Isn't hypergamy (or whatever the male version is) something women should worry more about in men?

FraidyDogBrowse · 2021-09-30T02:21:04+00:00

Both men and women have sensory input. We notice other humans. We're attracted to other humans. That is a thing for all genders, yes.

Also statistically if you're in a relationship eventually you'll run in to someone who is potentially better. They might be cuter and smarter and make more money than your current partner.

So why isn't hypergamy a thing? Two reasons.

Empathy. If you care about someone you don't want to hurt them. You want to be with them and spend time with them. You don't want them because they're the most ideal optimized person ever. You have a bond. So you're going to want them more than a stranger.

Second, just because someone seems like a superior partner, how do you really know? It takes time to really see who someone is in all the scenarios that can come up in life. If your partner is a tested fit and has proven themselves trustworthy, how can you really tell if someone else is actually going to be better long term?

tiposk · 2021-09-30T02:47:52+00:00

Both genders notice attractive people. Women too get sexually aroused when exposed to attractive men. The issue with trp is that they expect self-control from women, but want no responsibility for their own actions.

JUMPsuperstar · 2021-09-30T02:02:09+00:00

Hypergamy was one of the least convincing arguments of the red pill for me.

PhilosopherHistorian · 2021-09-30T05:48:28+00:00

Both men and women are persuaded by aesthetics. It’s just textbook natural selection. The problem is that Redpill acts like it’s mostly women who are persuaded by physical characteristics.

WestAtmosphere · 2021-09-30T01:43:12+00:00

Not worried about it, just wouldn't want to deal with it.

msinclaire · 2021-09-29T23:51:53+00:00

Men project. Everything they fear in women is what they themselves do.

Premonitionist · 2021-09-30T14:52:25+00:00

"How a man's mind works" is largely bullshit, discard it. People cheat, some people cheat more than others. But I do think that you're getting at the edge of something important about it all, how a lot of this is societal beliefs and how a lot of society is structured around things like the fear around people cheating.

Carkudo · 2021-09-30T02:43:03+00:00

The kind of men that are attractive enough to actually be able to act on those urges? I assure you such men's partners very much are afraid of hypergamy.

But you're simply falling into the apex fallacy. Very few men are so attractive that they can cheat and change partners easily.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2021-09-29T23:49:32+00:00

Yes, men do notice pretty women, and given half the chance would love to spend the night with them, but the majority of men don't have the inclination, confidence, ability or looks to make anything happen.

Women in general, will at some point have choices and options of meeting someone better, either regularly or occasionally, depending on their environment.

JohnnyRandyll · 2021-10-02T22:57:26+00:00

Men and women are visual.

Title	Isn't hypergamy (or whatever the male version is) something women should worry more about in men?
Author	spankyourkopita
Upvotes	30
Comments	44
Date	September 29, 2021 11:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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