Fiancee wants space. Vent/advice

Tyred_Biggums · 2022-08-23T21:01:15+00:00

“I Used to Be Alpha and the Curious Case of Oneitis”

SaltyGeekyLifter · 2022-08-23T22:38:44+00:00

Ok. If you’re a PT and in great shape, I have to say some of the advice here (“start lifting”) is bogus. Because you already lift.

I think your problem is that at 35 you aren’t a man yet.

The most important thing is reading the MRP sidebar and STFU. Start working through them all. Expect to have to read those books several times. There are other books you’ll find too. Read them. Take what is useful and discard the rest.

Learn what a MAP is. Run it.

And take your time. Read, read, read. It takes time for this shit to sink in.

AlohaMaui808 · 2022-08-23T21:09:14+00:00

Read the MRP Sidebar. Not the TRP sidebar, which makes you a validation seeking, no mental point of origin having, ONS machine.

Relationships are Red Pill on hard mode for a reason, you cant LARP in a LTR. You suck at being a part of a relationship because you've been playing Easy Mode the whole time.

First step is to get over your obvious Oneitis for this girl.

You'll find info on that in the MRP Sidebar.

Second step is to find higher purpose outside of pussy. No, making money or getting status that leads to more or easier access to pussy is not higher purpose.

You'll find info on that in the MRP Sidebar.

Third step is to realize there aren't any steps, this isn't a program you can follow, and you are just reading guys swapping more and more advanced notes, that may or may not have any relevance to your life. Apply what works and benefits you and your goals, and leave the rest.

OYS weekly for best results.

PutABabyInThat · 2022-08-23T22:26:02+00:00

I'm poor and looking for financial advice. I worry about not having kids or a house in the future.

15,000 a year

Have you tried working more than 15hrs/week?

sicrm · 2022-08-23T22:04:48+00:00

you’re barely making enough to survive on your own. either stay with your parents or get a roommate and don’t even think about seriously dating let alone marriage until you can afford to live by yourself.

hausofedd · 2022-08-23T20:53:36+00:00

W.t.f have you read anything here at all or did you just randomly post?

BobbyPeru · 2022-08-24T07:43:39+00:00

She basically gave you the ILYBINILWY speech, which is the kiss of death and she’s almost certainly cheating

So, how do you be alone without hugging the ONEitis you love? You be alone without the ONEitis you love. Is that overly simplified? No, it’s purposefully simplified.

Bottom line is you seem to think since your in shape there must be no other problems with you. Well, then why do you think she’s leaving you? For financial reasons only? I’m pretty sure that was just the final straw, that made her decision easier:

Man, you need to figure out what you want to be when you grow up. You are severely lacking mission.

dust2dust45 · 2022-08-23T22:20:01+00:00

How are you so poor?? The check in girl at the gym makes $20hr, Costco pays $20hr and benefits, what the hell is going on?

$50 per lawn x 5 lawns per day x 5 days x 52 weeks is $65,000.

grehuman · 2022-08-23T22:37:05+00:00

If you in America, seems like it is, there are many ways you can make money, but you need to hustle. 35 is not late. Get a pen and paper lock yourself in a room for 24 hours, come out when you have a plan for your life.

oooKenshiooo · 2022-08-24T02:50:08+00:00

Learn about business, first of all about idea validation, lead generation and sales.

Read: - the Almanach of Naval Ravikant - zero dollar startup - the MOM test - predictable revenue - skin in the game

In that order.

You could probably scale your personal trainer business a lot more. You are disciplined enough to be jacked at 35, you should be disciplined enough to build at least a moderate 6 figure business.

If you can, try to find a way to build a B2B-business - it yields more revenue and can also more easily be turned into recurring revenue. (businesses spend more and more often than private individuals)

An idea from the top of my head:

A lot of companies struggle with talent retention nowadays. Offer your service as a private trainer packaged as corporate benefits. You come to their office (or maybe even their home) and give them taylored 30 minute workouts 1-2 times a week.

30 bucks per session, 3 companies with 5 employees, twice a week => 40k a year in a 15 hr workweek. Your only cost is gas.

But at first you will probably spend another 15 hours per week doing cold outreach and door to door sales - which is a lot like getting laid as soon as you know the ropes. I am a high ticket sales guy and all my sales knowledge comes from fucking around a lot.

You will find that sales is a lot like that.

