Do certain areas or physical spaces in public trigger you?

InternalEmu1477 · 2022-04-18T10:10:31+00:00

It's just a temporary blip. You have been triggered and you had an emotional flashback.

You will be probably fine in a few days if you had a long(ish) OK period before.

Google these, there are ways to deal with emotional flashbacks.

not_a_paper_pusher · 2022-04-18T21:17:37+00:00

I’d say trust your intuition about that waiter saying bye.

I painted my living room this weekend and I’m having an uneasy reaction to the colour because it’s the same colour as my old living room where I started to process my trauma over a year ago. I’ve been out today for paint samples in a completely different colour.

Emotional flashbacks can be caused by the smallest thing, I wish you all the best in processing everything you’ve been through.

mashibeans · 2022-04-19T01:33:40+00:00

Loads of people love to gaslight women in these type of situations, and let me tell you: After being on this earth for around 40 years, it's reaaaaally easy for the gut to know whether a dude is being suggestive, or is being merely friendly.

I'm nowhere near as experienced in the romantic scene as other fellow women, but at this point even I know when a dude is trying to "test the waters" which is the more subtle way for them to see if you're open game.

If you felt uncomfortable, trust that feeling. I mean, even if it's a trigger or not, the fact is that in a situation where you ignored it and something happened, people would most likely blame you, the woman, for not "realizing it earlier" or whatever victim-blaming bullshit.

I'm in the "better safe than sorry" camp, which includes "better be paranoid than end up used, abused or in a ditch."

thinktwiceorelse · 2022-04-18T16:23:44+00:00

Yes, I really don't like metro and metro stations overall and I hate going on my own. I was sexually assaulted in there, and I have these flashbacks all the time.

c_a_t_lady · 2022-04-18T10:58:07+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you, and I think that's an understandable reaction to it.

I always feel a bit uneasy in a certain neighbourhood, where a while ago I had an uncomfortable encounter with a man who seemed threatening and was possibly a bit intoxicated. Not to go into the specifics of the situation, but it was pretty late (around 8 pm), there weren't really people around and I felt genuinely scared and thought he could hurt me. I have to be in the area quite often, but always when I am there, I'm quite timid.

2022-04-18T08:15:31+00:00

I'd say listen to your gut about that place, if you feel uneasy, for any reason, trust yourself. Don't go back there.

spicyspa · 2022-04-19T01:49:47+00:00

I get scared when places that usually have some amount of noise, crickets, wind etc go completely silent. I've been in places where there's no echo when there should be one. I usually take off. I think that animals and insects can tell when a predator is around based on smell and movements and go silent. I have no proof and I don't want to get proof in this situation.

finalbosskitten · 2022-04-19T05:04:17+00:00

It's because our bodies, minds are just being rational and when we feel that thrown out of whack around someone, it's meaningful. Like the others say, it is a setback and you'll bounce back. However, I advise maybe looking into stuff like eustress and resilience. Maybe it's off color to suggest, but...essentially, it's a burgeoning field of research that shows someone is actually able to condition themselves to handle high-stress/flight situations more, including on a physiological level. Suggesting it mostly because I have had one abuser in my life, a distant family member, and honestly no amount of thinking about it ever helped me. Helping myself get more resilient in general? Yep, helped tons.

Erocitnam · 2022-04-19T09:14:35+00:00

That sounds like ptsd. Something about the place reminded you of him, like you said, and that made your body/subconscious feel unsafe.

Title	Do certain areas or physical spaces in public trigger you?
Author	Throwawaylikehay
Upvotes	84
Comments	12
Date	April 18, 2022 7:51 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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