Had to cut my hair short, my bf prefers it long. So sad.

KombuchaEnema · 2022-07-20T19:57:54+00:00

Okay, separate your feelings.

You are personally upset because you prefer your hair long, but medical issues have forced you to cut it. Anytime a medical issue forces you to do something you wouldn’t otherwise want to do, that’s very stressful and sometimes even traumatic. So you’re going to feel upset and violated and horrible.

Recognize that feeling for what it is and contain it. Put a marker around its borders and separate it from the other issue, which is:

You’re afraid your boyfriend won’t be attracted to you

He said you look great. If he’s a good man and he knows about your medical issues, he’s not going to leave you or stop loving you over a haircut.

I think what happened is that you were forced to cut your hair due to a medical issue and this has made you feel out of control. And now you’re worried about other aspects of your life (your boyfriend) being out of control as well.

Step back. Take a breath. I understand because I have long hair too and it honestly feels like a part of you and losing it feels like losing a part of yourself.

It’s okay to mourn your hair and feel horrible, but don’t let that horrible feeling reinforce your fear that he’s going to stop being attracted to you over this.

Trust him. Put your faith in him. He could hurt you right now by losing attraction to you over your hair. This is the origin of your fear. The only thing to do is be vulnerable, be kind to yourself, and trust that he will be kind to you as well.

c_a_l_m · 2022-07-20T20:13:34+00:00

Even more than the hair, he loves your desire to please him---which is still very intact!

Dapper-Reality-418 · 2022-07-21T08:23:10+00:00

Your hair length doesn't define you beauty. A healthy hair has way more worth than long-damaged hair so that must be your priority, you did the right thing and hair will eventually grow!

jenna_grows · 2022-07-21T13:24:13+00:00

I do think it’s a little callous he said he preferred your longer hair knowing that you had to cut it as a result of health issues. I’m sure he didn’t mean it badly and I wouldn’t take it to heart. Your hair will be long again soon and this time it’ll be healthy and you will maintain it in that way and all will be well.

pieorstrudel5 · 2022-07-21T00:54:23+00:00

I have avoided a bigger chop that is much needed for hair health because my boyfriend dislikes short hair. I personally think my hair looks best at shoulder length. But I have told him that I think the ends are going to demand a significant cut Soon and he understands. I ordered a silk bonnet and have started researching ways to grow hair long and healthy. I don't mind my hair long, but I want it to look healthy. I have thick wavy hair.... So it's just a beast to take care of in general.

Blaadje-in-de-wind · 2022-07-21T13:38:33+00:00

If he says you look great, you shouldnt worry about him being less attracted to you.

northernbelle96 · 2022-07-21T16:30:40+00:00

Just relax, hair will grow, he is not a child, also just because he prefers your hair long doesn't mean he will be totally turned off by your new haircut.

My fiance decidedly prefers long hair too but shortly after we met I had to cut everything off due to damage from bleaching/coloring, and I decided to go full pixie (24mm all around). He went with me through all the stages of growing out your hair, and he is still with me and our sexlife wasn't affected either. It's just hair

MamaYelloww · 2022-07-21T02:03:49+00:00

Use a wig it’s not a big deal

Raspy410 · 2022-07-21T13:22:33+00:00

Let me tell you some of my favorite products that really helped my damaged hair grow, my hair also grows really slow and used to never grow past my shoulders, it took about 3 years for me to get to where I am now, my hair goes below my boobs, Im trying to grow it to my waist. I’ve been taking Hairburst vitamins and that has really helped, however my hair didn’t grow as quick as their website advertises (which does it ever really?). Try to only use heat no more than 3 times a week and when you do always always use a heat protectant. Nexxus Damage remedy is THE BEST shampoo I’ve used for damage and I’ve tried them all, even the pricey brands. It’s a 10 leave in conditioner has also been a staple in my routine for many years. If you dye your hair try getting highlights or a balayage because you can go longer in between salons visits instead of every 4-6 weeks.

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2022-07-21T17:40:00+00:00

Your hair will grow back!

MOSFETBJT · 2022-07-21T19:00:02+00:00

I’m sure you still look beautiful and your bf still likes you

Theyogithatcould · 2022-07-22T05:28:38+00:00

Can you try clip in extensions? Luxy has some good seamless ones. Clip ins wont damage your hair.

Title	Had to cut my hair short, my bf prefers it long. So sad.
Author	LoveWitchXo
Upvotes	19
Comments	20
Date	July 20, 2022 7:22 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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