Put Yourself First. Why Being an Asshole is a Good Thing.

Angry_runt · 2022-02-01T07:19:28+00:00

So be a jerk and grab their ass. Got it.

I love the point about how being "nice" is safe and low effort. It's my default behavior precisely because I don't have to think about it. It also creates a sort of a barrier or formality that drains any playfulness and energy from any interaction.

harrypoppy1 · 2022-02-01T06:47:58+00:00

Vaz walked in 2022 and said I chose violence.

Quality post after quality post for years. And let me say this: your posts on Corporate Land especially about interviews has landed me plenty of offers over the years. I’ve tripled my income learning how to interview better cause of Uncle Vaz.

Protocol_Apollo · 2022-02-01T09:15:51+00:00

Think I borrowed a variation of the spanking line from you:

“Why do I get a feeling your ex didn’t spank you enough?”

“Wow, your ex clearly didn’t spank you enough”.

Might try your variation though.

MattyAnon · 2022-02-01T11:29:32+00:00

Love it and totally agree: being the asshole means not deferring to nor prioritising women.

Women are so privileged that a man not prioritising her gender's preferred mating strategy is deemed "an asshole".

"Asshole" is girlspeak for "sexy asshole", while pretending to betas that she disapproves. It's kinda cunning, but now painfully transparent.

LanterQ1 · 2022-02-01T14:16:34+00:00

I needed to read this.

Kept getting ghosted, flaked every time I'd get a babe's number and now I know why.

I was too nice, I'd always ask her how she's doing and when she wants to hangout.

I was a total fucking sap, too fucking beta, a bit too nice when I spoke to cute girls.

I'll become the asshole you've described so damn well.

Thank you bro u/VasiliyZaitzev

I also have a personal question for you:

How often do you recommend hitting the gym?

5 or 6 days a week?

I want to personally ask you this because I need to build more muscle and get rid of this extra belly fat.

Glassland · 2022-02-01T08:39:40+00:00

Quality post, like the old days. Newly arrives betas will try to tear this down, because that is what crabs in a bucket do.

omega_dawg93 · 2022-02-01T11:21:29+00:00

lol... TB might grab more ass than i do, and that's a LOT.

fellas, when you're in a relationship with a woman, GRAB.HER.ASS. all the time. IDK what it does to them, but my girl can't walk past me without getting a slap, squeeze, or rub on dat booty.

they know it's coming... want it... and will often wait for it.

OTOH, when she's acting like a bitch, i don't grab it = my physical way of showing that her behavior is not acceptable to me and that i'm NOT happy and do NOT want to touch her.

when i'm not grabbing, she knows that she's in the wrong place with me... and usually straightens up her behavior quick.

Accomplished-Faux · 2022-02-02T07:28:24+00:00

Can confirm the "Possession of the Ass is 9/10th of the Law".

Had a LTR that would physically move my hand to her ass if it wasn't on it already during parties, gatherings etc.

Her words, honest to God: "It feels wrong if your hand ISN'T on my butt."

2022-02-01T09:23:05+00:00

Great post best I’ve seen in a good while.

Discovering TRP is one of the best things to happen to me, it really destroyed my blue pill world view of expecting to find a perfect girl to marry and who will be loyal to me and how to get women I just needed to be a nice guy who is always around and reassuring her.

Now I just don’t care about keeping women around and I certainly don’t care what they think of me. Funnily enough this seems to be what keeps them around, embracing redpill ideas is a type of freedom that nothing else can give you.

rhunting · 2022-02-01T12:10:44+00:00

In Vaz and Future we trust

EveryExcitement · 2022-02-01T14:45:16+00:00

This is good and can be summarized as “put yourself first, always, and anytime, unless in bed”

BestOrNothing · 2022-02-01T19:15:51+00:00

Putting yourself first is not being an asshole. Not putting yourself first is being an asshole.

Woujo · 2022-02-02T04:30:09+00:00

I don't disagree with the content of this post, but I do disagree with the terminology.

A man who puts himself first and does not do shit for women they do not deserve is not an asshole, and you should not think of yourself as one or let a woman call you that. Part of the betafication of men is letting women call them "assholes" for perfectly reasonable behavior. If a woman calls you an asshole or not taking her on vacation or committing to her, your answer should be "I'm not an asshole." In fact, a woman that calls you an asshole for putting yourself first is the asshole.

You owe a woman only 2 things;

Do not intentionally go out of your way to hurt her unless she is physically attacking you and you need to defend yourself.
Do not lie to her or break your promises to her.

Anything else you give her is out of the pure goodness of your heart, and if she calls you an "asshole" because you will not give her more, you either laugh or put her in timeout (e.g., ignore her) if she is being unpleasant about it.

1hatethis · 2022-02-01T12:52:46+00:00

I’d add two things to this:

a) Young innocent looking girls and not so young but still innocent looking ones it’s harder to be a dick to the way described here. Regardless the response is going to be the same

b) A woman you’ve been seeing if she’s on her way out or plain shit testing you will bring up shit like you don’t talk to me nice etc. Don’t buy it. If you change it up even if she’s asking for it you will fail the test or accelerate her dropping you

SalporinRP · 2022-02-01T16:30:31+00:00

Two gems in two days - Damn!

