There’s no winning if you want to date a non-promiscuous woman

anon018274031 · 2022-08-13T22:01:04+00:00

‘Non promiscuous’ woman here. I would probably consider any man with a body count below 10? But it’s more about the person and their values then the number.

Also you really need to touch the grass mate. PLENTY of women in their 20’s have body counts of literally like 5. The average in my friendship group is probably about 4-5. Most have had 2ish LTR and then a few ONS/FWB. It’s not some rare thing like you are making it out to be

2022-08-13T22:06:28+00:00

Dude - the vast majority of people have 10 or fewer lifetime sexual partners.

Iirc the average is 5-6.

Only a small number of people are having a heap of anonymous sexual encounters.

What you see online isn’t borne out by reality.

MarBitt · 2022-08-13T22:05:46+00:00

Establish your values, principles and priorities. Follow them.

Don't follow what others are doing, be yourself.

trippingfingers · 2022-08-13T21:50:05+00:00

If you “save yourself” as a male, you end up looking like a loser in your 20’s who didn’t have sex because he simply couldn’t get laid.

According to whom? I don't see this irl.

Furthermore you have to watch as more and more of your peers explore dating and sex, while you wait for something that isn’t a guarantee to begin with.

Correct. You could also not "save yourself" which is a harmful and outdated poorly defended and defined conservative religious way to describe "waiting to have sex."

If you have sex with many women, then you become a hypocrite,

Only if you slut-shame women

I couldn’t care less about fucking a ton of girls, I would much rather find one girl who didn’t have an extensive list of non-committal sexual exploits I didn’t have to try and forget about.

Here's a pro-tip: start forgetting about it ahead of time by releasing yourself from whatever cultural bonds you have to the idea that "more sex = evil woman"

if I should just try and spend my 20s having as much fun as possible like everyone else seems to do before they commit to someone.

Not everyone, just the people you envy. And it's not necessarily all cake and roses for them either. Life is full of fun and also hard stuff. Go do the stuff you want to do because there's genuinely no point in following made-up rules for no reason.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2022-08-13T21:55:32+00:00

The idea is to have some experience but not too much that you look a fuckboy. As long as you are in the single digits to low 10's, non- promiscuous women won't turn you down for a relationship. Most women regardless of n count want a man who has some kind of sexual experience. As far as being a male virgin goes, I'm sorry but there is absolutely no benefit to it.

SaucySascha · 2022-08-13T21:58:35+00:00

Tbh casual sex is not worth it and if i could turn back time i would have kept my virginity, even tho i had countless virgin girls so far. Hookup culture is harmful and should be abolished. by force if necessary.

itmethrowaway12 · 2022-08-13T21:44:43+00:00

yeah it doesnt make any sense. dont buy their bs

drew8311 · 2022-08-13T22:01:47+00:00

Can't you do both? If you aren't finding your perfect woman have some fun in the meantime. It's not an either or choice. Plus women are the ones who say N count doesn't matter so you shouldn't worry about that on your end, it's just building experience as far as your concerned, no one is denied a job for having experience.

vogel777 · 2022-08-13T21:56:55+00:00

Is this really a topic we can debate? What can I say, boo hoo poor you? 😢 Do what you like it sounds like your not capable of healthy relationships anyway, too paranoid.

HuckleberryThis2012 · 2022-08-13T22:18:11+00:00

Dude this is absurd, first off define what you mean by promiscuous. Do you mean consistently? What if a girl was promiscuous 1 time but that time she slept with 4 guys? What if a woman slept with an average of 1 man a year who she made wait 4 months before they slept together? Her number could be high for some ppl but she never approached sex promiscuously. It’s all arbitrary cut offs. If you don’t want to think about who your girl has been with then don’t. Don’t even ask. Life rule #83: don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to.

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2022-08-13T22:16:37+00:00

In a sexually emancipated culture, women will satiate their sexual urges with..sex.

Either find a religious women, move to a super conservative country or invest in a really good flesh light.

svt765 · 2022-08-13T22:27:09+00:00

You end up looking like a loser to whom exactly? I hear this quite often from guys, is it your friend group? Future girlfriend? Can't you just make some story up if it's too "embarrasing"? You've already been with one girl + "had one or two hook ups and realized it's basically wet masturbation and you need some connection". Now you're definitely not a loser, you've been "enlightened".

I was once on a date with a guy who told me he has an n-count of around 10, he didn't even remember the exact number or people (we are both in our early 20s)... there was no second date. I'd much rather prefer a nerdy guy who's too busy with his computers or whatever, doesn't fuck around and we choose each other. Having casual sex just so you can say you've had casual sex can be pretty damaging, yes even for men.

Title	There’s no winning if you want to date a non-promiscuous woman
Author	Salt-Echo-7867
Upvotes	1
Comments	29
Date	August 13, 2022 9:42 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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