's interaction with other women until I started lurking on the RP. The comments I would read that men said to each other horrified me. Then it dawned on me that no one seemed to take offense. I finally figured out that the most …
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/19 11:17 PM
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Yes mean people prepare others for hardships, but I think it is important to acknowledge the pain that can suck the joy out of life's triumphs if you don't recognize it and recognize where it comes from.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/19 10:05 PM
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When women are great, they are so so great, so kind and gentle and sweet. and I really want that. There are many great women out there who have the potential to be a "sister chick", but it is hard sometimes to find them. I struggle with this myself, because I am not in a lifestyle where I meet many woman, outside of the limited number of women I encounter in my professional life.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/19 09:53 PM
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It hurts! It is awful to be a target. But the hurt is only temporary. Keep your composure. You will be so proud of yourself later and your reputation will be stellar.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/19 09:44 PM
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It is not only a better look, but allows you to sleep at night and get up and look at yourself in the mirror without regret.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/19 09:38 PM
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The irony is that often women are ostracized due to jealousy, but they don't recognize it as such. Instead, they assume it is due to their own shortcoming rather then recognizing that it is based on their success.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/19 09:17 PM
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Honey, You need to climb down off this mountain you have created for yourself in your own head and recognize it is an ant hill. You are nineteen years old and you have the opportunity to go to college which if you use it well can be a great advantage. You are a virgin. For the love of god, quit referring to yourself as damaged goods. The idea that you are thinking about whats best for a future finance is not good. You have to figure out what is best for you. What do you need to do is get your sh…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 12:48 AM
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Well u/RocketPussey You may have thought to blast your way into this space to launch a discussion, but I would suggest you abort your mission until you understand what submission means to most of us who read here. That is a nice way to say fuck off if your intent is to ridicule our faith in the men we love.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 11:07 PM
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I think the whole "seven year itch" struggle in a marriage is a time when a woman who has only had one sexual partner begins to really wonder what else is out there. She may love her husband, and still regret her marriage because she feels like a part of her education was interrupted. A woman who has a little taste of other men will have an understanding of her sexual preferences and she can be reassured that she chose the best man and be happy with her choice.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 12:25 AM
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I can't say what the RPW stance on a prime marrying age would be. My answer would be when the time is right, because you really don't have any say about when. It is the man's decision in the end. You can do your best to make it happen when you find the man you feel is right to marry, but he might not feel the same way. So you move on, keep your heart open, learn from your mistakes, and give another man a chance. However, this does not mean bouncing from one man to another. It means being selecti…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 11:52 PM
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I am not judging women for their personal choices. I am just trying to help young women make sexual choices that will serve them the best in long run. I am presenting my point of view because I am sick of the "enjoy the decline mentality" and if I can offer advice that may help one woman make a good decision, that is all I can hope for and it is enough.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/19 12:48 AM
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I have not said that sleeping around makes you a less valuable person. I am saying that you will value yourself less if you do it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/19 12:37 AM
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The reason so many RP male advocates stress virginity is because they believe it is a asset in the sense that if they are the first and the last there is no doubt as to the father of the children. However, I don't think most men get off on the idea of taking a woman's virginity. It is typically not a fun romp in the sack. I recommend doing whatever you feel is right. This can be dangerous if you only go on feelings in the moment. I believe in trusting your gut, but only when you have truly appra…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 09:41 PM
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All I've ever wanted is to be a stay at home mom and wife. I'm at a critical point in my baby making years. He's able to maintain an erection for other activities (oral, manual) but when it comes to intercourse he goes flaccid Maybe he can't maintain an erection during intercourse because he is terrified that OP will become pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 05:00 PM
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This is very good advice. Spend time with your friend on your terms, not hers. You need to talk? Sure come over and we'll talk while I do the dishes, or stain my deck, or fold laundry. You don't have to insist she help, but I am sure she would probably welcome the distraction of busy work and you can just listen and let her vent. You can't solve her problems, but you can be a sympathetic ear and let her know you do care about her. If she truly values your friendship, she will appreciate this tim…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 01:01 AM
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You absolutely have to get out of the house by yourself for a break to think and try to see things from a new perspective. With one car it will be hard because it will require that he stay home with the kids while you leave for a few hours, even if it going to the library or the park. If you can, walk your dog as much as possible. It would be good for you, your kids, and the dog. My dog has been a consistent source of stability because I know how much he needs a walk and it motivates me to get o…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 11:55 PM
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It's likely an issue to do with the reddit redesign, if that's what you're browsing in. Try using the "old version" at: Thanks, it worked!