I wouldn't say my game before TRP was "nice guy game" but it certainly wasn't optimized as well as it could have been. I didn't take enough risks - for example, I wouldn't make the conversation sexually charged often enough.

I did fine with women because I was always in good shape and I was always social, but I definitely wasn't doing as well as I could have been.

Took TRP's dating advice on many fronts:

making the date an emotional experience.
push/pull
making the conversation sexually charged

and so on and so on.

My dating life skyrocketed.

And as you stated in your intro, "asshole game" doesn't actually mean you are an asshole.

Kilatypus · 2022-02-01T17:43:24+00:00

I've been learning that the culmination of an incel, which is really just a nice guy who has finally had enough, or a white-knight who heel-switched, as well as a culmination of a player or asshole: it all has to do with reaching a character milestone due to the daily habits you adopt and the results that come from it.

Simply put, guys who try to get pussy and fail repeatedly eventually grow to be bitter, resentful, and slowly start their path to becoming an incel, which eventually leads to hatred that can translate into them going off the rails and doing something heinous.

As opposed to the man who is a player or an "asshole", who sated his biological urges and was able to succeed in having a desirable sex life, who now has goals bigger than pleasures of the flesh, who may end up contributing a net positive to society.

All because he prioritized himself enough to feel content with his life. You'll be surprised at how many people want to give back to the world once they have their needs met.

It's not completely unfounded to say that our communities would do so much better if they allowed men to be taught the Red Pill, to prevent them from becoming incels and dragging the world down with their bottomless pessimism.

Sometimes, the kindest thing a person can do is be selfish.

donaldcargill · 2022-02-02T00:43:39+00:00

I approached a girl got her number she was busy when I offered a day and time and so she suggested a new day and time. The day comes I say I'm here she says ???? I'm confused when I tell her we agreed to meet. I nexed her but boy it was hard to not go crawling back. Can anyone tell me how long it will take for the internal beta to go away?

Xexitar · 2022-02-01T10:00:45+00:00

Good post, but honestly what's the point? Women are a waste of energy. The more I read these essays, the more I see women as a net loss. For people so concerned about the grind, spend an exorbitant amount of time in bars talking to lesser minds, curating ways to get their dick wet instead of bettering yourself internally, which is the only way to achieve long term happiness.

I see people commenting "I'm 6"5 and only got laid once in 10 years will it ever get better".. not until you see a fucking therapist. No amount of gains or faking it will convince you you're not a worthless turd if that's how you see yourself, that's the aura you'll project. You can be 5"5 and project mastery. You need the right mindset, then everything else will fall into place.

We should be teaching our boys the value of self love, then they might become enlightened enough to realise 99% of women aren't worth a millisecond of their day.

Beginning-Finding468 · 2022-02-01T10:45:18+00:00

I think this kind of game is effective in isolated sets and/or social settings that you are well known. But in mixed social groups that dont know you , who re gonna be met with a TON of shit tests, shaming, even aggression in some cases. So be careful. If you have balls of steel , can dodge shit test like Neo and have good physical presence , then by all means go for it. If you are successful , the profit is HUGE. High risk , high reward.

smartscience · 2022-02-01T21:01:41+00:00

Another trap I've seen some men fall for is to decide that "women go for jerks", but then become the wrong kind of jerk, because they haven't stopped to ask what exactly it is that the jerks are doing right. They're bitter and vindictive, rather than the self-important and overconfident vibe that would help them much better.

Gidanocitiahisyt · 2022-02-02T17:48:42+00:00

'Feminists Think Sexist Men Are Sexier Than "Woke" Men'

That article you linked deserves its own TRP post. I found the concept of benevolent sexism pretty interesting.

2022-02-03T04:55:10+00:00

Thank you Uncle Vas. I realised ive been doing something wrong and this showed me it.

Low-Ad5488 · 2022-02-01T20:52:32+00:00

Uncle Vaz you never fail to drop a banger thanks man.

byteseed · 2022-02-01T08:04:48+00:00

What if jerkery it is not in your character? I feel like following your advice creates an unbalance between feelings and behavior. I have tried to do the shit with ass slapping and so on, and I felt huge inconsistency between internal state and what I am doing. It comes out as an act, which expects a certain reaction, the most Beta behavior out there.

If you care at some point and put a mask that you are not caring, girls see through the act. It destroys attraction even more.

PrinterGoesBrrr · 2022-02-01T07:41:29+00:00

thats the most beta shit ive read in a while and i only read the title

Counter_Proposition · 2022-02-03T18:46:30+00:00

Links to the archive.is site are all dead, FYI.

puralogica · 2022-02-06T21:22:22+00:00

It's all matter of look.

Asshole handsome guy: high desired.

Asshole bad-looking guy: ranting incel.

GitGud_Pirates_Inc · 2022-04-20T01:03:33+00:00

Bro I saw some guy do that to a dude and then he walked away... Then he came back and acted like nothing happened. Fucking hilarious, self respect doesn't exist for him

Title	Put Yourself First. Why Being an Asshole is a Good Thing.
Author	VasiliyZaitzev
Upvotes	520
Comments	131
Date	February 1, 2022 6:36 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/shobls/put_yourself_first_why_being_an_asshole_is_a_good/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/put-yourself-first-why-being-an-asshole-is-a-good.1098555 https://theredarchive.com/post/1098555

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