MR quote of the day: "Being a single father often means getting fucked for having fucked someone you no longer fuck."

Radiotech · 2011-01-07T14:37:03+00:00

As a single father, who has had custody for two years, and still paying child support to the mother. I can relate. Feels bad man.

RustyWinger · 2011-01-07T16:36:31+00:00

I'm a dad that managed somehow to get custody of two kids AND support. It's no kidding that you have to be 10 times better. She's of course a deadbeat, without consequences. what did anyone expect? Oh, and she's pregnant again... not mine... poor guy! She plays the "But I'm their mother" card often enough, usually when she wants a confrontation. But fuck that shit when she goes to where I work and tries to get me fired from a job that pays the kids medical and dental.

cmd_iii · 2011-01-07T13:49:23+00:00

Say that in a George Carlin voice, and it's perfect.

MrCustodyCoach · 2011-01-07T16:53:36+00:00

There is no structure to just how many times better a father must be to get equal custody or more once the relationship has broken. Unfortunately, the people who truly do suffer the most are the kids who don't have that stabilizing parent (the father) in their lives through no fault of their own. Too often, they're forced out by a gatekeeping mother.

serius · 2011-01-07T15:47:50+00:00

Can i steal your quote so my friends think i am clever?

ConfirmedCynic · 2011-01-07T14:49:43+00:00

Condoms. You have the right to condoms. My brother has five kids with three women. I say he fucked himself.

warmandfuzzy · 2011-01-07T22:27:41+00:00

I never married or had kids for this exact reason. When I was 13 years old, I read a lot, and was shocked at how men got screwed over, so that was that for me. And that was in the mid-1970's when I decided - men getting fucked for a long time.

I would advise no man to get married. If everyone did that, imagine how fast the law would change. Unfortunately, the little head rules almost all men.

Oh, as an aside, I actually did have 4 women propose to me. I knew them all from various places for a while. I'd told them I would only marry a woman who was the breadwinner and I was the stay-at-home dad. They were good with that, believe it or not. And they all had good incomes. But this way, if the marriage breaks up, the woman pays you child support. But no way did I want to deal with any of that.

Fatalistic · 2011-01-07T12:51:33+00:00

Where's the source of the quote?

therealtito · 2011-01-07T19:45:01+00:00

Upvote for the title alone.

Fatalistic · 2011-01-07T20:05:52+00:00

That quote could be applied to rape as well, you know.

2011-01-08T00:05:38+00:00

I'm so happy that my ex and I have worked things out... without the courts, so far.

SlayerX4000 · 2011-01-08T02:53:38+00:00

I've heard it put something like this,

"The fucking you get for the fucking you got."

Il128 · 2011-01-07T18:02:32+00:00

Man up. Lawyer up. Get your kids. Fuck your ex that you no longer fuck for having fucked you over.

I did it. I raised my children as a single father for 6 1/2 years.

Oh, and hit the gym.

nalebunny · 2011-01-08T03:42:06+00:00

Sorry to hear this and I feel the need to tell you it will get better. I've dated many self-absorbed ignoramuses in the past but lucky have found the man of my dreams. Just try to hang in there for yourself and your kids. Luck to you and strength for the work you do.

petedacook · 2011-01-08T05:09:42+00:00

Amen brother. The system is set up for the woman. I have split custody and pay support.....because the mother cannot grow up.

She assaulted my mother and got the case dismissed....it was just too hard to believe a woman could act that way. Imagine if I was accused of had assaulting her mother......

bclittlejohn · 2011-01-08T06:50:12+00:00

When the courts were derermining how much I was to pay in child support, both the mother and I had to fill out a form detailing what our income/expenses were. When we went to court they informed me that they would only consider her personal income vs my household income (i.e. if she made 20k and her new husband make 100k her income would be listed as 20k. However, my total household income would be considered. If I made 20k and my live in gf made 100k my total income would be listed as 120k). Her expense report included the basics: rent, car payment, insurance, utilities, food, etc... pretty standard. They would only show my expense as $400 per child i had living in my house. So, according to the court I made double what I actually did and had exactly $0 in expenses each month and she made 1/6th of what her household income actually was but had 3 times her salary in bills. The child support office actually told me that her entertainment budget was a necessity, but my mortgage payment was a luxury. Fortunately for me, she (against the adamant objections from the child support office) only would agree to 1/3rd of what they were offering her. She said "I just need this amount to help with the baby's expenses, I don't want to screw his life up".

edit: spelling and overall shitty grammar.

