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What does she really mean?

casemodsalt

July 16, 2016
26 upvotes
/r/askTRP

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Title What does she really mean?
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casemodsalt

Upvotes 26
Comments 59
Date July 16, 2016 10:58 AM UTC
(10 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/4t43wh/what_does_she_really_mean/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/what-does-she-really-mean.108434
https://theredarchive.com/post/108434
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Comments

[–]EssexMum59 points60 points61 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She feels guilty that sleeping with you so quickly makes her a slut.

[Hint: it does.]

[–]JinSantosAndria36 points37 points38 points 10 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link

Those are words and they mean nothing at all. Hang out again and see how she acts.

[+]casemodsalt[S] -36 points-35 points-34 points 10 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link

I was thinking that she wanted to see how I handled it. To see if I just wanted sex.

I asked her "what about cuddling" and she didn't reply.

[–]TRPdating 62 points63 points64 points 10 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

I asked her "what about cuddling" and she didn't reply.

You just totally fucked this up for yourself.

Text is ONLY for planning the next meetup. Stop conversing with her.

[+]casemodsalt[S] -21 points-20 points-19 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Being a little over dramatic but I'll keep your point in mind.

I guess I should have just said "that's fine. Want to hang out tonight?"

[–]TRPdating 47 points48 points49 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I'm not being overly dramatic. She said she didn't want sex, you tried to sell her on a lesser product (snuggling). That makes you a bitch in her eyes. You're willing to settle for whatever approval she'll give you. She has the power here. See my point?

I guess I should have just said "that's fine. Want to hang out tonight?"

No, you should say "I'm going to be at X tonight at Y-oclock, come hang out".

[–]Sam1490 -4 points-3 points-2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I think he was joking. But it's impossible to display emotion over texting

[+]casemodsalt[S] -12 points-11 points-10 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

But she's kind of a shut in and doesn't like going out places

[–]JinSantosAndria10 points11 points12 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

As harsh as it might sound, thats how it works at the core. Either you are the dominant part or you play games to her avail. Right now you started playing a text-game that you can't win. Either you choose to spend time with her, if she makes room, or you invest your time at better places. It's your decision to date as many people as you like, why you would even consider the "shut in" problem as something that you need to solve is beyond me (and should beyond yourself).

[–]dickcomments1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude, stop making fucking excuses for what everyone is saying/telling you.

Do you want answers to what's really going on, or do you want someone to tell you what you want to hear? Cause if you want to be playcayted you've come to the wrong place.

You have a LONG WAY to go in Red pill theory.

[–]DaftOdyssey7 points8 points9 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You just allowed her frame to dominate you. You went in her terms and not yours. You're her bitch now that you asked for her validation on cuddling.

And to add to that, don't have a conversation on text. Just plan things out, directly and be decisive, for next time to see where things go. If you fail to trigger her tingles, move on and don't be too mentally involved.

[–]666mafioso8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Sorry to say brother, but even if you yourself might have been fine with just cuddling, you don't show your cards that early. Say you are trying to negotiate a price for a used motorcycle: the listed price is $8k, but the price you're looking for is around the $5k-$6k range. You don't start by saying you'd like the bike for $6k, you do a little research for similar makes with similar mileage and offer $3k-$4k. The seller will indeed refuse, but then you reason with him by presenting your research and insist that the most you can settle for is $4.5k, cash on hand. If the seller is indeed looking to sell, he will reach a reasonable agreement at $5.5k and not only will he believe he got a reasonable price on the bike, you will have gotten the bike within your intended price range. On the other hand, if you started by offering $6k, you will ultimately reach an agreement within the $7k range.

The same rule of negotiation applies with women, and pretty much anything else in life. If you show your desperation immediately, you will have no other cards to play and the other party will have the POWER in the transaction. You should have replied along the lines of "I'm glad you enjoyed the fuck, if you ever change your mind you know where to find me". Then when an opportunity comes along where you would like to invite her over for company, you initiate the text and and give her the details and location. If she was ever planning to mess around with you again, she will accept the offer and it's round 2. Don't play her game, bring her to your court and play by your rules so you have the best chance of being successful.

This is also the main reason Vegas is so successful, many people know the odds are structured that they will eventually fail (and lose money) but they entertain the idea that it won't happen to them. They might go on a lucky streak, but the problem is that since the whole streak itself was not based on rationale or skill, they end up riding it too long and have no control in determining the outcome. They ultimately end up losing more than they came in with.

[–]saphenoussapiency2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

You fucked up

[–]casemodsalt[S] -5 points-4 points-3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh no! Now I'll never get laid again! 😢😢😢😢😢😢

[–]saphenoussapiency16 points17 points18 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't come asking for help and then be sarcastic when we give you honest answers.

It is not a catastrophe but it is a bad move.

[–]Sepean3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

So instead of dealing with Anti-Slut Defense you spew some beta shit?

A good ASD response is "when there is this sort of connection, sometimes you just can't help yourself"

[–]casemodsalt[S] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

http://i.imgur.com/Fsw9jYl.png

[–]Sepean2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

You're supposed to read the sidebar. If you did that, you'd know all the words.

There's also this thing called google. Try "anti-slut defense red pill". The gist of it is to feed her hamster with something that lets her convince herself she's not a slut.

[–]casemodsalt[S] -5 points-4 points-3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

That seems like too much effort for a guy like me.

[–]Sepean0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Reading, googling or overcoming ASD?

[–]arethoudeadyet6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

She's fucked up, that's what it means. If she asks for it, just fuck her again, if she doesn't find others.

