I hardly feel like a woman

Sufficient_Screen776 · 2021-10-07T22:29:05+00:00

Without seeing you, it’s hard to help to the best of my ability, but I can give you some basics. Even without amazing bone structure, the most average girls can look great - the secret is grooming.

1) Hair. Get a good cut that flatters your face shape. Don’t have the length at jaw level - I’d suggest shoulder (ask your hairdresser). Add layers. If you’re mousy, get a colour.

2) Nails - make sure they’re always manicured. I have mine shellaced every fortnight. I go for a blush or natural toned pink most of the time. Get your toes done too. I go for a burgundy. You’ll feel a lot more put together.

3) Body hair - wax it all off, and get your brows shaped. I do my own, but if you’re not handy like that get them done at the salon.

4) Jewellery - get a simple, small pair of studs and a small, delicate pair of hoops. Get a really small pendant too. You can wear these every day - alternate the earrings when you feel like a change. Small jewellery is more classic and it won’t fight with your outfit, but it adds a lot. You’ll have to trust me on that.

5) Clothes. If you don’t have curves, you’ll have to create them. You need to start wearing waist belts more often. I don’t know what you do at work, so I’m not sure what the dress code is. I prefer midi dresses or skirts with knee high boots under. If you’re a pants sort of person, wear higher waisted ones over blouse or top and belt that. Find colours that work for you, and stick to them. If you’re not sure, then ask a friend to go shopping with you or ask a store assistant to help you. Research styles online. I sometimes plan outfits in photoshop before I decide to buy- you can use Pinterest to do the same thing.

6) Accessories. Please invest in a really nice bag and maybe some silk scarves - it will help you look more pulled together.

7) Scent. You NEED at least one signature perfume for day, and another for night. Night should be heavier and more sensuous. I normally go for muskier scents.

8) Exercise. Get your butt to the gym. You need to be lifting weights. If you don’t have a butt, you can fake one with enough squats. It won’t change your genetics, but it helps…alot.

9) Healthy lifestyle - eat properly. Eat clean. No crap. That causes bloating, greasy hair, bad skin. Do not underwear either. It’s dangerous and it won’t help you look better. If you want to lose a little weight, do it sensibly with a small calorie deficit and daily exercise.

10) I almost forgot - makeup. Look, if it doesn’t look good on you, it’s because you’re wearing too much. Less is more. Foundation (properly matched to your skin), concealer, light bronzer around the sides of your face, natural blush on your cheek apples, natural taupe or light brown on your eye-lids, mascara and clear lip-gloss should be your daily essentials. That’s all you need. You don’t have to be brilliant at makeup to master these. I’m a hyper feminine type of woman, so this is what works for me and what I like to do. My style might not be your style. But if you want the results, you need to put work into developing that.

If you have any more questions, feel free to ask.

TheBunk_TB · 2021-10-07T22:01:52+00:00

Have you considered acting classes? This is serious and not sarcasm. I have talked about RBF before but in this circumstance I would think that this would help you access a different bag of tools.

CountTheBees · 2021-10-07T22:45:45+00:00

Do you talk in a feminine manner? If you play back a recording of your own voice saying, "hello, how are you" (ignore the cringe from hearing your own voice), what strikes you about it? What about from a longer conversation, e.g. the next one you have with a friend?

Does kindness, empathy, softness, love, joy or any other attractive female traits come across from that recording?

If femininity isn't coming across in your voice, it's not coming across anywhere else either. Some women are pretty until they open their mouths. Some women aren't pretty until they do.

ddeltadt · 2021-10-07T22:28:34+00:00

Could it be your attitude and how you carry yourself rather than how you look? Are you approachable? Smile?

Least_Chemical_7022 · 2021-10-07T22:29:58+00:00

Get onto photo feeler and see how you rate with men your age and older. It's about the most objective way to measure one's attractiveness. Provided you use genuine photos and not try and catfish. I'd wager you're not as bad as you think you are.

Also, not having feminine curves could very well be a hormonal problem. Do you have PCOS? The higher your estrogen the more fat you store in more feminine areas. I would get a hormone profile and make sure everything is not only in range but optimal. Estrogen is what makes you a woman, don't underestimate it.

I will say, that I was in your shoes in my early 20's. I was a very lanky tall guy and practically invisible to women. I'd probably rate myself back then a 4/10. I decided to start getting my hair cut, made a commitment to gaining weight and muscle, and using a good skincare routine. I went up several points in attractiveness and now I catch women looking at me a lot.

Inside_Ad_7292 · 2021-10-07T22:52:53+00:00

Well, I don't know exactly what you look like... But even if you really do have masculine features, that's not a reason for men to dislike the way you look. Brooke Shields had pretty similar features to the ones you described. Any face can be attractive if you're taking care of it with good skincare, working out and proper diet, a little bit of natural makeup, a great haircut (seriously, invest in a really good haircut from somewhere like an Aveda salon) and good old fashioned confidence. Your attitude and how you carry yourself makes way more difference than you think it does.

Wild_Bee_7199 · 2021-10-07T23:53:29+00:00

Find. Your. Kibbe. Type. And. Run. With. It!

aigars2 · 2021-10-08T05:47:49+00:00

There aren't that much reasons why a single male would ignore a single female. It's either looks or expression. I'd suggest gym working on those curves, healthy eating (low carbs, decent protein, lots of fiber) and finding a feminine role model.

ThermiteMillie · 2021-10-08T09:14:09+00:00

I have a very strong jaw line and cheek bones. If I don't 'glam' myself I can look quite feminine. I also have resting bitch face and due to autism, the way I talk sometimes doesn't translate well, especially as I have quite a low voice (apparently some guys go for that tho!)

I also grew up with boys and a fairly masculine mother so I had to learn how to do the girly things I love.

My only advices really are 1) as hard as it may be, try to not let your self confidence affect your body language. Easier said than done but when you don't feel good enough, your whole body will translate that to the world in subtle ways. Stand up, shoulders back. When you walk into a room, don't look down, don't look at your phone...stand straight and walk with purpose. 2) dress comfortably but for your body shape. There's a wealth of information online on how to best dress for your frame. I have quite a boxy frame myself with wide shoulders and small hips but my legs go on for days, so I work with that. Have a look online to find your body shape and the type of clothes that would accentuate your best features. 3) take a look at YouTube make up tutorials for a soft, no make up look and also learn to accentuate the best parts of your face. For me, I hate my mouth/smile, so I put the focus onto my eyes and have learnt how to put on lashes but for it all to still look natural. Also don't underestimate your brows! They can change your whole face if they're done well.

Ultimately, what I'm getting from your post though is that you lack confidence. That will only come with time and practice. You're undoubtedly beautiful as you are, so learn to love yourself and what you've got and highlight those best bits of yourself.

RubberAndSteel · 2021-10-08T09:43:17+00:00

I think personality is key. You don't have to be miss world. Someone will love you as you are.

Good hygiene is a booster tho. Get some good perfume that's not too heavy on you. If you haven't already.

Wish you luck!

k0unitX · 2021-10-08T04:54:44+00:00

I'll be direct with you - it's the weight. Fix it and you'll be amazed by the results.

GoogleCensorsAreBad · 2021-10-08T12:14:04+00:00

Would strongly recommend box squats and deadlifting(trap bar if you are concerned about lower back injury).

It really builds the posterior.

Lift as heavy as you can(5 reps for sets of 4-6)

It really builds the ‘posterior chain.’

Title	I hardly feel like a woman
Author	cassiewassiecampbell
Upvotes	39
Comments	34
Date	October 7, 2021 9:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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