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 09:34 PM
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I guess my feathers are ruffled, because I still need to comment on this post. I don’t know the statistics, but I have to believe it is the rare woman who perceives her vagina as a thing. Now breasts, yes, many of us may consider things. Things we need to find a bra to fit, things that are too big or too small depending on one’s self image, and lastly things that function beyond our control: hardening nipples, swelling during periods, and releasing milk upon hearing a babies cry. These things do…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 10:14 PM
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I love Toms. I have narrow feet and they fit well and are comfortable for alot of walking. I wear them with casual dresses and I feel feminine in them. They are expensive, but you may find them marked down if they are last years line. They hold up well and I have washed them a couple of times, although they did fade a little.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 05:20 PM
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>Just a test. See it doesn't work. another test > I like it, it looks pink to me. How do I make everything pink? Will it get me banned? nope, still didn't work. Any ideas?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 05:02 PM
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Can you tell me how to get the vertical blue line and indent the words. I used to be able to use > but that doesn't work now. I looked at the formatting help and it said to use >. I just saw check the commenting wiki page. I will try that link.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 04:58 PM
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These are some diabolical scenarios. You have a better imagination than I do!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 10:49 PM
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Sorry I took your words out of context to make a joke, but at the time I couldn't take your post seriously. You have said a number of times that a woman’s attraction to a man is based on his behavior. I recently read a post “Women do not have a sex drive” on TRP. The OP said: ​ Female sexuality is REACTIVE - it's not the dull aching horniness that men experience. It is rapid-onset response to desirable male attention. The price of male attention is sex. Sex is the glue that holds male attraction…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 08:16 PM
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Because there is only one sexual act you can perform that men object to. Everything else, absent that one act, is okay, and often more than okay. Which means you get to have your fun, indulge your kinks, do whatever, so long as you stay away from one thing… ​ So my guess is that this one thing is not to pour hot wax on a man's erection. Any other guesses out there? lol
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 11:51 PM
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Yes I just saw that comment. Yes 25 counts for young. So glad to hear you have family to help give you a needed break. It really sounds like you have this figured out. I am sure it is is hard at times, but I believe your sacrifice will pay off in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 09:09 PM
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Just saw this comment after I posted mine. Sounds like you are on the road to success.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 09:00 PM
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It sounds like you want a homestead. This may be very possible if you and your husband are young and in good shape and willing to work hard. I encourage you to seriously start researching now to find out if this is really the life you want. There are a lot of good sites out there for starting a homestead and living off the grid. I learned how to harvest rain water from sites on Pinterest. Start looking for land as soon as you can. It took my husband and me seven years of searching until we found…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 08:45 PM
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I also deleted FB. It truly became addicting to me. Most of of it was worthless tripe. There were a few posts I loved reading and I miss those, but I feel like FB destroyed my trust. I guard my privacy and I no longer feel comfortable with social media. This sub is the only place where I comment.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 08:29 PM
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>Now that he does have a tight deadline, his project has taken priority over anything in his life, including our relationship. So he has been working for 2 weeks on this project and he has two weeks to go to finish it? Is that right? Is this project a one time thing or will there be more projects with more tight deadlines in the future? If it is a one time really important project, what is one month in the scheme of things? It sounds like he's working hard at something that will have an impact o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 08:13 PM
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There will be the RPW standards that everyone will point out: take care of yourself and stay fit, be a soft place to land, be his cheerleader, be sexually available and be an active participant, put healthy meals on the table that he will enjoy, make your home a place he wants to come home to, ​ Now I am giving my advice which I think is the most important thing to a happy marriage: ​ Find passions in life that you both can enjoy and grow in as couple. This does not mean making his passions your…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 10:44 PM
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I read your comment to my post. No need to elaborate. You are high energy in terms of activity level, but you are still mellow. Bask in it. Suck every ounce of joy you can from your life. My goal is to become more mellow and I am make strides in that direction because I find more pleasure in letting my husband lead with each passing day.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 12:29 AM
