if i ever get a gf

alienamongnormies · 2022-11-07T15:01:20+00:00

I actually met one of my exes off sluthatedotcom back in 2015 and we dated for 8.5 months. And she obviously knew about my past. Given that the forum was like my personal diary. She eventually dumped me though because she couldn't really handle being with someone with the black pilled mindset though.

I also really caught feelings for a transwoman in September. That was the first time since dating my PSL ex that I felt that way about someone. And maybe I am a bit bisexual, I really don't care. My dick was hard, who gives a fuck. Just because I'm aware of female nature doesn't mean I have to deny my sexuality. But I was too afraid to reveal too much of myself beyond the surface level to her because I was afraid that she would recoil if she saw the real me and abandon me. She ended up ghosting me anyways without me even revealing my power level anyways. That really stung because she was super into me. We went on five dates, four with sex and she worshipped me like I was a Chad. Until one day I wasn't her Chad anymore...

Draken3000 · 2022-11-07T17:08:02+00:00

I actually was honest about my opinions and the trigger that caused them to further develop (TRP) with my current GF before we became official. I wouldn’t want anyone who held strong opinions about that stuff to try and date me, and I honestly wouldn’t bother on the flip side either.

I think presentation is important, as well as focusing on what YOU align with. I’m fresh off of having an exchange about TRP on another thread so its on my mind haha. You can’t just be like “I’m black pilled, look it up and get back to me” cuz if they do they’re gonna read some HEINOUS shit and think that YOU subscribe to that stuff. Made that mistake once when I tried to redpill a friend (just don’t fuckin do it lmao), I should have clearly laid out what made sense to me and what didn’t, but instead I just kinda sent him off on the foolish assumption that he would have a proper discussion with me about it after. I was a dumbass and we are not friends any more, it wasn’t directly because of that but it started with it.

But yeah, you either need to be straight up about this stuff with a partner or bury it, whichever works for you. I lean towards full transparency, accept it or leave it sort of thing.

FastBananaViral · 2022-11-07T23:58:31+00:00

I will be honest after I have sex for the first time. I’m not going to cock block myself

MasonSub4 · 2022-11-08T21:00:17+00:00

I would hint at it, but I would always keep some plausible deniablity, that is if I can get a gf, and that's one big if.

no_bling_just_ding · 2022-11-07T14:55:12+00:00

Yeah I would be honest with my past to my gf I have done some bad things and she needs to know

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-11-07T15:01:40+00:00

Your right to be honest. The best relationship I have ever had is one that started off with us both being very honest and open with each other telling each other the good the bad the bits we are proud of the bits we were ashamed of

RStonePT · 2022-11-08T14:38:45+00:00

i will have to be honest with her about my past and by that i mean the blackpill.

Lol. you don't want a girlfriend, you want a therapist mom.

De_Carabas_of_Below · 2022-11-08T19:01:50+00:00

Good fucking god, no.

Admirable_Bee_8714 · 2022-11-09T20:13:44+00:00

I never apologize for my past. If she can't deal with it, oh well.

upalse · 2022-11-14T18:28:27+00:00

It's ok, as long you frame it "I'm all past that, I've seen error in my ways". People love a good redemption arc.

NotARussianBot1984 · 2022-11-21T02:17:22+00:00

My gf knows my reddit account. Im 100% honest with everything i say. You think i can spend 40 yrs with someone and hide this portion of me developed over a decade? Nope! After i know a girl is decent, i open up. If they leave, better now than after having kids.

But in general, im an amazing guy just short at 5 7. Your experiences may vary

Title	if i ever get a gf
Author	no_bling_just_ding
Upvotes	11
Comments	28
Date	November 7, 2022 2:39 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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