Why do dating problems and fixing yourself always seem to be centered around men and not women?

bee_ghoul · 2021-11-27T21:09:53+00:00

Probably because you don’t hang out in women’s spaces, buy products for women etc. Women’s magazines and websites are full of this stuff.

Inareskai · 2021-11-27T21:47:33+00:00

As a woman, I'd say 85% of the dating advice I've ever seen has been geared at women. So, I think it's probably more about where you're looking than about there not being that advice.

XihuanNi-6784 · 2021-11-27T22:38:48+00:00

I think this is mostly because you are a man (I assume) which means you ignore all the copious books, movies, and influencers who give women advice about how to get men. Lots of it centres on improving themselves, just not in the same language.

thetruthishere_ · 2021-11-28T01:00:18+00:00

Have you not seen the many YT channels, etc to help women? Probbaly more out there than mens stuff.

Mens stuff seems to be growing more in recent years while womens has been out for decades.

Naus1987 · 2021-11-28T01:28:31+00:00

I’m guess the real issue here is that the advice for women is mostly aimed at the women you’re not interested in. (Older or crazy)

And chances are the women you are interested in (young and attractive) don’t need help getting relationships.

It’s the same with men. The guys who look for advice are the ones who don’t have success in dating. And if you looked at the successful guys who get all the women. I’m sure there’s a lady out there thinking “this guy won’t commit. Why isn’t there advice aimed at him to convince him to improve himself, so he’ll settle down?”

People are complex, and there’s lots of groups. Self improvement is good for everyone, but most people don’t recognize they need it until they hit barriers. Women and men who get attention, don’t recognize barriers.

mmsbva · 2021-11-29T00:57:48+00:00

Women have been conditioned since birth about “how to get that man”. Every teen magazine is about looks, makeup, getting his attention. Women’s magazines are all about how to be incredible in bed to keep your man.

Women do not have impossible standards. Most women I know, myself included, have dated ugly or overweight men. But they had something about them that made them attractive. (And none of them had money) Confidence, intelligence, sense of humor, etc.

Former_Translator_65 · 2021-11-28T18:47:42+00:00

"Women have it just as hard as men" 😂

w1gw4m · 2021-12-12T05:28:09+00:00

They are not, you just exclusively consume content geared towards men.

radiomoskva1991 · 2021-11-28T05:27:57+00:00

Because the reality is women will always have options. I know this is ex red pill, but it’s the truth. Women are always viable for reproduction. We men are not.

Nk-O · 2021-11-28T10:10:26+00:00

Was with you until the first half. Women have way higher standards when it comes to dating and they are also much less negotionable standards than the men have towards women.

So imo a lot is a self-created / self-exaggerated problem. You're right though that women need more advice to select more reasonable and not wait for the ultimate dream-prince while being a mediocre, normal person. (Which is totally fine btw!)

But from my experience, this is "misogynistic" when men say it and women themselves give their female friends (apparently) not working advice. There are even women who (sadly) just slutshame other women instead of supporting them.

Title	Why do dating problems and fixing yourself always seem to be centered around men and not women?
Author	spankyourkopita
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Comments	14
Date	November 27, 2021 9:06 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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