When a girl has (way) more sexual partners than you do.

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-07-08T16:05:14+00:00

My point of view is more old fashioned because I'm in my 30s. But it still holds true nonetheless:

Women aren't programmed like men where we need literally nothing to orgasm outside of physical stimulation, and we can just mentally move on with their day. Women, on the other hand, are programmed in a way that their orgasm is LINKED to their emotions, and their emotions are linked to sex. They form unbreakable bonds due to the chemical changes during sex. The same mental/hormonal/chemical state they experience is the EXACT same state they have when they feel 'true love'. This is why their first time is regarded as extra special, something us guys don't really get, because we don't form these kinds of emotional links to physical actions. This isn't in our programming. This isn't to say, of course, that we can feel the emotional link when we have sex, we just aren't bound to these feelings, and these feelings aren't required for us to have sex.

So when a girl decides to sleep around, they literally have to break this emotional link that separates their act of sex to acts of love. It mentally destroys them. It shakes their core foundations, because they have to go through some rough mental reprogramming that was eons of biological evolution, all the while getting a high on the feeling of cock and wet sloppy orgasms. The result is that they are mentally unstable. They no longer know how to love. They no longer know when sex is wrong and love is wrong, and don't see the line that says infidelity is wrong. Sure they are experts at sex and seduction, but so are hookers. Once you step down the path of repetitive actions, it gets easier and easier to do it without feeling the pain of ignoring moral agency. When these kinds of women are ready to settle down, they are mentally exhausted and don't treat sex the way regular healthy women do. Sex with a good man causes them pain, and sex with the bad boy brings them back to their CC days where they can escape from moral agency again. They call this sexual freedom. We call this damaged goods.

JackGetsIt · 2016-07-08T13:26:27+00:00

You will not become magically more secure as you add more women to your belt. That's blue pill logic to place your personal sense of worth on how many women you bed. If this is your logic is will only grow worse the more women you sleep with. Hit the side bar --->

bebopdebs · 2016-07-08T12:13:01+00:00

how many women youve fucked doesnt matter as long as you understand what you are doing. if a girl really likes you and you at least show dominance and know how in bed then she will like you just as much as the next guy she fucks. these girls are just looking to feel the mid sex gratification of validation that they crave. you really dont matter at all, think of women as sex robots with falsified emotions

Entrefut · 2016-07-08T12:30:15+00:00

that is a norm, when girls in their 20s have n-count of 100+

"Norm", really? US is a weird place or it's a realy exagerrated number.

RedPillHanSolo · 2016-07-08T12:35:40+00:00

when girls in their 20s have n-count of 100+

A very small percentage have numbers anywhere near this high. You're blowing this part a bit out of proportion, and it might be fucking with you on the topic in general.

For many men here, a girl having a high n-count disqualifies them from being LTR material. However, it doesn't really have much to do with your own n-count as long as you are proficient in the sex department.

AdviceToSaveYourLife · 2016-07-08T14:28:48+00:00

You will never know how many men a woman has slept with, there is no way for a man to tell. So any further analyzing on the subject is wasted energy.

Women will give a diff number or diff impression according to the guy, we are very adaptable.

Asking a girl her number of sexual partners is like a girl asking a guy if he cheated. .....gooood luck getting anything that even looks like honesty after lol

It's a fools question

leemanfor · 2016-07-08T14:39:31+00:00

I used to be concerned with that. my wife has more than I do. I only have 2 partners, but I don't concern myself with number anymore. My dad is the most insecure man I've ever met and hes fucked probably 50+ women, been through 4 marriages and is now getting married to his 5th.

Stories_of_Red · 2016-07-08T17:22:00+00:00

Just your turn. Enjoy the sex. Make no investment either emotionally or financially.

BusterVadge · 2016-07-08T13:45:18+00:00

100+? Make sure you double bag that shit.

Entrefut · 2016-07-08T16:31:37+00:00

I don't know man, if I heard a count like that I'd run for the hills. That's actually pretty fucking disgusting. Having that many sexual partners isn't good for your brain, man or women. It makes it nearly impossible to pair bond, because your braina reward system is now ruined. Casual sex with girls like that is great and I wouldn't be worried about your count when around them, because frankly it's not an achievement on their part. They failed to get a guy to commit 100+ times, while you have succeeded in getting the lay with 10 different girls.

bornredd · 2016-07-08T19:49:58+00:00

Mid 30s married guy reporting in. Wife's n count is higher than mine, but not by much.

I don't give a shit.

Why? Because when she sees me, her eyes light up. She reaches out to touch me when I walk near her. If I'm standing at the counter doing something (prepping food, making a drink, whatever) she will walk up behind me and snuggle on me, or duck under my arm and hold on. She never talks about the other guys that were in her life, and if I ask about them, she will tell me that there were "boys" or "pussies" instead of a man.

