My father is on the red pill and losing his mind.

notaslaaneshicultist · 2022-07-13T12:57:24+00:00

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notaslaaneshicultist · 2022-07-13T12:28:24+00:00

Let him burn his life down, just don't get burned yourself

It's amazing what a man will destroy just to prove his manhood to himself

capricorndyke · 2022-07-13T13:19:10+00:00

lol guy goes redpill for 2-3 years and is now an expert and can write a book.

Well there isn't much that can be done. The only thing you can do is set boundaries with him. You can tell him you don't want to discuss what he is doing with whatever flavour of the month. You can tell him whatever else you are not willing to discuss.

It is difficult when you have a family member who does something you don't agree with. I am a bit of an eccentric person who does things or believes in things my family thinks is crazy. It can hurt when we butt heads so you kind of just have to have some boundaries. Some distance may help as well if possible. Sometimes less phone calls and visits can help for a bit. A lot of things can circulate around in your brain so make sure you take care of yourself and your surround yourself in a positive environment away from whatever mess he has going on.

DocGlabella · 2022-07-13T15:39:59+00:00

My dad has been sucked into the manosphere too. He's 76! I was always proud of how well he navigates the internet and now it's a double edged sword. Mostly, he just complains about how he read on Reddit about how much women cheat, how they get bored, how they leave for no reason. It's actually more MGTOW in flavor than redpill.

The sad thing is I know what's happened. He had three marriages before the age of 35 and none of them worked out so he quit trying with women forty years ago. Now as he's nearing the end of his life, he has to make sense of that choice, to justify that it is still the right one, because now he's old and lonely. As a woman, it hurts to watch.

jacklivesmatter · 2022-07-13T15:41:53+00:00

it's always the divorced men. no wonder a lot of redpill coaches are divorced and bitter. instead of going to therapy and improving their mental health, they go down this route

Graineon · 2022-07-13T12:58:54+00:00

I think it's important for you to concern yourself with your own life and your own happiness, and let him be as he wants to be

jacklivesmatter · 2022-07-13T13:05:10+00:00

I suggest as a first step writing a letter to him. Write down all your feelings about what he's doing and why it's alienating him from you and anyone else.

You don't necessarily have to give him this letter, but it will let you get some catharsis. If you o decide to give if to him, at least you won't have to be around for his rage.

jacklivesmatter · 2022-07-13T20:27:52+00:00

Let him experience this hell. He will learn the hard way, I’m sure of that. No offense to your father, but he deserves the consequences of his actions.

Snivelingincel · 2022-07-13T12:43:45+00:00

I’m very curious as to what your father has to write about. What has been so important in his relationships with women that he feels the need to share it with the world? Perhaps ask him about his experiences that are driving him down this path.

sfalgo · 2022-07-14T05:48:52+00:00

Tricking out like they are sending him money? If they are sending him money every month, he should definitely finish the book.

redditiasausagefest · 2022-07-17T10:19:25+00:00

I think it's pretty clear how and why he ended up divorced.

vcreativ · 2022-07-13T12:27:15+00:00

Forgive me, but I suspect it's a good thing you're not living at his place.

In short, no I don't think you'll be able to help him, and nor should you. He's an adult that's more than 20 years your senior (at a guess) and you describe him as having narcissistic tendencies including rage when disagreed with.

The issue he's having is that to a point he's discovered a working strategy based on deception and materials.

So don't read it. And let him write all the books he likes. And honestly, the less time you spend with them, the better probably. You don't notice the pull of the information you're subjected to while you're in a situation you'd describe as "a healthy love life".

It's what you do once life put you down that matters, not what you feel like doing while in a happy space.

jacklivesmatter · 2022-07-13T20:36:20+00:00

I’m not going to lie, when I was on the red pill, I even wanted to write a book about it as well😂. More specifically, a fiction book about Hypergamy. How delusional I was.

CheerfulParadox · 2022-07-13T18:34:28+00:00

a_aniq · 2022-07-13T15:57:55+00:00

Live and let live. Don't do anything which you don't want to face. Improve yourself, but don't do something you're not. If you are good, you will get good girls. And the same goes for bad guys.

Lawyer18550 · 2022-07-13T12:00:49+00:00

How is he delusional if he got his woman back? I would not say that it is a delusion if you succeed in what you want to achieve. That's a good recipe for him, let him do what he wants. Free world

JLCpbfspbfspbfs · 2022-07-14T11:30:22+00:00

If you are hoping to change his outlook, you will NOT accomplish this by arguing or debunking his rhetoric, which sucks because that would make combating the spread of this obnoxious ideology very easy.

You're likely going to have to get him to address his emotional issues directly, which is a HELL of a lot easier said than done.

I totally understand the responses that say you should just distance yourself and get dragged down and it's a totally justifiable position. Your dad is a grown man and you're not responsible for his bullshit.

However, if you still want to pull him out of this awful mindset knowing all that, I'd suggest reading into Smart politics, which while this is geared specifically towards talking to relatives who are Trump cultists, I think it applies to your situation as well.

https://www.joinsmart.org/media/

Title	My father is on the red pill and losing his mind.
Author	jacklivesmatter
Upvotes	59
Comments	57
Date	July 13, 2022 10:39 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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