[+]casemodsalt[S] -10 points-9 points-8 points 10 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

I like her though

[–]TRPdating 23 points24 points25 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I like her though

You like how her approval of you makes you feel. There's a difference.

[–]5JS1XBG64A2 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

And this is a problem in and of itself. You DO NOT need her approval, nor should you try and gain it. She should be begging for your approval, not the other way around.

[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

How much would you put up with this if you had two other plates willing to bang? Would you like her then?

[–]casemodsalt[S] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Depends how the other 2 acted.

[–]anddennn 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Stop that.

[–]third-eye-brown3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

That's where you screwed yourself over. You acted like a little bitch. You should have said something funny and just a little arrogant about your dick or how good you are in bed, and then said that you enjoyed your time and would like to hang out again in the future (at least that's what your meaning should be...what you actually say can vary a lot). Then give her some time, a week or two, and try again.

If she says she just wants to hang out and not fuck, say "that's fine by me" and go over there anyway. Escalate and if she finds you attractive enough you will be banging in no time. If you don't bang, next her. Simple as that.

[–]tighttanktop 23 points24 points25 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

womanese: I want your cock again but I feel like a slut. you probably think i'm a slut so ill say it was a mistake to make it all better. seduce me again

offering her cuddles is a beta bitch move. ignore what she says. "np. let's hang" then escalate.

[–]neverbesmall5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Take charge and sleep with me again. Tell me what I want to hear and absolve me of all responsibility when you bang me again.

[–]hawkeaglejesus5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

"I like you and you have a great dick"

Are those the words of a woman who only wants to cuddle?

[–]casemodsalt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

They all say I have a great dick though. Its meaningless

[–]JackGetsIt0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

The point is that women don't talk about dicks and sex unless it's weighing heavily on their mind at that moment.

[–]casemodsalt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

So basically she thinks I'm really good at sex?

[–]JackGetsIt1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

That or she just needs sex right now and you are the current candidate. You don't have to be good at sex for a women to want more of it with you. You just need to be higher on the SMV ladder then her, dominant, etc.

[–]PantsonFire12340 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She's bouncing back from her ex. OP is a good fuck and she's hoping to reel him in for more. She signaled that she needs to get over her ex. Lingering emotions mean she's been left with a void. She will act out in all kind ways.

[–]JackGetsIt7 points8 points9 points 10 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

LOL. "I'm not going to be able to sleep with you again...you have a great dick." Can't even stick with her guns within the message. Op she's yours if you ever need it again but don't date her, plate status only.

[–]casemodsalt[S] 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I boned another petite girl like her a while back and she said something similar but didn't bang again.

I think I said too much then as well.

But starting to realize to not be her beta text buddy and to just move it to face to face asap

[–]GoblinKnight4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You failed her comfort tests.

[–]Deadprez_1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She is experiencing a thing called buyer's remorse, I think it's explained in some part of"The Mystery Method", It's when basically a girl feels like a slut for sleeping with someone she just met. The three stages of seducing a woman are: Attraction, building comfort, and then seduction, in that order. You didn't do anything really wrong, but recognize if you don't build comfort with a woman you seduce, she might not want to sleep with you again.

[–]flat6turbo8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

assume that if she's talking to you, she still wants the dick.

chicks simply ignore guys they don't want to bang.

we're not talking about friendzone here, because you already dicked her.

[+]casemodsalt[S] -6 points-5 points-4 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Casemods doesn't get put in the friend zone baby

[–]PM_ME_YOUR__TOES_8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I asked her, "What about cuddling?"

No, you got put in the bitch zone.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Oh god... women.

How old is she? Looks like she's trying to LJBF / boyfriend you.

But what they say one minute and what they do the next isn't related. But with this kind of text, she's definitely absolutely not gf material.

I bet she'd fuck again though.

[–]casemodsalt[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Like 23? But acts 16. Well her tinder says 23 anyway. Let's hope I pulled out quick enough haha! xD

[–]WhyNotJustEnjoyLife2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

please wear a condom dude

[–]casemodsalt[S] -5 points-4 points-3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–]WhyNotJustEnjoyLife8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]completelag 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

stds

You wont have swag when that shit falls off.

Antibiotic Resistant Gonorrhea - STD information from CDC

[–]ChewbakkaFlokka1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Ignore her words man, just chill with her and escalate to see what happens. I bet she'll be fucking you again

[–]IVIaskerade1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

She means you're humblebragging, bro.

[–]casemodsalt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

How did any of that equate to her thinking that?

[–]Senior ContributorSkorchZang1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She's backpedalling. Reasons unknown, but probably because she's talking to the ex again and thinks something might work out for her there (ha ha, good luck honey). Tell her "ok", and to bring a bottle of wine over when she changes her mind.

It is also beta-bait, to see what you'll do with it. Every beta's response would be "Oh sure sure, of course we can be best friends forever!! Please, by all means, use me!"

[–]3rt411 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She's dtf

[–]Adderallabuse 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"I sleep with men on the first date too"

[–]PantsonFire12341 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

means you have a great dick, showoff

[–]SmellyPirateWench1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Means you were exceptionally unsatisfying, but pathetic enough that she would feel bad for leading you on.

Or you tested yourself to post on the internet that you "have a great cock". Right.

[–]casemodsalt[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow you sound bitter.

[–]PM_ME_YOUR__TOES_0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Reading your comments is like a roller coaster ride

had sex

Niiice

but then asked, "want to cuddle?"

Nooooooo whyyyyy

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