Is the reason I don't have the sex I'd like because I treat my wife and sex with her as the prize?

BobbyPeru · 2021-10-08T20:21:12+00:00

Step 1 Be attractive

Step 2 Don’t be unattractive

How? The whole sidebar, lift, STFU

PutABabyInThat · 2021-10-08T16:19:29+00:00

You're unhappy because you don't make sure to fulfill your needs.

You don't make your needs a priority because you value other people more than you value yourself.

You want to be happy? Stop expecting other people to get you there.

Zombie_Dick_Attack · 2021-10-08T16:31:48+00:00

This sounds like you’ve been reading this sub a lot and none of the sidebar reading material.

hausofedd · 2021-10-08T17:52:21+00:00

there are lots of reasons the answer to your question is yes and that is one of them

the core is that you are unattractive. so stop unattractive things, start attractive things, keep doing that.

stop asking why why why she isnt what you want her to be and ask why you arent what you want to be.... the work to being that. she may not fall into line but you will be who you want to be - that is the fucking point.

your question is veering on a covert contract.... IE if I dont treat her like the prize she will want ot fuck me right? no

OR

if I make my self great she will want to fuck me right? no

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make yourself great and you wont care if she wants to fuck you or not. you will simply look at your relationship and understand what you want and if she is willing/able to provide it.

SBIII · 2021-10-08T18:15:08+00:00

The reason you don't have the sex you'd like is you.

AlphaChameleon777 · 2021-10-08T16:46:11+00:00

Bicycle man!

BigBoiBahmani · 2021-10-13T04:27:49+00:00

Nahhh the reason you dont have sex is because you think about your wife too much.

What do you want? Focus on that. She is not important. What do you want?

redwall92 · 2021-10-08T16:27:57+00:00

You're going circular logic. Sure ... there's a benefit to trying to think things through and dig and mentally masturbate. It's fun sometimes....

But ....

Take a look at the MRP post from two days ago....

Doing things is better than not doing things

Don't get stuck navel-gazing. Lift, sidebar, and STFU.

Luftbrucke · 2021-10-08T16:05:12+00:00

Especially stfu here.

Taipanshimshon · 2021-10-08T20:55:07+00:00

That and gambling probably.

How fat are you?

How often do other women flirt with you

Kevlar__Soul · 2021-10-12T14:08:20+00:00

Yes it’s your fault. I often hear that it’s the women’s job to maintain the relations. Other side of that coin is maintaining attraction is the mans job. You don’t put in effort to maintain attraction she won’t put in effort to maintain the relationship, you both end up miserable in a downward spiral.

Good news is if it’s your fault you can also take responsibility and fix it. Good place to start is reading, lifting and STFU!

Just_Some_Guy_RP · 2021-10-12T21:35:27+00:00

So first question, what do you want?

Is this post even really a question at all, like is this stroking your beard and trying to be intellectual or are you asking are you the reason your wife wont fuck you?

If it's the latter then yes, it's all you. Girls will do the sexy things you like because they want your attention, if they don't want it, they wont make an effort. The very first thing you need to do is know what the fuck you want then think how each decision you make gets you closer to that goal.

Men get 'lucky' if we have sex, it's a privilege to have sex with a woman, you 'pay' for sex ... either literally or by spending money to encourage the behaviour, "you spend 9 months trying to get out and the rest of your life trying to get back in" - think this was a quote from a Robin Williams film.

This is all in your head, if you think its true, that's how the world will look, if you think girls will dress sexy and be all over me when they want me then that will be true. There's no information about you so its impossible for anyone to give you any real advice. But if you really wanted the short answer to the question we have to assume your asking then yes it's your fault, so what are you doing to fix it?

khalabrakis · 2021-10-08T17:03:05+00:00

I am not initiated, but the one who cares less has the power. Period.

PreEntertain · 2021-10-08T17:54:14+00:00

Run dread. Get a decoy side chick. (DONT ACTUALLY TOUCH HER) Someone your wife sees on social media.

And when your wife gets suspicious, expect the cold shoulder and dead bedroom for a while. But you cant show you care. Start showing up just late enough to be suspicious. Go for a one hour walk in the middle of whenever you'd usually be spending time with your wife. Don't fucking tell her what you're doing. Have another pint with the lads, and hug the waitress so you smell like her. Make her fuckin hamster spin.

Then you'll get a taste of what this program is all about. Then maybe you'll actually commit to the sidebar.

ragnar_Daneskjold · 2021-10-08T19:44:49+00:00

yes.

Perfectinmyeyes · 2021-10-14T10:53:02+00:00

Thanks for all the replies, All of them are helpful.

I came here looking for a 'simple' answer, an answer that would bring me happiness/understanding.

The answer I got was not what I expected but gave me all the power/control.

Now what am I going to do about it.

StarsandStripes702 · 2021-11-04T16:41:14+00:00

Have you had any success with this situation? I’m finding myself in a similar predicament a lot of the time.

Title	Is the reason I don't have the sex I'd like because I treat my wife and sex with her as the prize?
Author	Perfectinmyeyes
Upvotes	18
Comments	28
Date	October 8, 2021 3:50 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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