She could have fucked a million guys before me, and so long as she's obviously and completely attracted to me, I will never, ever care.

RedPillHanSolo · 2016-07-08T13:59:59+00:00

I've been with over 60 women. I generally don't disclose that to anyone I'm plating. If asked, I make up shit, like I'm a virgin (I'm in my 40s and have kids, so clearly a joke) or 100,000.

2016-07-08T17:35:26+00:00

Things are bad but it's' not this bad. I don't think it's normal for the average girl to have fucked 100 men before she's 30. Thirty or 40, maybe. But not 100. A girl to have made it to 100 by age 30 is quite outlierish.

RatBastardJones · 2016-07-08T19:38:45+00:00

If you are near 10 at 24, I say you're doing great compared to most guys before you.

dr_warlock · 2016-07-08T21:53:45+00:00

Who cares. Just get the pussy.

Tamarin24 · 2016-07-08T17:08:55+00:00

Date younger.

TheStumblingWolf · 2016-07-08T21:08:50+00:00

I was intimate with a friend for about 6 months. Her N count is somewhere in the 40s and 50s (we're both around 30) and she was my 2nd ever. Not a problem at all, the sex was amazing and she'd send naughty stuff once in a while. No complaints here.

nastynickdr · 2016-07-08T12:12:37+00:00

As long as you are not commiting to one of those, who cares? Never disclose your n-count.

mrpCamper · 2016-07-08T13:20:22+00:00

I'm in the minority here thinking that n-count is private and knowing it will only put doubts and fears into your head that won't help you in any way. Does it help determine if a girl's a slut hoebag that will fuck you over in the end? No! You run a high chance of this happening anyway if you're a beta chode. If you're alpha as fuck, you have a better chance of keeping any girl.

Also, I have to believe that 100+ is a very high number for a girl that has been sexually active for 5 to 10 years. Something would be seriously fucked up with her imo. So, this high of a number is probably reserved for the small percentage of girls that have some emotional issues.

youcantdenythat · 2016-07-08T13:26:39+00:00

idgaf

deci-mator · 2016-07-08T19:17:07+00:00

A girl is always fucking, if it is not me or you , it is definitely the next guy, but she is always fucking. IF she is sexy she probably has an army of betas ready to fuck her, the good looking ones she may bang just for a ONS. With a high SMV best believe some alphas have been there. It's the hard truth you have to accept. But do be careful not to catch some shit while your fucking around

DevilishRogue · 2016-07-08T19:21:16+00:00

Every single one of those other 10 you've been with was the same, with 100+ partners. Some just hid it better than others. Now you've got that image in your mind you already know how to deal with it, just as you did with the others.

El_Serpiente_Roja · 2016-07-08T19:21:37+00:00

The only time it matters is if u fall in love because then you become ultra sensitive to it. Fuck whoever and only fall in love with low n chicks.

With that said you will never really know anyway because they will just lie. I think its inportant for guys to slay lots of chicks to desensitize themselves to sex. If not you put wayyyy too much weight on it.

3rt41 · 2016-07-08T21:21:54+00:00

100+ in her 20 is quite a lot for any girl, pornstar like numbers here

ronsoness · 2016-07-08T22:01:04+00:00

I read that article too. I somehow have doubts about an average count of 100+ by 25. Maybe if she is a free spirit, moderately attractive+, and living in a big city, yes. However, as much opportunity as there is for women to bone nonstop, we have to consider the reasons they may choose to be picky or not to ho-around. Ex: they are in a satisfying LTR, they fear for their personal safety so they are extremely careful of strangers, they only bone guys they know reasonably well for fear of STDs, they don't want to look like a slut to their friends, they dont' want to look like a slut to themselves, etc.

2016-07-08T23:38:33+00:00

Wait, so you know this or you just assume information from the internet is applicable and fucking your own head up?

How about dont ask and fuck who you want?

Cellayna · 2016-07-09T07:46:17+00:00

What?? In no world is it normal for most chicks in their 20s to have an n-count of 100+. The chicks I've known average 2-5 by the time they're 25, and maybe as many as 10 by the age of 30, 15-20 if they were party girls. 100+ n count for girls is not a norm, not at all.

Gawernator · 2016-07-08T19:35:31+00:00

100+ is a major slut. Even where I live in CA that's not the norm for early 20's ... I've met plenty of girls with counts of like 2-3... Or 0

TitsAndWhiskey · 2016-07-08T13:59:24+00:00

Fuck more girls

Title	When a girl has (way) more sexual partners than you do.
Author	RedPillHanSolo
Upvotes	23
Comments	75
Date	July 8, 2016 11:53 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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