Im going to present to you an idea that has taken me a long time to develop and it has not been explored anywhere in the manosphere.

I came across this idea many years ago from a book by a woman who interviewed female prisoners especially their prison alliances and also the kind of dreams they had. If there's interest, I'll try to find a link to it.

The basic premise is this.

Women have an evolutionary drive to 'experiment' with a temporary relationships before they get into a permanent or high investment relationship.

When a woman is young, she will often form a very close bond with a same-sex friend but sometimes this bond could also be with her sister or even mother.

In this bond, she will subconsciously do a few things

• She will practice romantic physical touch, learn skills and get feedback.

• There will be a lot of role play and unprovoked drama. Sometimes she is the submissive one, sometimes the aggressor, sometimes the psycho, sometimes she is the mother and sometimes the child.

• She will bring this friend into all her other associations with other people. If not physically, she will relate everything about other people to this friend.

*The pairing up is never official and much of what happens is privy only to them.

The reason women do this at a young age is because she subsconsciously practices the dynamics of real relationships that carry with it huge risk/investment. Not just with preparing for her partner but also a chance for her to practice for dealing with a future child or an in-law.

Ideally, once the woman has developed enough confidence in herself and the way she relates to the world, she will then be ready for a long term partner i.e. a man where she can invest deeply into.

The interesting thing about this is as they get older, they move on to more complex relationships but still temporary ones

• She will pair up with the 'Chad'. The chad brings her masculine experience but since it's a disposable relationship, she pairs up easily with little investment from his side. Here she practices the limits of submissiveness.

• She will pair up with a 'loser'. The loser is ever ready to accept her and she experiments with different strategies to see how he responds to her acts of inspiring motivation, punishment and reward.

• She will pair up with women who have a lot of life experiences. This experienced woman may be older, or has been in a lot of relationships or has worked with a lot of high value men or just has a strong personality. The experienced woman teaches her boundaries.

• She will shy away from a real relationship with the average guy because she cannot handle that yet.

In these past, these relationships were regulated mostly by older women who acted as observers but thats a topic for another time.

An interesting to note though is once they reach a period where the dispoable relationship reaches an end, they try to keep the person around in their life if they are trustworthy and not fully end it. The reason is that when they move on to another relationship, they can talk about the issues they face with the new partner and the former partner can accurately tell them how to act because they know them so well. But in many cases, they will just completely try to get rid of that disposable partner from her life because it was always meant to be disposable from the beginning.

Now these disposable relationships are completely foreign to the average male. We do coach other and form close bonds but these don't have the drama, role play and emotional intimacy.

We do have an equivalent relationship when we are young and engaged in sports or goofing around in groups. For we example, when young boys play, they imitate the real world of give and take or wheeling and deeling. But we do not do this with relationships and so many of us lack relationship skills hence the awkwardness when we deal with women.

Tldr... Women experiment with fake relationships before the real deal. Sometimes you unknowingly were used as practice.