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This is an excellent point that I forgot to mention. I find that even now, working part time and my children out of the house, it is easy to let a lack of structure destroy my work ethic and a healthy work ethic is essential to feeling good about myself and getting my ass moving.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 11:56 PM
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Yes you are right about this and I ashamed because I forgot about the fact that my grandmother took over running a coal yard when her husband passed away. This was after raising ten children.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 11:26 PM
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When I was a stay at home mom there was only a handful of other stay at home moms in my neighborhood and community and none among my girlfriends. I took my kids to the park on a regular basis, but there were many days we were the only ones there. I hope things have changed for today's stay at home moms.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 11:18 PM
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I believe that this would definitely make the stay at home experience a great deal more fun. A woman who has never experienced the feeling of isolation from other women who are her age and living in her community, would not understand how important this socialization is. Even now, there are times I travel two hours just to see my sister for a few hours because I need to interact with another woman who understands my life and my circumstances. When I was a stay at home mom, there were very few st…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 11:01 PM
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Perhaps you know this, but I believe there are many young women who read here and my advice is directed toward them. Many have no idea what being a stay at home mom entails because they have no examples to compare and make judgments.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 10:24 PM
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I have no idea how you came to the conclusion that I work in the corporate world or the fact that I was wealthy enough to take vacations alone to hawaii or stay in italy for a summer with the kids. I was a teacher in a public school in the US. I am still a teacher for a private nonprofit institution. The difference is the first covered my family's healthcare ( a definite benefit when I had kids at home) and the second does not.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 10:05 PM
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I would listen to your boyfriend. Talk to him about some options about that would allow you to work and find some personal growth and still allow for the majority of your focus to be on your family.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 05:04 AM
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You are wise to cultivate the opportunity for economic advancement. You may never want to work at anything that entails leaving your home, but you are keeping your options open. The important thing is use your mind and your talents so you don't become complacent and continue to grow. It is easy to become stagnant when you are home all day.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 04:58 AM
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It's hard to raise children but millions of women have done it over thousands of years and so will those of us who choose to and we'll overcome what ever challenges await us like all mothers before us. For much of history, women did not have any choice but to stay at home. They had no options. They had no other route in life. Things are different today. All I am trying to suggest is that women chose the path that is best for them and their family based on looking at the reality of the choices in…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 04:48 AM
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I guess I need to know if you are talking about personality or activity level. From the little I know about you from your comments and posts you seem to me to be a woman with a strong tie to the earth and the patience to watch your garden and your children grow, doing the daily tasks and activities that nurture your children and manage your home. You seem to find joy in this so I would say you are mellow. Then there is me, a woman who tells herself she wants a garden until she gets it and realiz…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 01:54 AM
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Kids do slow you down. They most certainly do and most women who are recognized for their accomplishments in terms of being note-worthy great have help with their children if they decide to have them. What I took issue with was the idea that women do not have much drive or creative initiative because they are only wired to make babies and take care of them. This makes no sense as babies soon grow into children. They can talk all they want about a woman being the oldest teenager in the house, but…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 01:57 AM
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Ok I get it. I'll be rooting for you. But please keep in mind that you need some breathing room.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 12:01 AM
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This is not healthy. You will continue to have a hard time in meeting his demands for your time because he will continue to exert more control. You are giving up all the simple pleasures in life just to meet his expectations of what is relaxing. The idea that you are calling in sick to work is not a good sign. This may end up with you losing your job and it sound like you enjoy it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 11:04 PM
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A recent article on TRP pointed out that barely any women even have hobbies, and those who do, often acquired them from a man they are or were involved with. Well I will admit that I learned to refinish furniture and wood-working from my father, but most of my hobbies I acquired on my own either by reading or taking a class or attending a workshop. I brought three healthy babies into this world and I didn't lose my intelligence, nor my desire to learn new things in the process. You remind me of …
