How do you approach the topic of what you're interested in sexually to make sure that you will be compatible without seeming like you're going to put out on the first date or like you just want to hook up?

Context: I identify as a domme (in the bedroom - I do not believe your kinks/fantasies translate to real life dynamics or that this conflicts with RPW ideals.) There are certainly many sexually submissive men out there, but it is a smaller proportion of the population (around 10% of men) and I want to make sure I'm not wasting my time or his considering only 1 in 10 men I would presumably date would be a good match on just this singular topic, let alone all the other important attributes...

I also would not want to wait until we had dated for like 2 months just to find out we are not compatible in this way. I would appreciate any thoughts/advice on how to approach this problem.