Did you ever get this gut feeling?

Hateorade_ · 2021-11-22T16:14:21+00:00

I’ve had this gut feeling before. I’ve also felt this in my stomach every time I would see my now ex LVM—I though it was the bUttErFliEs due to having been excited to see him. But I realized something: whenever I see my best girlfriends, my parents, any family that I have a good relationship with, I never feel like that. They make me secure and I know our relationships are two sided and honest. I feel comfortable with them and I know we cherish our company. I was with a couple of my girlfriends for dinner yesterday and it was amazing how calm we all felt, we were just enjoying each other’s presence and having good conversation.

What you’re feeling is a gut feeling. You sensing fear towards someone is your body telling you to stay far away from this person.

edwardianemerald · 2021-11-22T17:11:08+00:00

This has happened to me multiple times.

If you feel like a weight is lifted when this person is not around, this person is bad for you and you should keep your distance.

If this person smells bad / terrible to you (I know, weird), your body is reacting to the hormones / pheromones the person gives off. Or, you know, you just shouldn't hang with smelly people.

Bottom line: listen to your body. It's the product of centuries of survival!

Healingpickme · 2021-11-22T16:35:40+00:00

I had the gut feeling when I first saw the guy that will become my abuser. His face looked evil. His face was expressionless. I felt uneasy but ignored my intuition. Now, I am in therapy. Ladies, listen to your intuition.

staywiththecrown · 2021-11-22T17:03:37+00:00

I didn't have a gut feeling, but I did feel TENSE all over when I first met him. My face couldn't even relax, and I felt like my smiles were forced, but I told myself, "It's nothing. You're just nervous 🤡" Turns out he was a horrible guy.

Junior-Lion7893 · 2021-11-22T17:50:24+00:00

Yes!

It’s like the pins and needles sensation, and I get this chilly sensation.

I think it gets progressively worse as I ignore the feeling. My body will start telling me in other ways.

I started getting acne, headaches, stomachaches, and lumps in throat. Funny how those things went away when I broke up with him.

HighPriestess31 · 2021-11-22T17:43:00+00:00

I often get this feeling. I used to question myself, and believed I should give people the benefit of the doubt/not judge so quickly. Well, every time I've done that it turned out my instinct was correct and they were a**holes. So now, I listen to my gut. This is your body's way of warning you against dangerous people/situations.

lansburysoda · 2021-11-22T18:50:28+00:00

When you feel that way, don’t question it. You don’t need to parse out every single interaction or dissect your relationship into pieces to understand it. You just have to trust it and follow it.

If your intuition is telling you something is wrong, RUN.

My intuition has never been wrong. I had that feeling when I was on a date (before I was date raped) and I thought it was just me being “nervous” for no reason. I had that feeling when I dated a NVM who seemed amazing but ended up being a serial cheater and compulsive liar.

When your gut tells you something is wrong, IT IS WRONG. RUN.

Learning to trust yourself no matter what is one of the toughest things we can do as women when we’ve been socialized to do the opposite, but our intuition exists for a reason—to save our lives.

TherulerT · 2021-11-22T18:32:39+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_of_Fear

That book is about trusting instincts and fear.

Over-Needleworker-19 · 2021-11-22T16:39:32+00:00

I’m reading the Gift of Fear and one thing the books talks about is trusting your intuition. It talks about how we subconsciously notice things and they give us a bad feeling. Good read

sophisticunt69 · 2021-11-22T15:41:55+00:00

That’s your gut. You don’t have to listen to it but definitely don’t ignore it. Personally every time I have it’s always blown up in my face dating-wise.

askmeabouttheforest · 2021-11-22T18:43:31+00:00

Run.

Also: when you "don't know how you feel", you do know how you feel, you would just prefer not to feel that way.

And yes, the Gift of Fear is a great book, should be read by everyone.

Run fast and run far is my two cents. Good luck.

rolledtacos · 2021-11-22T15:56:59+00:00

always trust it. in my experience it’s never been wrong. some men give me legit anxiety bc they have such a forceful energy to them.

scorchedsouI · 2021-11-22T21:04:27+00:00

Yes, the human ability to reason is considered to be our greatest trait, but because of it we can be easily manipulated and fooled. "Logic" is often a subjective thing, and twisted thinking can easily become accepted using persuasive, "logical" arguments.

Human intuition never lies, and it can never be fooled, never, not even once. Not by the greatest actor or manipulator in the world. It's a primitive kind of intelligence and humans can't outsmart it.

Sometimes people don't listen to it, or are entirely disconnected from it, but that's something else.

GlitteryMoss · 2021-11-22T19:57:05+00:00

What you describe sounds scary AF, and I'd run for the hills, so there would be NO friendship or relationship. Sounds to me your inner instinct was screaming. Listen to it. Please.

emperornerovevo · 2021-11-23T08:06:50+00:00

We had both been drunk the first time we met, but if I hadn't been my instincts might have been a bit stronger. Every time we saw each other after that I was super jumpy and nervous around him. He was a fast talker and had high energy, so I thought it might have just been that, but every time I was with him I was on-edge.

The last time I went to his place I was literally shaking and sweating. He gave me a glass of water and my hands were shaking so much it clattered against the coffee table when I set it down. I've never been such a nervous wreck before in my life, and I still can barely believe it was instigated by a man I thought I was in love with. Rip to the old me, may the lessons she learned guide me well.

Title	Did you ever get this gut feeling?
Author	cryptographicbot
Upvotes	180
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Date	November 22, 2021 3:39 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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