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 10:54 PM
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Thank you for the info. I will do some more research.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 08:09 PM
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Not much tea consumption in this household. I hate it and he isn't too crazy about it either. I tried to read the link but it didn't make much sense to me. I don't know what half of the ways to improve gut flora mean. We have a high protein diet of chicken, lean beef and venison, lean pork and some dairy. Also fresh vegetables almost daily, if not, canned or frozen. He does eat alot of processed bread and loves salty snacks. I think these my be the culprits,along with sweets. Its funny but my hu…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 02:10 AM
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Any suggestions on natural ways to raise a man's T levels? I have done a little research and have found that medical treatment isn't recommended when the drop is due to the aging process. The best advice seems to be a high protein, low carb diet, plenty of sleep and muscle building exercise such as weights. These seem reasonable. I can help by making the food he needs. As far as sleep I can't help that except for helping him to relax. I am going to make an effort to get him to join a gym and we …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 10:39 PM
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Yes you are right about this. I do see my husband every day so i don't notice any change. It is only when I see old pictures of him that I realize how much he has changed. I look at these old photos and think Holy shit he was gorgeous! I would not begin to claim that my husband is still gorgeous, but he is still handsome as hell. lol
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/19 01:20 AM
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Well I'll bet your broken nosed brother will appear ruggedly handsome to some women. Good you can point your husband in a common sense direction. Mine has become much more reasonable about what he can deal with on his own (with out a great deal of aggravation and time) before he calls an expert. I am not just talking about medical attention, but many aspects of life. I think the sexiest thing about my husband getting older is that he is secure enough to step back and access what brings him the m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 11:16 PM
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So you are saying that a woman’s goggles are filtered by her husband’s wealth and u/whisper is saying that it is her husband’s behavior (does this mean frame?) that shapes her viewpoint. Is there no possibility that a woman can just look at her husband, compare him to other men, and find him to be better looking than most men she encounters in her normal life?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 08:16 PM
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I have had to beg my husband to seek medical attention on a couple of occasions. lol One time I told him that I had to look at his face for the rest of my life and he was getting stitches. I suppose this would be called a shit test but he did do it and no scars. It is probably obvious that my husband is not vain at all about his looks.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 07:46 PM
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I think as women we are strongly attracted to the man we love. For me a handsome husband is my best incentive to keep myself looking good.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 07:37 PM
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>I invested a lot on this person and now I basically just hate myself for it... Don't hate yourself for it. It is a learning experience. Next time ask if the relationship is investing anything in you. It is a good goal to make a man happy, if he is a man who is worthy of your devotion. You are only twenty six and have time to find a man who will love you for being feminine and protect your vulnerability. There are many good men who are looking for a woman like you, but you have been locked into …
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 09:12 PM
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My husband is man who can whistle as he goes about his day, even if he is worried sick about something. This sometimes blows my mind. I can manage to get through my day if something is really bothering me, but in spite of my efforts to hide it, everyone knows I am upset.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 08:12 PM
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I don't understand this response.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 08:00 PM
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We could be different, but I'd suspect that more than looks drew your to your man. Actually it was a combination of good looks and his devil may care attitude that infatuated me at first. I was only eighteen so ideas about what kind of provider or father he would be never entered my mind. I only cared about having a fun sexy boyfriend and he was that. I was completely in love with him, but it took a few years to truly love him. Of course until this time I did experience hypergamy (did not act on…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/19 07:56 PM
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I need to further explain my original thought. I look at my husband and see a look, or a mannerism and I see the man I fell in love with when he was 22 years old. I see him so often not as the successful competent man he is , but the wild handsome boy who stole my heart so many years ago. My love for him has never been contingent on his success, it has always been there from day one. I don't know if this is due to pair bonding or a reverse wife goggles effect. I am just trying to make sense of t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 09:49 PM
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I sent a really long response to this and lost it before I hit reply. In short I said that the effects of familiarity did not diminish my attraction. Instead it was endearing to me because it gave proof that I was giving my husband a safe place to land. I guess my concern about how I measure up in regards to wife goggles is due my desire that my sons also see me in a favorable light. I am wondering how I can see myself through his eyes. Does this make sense? I am married to a man who rarely says…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 09:16 PM
