Old man asks to sit next to a woman with kids, "surely a pedophile"

NaokoTheDragonKnight · 2021-10-28T19:14:55+00:00

I ran into the same situation in another AITA post (they are biased towards women sooo much even in the same situation with the genders reversed).

A stepmother, only known for a few years, goes into her stepdaughter's room unannounced? Annoying and rude, just talk to her.

The biological father does so as well? Creep. Has nefarious intentions. Paedophile, etc.

I point out the double standard? I am downvoted to the bottom of a well.

That is Reddit in general, though...

malleus74 · 2021-10-28T21:53:37+00:00

I take my six year old son to the park pretty regularly. I'm not exactly disabled but I have muscle and autoimmune issues.

The same women take the three benches each time, so there's nowhere to sit. So, I'll sit in the car with the window down and watch him, part of the time, to let him meet new kids, and go in to push him on the swings, the rest.

There's always a woman staring me down. It changes on who, but even though the women in question see me regularly (and my son and I look a LOT alike)... It's pretty much constant. I've had the police called once so far.

bilgediver · 2021-10-28T20:33:30+00:00

What's interesting is that women are actually more likely to molest children than you would think (and mostly due to access, women are generally primary caregivers)

vhisic · 2021-10-28T21:35:36+00:00

Men: Exist in the vicinity of children. Fucking weirdos: must be a pedo.

rabel111 · 2021-10-28T21:35:00+00:00

Exercising caution? Or just exercising their BIGOTRY!

A sexist pig is a sexist pig no matter how hard they virtue signal.

bilgediver · 2021-10-28T20:36:05+00:00

Know what's sad? One of my favorite movies when I was younger (when it first came out, anyway) has a scene that makes me uncomfortable as hell, only because of how hyper aware I am of this mentality and the accusations:

"The Santa Clause"

When "Scott Calvin", after showing the Santa signs, older man, grayish scruffy beard, pot belly, sits down at a field to watch his son play a sport on a park bench, only to have lines of young children waiting to sit on his lap. Can you imagine what reddit would say to that?

Mythandros · 2021-10-28T22:23:07+00:00

There's far more female pedos than male. I would feel way safer with a male sitting near me and my kids than a female.

Kuyumiester · 2021-10-28T22:09:27+00:00

Does anyone know the pedophilia ratio between men and women?

Vaudeville_Clown · 2021-10-29T07:50:28+00:00

There's a lot going on here, but I wouldn't expect the people in this conversation to be able to analyze it, since it's abundantly clear they exclusively operate on "I'm feeling this so I have to be right".

For instance, there's generational culture difference. Old people were much more socialized into a sort of village mentality where the polite thing to do is to recognize strangers so they wouldn't have to feel like, well strangers. A sort of extended hospitality idea, that's now mostly extinct.

I mean, in his mind, it could have been that he thought it was situationally assuring. His assumption that, because she has children it's inconceivable that he's got any intentions (towards her). Not the right way of reasoning in this time and age, but I can see this happening.

As for the children well, I remember as a kid, old men and little ladies turning up randomly, often to tell a little joke to make you laugh and then be on their way. The old men would usually told some story that was a big fat lie and the joke was to see how far it'd take until you caught it.

I don't know, maybe the man was a sicko, but just maybe he wasn't?

I think overall, the old social mode is almost extinct, and the blunder this man did (if that's what it was), will become exceedingly rare. What I want to know is, what'll the current climate do to children instead?

I'm betting that little girls and boys who will only pass by random men who're behaving like they don't even see them, will early take a hit to their self-esteem and grow up overly self conscious from the start.

Remember, it's often children, not yet used to be selectively social to place and context who says hello! to random strangers. At least until parents imprint an acute fear of strangers in them.

Are we going to brush the kids off with an irritated look all the time? We don't want anyone else to think we're child molesters after all, do we?

EmptinessWithin · 2021-10-28T22:15:48+00:00

I've been on r/redditmoment and r/averageredditor for long enough to conclude that these are projections.

Ukman_44 · 2021-10-29T12:40:22+00:00

I often select the seat that someone has put their bags on as a passive aggressive way of telling them to stop bag spreading. That's how we resolve things in Britain :-)

Just because someone has kids doesn't mean they can be selfish!

rainbow_bro_bot · 2021-10-28T23:28:16+00:00

One time my sister was running a race and asked me to watch her young daughter/my niece while she and her husband were running it. So I stood with my niece at the area where they give out water. As the runners come past one of the (female) runners looks at me and says "sick". wtf was that supposed to mean?

DraganTehPro · 2021-10-28T20:44:26+00:00

I think we need the full story. Do you mind sending a link?

Doctormvbvch · 2021-10-29T00:26:13+00:00

Damn

__pulsar · 2021-10-29T15:46:13+00:00

I'd bet my bottom dollar that there weren't any other open seats and OP added that part to make the story appealing to that particular reddit community.

Iceman_Hottie · 2021-10-29T05:28:14+00:00

I think it's a "symptom" of the destruction of family and pathologising parenting behaviour.

Looking at history there were traditions of valuing being a parent, and it was implied rather than started overtly.

In contrast, in the current climate we have to state everything overtly and huge numbers of people support those seeking to destroy families (a major point of feminism and present in socialism) so that people would work more, resulting in spending less and less time to build relationships with their children and teach them cultural and familial values.

Dagannoth_Supreme · 2021-10-29T16:26:25+00:00

“Certain demographics commit crimes at a higher rate, so it’s perfectly logical to exercise caution around these demographics.” Where have I heard this logic before? 🤔

Old man asks to sit next to a woman with kids, "surely a pedophile"

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Title	Old man asks to sit next to a woman with kids, "surely a pedophile"
Author	TraumaJeans
Upvotes	280
Comments	55
Date	October 28, 2021 6:09 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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