I woke up in a mischievous mood today. So yes confirm every single coffee date and low effort date right down to the minute of yea "Im here where are you" you say "one minute away". In that one minute you roll over unmatch and continue your day. If he asks you for a house date, especially "let me cook you dinner" go as far as "just got out of my uber he dropped me off kinda far I will be two minutes. Walking over." and then you unmatch and eat your sushi and wine to an episode of your favourite show. Leave him and his left over noodles and hotdogs scratching his balls. You are a on a night out and he is like " Im out too but oh drop by and we can share a glass wine it would be nice to meet you" say yea totally " I can meet you at your place in 30 min let me know when you are home, I hope we will be alone", and when he lets you know he is home (because he will leave his night out for free effortless sex), you are on your way for an hour (while you are enjoying your night out, even passing your phone to your g.fs so that they can help you lie) before you eventually un-match and leave him with his blueballs. You get the gist. LOL.

Is this cruel yes, is this unfair yes, but nothing about dating kind especially to women. Men have no problem leading you on, having sex with and then ghosting you without remorse. Men will leave their pregnant wives/gfs, wives with young children, wives of 20 years sometimes with no rhyme or reason and again no remorse. When this happens everyone arounds you gaslights you that you must have seen this coming, you missed this or that, you should 've , not all men etc etc. But these are just justifications for evil that people use to cope because we have normalized co-existing with this level of inhuman wickedness.

Coffee and walking dates (and everything free) have dating in 2022 in a chokehold. No matter what there is a camp of men and sadly women who swear by this. Same with OLD. Everyone knows it low effort, could be dangerous and truly an utter waste of time but there is always a but there is always someone with an exception. I truly hope women on this sub and everywhere who have found diamonds in the rough of low effort /OLD understand they are the exception and not the rule. If there were many exceptions it would be the rule.

BTW my strategy at the beginning is just for laughs. One day when I have a lot of time I will do it especially the guys who like to package like they are worth the time and out of nowhere spring their cheapness on you hoping you will go along with it because you are emotionally invested, oh they especially deserve that treatment. But its not worth it. Because cheap people will always find a way and you really cannot change anyone. Only the very dumb still propose coffee dates they know we have caught on, innovative cheap guys want to become your friend. They play the long game because they know women are generous with friends. You are comfortable with him in your space etc, he listens he is kind...He is just unavailable for some reason until one random night at you weakness he is available for sex but dont get it wrong he cant be in a relationship and you as his friend understand. For older ladies cheapness is the new impowerment. He is your ally, he believes in equal pay etc, he can even cook, but he believes in 50/50. Or if you plan the date you pay. Only he never plans any dates. He likes to be at home, with you sucking on his... because his love language is quality time and physical touch. Or as soon as you love him "he falls down on his luck" and you are the supportive gf who is later turned to bitter wife. You know the drill.

Anyways I didnt mean to make this post long but I hope you got a good chuckle and I hope you dont get stressed over no d. You are valuable ladies, dont forget the diamond in you, no matter how many times the world has tried to chip at it you are still a indestructable. Keep shining !!