AnUnknown · 2011-01-07T16:58:55+00:00

As a child of a situation such as this, I feel it's my responsibility to tell you that your child knows you feel this way. You don't need to outwardly act like it for them to pick up on the cues that you feel like you're getting fucked because you had a child.

I always knew. I only brought it up once, I think it was when I was 9 or 10 or so, and it was vehemently denied. It wasn't until much later upon speaking to his other son that I confirmed my feelings as being true. The only advice he ever gave on women? "Don't get yourself caught up with the wrong woman by having a kid with her." No matter how kind, goodhearted, and loving my father was, I always knew he felt that way about me.

Drop this shit. I'm aware the legal system is fucked and needs to be fixed, but don't act all butthurt for being unable to back out of a commitment you made by bringing another life in to this world.

[edit] Downvotes? Really? Self-absorbed redditor is more concerned with being butthurt than his children's well-being.

ISeeWhatYaDid · 2011-01-07T17:01:27+00:00

AMEN! I am trying to figure out how the hell to get out now. I pay all the bills, I own both cars, I own the house and she has been talking to other guys online for a couple years. I found out and told her ass to leave. She claims I need to get the police and evict her. I've spoken to a lawyer and she told me to take the kids and leave and have her try to fight to get them back. But the real problem is, I can't afford to get a new place to live and she won't leave MY house. FFUFFUUUUUUUUCCCCCK!

omgwtfbbq2 · 2011-01-07T16:33:38+00:00

SNIPITTY SNIP. Problem solved forever.

scooooot · 2011-01-07T17:59:01+00:00

Yeah, cause I'm sure she won the fucking lottery when she got stuck with you as her babydaddy. There are always two sides to every dysfunction.

one4theroad · 2011-01-07T17:59:32+00:00

The fucking you get for the fucking you got.

Fatalistic · 2011-01-07T16:29:49+00:00

Don't stick your dick in crazy. I like how all you pansies like to play the victim. YOU fucked the girl. YOU got her pregnant. You must be willing to accept the consequences.

Remember how good it felt, that one time you didn't use a condom? How good does it feel now?

BitterDivorcedDad · 2011-01-07T22:41:03+00:00

If a woman puts her kid up for adoption, she doesn't have the kid and she doesn't owe anything to anyone, ever.

If the court makes it so that you can't see or talk to your kid ever again, you still owe child support. Spousal support, too.

captthrowaway · 2011-01-07T23:24:04+00:00

Tough break and I am terribly sorry- but I have to point out, as a child of a single mother of 2 who used to have to live on $300 a week and not a dime from my dead beat dad, it happens far more often to women and while thats no excuse for how it sucks for you and kudos for being responsible and continuing to care for a human being you had a hand in making, suck it up buddy, no one promised you a rose garden and if they did and you believed them well thats ur thing. plus totally way to go on ur kid, I bet its pretty awesome being whats fucked you bc you fucked something else. Just sayin.

Fatalistic · 2011-01-07T16:58:26+00:00

This goes for any single parent, mother or father? At least you can still hit the bar and attract a new mate, single mothers are busy on the step-climber trying to get their bodies back to where they were before the pregnancy. Oh, and if a single mother works to support her child(ren) she will generally receive less pay than her male counterparts.

rantgrrl · 2011-01-07T21:32:42+00:00

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bad-tempered · 2011-01-08T04:19:28+00:00

How about you wear a condom, and shut the fuck up already.

Please just stop whining!

Title	MR quote of the day: "Being a single father often means getting fucked for having fucked someone you no longer fuck."
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Date	January 7, 2011 12:14 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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