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I will join you at the wall in my lawn chair but I am bringing a dark and stormy with home brewed ginger beer.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 08:58 PM
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If a man sees his wife through wife goggles, does that negate the idea that other men see his wife as attractive? If you only want to answer one of my questions, please answer this one. If my husband sees me through wife goggles does that mean it is in spite of how other men look at me or does the fact that I am am attractive make him continue to wear the wife googles? ​
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:57 PM
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> I felt better when I realized I’m not interested in any way in men who view fertility and youth as what makes a woman high value and attractive. ​ I too have no interest in meeting the standards of men who think this way, but I do want be a high value attractive woman in the eyes of my husband, my sons, and other men in my family.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:31 PM
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So is this different from wife googles? Does familiarity amplify a woman's state of attractiveness also? Or does it breed contempt? Are you saying a man who looks the exact same way who does not have competence and confidence does not appear attractive? Do you believe women and other men can tell immediately if a man is competent? One last question: If a man sees his wife through wife goggles, does that negate the idea that other men see his wife as attractive?
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:05 PM
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It is not an easy thing to age as a woman when so much emphasis is placed on youth and fertility as a measuring stick for female beauty. However, there are beautiful older woman and even young men will acknowledge that from purely aesthetic non sexual point of view. I believe it is the zest for life and a personal style that makes these women stand out and that is what I am striving for.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 06:52 PM
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Reply Give Award share report Thank you for the encouragement. I will continue to comment when I feel I can make a worthwhile contribution. I do have a little advice to pass on that has been very advantageous in my marriage. One example; My husband is not a big man. He is 4 inches taller than I am, but he has never easily picked me up and carried me, even though I have always weighed less than him. I am also small framed. When I met him, he had a 30 inch waist and I could just barely fit in his …
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 06:37 PM
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Wow! It is great to hear from another seasoned wife and mother. I often feel like a dinosaur reading here. When they talk about the wall, I think I should be dead and buried beneath it. Good for you for trying to step up your game! That is why I visit here. Hope to hear more from you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 05:58 PM
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You probably do look 25. And you may continue to look younger than your age for a while and I hope you do. Just keep in mind that your time frame for children is limited. I have seen the heartbreak of three women who in their late thirties who could not conceive. Finally with fertility treatments and a great deal of money they were able to bring one child into the world.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 01:17 AM
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My mother is 83, a size 6, walks every day,and has a schedule that makes my head swim. She is devoted to my father, but she runs circles around him in terms of her need for social interaction. So she finds it by volunteering and card clubs and so forth. She has never for one second considered herself old, but she does go on about what age has done to her body. At the same time she accepts it and is grateful for her good health. I will never forget when Santa Claus hit on her when she and I took …
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 12:47 AM
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Other lies we tell ourselves: This serum, procedure,diet, fitness program will turn back the clock. There are no magic formulas that stave off aging. The greatest secret is managing to age gracefully. There are women who seem to have figured it out. I think it is a combination of attitude toward life and staying active. But most of all I think it is their acceptance of their age. They do their best to be attractive and then they say fuck it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 12:28 AM
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You never said if your husband was happy at his job. Is he? Perhaps he hates it. Is he in a position where he has a lot of responsibility and little authority? Those kind of jobs can take the wind out of a man's sails in a hurry. There is nothing more defeating than to be held accountable for situations where you have no control or final say. Maybe it is spilling over into his family life.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 08:08 PM
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I think the next level is learning to work as a team. By that I mean recognizing each person's strengths and weaknesses and allowing the person who is best suited to a task or solving the problem to lead. I also think that cultivating a few mutual interests is essential to learning to be a good team.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 04:25 PM
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What I find fascinating is the obsession of the manosphere to return to the 1600's when men owned their women, thus reined in their evil behavior and in consequence lead to a time of golden advancement and stability. They wish to return to a time of kings, believing that they will be in the ruling class.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 11:02 PM
