Best deal or no deal - if you're a guy, don't wait for sex a single second longer than any other guy had to for a given girl. Don't pressure or anything, just move on.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-10-22T19:56:10+00:00

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anonymous-platypus1 · 2022-10-22T18:51:09+00:00

This is so dumb! Are you going to just ask when you first meet a woman “what’s the quickest you’ve ever had sex with someone?” Then demand that she sleep with you in that time frame or else you’ll leave?

Also, what if she previously waited to have sex with someone? Are you assuming you’re the first man she waited to have sex with?

Icy_Requirement4331 · 2022-10-22T19:40:02+00:00

If you are such as good mind reader that you know how long a woman waited to have sex with other men, why not just use those mind reading skills to tell if she is attracted to you?

BigZaddyZ3 · 2022-10-22T19:30:08+00:00

This is fine, so long as guys realizes this mindset might lead to a lifetime of loneliness. Some guys will never be offered the “best deal” because they themselves are never gonna be the “best deal” a woman can get. The all or nothing strategy can often result in “nothing” rather than “all”.

bunnakay · 2022-10-22T19:43:07+00:00

I think it's more cringe to base when you want to have sex on when other people have had sex.

Novadina · 2022-10-22T19:45:09+00:00

Any time two people get together, how they have sex, and the timing of things they do together, will be different. No one takes out a watch when making out and tries to make something happen within some certain time. It should be more organic, you fuck when both people want to and are ready.

AstronautLoveShack · 2022-10-22T19:53:14+00:00

So do what you like of course, but relationships follow their own trajectory. I had sex with my husband on the first date - actually before we made it to the date, but I already knew him for a few months. If a man I met on Tinder expected the same courtesy, I would laugh in his face and walk away. Tinder boy didn’t put 3-4 months of effort into getting to know me before asking me out.

Weatherornaught · 2022-10-22T19:24:57+00:00

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Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-10-22T19:54:44+00:00

Yeah, cause you can just look up her “dating and sexual history timeline” like it’s a credit score and just put a deadline on when it’s passed to just walk away. Like one does in dating, am I right?!!

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2022-10-22T19:35:54+00:00

Set your boundaries and stick to them. It's literally that simple. If you are interested in having sex and she isn't, talk to her about it and if a middle ground can't be reached, simply move on. Don't pressure or coerce, just move on.

Fun_Push7168 · 2022-10-22T20:00:15+00:00

Are there really that many women making guys wait? Like at all?

I mean, outside of religious people who just don't do it outside of marriage I've never ran into any with some arbitrary waiting period. I've only been asked to wait twice, one has serious issues with SA and the other didnt directly ask, just made it clear she got pretty turned off when guys seemed only after that. Didn't take her too long to start making advances of her own, third date maybe.

Honestly I have a very, very hard time thinking of any I didn't hook up with by second date, most were first.

I guess if anything this either shows that this waiting game is uncommon or it's true, if she's attracted she's attracted and will have no problem going for it with the guy shes attracted to.

meisterkraus · 2022-10-22T19:41:37+00:00

Have your own time table regardless of out side factors. If it doesn't work out that way, walk

Ok-Ability-OP · 2022-10-22T19:38:56+00:00

If she’s not making it easy for you, she doesn’t like you/not attracted to you. There’s a guy she does like that she’ll make it way for. Know your limits and if you have improved your appearance and you still fall short then accept it. Don’t simp, don’t blame yourself for not glowing chad, that was decided for you.

No point in arguing with women. Men need to collectively just stop lying mg to themselves about women not wanting attractive men in the physical sense. That’s what they want, the redpill and Andrew Tate, and all this stuff won’t save the average man. The average guy is just not desired by women, and there isn’t any way to real obtain genuine desire from women. You either have it or you don’t, that’s what women mean by liking guys who just get it. You’re either r on or you’re off, you’re either chad or you’re not.

And even if you do somehow manage to get a girl to settle, she’ll just build resentment and anger. It’ll lead to a dead bedroom, and perhaps divorce if you’re married.

Based thread. The only message guys can spread now is don’t become a simp. Don’t give yourself to something thinking you’ll get something in return, when you’ll get nothing in return. Just stop simping.

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-10-22T20:43:10+00:00

Reading some of these responses I'm so glad I married a virgin lol, the post has been removed for "low effort" so I can't see all of what you said but nonetheless I do agree that if a woman has had friends with benefits, casual hookups, one night stands and all that but she turns around and wants to make you wait 3 months, 4 months or whatever that's just a sign that she's not into you like that, and more than likely you're going to spend significant portions of whatever relationship that you guys may have having sex used as leverage against you, not a great deal if I say so myself but it's the best some guys are going to do haha

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Demasii · 2022-10-22T19:36:12+00:00

What if she was on her period when you met her?

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