As soon as you find yourself able to reliably close customers, stop trading your time against money and start hiring people to do the training and then shave a little off the top for yourself. You then only do the sales and coach the company CEOs.

You biggest obstacle will be that you radiate poor-people-energy for a while because money has been an issues for so long. But that will fizzle out after about 3 months.

RedGrass411 · 2022-08-23T22:09:21+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/fhj4mq/so_you_got_the_i_love_you_but_im_not_in_love_with/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

intothegreatbelow · 2022-08-23T21:29:37+00:00

You sound like an aimless little boy, to be honest. None of this is about the sex or your wife - your physical fitness or lifts are pretty irrelevant here, case in point the woman you want doesn't give a fuck and you're not satisfied with the pussy you can get without issue.

What have you been doing to build your career? What ambition do you have besides mowing lawns part time and personal training? Not knocking those jobs - someone has to do them, but it sounds like you're being pretty fucking lazy if you're bring home $20K a year.

What's your mission? What are your goals?

Your marriage / your wife / pussy should not be your goals.

Read the sidebar.

ComprehensiveLuck439 · 2022-08-23T20:53:02+00:00

I’ll tell you like someone told me. Lift and STFU

SirQuads · 2022-08-24T04:14:18+00:00

She’s fucking someone else.

KagedRageius · 2022-08-23T21:12:28+00:00

You regret going through a breakup over getting divorced? Be glad you didn’t marry her. Next. There are plenty of other women you can love. Just don’t become such a smothering beta next time. That is what drove her away, not talking to another woman.

bussiinesstravel · 2022-08-23T20:54:28+00:00

No one cares about the sob story.

STFU, lift heavy, sidebar, and get to work, asshole.

Swagstoic · 2022-08-24T13:42:02+00:00

You need to get your s*** together instead of holding a chick at night.

Monk mode.

Sell all your stuff, live with your parents for a year, get a real career. You have an income problem, not a financial problem.

Jhadiro · 2022-08-24T13:48:43+00:00

I have a buddy who is a personal trainer. He writes online programs and only brings the clients that he likes to the gym with him. His programs are 400 per month. Minimum 4 months sign up. He usually sits at around writing weekly programs and meal plans, checking in on 50 people. He will write up all those programs in 1 night so that he has the rest of the week free to bang his girlfriend, lift, get creative with his buisness, smoke weed and play videogames.

This guy found the marked, put in the work and makes 20,000$ per month. He is 22. He advertises, he Facebook messages every single person in the city to build up a relationship and see if they are interested in the service he is offering, because he understands that trust and knowing who your trainer is, is what will get them to sign on to your programs. He brings his clients together online and gives them community, like minded people connecting. He does live zoom calls once a week to give advice and motivation. He writes a post a day of tips-advice and promotion.

Get some buisness coaching. Because you should have realized something was wrong when you were making less per year than this 22 year old makes in a month.

nikfury69 · 2022-08-25T03:44:40+00:00

One word. WORK.

You are a slacker. You lack discipline, motivation or desire.

Unless you get past this, the rest of the MRP is too much WORK for you. You gotta want it for you.

And YOU are the only thing you can control.

Is the sun still up? Go cut another yard, Monday thru Saturday.

Done teaching a class? Get another one. Done with a client? Teach two or more in a group.

Meanwhile, you need a plan. Expand what you're doing now or do something else.

Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. Right now, you're neither.

Time to work.

Bedtimeshine · 2022-08-25T19:33:44+00:00

You left out the part of another guy being involved

testy68 · 2022-09-07T03:56:19+00:00

Women don't necessarily need a man with money. They DO need a man with purpose and money is oftentimes a manifestation of that.

You can do almost anything more than what you are doing now and make 30-40k a year. I knew a kid that started at McDonalds and within a month, he was making 30-32k. That was 5 years ago. That is step one.

Step 2: after working 40 hours a week, do something to increase your skillet that allows you to progress. With 6 months of effort you can get to 40-50k. Find something you are passionate about. You will have to be in order to find the energy to study after a 40hr a week job.

If you do just those two things and keep working out, your quality of girls will improve. Women will see you becoming a driven man and you will have much higher quality women to choose from.

Title	Fiancee wants space. Vent/advice
Author	We_Are_All_One
Upvotes	6
Comments	38
Date	August 23, 2022 8:48 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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