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It is about self improvement. The irony is that the posts that talk about self improvement that don't pertain specifically to banging women or lifting are down voted.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 10:07 PM
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Sorry I replied to you instead of u/GandGMethod. Your comment did not show up on my screen. For some reason my computer is not scrolling properly. ​
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 08:19 PM
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Are you forgetting that this entails bringing a child into the world? You are suggesting using another human being to gain access to material wealth with no concern for the welfare of that human being. Sure the child may have material advantages, but they won't make up for how fucked up his/her childhood will be.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 08:09 PM
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So I put a good homemade meal on the table and while he was eating I casually mentioned that I was sorry I was disrespectful yesterday. I asked him if it was my tone of voice that was upsetting or my comment. It was my tone of voice. I told him I was not aware of it at the time. He said he knew I wasn't and he accepted my apology and that was it. He was a lot more cheerful after that. Thank you for allowing me to work this out in my head. It helped me to follow through on what I needed to do.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 12:25 AM
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Here’s the thing. Right now my hamster is standing up with both arms spread to block the cage door because I can stay in my comfort zone if I do nothing. If I go through the door I might not like what is on the other side. Being a person who hates a fight of any kind, I recognize that sometimes they are healthy. I also secretly believe that my husband enjoys a fight on occasion and he misses the times when we did fight. Please understand that our fights were/are never physical or abusive, but th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 10:14 PM
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Okay I will apologize. I know disrespect is huge, especially in front of someone else. Thank you for your reply.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 08:18 PM
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You are correct in that the fact I am not sure what upset him is a good reason to bring it up and apologize. I will address the issue tonight. I don't foresee any tears. I just hope the reminder of the incident doesn't get him upset all over again. Thank you for your advice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 08:17 PM
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I think it is harmful because it assumes that the worst case scenario is the norm. It makes everything so dark and dramatic which is rather addictive because it taps into the desire of so many of these young men for emotional connection. The sad thing is that they lose hope for sunshine. And the sun still comes up every day even if it is hidden by clouds.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 10:02 PM
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>They post the worst examples of female behavior the entire world over and shake their heads at how all women are like that. >They are taught that a relationship only works if you recognize the truth that women are actually children who must be controlled and punished, not a partner to share life with. A woman is not a child. She has free will, a conscience and the capacity to make sound decisions. There are tendencies that the red pill points out about women “that they call truths” that I recog…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 09:15 PM
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At the moment I can not give an objective response to that question. I can't think of any right now, but my scope is limited. What I do know is that women have succeeded in bringing their own ladders and have found great success in what were once male dominated fields: the arts, law, medicine, business, etc. I suppose the downside of this is that there are many women who do not want to do the work of carrying their own ladder, and instead just expect to climb a ladder that awaits them because th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 12:36 AM
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I do not believe that the shelves should ever be lowered. That would erode standards that need to be there to ensure quality control. However, if a person wants to try and meet those standards what is lost in letting them do so? And if they succeed then they deserve to reach the shelves. Furthermore it encourages healthy competition. When women are put in an atmosphere that demands they meet the standards they will either succeed and belong there or they will not. But it is counterproductive to …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 12:08 AM
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No it really isn't about the shelves. It is the idea that if you can't reach the shelves without assistance then you don't deserve to gain what is on those shelves. Much as you would put a toy out of a child's reach. But some children still manage to get a hold of that toy. And there are women who will find a way to reach those shelves and will do it using whatever skills they can figure out how to use at the time. It would be better to allow her a ladder she carries on her own to reach the shel…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 11:43 PM
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>Men did not choose to be taller than women. So, whose victims are women? Nature? Maybe I can buy that idea. And I have a problem then why must we help her and put shelves lower? There are many women who do not expect men to lower the shelves. However we will get pissed of if you do not give us room to set up the step ladder.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 10:57 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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